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Top 16 Ways to Make Yourself Irresistible to the Opposite Sex

Top 16 Ways to Make Yourself Irresistible to the Opposite Sex

It’s not vain to want heads to turn when we walk into a room. Regardless of age or relationship status, we are hardwired to seek validation from the opposite sex that we are irresistible, and we are hardwired to seek envy from same-sex peers.

The good new is, you don’t have to win the genetic lottery to get noticed.

An “average” looking person can be more irresistible than the magazine cover model because inner beauty trumps physical beauty. People may not remember exactly what you say, but they remember how you made them feel. When you make them feel important, you will be seen as sexy and irresistible to the opposite sex. You’ll also have more friends than you’ll know what to do with.

“Nothing makes a woman more beautiful that the belief that she is beautiful.” – Sophia Loren.

I’ll take that quote one step further to include men…

Nothing make a man more irresistible than the belief that he is irresistible.

When you believe you are irresistible and use the tactics below, you will be a magnet of attraction like bees to honey.

1. Be proactive, approach others first.

Don’t be shy. At a gathering, approach people, especially those who are standing by themselves. Just say, “Hi!” Everyone is waiting for someone else to take the first step, so they’ll think, “Whew! Finally someone to talk to…I’m not a loser.” It’s also okay to approach groups, as long as they seem receptive.

Are you comfortable taking the lead? If not, what are you afraid of?

Rejection.

How often has rejection happened when you said, “Hi?” If it happens more often than you’d like, it’s due to lack of confidence. When you believe in yourself, confidence follows and rejections will significantly decrease.

2. Smile.

A smile from the eyes is a turn-on because it’s authentic. A fake “Oh…hi” smile is a turn-off.

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Are your smiles genuine?

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    3. Eye contact.

    Wandering eyes show you don’t care. Sustained eye contact makes the other person feel they are the most important person in the room.

    When the other person is talking, do not let your eyes wander and do not look at your phone—unless you tell them ahead of time that you are ‘on-call.’

    Have you been guilty of looking away when someone is talking to you?

    4. Confidence.

    It’s sexy to believe in yourself. Can you look in the mirror and say, “I love you so much, you are awesome?” If you can’t, you probably need to heal old emotional scars.

    It’s a turn-off when you don’t believe you are lovable and awesome. Everyone has ‘baggage.’ If you are not your baggage, you can be a turn-on.

    So invest in coaches, therapists and/or personal development programs that can help you make peace with the past so that you can gain the confidence to be the ‘you-est’ you.

    How confident are you?

    Watch this TED talk: Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are, by Amy Cuddy.

    5. Say their name in the course of conversation.

    The sweetest and most important word to your ear is…your name.

    The last time someone used your name in the middle of a sentence, how did you feel? Probably pretty good. Especially with new acquaintances, say the person’s name in the course of your conversation. Since very few people do this with new contacts, you will stand out when you incorporate their name.

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    Have you ever used this tactic? If not, give it a try and watch their reaction and level of engagement with you.

    6. Ask open-ended questions, starting with What, How, Why, and Where.

    Don’t worry if you’re introverted. You don’t have to do the talking. You just have to be curious through asking questions because people love talking about themselves.

    Start with some basics. “What brought you here? Where are you from? What do you do?”

    Then, move on to these questions to take the ‘relationship’ to the next level:

    • How do you feel about that?
    • What’s exciting about your life? What brings you joy?
    • If you had a magic wand and you could design your life just the way you want it, what would that look and feel like? (Questions relating to dreams and aspirations are deep. They’ll be thinking, “You’re amazing!”)
    • Who would you get to be in this world if you were able to fully stand in the power of you? Why is that important to you? (This is a superhero question that will have others go crazy for you.)

    Every answer contains the seed for follow-up questions. If they say, “We just raised $100K for that charity,” ask, “What inspired you to get involved with this charity?”

    Have you ever gone deep with your conversations with strangers and acquaintances?

    These questions work. I once struck up a conversation with a famous NFL football player while eating lunch at the bar of a New York City restaurant. Within 20 minutes, I knew his deepest fears and pains. I had no idea how famous he was until I Googled him afterwards. Obviously, I’m not a football fan.

    7. Share your thoughts about a topic they brought up.

    This shows you are actively listening. We feel validated when we feel heard. Another rung up the irresistibility ladder for you.

    8. Show your vulnerabilities.

    If the conversation is moving along and it seems right, share your fears and dreams. They may give you fresh perspective on how to overcome your fears. They may even know someone who can help you to realize your dreams.

    9. Connect them to someone important in your network.

    “What’s your most important goal this year? Maybe there is someone in my network that I can connect you with to help you get what you want.”

    They’re thinking, “Wow, you are so awesome. This is too good to be true to have someone really care about me. What can I do to reciprocate?”

    When you give others what they want, you will eventually get what you want because of the Law of Reciprocity.

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    Who can you help with an introduction?

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      10. Keep up with current events.

      “What do you think about…”

      11. Show you are not afraid to take risks.

      Going outside of your comfort zone is sexy and inspiring. “I went white water rafting…boy, was it scary and exhilarating!”

      The more risks you take, the more you will be rewarded with exciting relationships and opportunities. That’s why it’s important to take risks and go deep when you meet new people. The more they know about how fearless and courageous you are, the more they will be in awe of you.

      If they sense that you are someone who is afraid of going outside of your comfort zone, you may be seen as a bore. There’s nothing irresistible about boring people.

      What is something you can do in the next couple of days that is out of your comfort zone?

      12. Show the vision of where you want to go.

      You’re sexy and exciting if you are trying to leave the world a better place than you found it. Have goals and projects. You’re boring if you have no direction, no interests, no life.

      What are you doing to make a difference?

      13. Talk about the positives in your life.

      Don’t churn in negative memories. If you feel guilt, shame and/or worthlessness, you will repel others with your ‘dark cloud.’ In contrast, if you’ve made lemonade out of the ‘lemons’ of your negative events, others will be inspired by your story.

      Happy thoughts create happy energy. Happy energy is magnetic and irresistible.

      Are you over the negative memories? If not, what are you doing about it?

      14. Don’t take yourself so seriously.

      Make fun of yourself through stories about ‘stupid’ things you have done. Laughing creates feel-good chemicals. When you are associated with making others laugh, they will want more of you.

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      15. Follow up with your new friends.

      Follow up promptly if you promised to get them information they want. You will stand out if you follow up because very few people follow through. You will eventually get what you want if you give others what they want first.

      Have you been following through with everything you said you were going to do?

      16. Pay attention to personal grooming.

      You shouldn’t judge a book by its cover. But the ugly truth is…everyone judges a book by its cover.

      You only have three seconds to make a first impression. It’s hard to overturn someone’s initial impression of you later on. So show up as your best self.

      It’s sad some people don’t take care of the little details. Sloppy nails, scuffed shoes, out-of-date fashions, out-of date-hair, etc. Not taking care of the outside of you is a reflection of low self-worth. It’s a turn-off. Do the work to look presentable.

      ‘No time’ is an excuse. We make time for things that are important to us. If it’s important to you to present the outside of you that is congruent with how awesome you feel about yourself, you will make the time to look decent.

      A note to guys: If you are going bald, the ladies are not bothered by it if you are not bothered by it. If you are self-conscious (think ‘comb-over’), women can detect it. There are many sexy, bald men in the media. The ladies go crazy for them.

      Implement some of these tactics. You will make yourself irresistible to the opposite sex.

      Final thought from a guy in his 40s with regards to inner beauty.

      “When you talk about beauty coming from the inside, it’s really true. Ask any man if he knows a woman whom he does not find beautiful—he even might find her ugly—but for some reason finds irresistibly sexy.

      “He will tell you he can think of several women like that. Guys often talk to each other that way. “I know she’s not that attractive, but there’s something about her…”

      “Obviously, this is coming from some inner quality that is being reflected outward. There’s also the opposite—women who are objectively beautiful but just don’t really have sex appeal. They’re just there, like a beautiful painting or sculpture, but they don’t inspire passion. These women lack inner beauty.

      “Some women have both inner and outer beauty. These are the women who make men cry.”

      (Let me add that women think the same way about guys.)

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      Last Updated on July 23, 2019

      3 Keys to Success in Life (That Will Change You in 2019)

      3 Keys to Success in Life (That Will Change You in 2019)

      Do you want to program your mind and hack your body to stay in a positive state, a state of action taking throughout the day? I suggest you read on.

      We will look at 3 keys to success that successful people are doing that you can model to program your mind to be in the state of succeeding from the moment upon waking, and make decisions throughout the day that will lead you towards your desires.

      The Biggest Obstacle to Success: Going on Autopilot

      One of the biggest pitfalls in the modern society is to fall into the trap of going on autopilot, to be walking dead and do what everyone else are doing. Most of us are too busy reacting and responding to the environment and what’s happening around us.

      While we should act and take charge of our own world and our own reality. We forget to stay focused and we forget about our goals.

      Learn to be conscious. Being more conscious in your day-to-day decisions will lead you to take the appropriate actions to reach your goals.

      Have a purpose with life, act according to your values, and don’t let people tell you what to do or how things should be.

      When you start to make more conscious decisions, you will start to think about if this is going to take you closer to your goals or drift you further away.

      Why are you doing what you’re doing right now? Why are you reading this? Nothing else to do? Or are you reading this site so you might pick up a thing or two to consciously incorporate in your life to improve yourself that will move you in the direction you want?

      What are your goals? Be healthy? Lose weight? Be fit? Get the dream job? Have the dream house? Live the dream life? Make a certain amount of money? Start a family?

      If you truly want to pursue these goals and actually see them come true, you need to start taking actions consciously.

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      3 Keys to Success in Life (That You Can Start Doing Now)

      There are 3 things we have to consciously start doing:

        Now I’ll show you how you can achieve each of them in details.

        1. Write down Your Goals

        The first thing you do in the morning will determine what your day is going to be like. Program your mind to be in a powerful state from the moment upon waking, and you are guaranteed to have a productive and great day.

        How you can do this is by writing your goals down, every morning. Then, once you’ve done that, circle the most important goal,  the goal that in the long-term will have the most impact on your life.

        Now ask yourself this question: “What actions can I make today that will change everything and take me closer to this goal?

        Write down all the actions you can think of, circle the two most important ones and start doing them. Don’t stop until it’s done.

        This is an extremely powerful method of getting in the right state first thing in the morning. Instead of wandering around half-dead and spending 30 minutes to wake up, you are hacking your mind to be productive.

        Another powerful reason for writing down your goals is that by reading them it makes us feel good, write them as if they’re already accomplished. You’re already there.

        Re-reading and re-writing them every morning will ensure you to be in a resourceful state where you act based on your goals. You will make conscious decisions throughout the day that will support your goals and take you closer to them.

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        Goals that are not written down are merely wishes. Learn how to set great goals here: How to Set SMART Goal to Make Lasting Changes in Life

        The power of writing goals as if you’re already there takes us to point number 2.

        2. Create a Powerful Belief System

        Ask any successful person what their number one rule for succeeding is. They all have this in common:

        They believe in themselves and what they’re doing, and they are not afraid to say it.

        If you don’t believe in yourself, why would anyone else?

        When people ask you about your goals in life, don’t be afraid to say it out loud. If you have high goals, they might laugh and look at you funny. But if you’re insecure about your goals, you will make insecure decisions that will lead you nowhere.

        Go against the grain, stand out. After all, how many people in the world today are actually living the dream? Now, how many of these people will respond something in the likes of “I don’t know” if you ask what their goals are?

        Be determined and believe in yourself. People will respect you for having the guts for going after what you truly desire.

        I once heard a story about a guy that worked in a video store. Every day he would bring two magazines to work, one was an entrepreneur magazine and the other was a magazine loaded with expensive and fast-riding cars. His boss would ask him why he was bringing these magazines to work every day and his answer was: “I’m picking out the car I’m going to buy.”

        The response from the boss was like most average minds saying he was killing himself thinking like that, he would never ever get that car and would just end up disappointed when it never happened.

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        Turned out, the guy later quit the job at the video store and followed his dream. Some years later he return to the video store to return a video, and he did so in the car he picked out from the magazine.

        The same people were working in the store as the day he used to work there. Now can you imagine the looks on their faces when he turned up in the car they said he never ever would get?

        Priceless. And it all started by creating a powerful belief system.

        The first step to living and achieving your dream is to believe it and imagine it. When you believe in your mind that you’ve already achieved your goals, you will develop a sense of certainty. That certainty will lead to action steps, when you know what the outcome is going to be it’s much easier to pick out the actions that are necessary to get there.

        You are certain you will live in the body you want.

        You are certain you will live in the dream house with the dream family.

        You are certain you will have the job you want, and earn the money you believe you’re worth.

        By constantly repeating in your mind the images of yourself succeeding, you create neural pathways in the brain. Your mind can’t tell the difference between what you vividly imagine and the reality.

        Go out and day dream. Go out and believe, imagine already living your dreams and goals. With enough repetition, you become certain that this is the only outcome and you work backwards to find ways for making it happen.

        The next step in personal success that will lead to life success and happiness is to..

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        3. Invest in Yourself

        A wise man was once asked what the best possible investment someone could make. His answer was short, sweet and simple: “Invest In Yourself.”

        The man’s name is Warren Buffett. He is known as the world’s greatest investor. According to Forbes, he has a net worth of $53.5 Billion.

        Hiring a personal coach, getting a membership at a gym, buying healthy foods, books and education are not expenses. They are investments: investments in yourself.

        Some things you can do today to invest in yourself are:

        • Go to the gym and train. Physical training releases endorphins and makes you feel great. It increases productivity and energy levels. By investing time in the gym, you’ll be better able to handle daily tasks and what life throws at you. Forty-five to fifty minutes is all you need, it’s actually the best time to shoot for in a workout.
        • Eat good food. When you go to the grocery store after work, ask yourself: “What foods will nourish my mind and body to feel and perform better?” You are setting yourself up for greatness and consciously making yourself aware of what foods will empower you, therefore make better decisions.
        • Start reading books. Everyone buys books, but very few actually reads them cover to cover.
        • Stop reading books and start studying them. Few read the books they buy, but even fewer remembers what they read. Stop reading books and start studying books.
        • Study at least one hour a day. “One hour per day of study will put you at the top of your field within three years. Within five years you’ll be a national authority. In seven years, you can be one of the best people in the world at what you do.” – Brian Tracy
        • Take notes. Never leave home without a pen and a piece of paper. The best ideas often comes in the least appropriate times, write them down. Don’t trust your mind to remember them—it won’t. Writing it down right away will also allow your mind to store and come up with more ideas. Nowadays, you can use plenty of notes-taking apps like Evernote.
        • Learn a new skill. Learn something new every day, a new skill or a new word. One new skill every day equals 365 new skills a year. Now imagine where you could be a year from now if you start doing it today?
        • Do something for yourself. Yes, hard work is a major factor for succeeding, but at least once per month do something fun, something outrageous and spontaneous that makes you feel alive. Have fun and enjoy yourself.

        The Crucial Rule to Follow

        The last piece of advice and rule to follow: Keep on, keeping on.

        Sometimes, things get hard and the road seems too long. You just have to keep on, keeping on.

        Revisit your goals and start imagining, all of the sudden you’ve changed your state and you’re on the right track again. The track that will take you to greatness.

        Use these 3 keys to create your destiny and achieve what you want in life.

        Go get it.

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