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This Is What Happens After I Hide My Birthday On Facebook

This Is What Happens After I Hide My Birthday On Facebook

Social Media has become a very big part of our lives. We live in a time where we share so much of our lives with people who we may have not even met in real life. With this overwhelming access to so many people around you, it’s important for you to ground yourself and be aware of the people who genuinely care about you. So this year I decided to hide my birthday on Facebook and I learned some very valuable lessons.

1. People who care about you will remember your birthday without a notification

Before, when I had my birthday on display, I would be bombarded with hundreds of messages and emails notifying me that people had posted on my wall. This year, my phone was relatively silent compared to last year. This may seem depressing, but it really wasn’t. People who genuinely cared about me called and we got to talk for hours. People I hadn’t spoken to in so long remembered and sent me messages. It felt really good to know that I crossed someone’s mind without them having have to read it on Facebook to remember. I was able to strengthen connections with my friends who were currently in my life, which made my birthday all the more special.

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2. You end up spending your birthday actually doing things you like

When your Facebook notification is off, you wind up having a lot less activity on your social media. Because of this you spend less time stuck on your phone and computer and manage to go out and do things you actually like. When I had my birthday notification on, I would spend hours replying back and I would miss out on things I wanted to do. This year it was refreshing to be able to have the day to myself to do things I actually wanted to do. I wasn’t wasting my time on technology, replying to posts from people who didn’t really know me.

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3. You avoid transient happiness

Birthday wishes on Facebook spark happiness that lasts a few seconds. This year when I had turned my birthday notification off, I found that I had less of these transient moments of happiness and more stable moments. I was able to surround myself with friends and avoid the superficiality that comes with social media interactions. My day consisted of more fulfilling interactions with people that led to personal satisfaction that doesn’t come with social media.

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4. You strengthen your connection with life

When you immerse yourself in technology, you tend to lose sight of the important things in life. When I had my birthday notification up, I was lost in this vortex of social media that clouded my personal relationships and my life in general. I placed so much importance on social media and it felt like my life revolved around it. When I removed the notification, I was able to detach myself from the toxicity of social media and connect with my life on a deeper level. It was the best birthday present I could give myself.

5. You find it easy to place value on yourself

When you disconnect yourself from social media, you can look at yourself in a new light. Once I made the decision to remove the birthday notification, I was able to be happier with myself. Before when the notification was up, I would base my value on the amount of friends that wished me and how many social media notifications I got. When I removed it, I was able to place value on myself based on things that really matter. It helped me with my confidence and made me a happier person.

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Last Updated on May 17, 2019

This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

The pursuit of worthwhile goals is a part of what makes life enjoyable. Being able to set a goal, then see yourself progress towards achieving that goal is an amazing feeling.

But do you know the biggest obstacle for most people trying to achieve their goals, the silent dream killer that stops people before they ever even get started? That obstacle is the comfort zone, and getting stuck there is bound to derail any efforts you make towards achieving the goals you’ve set for yourself.

If you want to achieve those goals, you’ll have to break free from your comfort zone. Let’s take a look at how your life will change once you build up the courage to leave your comfort zone.

What Is the Comfort Zone?

The comfort zone is defined as “a behavioural state within which a person operates in an anxiety-neutral condition, using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.”

What stands out to me the most about that definition is the last part: “using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.” How many successful people do you know who deliver a steady level of performance?

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The goal in life is to continually challenge yourself, and continually improve yourself. And in order to do that, you have move out of your comfort zone. But once you do, your life will start to change in ways you could never have imagined. I know because it’s happening right now in my own life.

Here’s what I’ve learned.

1. You will be scared

Leaving your comfort zone isn’t easy. In fact, in can be downright terrifying at times, and that’s okay. It’s perfectly normal to feel a little trepidation when you’re embarking on a journey that forces you to try new things.

So don’t freak out or get overwhelmed when you feel yourself getting a little scared. It’s perfectly normal and all part of the process. What’s important is that you don’t let that fear hold you back. You must continue to take action in the face of fear.

That’s what separates winners from losers.

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2. You will fail

Stepping out of your comfort zone means you’re moving into uncharted territory. You’re trying things that you’ve never tried before, and learning things you’ve never learned before.

That steep learning curve means you’re not going to get everything right the first time, and you will eventually fail when you move out of your comfort zone. But as long as the failures aren’t catastrophic, it can actually be a good thing to fail because …

3. You will learn

Failure is the best teacher. I’ve learned more from each one of my failures than I have from each one of my successes. When you fail small, and fail often, you rapidly increase the rate at which you learn new insights and skills. And that new knowledge, if applied correctly, will eventually lead to your success.

4. You will see yourself in a different way

Once you move out of your comfort zone, you immediately prove to yourself that you’re capable of achieving more than you thought was possible. And that will change the way you see yourself.

Moving forward, you’ll have more confidence in yourself whenever you step out of your comfort zone, and that increased confidence will make it more likely that you continue to step outside your comfort zone. And each time you do, you’ll prove to yourself again and again what you’re really capable of.

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5. Your peers will see you in a different way

Whether we want to admit or not, people judge other people. And right now, people view you in a certain way, and they have a certain idea of what you’re capable of. That’s because they’ve become accustomed to seeing you operate in your comfort zone.

But once you move out of your comfort zone, you’ll prove to other people, as well, that you’re capable of much more than you’ve shown in the past.

The increased confidence other people place in you will bring about more opportunities than ever before.

6. Your comfort zone will expand

The good thing about the comfort zone is that it’s flexible and malleable. With each action you take outside of your comfort zone, it expands. And once you master that new skill or action, it eventually becomes part of your comfort zone.

This is great news for you because it means that you can constantly increase and improve upon the behaviors that you’re comfortable with. And the more tools and skills you have at your disposal, the easier it will be to achieve your goals.

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7. You will increase your concentration and focus

When you’re living inside of your comfort zone, the bulk of your actions are habitual: automatic, subconscious, and requiring limited focus.

But once you move out of your comfort zone, you no longer rely on those habitual responses. You’re forced to concentrate and focus on the new action in a way you never do in your comfort zone.

8. You will develop new skills

Moving out of your comfort zone requires that you develop new skills. One of the many benefits you’ll experience is that you’ll be stepping away from the “limited set of behaviors” and start to develop your ability and expertise in new areas.

Living inside of your comfort zone only requires a limited skill set, and those skills won’t contribute much to your success. Once you can confidently step outside of your comfort zone and learn a new skill, there’s no limit to how much you can achieve.

9. You will achieve more than before

With everything that happens once you move out of your comfort zone, you’re naturally going to achieve more than ever before.

Your increased concentration and focus will help you develop new skills. Those new skills will change the way you see yourself, encouraging you to step even further out of your comfort zone.

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