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This Is What Happens After I Hide My Birthday On Facebook

This Is What Happens After I Hide My Birthday On Facebook

Social Media has become a very big part of our lives. We live in a time where we share so much of our lives with people who we may have not even met in real life. With this overwhelming access to so many people around you, it’s important for you to ground yourself and be aware of the people who genuinely care about you. So this year I decided to hide my birthday on Facebook and I learned some very valuable lessons.

1. People who care about you will remember your birthday without a notification

Before, when I had my birthday on display, I would be bombarded with hundreds of messages and emails notifying me that people had posted on my wall. This year, my phone was relatively silent compared to last year. This may seem depressing, but it really wasn’t. People who genuinely cared about me called and we got to talk for hours. People I hadn’t spoken to in so long remembered and sent me messages. It felt really good to know that I crossed someone’s mind without them having have to read it on Facebook to remember. I was able to strengthen connections with my friends who were currently in my life, which made my birthday all the more special.

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2. You end up spending your birthday actually doing things you like

When your Facebook notification is off, you wind up having a lot less activity on your social media. Because of this you spend less time stuck on your phone and computer and manage to go out and do things you actually like. When I had my birthday notification on, I would spend hours replying back and I would miss out on things I wanted to do. This year it was refreshing to be able to have the day to myself to do things I actually wanted to do. I wasn’t wasting my time on technology, replying to posts from people who didn’t really know me.

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3. You avoid transient happiness

Birthday wishes on Facebook spark happiness that lasts a few seconds. This year when I had turned my birthday notification off, I found that I had less of these transient moments of happiness and more stable moments. I was able to surround myself with friends and avoid the superficiality that comes with social media interactions. My day consisted of more fulfilling interactions with people that led to personal satisfaction that doesn’t come with social media.

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4. You strengthen your connection with life

When you immerse yourself in technology, you tend to lose sight of the important things in life. When I had my birthday notification up, I was lost in this vortex of social media that clouded my personal relationships and my life in general. I placed so much importance on social media and it felt like my life revolved around it. When I removed the notification, I was able to detach myself from the toxicity of social media and connect with my life on a deeper level. It was the best birthday present I could give myself.

5. You find it easy to place value on yourself

When you disconnect yourself from social media, you can look at yourself in a new light. Once I made the decision to remove the birthday notification, I was able to be happier with myself. Before when the notification was up, I would base my value on the amount of friends that wished me and how many social media notifications I got. When I removed it, I was able to place value on myself based on things that really matter. It helped me with my confidence and made me a happier person.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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