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This Is What Happens After I Hide My Birthday On Facebook

This Is What Happens After I Hide My Birthday On Facebook

Social Media has become a very big part of our lives. We live in a time where we share so much of our lives with people who we may have not even met in real life. With this overwhelming access to so many people around you, it’s important for you to ground yourself and be aware of the people who genuinely care about you. So this year I decided to hide my birthday on Facebook and I learned some very valuable lessons.

1. People who care about you will remember your birthday without a notification

Before, when I had my birthday on display, I would be bombarded with hundreds of messages and emails notifying me that people had posted on my wall. This year, my phone was relatively silent compared to last year. This may seem depressing, but it really wasn’t. People who genuinely cared about me called and we got to talk for hours. People I hadn’t spoken to in so long remembered and sent me messages. It felt really good to know that I crossed someone’s mind without them having have to read it on Facebook to remember. I was able to strengthen connections with my friends who were currently in my life, which made my birthday all the more special.

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2. You end up spending your birthday actually doing things you like

When your Facebook notification is off, you wind up having a lot less activity on your social media. Because of this you spend less time stuck on your phone and computer and manage to go out and do things you actually like. When I had my birthday notification on, I would spend hours replying back and I would miss out on things I wanted to do. This year it was refreshing to be able to have the day to myself to do things I actually wanted to do. I wasn’t wasting my time on technology, replying to posts from people who didn’t really know me.

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3. You avoid transient happiness

Birthday wishes on Facebook spark happiness that lasts a few seconds. This year when I had turned my birthday notification off, I found that I had less of these transient moments of happiness and more stable moments. I was able to surround myself with friends and avoid the superficiality that comes with social media interactions. My day consisted of more fulfilling interactions with people that led to personal satisfaction that doesn’t come with social media.

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4. You strengthen your connection with life

When you immerse yourself in technology, you tend to lose sight of the important things in life. When I had my birthday notification up, I was lost in this vortex of social media that clouded my personal relationships and my life in general. I placed so much importance on social media and it felt like my life revolved around it. When I removed the notification, I was able to detach myself from the toxicity of social media and connect with my life on a deeper level. It was the best birthday present I could give myself.

5. You find it easy to place value on yourself

When you disconnect yourself from social media, you can look at yourself in a new light. Once I made the decision to remove the birthday notification, I was able to be happier with myself. Before when the notification was up, I would base my value on the amount of friends that wished me and how many social media notifications I got. When I removed it, I was able to place value on myself based on things that really matter. It helped me with my confidence and made me a happier person.

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Last Updated on June 26, 2020

10 Things To Remember When Everything Goes Wrong

10 Things To Remember When Everything Goes Wrong

Problems and heartaches in life are inevitable. However, there are some things to remember when you’re right in the thick of it that can help you get through it. When everything seems to be going wrong, practice telling yourself these things.

1. This Too Shall Pass

Sometimes life’s rough patches feel like they’re going to last forever. Whether you’re dealing with work-related issues, family problems, or stressful situations, very few problems last for a lifetime. So remind yourself, that things won’t be this bad forever.

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2. Some Things are Going Right

When things are going wrong, it’s hard to recognize what is going right. It’s easy to screen out the good things and only focus on the bad things. Remind yourself that some things are going right. Purposely look for the positive, even if it is something very small.

3. I Have Some Control

One of the most most important things to remember is that you have some control of the situation. Even if you aren’t in complete control of the situation, one thing you can always control is your attitude and reaction. Focus on managing what is within your control.

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4. I Can Ask for Help

Asking for help can be hard sometimes. However, it’s one of the best ways to deal with tough situations. Tell people what you need specifically if they offer to help. Don’t be afraid to call on friends and family and ask them for help, whether you need financial assistance, emotional support, or practical help.

5. Much of This Won’t Matter in a Few Years

Most of the problems we worry about today won’t actually matter five years from now. Remind yourself that whatever is going wrong now is only a small percentage of your actual life. Even if you’re dealing with a major problem, like a loved one’s illness, remember that a lot of good things are likely to happen in the course of a year or two as well.

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6. I Can Handle This

A lack of confidence in handling tough times can add to stress. One of the best things to remember is that you can handle tough situations. Even though you might feel angry, hurt, disappointed, or sad, it won’t kill you. You can get through it.

7. Something Good Will Come Out of This

No matter how bad a situation is, it’s almost certain that something good will come out of it. At the very least, it’s likely that you will learn a life lesson. Perhaps you learn not to repeat the same mistake in the future or maybe you move on from a bad situation and find something better. Look for the one good thing that can result when bad things happen.

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8. I Can Accept What’s Out of my Control

There are many things that aren’t within your control. You can’t change the past, another person’s behavior, or a loved one’s health issues. Don’t waste time trying to force others to change or trying to make things be different if it isn’t within your control. Investing time and energy into trying to things you can’t will cause you to feel helpless and exhausted. Acceptance is one of the best way to establish resilience.

9. I Have Overcome Past Difficulties

One of the things to remember when you’re facing difficulties, is that you’ve handled problems in the past. Don’t overlook past difficulties that you’ve dealt with successfully. Remind yourself of all the past problems you’ve overcome and you’ll gain confidence in dealing with the current issues.

10. I Need to Take Care of Myself

When everything seems to be going wrong, take care of yourself. Get plenty of rest, get some exercise, eat healthy, and spend some time doing leisure activities. When you’re taking better care of yourself you’ll be better equipped to deal with your problems.

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