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26 Things To Remember To Pursue True Happiness (From A To Z)

26 Things To Remember To Pursue True Happiness (From A To Z)

You want to be happy. Whether or not you know it or believe it, you desire complete and utter contentment in your life.

It is the reason you get up in the morning. It is why work so hard to provide for you and your family. It is the reason you undertake hobbies that enrich your life. It is the reason you pursue things you are passionate about.

Happiness isn’t necessarily your main purpose in life but you aspire to live joyfully whenever possible because those are the moments that you really relish.

Why not institute these joyful moments all the time? How do you go about doing that?

I present you the A to Z ways to cultivate genuine happiness into your life everyday.

A is for Acceptance

Acceptance- Accept yourself first and foremost for who you are. Until you accept yourself you will never cultivate genuine happiness. Change when necessary but accept the wonderful being that you are.

Accept others because you can’t change them. The more you accept and the less you try to transform others, the happier you will be.

B is for Believe

Believe- Believe in yourself. You are capable of accomplishing amazing feats. When you have a goal or a dream believe you can achieve it. Believe in others as well. Believe in your family and your friends. Believe in society as a whole.

Imagine how happy the world would be if everyone believed in one another?

C is for Compassion

Compassion- Be compassionate for yourself and other people. Altruism is the greatest gift you can give yourself and other people. Don’t pity other people, rather have compassion for them.

More compassion leads to more understanding. More understanding leads to less judgment.

D is for Dedication

Dedication- Dedicate yourself to something noble and worthy. No matter what you do in life, dedicate yourself to it. If you are dedicated in life you will always be fulfilled.

E is for Elation

Elation- Be elated when great things happen in life. Celebrate birthdays and other meaningful holidays.

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Don’t hold back in the joy you feel when you are surrounded by people you love. Demonstrate elated happiness as much as possible!

F is for Forgiveness

Forgiveness- You are going to make mistakes. Other people are going to hurt you. That is a part of life. How will you respond to yourself in these situations?

Holding a grudge against yourself or others is not the answer. Forgive and do your best to forget. Move on because life is too short to be unhappy!

G is for Gratitude

Gratitude- Be grateful for every moment you are fortunate enough to have in this life. Don’t hesitate to express gratitude to your loved ones.

Show gratitude to strangers or to anyone you feel is deserving of it. Most importantly, be grateful for you.

H is for Hope

Hope- Remember even in the darkest of times there is always that ray of light called hope. Don’t ever lose hope. Hope keeps you going when you think you can’t go on. Hope saves lives.

Share a message of hope with those people in your life who are especially going through rough times.

I is for Involvement

Involvement- Be involved. Don’t isolate yourself. The happiest people in the world are able to find a balance between solitude and social situations.

Become involved in your community. Immerse yourself in hobbies and extracurricular activities that are challenging and fun. Reach out to your coworkers. Simple involvement with other people can be a solid foundation for genuine contentment.

J is for Joy

Joy- In order to live a happier life you have exude joy and jubilation on a consistent basis. It doesn’t just happen.

You have to make the effort every day to live joyfully not because someone or something makes you express joy. Live with joy because you are alive. What a gift!

K is for Kindness

Kindness- Be kind to yourself. Be kind to others. Do random acts of kindness for your fellow man.

Being kind to others is much more beneficial to you overall happiness than being unkind.

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L is for Love

Love- There is no greater emotion than love. If you display love frequently and experience love with open arms you are going to live a happy life. It is as simple as that.

You can either be in a loving state or a non-loving state. Think about how each one feels. Which one would you prefer to experience?

M is for Mindfulness

Mindfulness-Be conscious and aware of who you are and what you are doing. Be conscious and aware of the people around you and the world you are living in. Introducing more awareness into your life will help you bring about positive change you seek and desire.

Meditate, spend time in nature, observe your mind and the thoughts that are running through it, and continue to learn.

Mindfulness takes practice. The more you train yourself to be aware of your mind, the better understanding you will have your emotions.

Instead of living a reactive life, one in which you continually react to situations with common negative emotions, live an active life.

An active life is one in which you are aware of your emotions and you experience them as you choose.

N is for Nurture

Nurture- Breed the things you desire in life. If you wish to handle negative situations in your life with more balance and dignity, than cultivate genuine happiness.

When you are genuinely happy you aren’t going to experience such drastic highs and lows. You will notice more equanimity because you have nurtured awareness. Anything you want in life can be nurtured for your benefit. Things will not always go the way you want them to but your ability to deal with adversity will be more profound.

O is for Optimism

Optimism- If you want to live a positive and happy life than you have to live optimistically. There is more to it than simply saying you are going to be optimistic.

It takes a lot of training and discipline, but shifting your perspective can have an enormous impact on your life. If you generally view life from an optimistic point of view you are more likely to attract positive outcomes.

P is for Passion

Passion- Be passionate in your life. Engage in work that you love. Cultivate relationships that you are passionate about. Undertake hobbies and activities with enthusiasm.

If you go through life without passion and desire you are like a snail or a slug slowly dragging its way along the concrete. Don’t wait for someone else or something else to ignite the flame of passion into your life. Go find it for yourself!

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Q is for Quietness

Quietness- Spend time in quiet. Just like your physical body needs breaks from time to time, the mind needs breaks as well. Quiet the mind and just be.

Step away from your busy schedule, sit in a quiet place, and just observe yourself in the moment. A couple minutes a day will have a tremendous significance on your life.

R is for Resilience

Resilience- How resilient are you? When the going gets tough do you falter or persevere? Life is wonderful but there are going to be plenty of instances where you experience adversity.

You might lose your job or even worse a loved one. People will be cruel to you. Will you let these situations define you or will you continue to live life on your terms? Don’t let negative situations transform you for the worse.

You have the right to experience grief and other negative emotions when necessary but be resilient. Don’t allow them to derail them from your happy life.

S is for Selflessness

Selflessness- Many people are so focused on themselves that they forget what life is about. Instead of being selfish, be selfless.

It is scientifically proven that people who serve others on a daily basis and look out for their fellow man are more content with life. There are going to be times when you need to look out for your best interests.

As you go through life ask yourself how you can help others. Whether you realize it or not everyone else’s needs are just as important as yours.

T is for Tolerance

Tolerance- Much of the fear that is portrayed through the news and other media is due to intolerance. People are unable or unwilling to accept others for who they are.

You don’t have to agree with others in order to be tolerant. The more you tolerate others, the less likely you are to hate others. Spreading hatred is the anti-thesis of what you should do if you crave to be genuinely happy.

Intolerance only leads to more intolerance. It doesn’t solve anything.

U is for Unconditional

Unconditional- When you love, love unconditionally. When you serve others, serve unconditionally. Unconditionally means without any strings attached. Do good deeds for others because you genuinely want to spread joy.

Don’t expect anything in return. Don’t merely show love to your spouse, partner, or whomever because you desire them to act a certain way or give you something you want. This is not a representation of the true and authentic you.

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V is for Value

Value- Live a purposeful life. Seek meaning in what you are doing. Look for the good in people, even those people who you believe lack value.

Don’t only value your life but value the life of everyone around- family members and non-family members alike- loved ones and strangers.

W is for Well-being

Well-being- You desire to live a life full of well-being. Well-being is a constant state of happiness and contentment. The ebbs and flows of life don’t alter this state.

Negative can be expressed freely without fear of losing your ability to be happy. Positive emotions are shown without fear of losing the happy feeling.

X is for Xenial

Xenial- Xenial means to be hospitable and giving especially to strangers and people whom you don’t know. Hold the door for strangers. Let other drivers in front of you during high traffic times. Give someone hand carrying their groceries. Assist a elderly person walking across the street.

These are all examples of being xenial. Carrying out acts of kindness to people you don’t know will strengthen your positive outlook on life. Is there a greater feeling than helping someone who is need?

Y is for Yes

Yes- I am not suggesting you be like Jim Carrey in the movie Yes Man and say yes to everyone and everything no matter what. I am proposing to explore the possibilities of this word.

How often do you say no in comparison to how often you say no? Think about this because it might give you an understanding of what kind of perspective you have in life.

Do you consistently say decline invitations even when you are free and have no prior engagements? Step out of your comfort zone and try new things. If possible, say yes the next time you are invited out with friends or coworkers. It might change your life.

Z is for Zealous

Zealous- When you leave this Earth will you be able to honestly say that you lived a life filled with verve, devotion, and passion?

I think overzealous is a word that has been given a negative connotation of sorts. Maybe in certain situations being over excited or over enthusiastic is frowned upon.

This couldn’t be further from the truth when describing your life. Live your life full of zeal. Be excited and energetic. Be genuinely happy!

Being happy can be as easy as learning the alphabet if you practice, practice, practice.

Implement these simple but powerful words into your life, and empower yourself with the ability to manifest authentic joy.

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Mike is the Creator of Carpe Diem Motivation. He aspires to inspire individuals who are seeking a little extra boost in their lives.

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Last Updated on December 3, 2019

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

There are so many lessons I wish I had learned while I was young enough to appreciate and apply them. The thing with wisdom, and often with life lessons in general, is that they’re learned in retrospect, long after we needed them. The good news is that other people can benefit from our experiences and the lessons we’ve learned.

Here’re 10 important life lessons you should learn early on:

1. Money Will Never Solve Your Real Problems

Money is a tool; a commodity that buys you necessities and some nice “wants,” but it is not the panacea to your problems.

There are a great many people who are living on very little, yet have wonderfully full and happy lives… and there are sadly a great many people are living on quite a lot, yet have terribly miserable lives.

Money can buy a nice home, a great car, fabulous shoes, even a bit of security and some creature comforts, but it cannot fix a broken relationship, or cure loneliness, and the “happiness” it brings is only fleeting and not the kind that really and truly matters. Happiness is not for sale. If you’re expecting the “stuff” you can buy to “make it better,” you will never be happy.

2. Pace Yourself

Often when we’re young, just beginning our adult journey we feel as though we have to do everything at once. We need to decide everything, plan out our lives, experience everything, get to the top, find true love, figure out our life’s purpose, and do it all at the same time.

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Slow down—don’t rush into things. Let your life unfold. Wait a bit to see where it takes you, and take time to weigh your options. Enjoy every bite of food, take time to look around you, let the other person finish their side of the conversation. Allow yourself time to think, to mull a bit.

Taking action is critical. Working towards your goals and making plans for the future is commendable and often very useful, but rushing full-speed ahead towards anything is a one-way ticket to burnout and a good way to miss your life as it passes you by.

3. You Can’t Please Everyone

“I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to please everyone” – Bill Cosby.

You don’t need everyone to agree with you or even like you. It’s human nature to want to belong, to be liked, respected and valued, but not at the expense of your integrity and happiness. Other people cannot give you the validation you seek. That has to come from inside.

Speak up, stick to your guns, assert yourself when you need to, demand respect, stay true to your values.

4. Your Health Is Your Most Valuable Asset

Health is an invaluable treasure—always appreciate, nurture, and protect it. Good health is often wasted on the young before they have a chance to appreciate it for what it’s worth.

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We tend to take our good health for granted, because it’s just there. We don’t have to worry about it, so we don’t really pay attention to it… until we have to.

Heart disease, bone density, stroke, many cancers—the list of many largely preventable diseases is long, so take care of your health now, or you’ll regret it later on.

5. You Don’t Always Get What You Want

“Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon

No matter how carefully you plan and how hard you work, sometimes things just don’t work out the way you want them to… and that’s okay.

We have all of these expectations; predetermined visions of what our “ideal” life will look like, but all too often, that’s not the reality of the life we end up with. Sometimes our dreams fail and sometimes we just change our minds mid-course. Sometimes we have to flop to find the right course and sometimes we just have to try a few things before we find the right direction.

6. It’s Not All About You

You are not the epicenter of the universe. It’s very difficult to view the world from a perspective outside of your own, since we are always so focused on what’s happening in our own lives. What do I have to do today? What will this mean for me, for my career, for my life? What do I want?

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It’s normal to be intensely aware of everything that’s going on in your own life, but you need to pay as much attention to what’s happening around you, and how things affect other people in the world as you do to your own life. It helps to keep things in perspective.

7. There’s No Shame in Not Knowing

No one has it all figured out. Nobody has all the answers. There’s no shame in saying “I don’t know.” Pretending to be perfect doesn’t make you perfect. It just makes you neurotic to keep up the pretense of manufactured perfection.

We have this idea that there is some kind of stigma or shame in admitting our limitations or uncertainly, but we can’t possibly know everything. We all make mistakes and mess up occasionally. We learn as we go, that’s life.

Besides—nobody likes a know-it-all. A little vulnerability makes you human and oh so much more relatable.

8. Love Is More Than a Feeling; It’s a Choice

That burst of initial exhilaration, pulse quickening love and passion does not last long. But that doesn’t mean long-lasting love is not possible.

Love is not just a feeling; it’s a choice that you make every day. We have to choose to let annoyances pass, to forgive, to be kind, to respect, to support, to be faithful.

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Relationships take work. Sometimes it’s easy and sometimes it’s incredibly hard. It is up to us to choose how we want to act, think and speak in a relationship.

9. Perspective Is a Beautiful Thing

Typically, when we’re worried or upset, it’s because we’ve lost perspective. Everything that is happening in our lives seems so big, so important, so do or die, but in the grand picture, this single hiccup often means next to nothing.

The fight we’re having, the job we didn’t get, the real or imagined slight, the unexpected need to shift course, the thing we wanted, but didn’t get. Most of it won’t matter 20, 30, 40 years from now. It’s hard to see long term when all you know is short term, but unless it’s life-threatening, let it go, and move on.

10. Don’t Take Anything for Granted

We often don’t appreciate what we have until it’s gone: that includes your health, your family and friends, your job, the money you have or think you will have tomorrow.

When you’re young, it seems that your parents will always be there, but they won’t. You think you have plenty of time to get back in touch with your old friends or spend time with new ones, but you don’t. You have the money to spend, or you think you’ll have it next month, but you might not.

Nothing in your life is not guaranteed to be there tomorrow, including those you love.

This is a hard life lesson to learn, but it may be the most important of all: Life can change in an instant. Make sure you appreciate what you have, while you still have it.

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