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The 5 Types of Friends You Will Have in Your Lifetime

The 5 Types of Friends You Will Have in Your Lifetime

Before I start, we need to untangle the definition of what a friend is. Many people consider acquaintances, colleagues, neighbors or associates as friends, but a friend is something greater than just a chit chat buddy.

A friend is a person who can understand the “skeletons in the closet.” They are those with whom we can share that which we might not even be able to share with our parents.

These are the five types of friends we encounter through our life experience. It is not easy to find the authentic ones, so we often experience a few that fall into each category. In each of the types below, you may recognize people you have experienced friendships with in the past, and may friend currently.

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Here are the five types of friends you will encounter in your lifetime.

1. The Mistakes

The mistakes are friends who we thought they were friends, but they weren’t even close. When it comes to friends, we always have to sense them from the gut. Mistakes are the ones who disguise, the ones who have the power to reconsider our gut. If we weren’t lucky enough to meet our real friends during childhood, we will have a hard time with these so-called “Halloween friends.”

Always listen to your gut and you will never befriend someone by mistake.

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2. The Pessimists

These friends are a bit hard to handle. I had a few friends and, as a motivator, I couldn’t get them to find a job, work on their dream, work on their success and lurk out of the comfort zone. I did reconsider them for a few months, but as I started working on my own achievements, they all returned to the comfy and safe territory. I was just spending time with people who don’t really want to be more than average.

These are also people who are hard to communicate with. You always feel tension around them and can’t be yourself. If by any chance you have these people in your life, try to help them for a while. If they still continue the non-action process, remove that toxicity from your life. Our brains are more than 80% formed by the people we are around. Make sure to find your bright niche.

3. The Scars

Have you ever had a friend you enjoyed spending time with, but your crossroads never seemed to meet? I have a few that I have to say I enjoy every second of our friendship, but I always get to see them by accident. I am always busy when they aren’t, and vice versa.

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With these people we can have the best memories, but never get to share our skeletons. It becomes more like a flat connection, just happiness and joy.

4. The Optimists

These are rare people that you want to surround yourself with. The optimists always seem to look on the bright side, like the Monty Python song. They always give great ideas; they are always cheerful and never have judgments for the people that look strange to society.

These friends are warm and will always keep up a good mood around the entourage they are surrounded with.

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5. The Soul Mates

Going from from the worst to the best friends we will meet or have met, we have the soul mates. These authentic friends are the ones we should never let go of. These are the people who know our body language.

Soul mates are limited edition. We cannot have more than a couple friends who know our deepest skeletons and yet share a perfect energetic bond. Soul mates are like magnetism, a force that can attract two souls that have magnetic energies.

Listen to your gut. You don’t need any more mistakes or pessimists in your life. The connections to the scars, the optimists, and–of course–the soul mates are the ones that will enrich your life.

Featured photo credit: Friends/Gerry Balding via flickr.com

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Last Updated on November 5, 2018

8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

We’ve all got our enemies; people who take pleasure in causing us pain and misery. Sometimes, the development of an enemy is due to certain differences in your characters and events have led to that. Other times, some people end up hating you for apparently no reason at all.

Regardless of how you got this enemy, as opposed to the paradigm of fighting fire with fire, consider the following reasons and see why you should actually appreciate your enemies. This article will show you not only how to not be bothered by your enemies, but how to actually foster love for them.

Read on to learn the secret.

1. It’s a practical lesson in anger management

To be honest, your enemies are the best people to help you understand your sense of anger management. When it might be true that your enemies have a way of bringing out the worst in you as regards anger, it is also true that they can help you in your quest to have that anger managed. You can’t get truly angry at someone you love and it is only in that time when you get truly annoyed that you learn how to manage it.

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Anger management is more effective when it is in practice and not in theory

Your enemies are like the therapists who you need, but actually don’t want. Inasmuch as you might want to hate them, they provide you an opportunity to control the anger impulse that you have.

2. It’s an opportunity for healthy competition

You might not know it, but your enemies make for great rivals as they help harness the competitor in you (sometimes, you might not even know or bee conversant with this competitive side until you come across an adversary). You get the right motivation to compete and this can go a long way to spur you to victory.

However, while doing so, it is also essential that you remember not to become a worse version of yourself while competing. Working against an adversary is tricky, and you need to ensure that you don’t cause harm to yourself or your morals in the process. Healthy competition is all you need to get out of this.

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3. Their negative comments can help you make a breakthrough

It is true that your enemies never really have much good to say about you. However, in as much as they might be talking out of a place of hate, there might be some truth to what they’re saying.

To wit, whenever you hear something mean or nasty from an enemy, you might want to take a step back and evaluate yourself. There is a chance that what this enemy is saying is true and coming to face that fact is a major step in helping you to become a better person overall. This is another testament to the fact that enemies can be therapists in their own way.

4. Enemies can also be powerful allies

Loving your enemies can also mean making an effort to interact and make peace with them. In the end, if you are able to establish some common ground and patch things up, you’ll have succeeded in making another friend. And who doesn’t need friends?

This can also help you in working with people in the long run. You get to hone your inter-personal skills, and that can be a big plus to your ledger.

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5. It gives you the ability to realize positivity

In a multitude of negativity, a speck of positivity always seems to find its way through.

Sometimes, a knowledge of the fact that you have enemies will also help you to focus on the many positives and good things that are in your life. A lot of times, we neglect what really matters in life. This can be due to being overly concerned with the enemies we have.

However, it is also possible for this acknowledgement to spur you to take a step back and appreciate the goo things (and people who surround you).

6. There might just be a misunderstanding

Sometimes, the reason why you have an enemy might be something very innocuous. You might not have known the cause of this fractured relationship and your enemy will help complete the picture.

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Simply approaching them will help you to understand the reason for the fracture. This, in turn, can help you to work towards healing your relationship moving forward. Misunderstandings happen, and you need to be able to work around them.

7. You learn to appreciate love as well

A constant reminder of the fact that there are enemies will also help you not to take those who love you for granted. Love and hate are two opposing emotions and it is possible for one to momentarily overshadow the other.

However, while you’ll always have enemies, there will also always be people who love you. These people need to be appreciated for what they do for you. Never let the hate projected to you from your enemies take the place of that.

8. Do you really need the hate?

The truth is that enemies bring only toxic emotions and generate bad reactions from you. If you’re truly to live a prosperous life, you can’t really be carrying all this baggage around.

Hate is bad and you should try all you can to get rid of it. It is a well-known fact that nobody can get really far in life while carrying a lot of emotional baggage. Well, hate is the biggest form of emotional baggage there is.

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