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The 5 Types of Friends You Will Have in Your Lifetime

The 5 Types of Friends You Will Have in Your Lifetime

Before I start, we need to untangle the definition of what a friend is. Many people consider acquaintances, colleagues, neighbors or associates as friends, but a friend is something greater than just a chit chat buddy.

A friend is a person who can understand the “skeletons in the closet.” They are those with whom we can share that which we might not even be able to share with our parents.

These are the five types of friends we encounter through our life experience. It is not easy to find the authentic ones, so we often experience a few that fall into each category. In each of the types below, you may recognize people you have experienced friendships with in the past, and may friend currently.

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Here are the five types of friends you will encounter in your lifetime.

1. The Mistakes

The mistakes are friends who we thought they were friends, but they weren’t even close. When it comes to friends, we always have to sense them from the gut. Mistakes are the ones who disguise, the ones who have the power to reconsider our gut. If we weren’t lucky enough to meet our real friends during childhood, we will have a hard time with these so-called “Halloween friends.”

Always listen to your gut and you will never befriend someone by mistake.

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2. The Pessimists

These friends are a bit hard to handle. I had a few friends and, as a motivator, I couldn’t get them to find a job, work on their dream, work on their success and lurk out of the comfort zone. I did reconsider them for a few months, but as I started working on my own achievements, they all returned to the comfy and safe territory. I was just spending time with people who don’t really want to be more than average.

These are also people who are hard to communicate with. You always feel tension around them and can’t be yourself. If by any chance you have these people in your life, try to help them for a while. If they still continue the non-action process, remove that toxicity from your life. Our brains are more than 80% formed by the people we are around. Make sure to find your bright niche.

3. The Scars

Have you ever had a friend you enjoyed spending time with, but your crossroads never seemed to meet? I have a few that I have to say I enjoy every second of our friendship, but I always get to see them by accident. I am always busy when they aren’t, and vice versa.

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With these people we can have the best memories, but never get to share our skeletons. It becomes more like a flat connection, just happiness and joy.

4. The Optimists

These are rare people that you want to surround yourself with. The optimists always seem to look on the bright side, like the Monty Python song. They always give great ideas; they are always cheerful and never have judgments for the people that look strange to society.

These friends are warm and will always keep up a good mood around the entourage they are surrounded with.

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5. The Soul Mates

Going from from the worst to the best friends we will meet or have met, we have the soul mates. These authentic friends are the ones we should never let go of. These are the people who know our body language.

Soul mates are limited edition. We cannot have more than a couple friends who know our deepest skeletons and yet share a perfect energetic bond. Soul mates are like magnetism, a force that can attract two souls that have magnetic energies.

Listen to your gut. You don’t need any more mistakes or pessimists in your life. The connections to the scars, the optimists, and–of course–the soul mates are the ones that will enrich your life.

Featured photo credit: Friends/Gerry Balding via flickr.com

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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