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The 30 Best Friends Quotes That Will Spice Up Your Friendship

The 30 Best Friends Quotes That Will Spice Up Your Friendship

Sometimes, remembering how valuable your friendships are can really help make sure the relationship doesn’t grow stale. Keep your true friends in mind as you read these quotes to see which ones relate to your friendship.

If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day so I never have to live without you.

A. A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh

    The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.

    Bob Marley

      Life is an awful, ugly place to not have a best friend.

      Sarah Dessen

        Silence make the real conversations between friends. Not the saying, but the never needing to say that counts.

        Margaret Lee Runbeck

          Friendship improves happiness and abates misery, by the doubling of our joy and the dividing of our grief.

          Cicero

            The worst part of success is trying to find someone who is happy for you.

            Bette Midle

              It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.

              Friedrich Nietzsche

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                A snowball in the face is surely the perfect beginning to a lasting friendship.

                Markus Zusak, The Book Thief

                  Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It’s not something you learn in school. But if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything.

                  Muhammad Ali

                    There is nothing like puking with somebody to make you into old friends.

                    Sylvia Plath

                      Good friends, good books, and a sleepy conscience: this is the ideal life.

                      Mark Twain

                        Your friends will know you better in the first minute you meet than your acquaintances will know you in a thousand years.

                        Richard Bach

                          There’s not a word yet for old friends who’ve just met.

                          Jim Henson 

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                            There is nothing better than a friend, unless it is a friend with chocolate.

                            Linda Grayson

                              A loyal friend laughs at your jokes when they’re not so good, and sympathizes with your problems when they’re not so bad.

                              Arnold H. Glasgow

                                What is a friend? A single soul dwelling in two bodies.

                                Aristotle

                                  Don’t walk behind me; I may not lead. Don’t walk in front of me; I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend.

                                  Albert Camus

                                    The capacity for friendship is God’s way of apologizing for our families.

                                    Jay McInerney

                                      A friend is the one who comes in when the whole world has gone out.

                                      Grace Pulpit

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                                        Tis a great confidence in a friend to tell him your faults; greater to tell him his.

                                        Benjamin Franklin

                                          Friendship marks a life even more deeply than love. Love risks degenerating into obsession, friendship is never anything but sharing.

                                          Elie Wiesel

                                            Growing apart doesn’t change the fact that for a long time we grew side by side; our roots will always be tangled. I’m glad for that.

                                            Ally Condie

                                              True friendship is like sound health; the value of it is seldom known until it be lost.

                                              Charles Caleb Colton

                                                Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: ‘What! You too? I thought that no one but myself . . .’

                                                C. S. Lewis

                                                  You can always tell a real friend:  when you’ve made a fool of yourself he doesn’t feel you’ve done a permanent job.

                                                  Laurence J. Peter

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                                                    Words are easy, like the wind; Faithful friends are hard to find.

                                                    William Shakespeare

                                                      It’s the friends you can call up at 4 a.m. that matter.

                                                      Marlene Dietrich 

                                                        Friends are relatives you make for yourself.

                                                        Eustache Deschamps

                                                          A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.

                                                          Elbert Hubbard

                                                            Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for a while, leave footprints on our hearts, and we are never, ever the same.

                                                            Flavia Weedn

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                                                              Last Updated on January 24, 2021

                                                              How to Say No When You Know You Say Yes Too Often

                                                              How to Say No When You Know You Say Yes Too Often

                                                              Do you say yes so often that you no longer feel that your own needs are being met? Are you wondering how to say no to people?

                                                              For years, I was a serial people pleaser[1]. Known as someone who would step up, I would gladly make time, especially when it came to volunteering for certain causes. I proudly carried this role all through grade school, college, even through law school. For years, I thought saying “no” meant I would disappoint a good friend or someone I respected.

                                                              But somewhere along the way, I noticed I wasn’t quite living my life. Instead, I seem to have created a schedule that was a strange combination of meeting the expectations of others, what I thought I should be doing, and some of what I actually wanted to do. The result? I had a packed schedule that left me overwhelmed and unfulfilled.

                                                              It took a long while, but I learned the art of saying no. Saying no meant I no longer catered fully to everyone else’s needs and could make more room for what I really wanted to do. Instead of cramming too much in, I chose to pursue what really mattered. When that happened, I became a lot happier.

                                                              And guess what? I hardly disappointed anyone.

                                                              The Importance of Saying No

                                                              When you learn the art of saying no, you begin to look at the world differently. Rather than seeing all of the things you could or should be doing (and aren’t doing), you start to look at how to say yes to what’s important.

                                                              In other words, you aren’t just reacting to what life throws at you. You seek the opportunities that move you to where you want to be.

                                                              Successful people aren’t afraid to say no. Oprah Winfrey, considered one of the most successful women in the world, confessed that it was much later in life when she learned how to say no. Even after she had become internationally famous, she felt she had to say yes to virtually everything.

                                                              Being able to say no also helps you manage your time better.

                                                              Warren Buffett views “no” as essential to his success. He said:

                                                              “The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.”

                                                              When I made “no” a part of my toolbox, I drove more of my own success, focusing on fewer things and doing them well.

                                                              How We Are Pressured to Say Yes

                                                              It’s no wonder a lot of us find it hard to say no.

                                                              From an early age, we are conditioned to say yes. We said yes probably hundreds of times in order to graduate from high school and then get into college. We said yes to find work, to get a promotion, to find love and then yes again to stay in a relationship. We said yes to find and keep friends.

                                                              We say yes because we feel good when we help someone, because it can seem like the right thing to do, because we think that is key to success, and because the request might come from someone who is hard to resist.

                                                              And that’s not all. The pressure to say yes doesn’t just come from others. We put a lot of pressure on ourselves.

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                                                              At work, we say yes because we compare ourselves to others who seem to be doing more than we are. Outside of work, we say yes because we are feeling bad that we aren’t doing enough to spend time with family or friends.

                                                              The message, no matter where we turn, is nearly always, “You really could be doing more.” The result? When people ask us for our time, we are heavily conditioned to say yes.

                                                              How Do You Say No Without Feeling Guilty?

                                                              Deciding to add the word “no” to your toolbox is no small thing. Perhaps you already say no, but not as much as you would like. Maybe you have an instinct that if you were to learn the art of no that you could finally create more time for things you care about.

                                                              But let’s be honest, using the word “no” doesn’t come easily for many people.

                                                              3 Rules of Thumbs for Saying No

                                                              1. You Need to Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

                                                              Let’s face it. It is hard to say no. Setting boundaries around your time, especially you haven’t done it much in the past, will feel awkward. Your comfort zone is “yes,” so it’s time to challenge that and step outside that.

                                                              If you need help getting out of your comfort zone, check out this article.

                                                              2. You Are the Air Traffic Controller of Your Time

                                                              When you want to learn how to say no, remember that you are the only one who understands the demands for your time. Think about it: who else knows about all of the demands in your life? No one.

                                                              Only you are at the center of all of these requests. You are the only one that understands what time you really have.

                                                              3. Saying No Means Saying Yes to Something That Matters

                                                              When we decide not to do something, it means we can say yes to something else that we may care more about. You have a unique opportunity to decide how you spend your precious time.

                                                              6 Ways to Start Saying No

                                                              Incorporating that little word “no” into your life can be transformational. Turning some things down will mean you can open doors to what really matters. Here are some essential tips to learn the art of no:

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                                                              1. Check in With Your Obligation Meter

                                                              One of the biggest challenges to saying no is a feeling of obligation. Do you feel you have a responsibility to say yes and worry that saying no will reflect poorly on you?

                                                              Ask yourself whether you truly have the duty to say yes. Check your assumptions or beliefs about whether you carry the responsibility to say yes. Turn it around and instead ask what duty you owe to yourself.

                                                              2. Resist the Fear of Missing out (FOMO)

                                                              Do you have a fear of missing out (FOMO)? FOMO can follow us around in so many ways. At work, we volunteer our time because we fear we won’t move ahead. In our personal lives, we agree to join the crowd because of FOMO, even while we ourselves aren’t enjoying the fun.

                                                              Check in with yourself. Are you saying yes because of FOMO or because you really want to say yes? More often than not, running after fear doesn’t make us feel better[2].

                                                              3. Check Your Assumptions About What It Means to Say No

                                                              Do you dread the reaction you will get if you say no? Often, we say yes because we worry about how others will respond or because of the consequences. We may be afraid to disappoint others or think we will lose their respect. We often forget how much we are disappointing ourselves along the way.

                                                              Keep in mind that saying no can be exactly what is needed to send the right message that you have limited time. In the tips below, you will see how to communicate your no in a gentle and loving way.

                                                              You might disappoint someone initially, but drawing a boundary can bring you the freedom you need so that you can give freely of yourself when you truly want to. And it will often help others have more respect for you and your boundaries, not less.

                                                              4. When the Request Comes in, Sit on It

                                                              Sometimes, when we are in the moment, we instinctively agree. The request might make sense at first. Or we typically have said yes to this request in the past.

                                                              Give yourself a little time to reflect on whether you really have the time or can do the task properly. You may decide the best option is to say no. There is no harm in giving yourself the time to decide.

                                                              5. Communicate Your “No” with Transparency and Kindness

                                                              When you are ready to tell someone no, communicate your decision clearly. The message can be open and honest[3] to ensure the recipient that your reasons have to do with your limited time.

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                                                              How do you say no? 9 Healthy Ways to Say “No”

                                                                Resist the temptation not to respond or communicate all. But do not feel obligated to provide a lengthy account about why you are saying no.

                                                                Clear communication with a short explanation is all that is needed. I have found it useful to tell people that I have many demands and need to be careful with how I allocate my time. I will sometimes say I really appreciate that they came to me and for them to check in again if the opportunity arises another time.

                                                                6. Consider How to Use a Modified No

                                                                If you are under pressure to say yes but want to say no, you may want to consider downgrading a “yes” to a “yes but…” as this will give you an opportunity to condition your agreement to what works best for you.

                                                                Sometimes, the condition can be to do the task, but not in the time frame that was originally requested. Or perhaps you can do part of what has been asked.

                                                                Final Thoughts

                                                                Beginning right now, you can change how you respond to requests for your time. When the request comes in, take yourself off autopilot where you might normally say yes.

                                                                Use the request as a way to draw a healthy boundary around your time. Pay particular attention to when you place certain demands on yourself.

                                                                Try it now. Say no to a friend who continues to take advantage of your goodwill. Or, draw the line with a workaholic colleague and tell them you will complete the project, but not by working all weekend. You’ll find yourself much happier.

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                                                                Featured photo credit: Chris Ainsworth via unsplash.com

                                                                Reference

                                                                [1] Science of People: 11 Expert Tips to Stop Being a People Pleaser and Start Doing You
                                                                [2] Anxiety and Depression Association of America: Tips to Get Over Your FOMO, or Fear of Missing Out
                                                                [3] Cooks Hill Counseling: 9 Healthy Ways to Say “No”

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