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The 18 Unwritten Rules of Texting You Should Know

The 18 Unwritten Rules of Texting You Should Know

Texting is practically the most common form of communication nowadays.

It also can be the best tool to use if you’d like to really, really annoy people.

Odds are, you don’t. So know how to text right with these tips!

1. Didn’t get a reply right away? It’s okay. Chill out.


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    Don’t keep texting until they respond. They’re probably busy. And if they’re not, maybe they just don’t feel like texting. Texting them over and over again is the perfect way to ensure that they won’t respond. Ever again.

    2. Always respond.

    That being said, don’t blow anyone off. Respond to someone’s text in a kind and reasonably-timed manner. (Unless the person is a stalker, in which case, please do not respond. I do so care about your safety here.)

    3. Keep the other person’s schedule in mind.


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      Of course, you generally shouldn’t text a person at 4 in the morning unless it’s your BFF, and even then, your BFF may want to kill you. However, also keep in mind the schedule of the specific person you’re texting. Is your friend at work? Then don’t text him or her a million times in a row in the middle of the shift. Does your friend enjoy sleeping in on the weekends? Don’t text him or her at 8:30. Be nice.

      4. Don’t text a novel…


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        This is one that I personally break all the time, but it just makes sense: if it’s taking you more than thirty seconds to text it, you probably just want to take care of it over the phone. Don’t make it more confusing than it has to be.

        5. …however, don’t call in response to a text without asking.


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          Be kind to the introverts. If someone texted you, it means they didn’t want to talk on the phone. That might mean they’re busy, or they’re relaxing, but don’t call them in response. If you really think it would be something better covered via phone call, text them asking them first.

          6. Generally, avoid sarcasm.

          Unless the person knows you really well, sarcasm is best avoided via text. You can’t read the tone nearly as well, and you could end up getting into arguments or hurting someone’s feelings.


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            And nobody wants that!

            7. Double-check your autocorrect.

            Unless the correction is particularly hilarious, of course.

            8. Double–no, triple–check who you’re sending it to.


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              If you’d like to lose your job quickly and with little effort, texting “hey sexy I miss you ;)” to your boss instead of your significant other is a great method.

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              9. If you’re running late, text the person.

              It’s just good manners. Brownie points for including an ETA.

              10. Respond proportionally.

              If someone breaks rule number 4, don’t respond with just “k.” Unless you want to lose friends and alienate people. Or make them want to destroy their phone.


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                The same goes for the opposite case: if you’re composing novels to someone, and they’re texting you back with very short replies, take the hint.

                11. If you wouldn’t talk to them about this issue in real life, don’t text it to them.

                This can apply with so many different situations. Everyone knows not to use texts to break up, or to communicate grave injuries. But you also shouldn’t try to get really deep into conversation with an acquaintance / stranger. I recently had someone I barely know text me their life story, and it was more than a bit jarring.

                12. Do. Not. Hashtag. In. Your. Text.


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                  It’s something you can only do ironically. And even if you do that, you have to make it really obvious that it’s ironic, or else you’ll risk looking like an idiot.

                  13. Don’t use chatspeak. Just don’t.

                  dont 4get this rule, b/c u will lose s0 much credibility rofl

                  There are certain abbreviations that are generally accepted, but make sure you know the meaning of them. Don’t text someone “lol” when they’re going through a crisis, thinking it means “lots of love.”

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                  14. DO NOT TYPE IN ALL CAPS!!!!!

                  DOESN’T IT SEEM LIKE I’M SHOUTING AT YOU?!?

                  If you are really angry to the point where you feel like shouting, it’s probably a conversation that should be saved for another medium.

                  (Note: the only exception to the past two rules is while you’re live-texting the Game of Thrones season finale to a friend, e.g. OMG I HATE YOU CERSEI STFU WHY DO YOU EXIST.)

                  15. Use the right texting laughter.

                  Here’s a quick guide to laughter via text.

                  Ha: use when you don’t really find something funny, and you want to make that fact obvious.

                  Haha: use when you don’t really find something funny, but you would like to be polite.

                  Hahaha: use when their text made you smile.

                  Hahahaha+: use when you sincerely laughed.

                  HAHA+: one of the few exceptions to the no-caps rule. Use when you find something hysterical.

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                  Lol: Use when you want the sincerity of your laughter to be a mystery. Did you really laugh out loud? Nobody knows! You’re so mysterious!

                  16. Don’t bury your face in your phone when you’re hanging out with someone.


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                    Okay, let me preface this by saying that with some people, it’s cool if you text. I have a group of friends who are always responding to texts when we’re together, and we’re okay with it, because we hang out all the time.

                    But if you don’t know how the other person feels about texting etiquette, or you don’t know the person well, just don’t do it. It’s rude and it gives the impression that you don’t particularly care about the other person’s presence.

                    Another exception: if there’s something really pressing, like, I don’t know, your sister is expected to go into labor any day now, inform your company that you may be checking your phone every so often.

                    17. Don’t text while walking.

                    You might walk into a large parked van in front of a crowd of strangers. I may or may not be speaking from personal experience.

                    18. Above all: do not text while driving.

                    This is the biggest rule. Please. Please please, don’t do it.

                    Have any rules to add? Comment and let us know!

                    Featured photo credit: Henry Lockyer (AbsolutelyClever) via flickr.com

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                    Last Updated on February 13, 2019

                    10 Things Happy People Do Differently

                    10 Things Happy People Do Differently

                    Think being happy is something that happens as a result of luck, circumstance, having money, etc.? Think again.

                    Happiness is a mindset. And if you’re looking to improve your ability to find happiness, then check out these 10 things happy people do differently.

                    Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions. -Dalai Lama

                    1. Happy people find balance in their lives.

                    Folks who are happy have this in common: they’re content with what they have, and don’t waste a whole lot of time worrying and stressing over things they don’t. Unhappy people do the opposite: they spend too much time thinking about what they don’t have. Happy people lead balanced lives. This means they make time for all the things that are important to them, whether it’s family, friends, career, health, religion, etc.

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                    2. Happy people abide by the golden rule.

                    You know that saying you heard when you were a kid, “Do unto others as you would have them do to you.” Well, happy people truly embody this principle. They treat others with respect. They’re sensitive to the thoughts and feelings of other people. They’re compassionate. And they get treated this way (most of the time) in return.

                    3. Happy people don’t sweat the small stuff.

                    One of the biggest things happy people do differently compared to unhappy people is they let stuff go. Bad things happen to good people sometimes. Happy people realize this, are able to take things in stride, and move on. Unhappy people tend to dwell on minor inconveniences and issues, which can perpetuate feelings of sadness, guilt, resentment, greed, and anger.

                    4. Happy people take responsibility for their actions.

                    Happy people aren’t perfect, and they’re well aware of that. When they screw up, they admit it. They recognize their faults and work to improve on them. Unhappy people tend to blame others and always find an excuse why things aren’t going their way. Happy people, on the other hand, live by the mantra:

                    “There are two types of people in the world: those that do and those that make excuses why they don’t.”

                    5. Happy people surround themselves with other happy people.

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                      One defining characteristic of happy people is they tend to hang out with other happy people. Misery loves company, and unhappy people gravitate toward others who share their negative sentiments. If you’re struggling with a bout of sadness, depression, worry, or anger, spend more time with your happiest friends or family members. Chances are, you’ll find that their positive attitude rubs off on you.

                      6. Happy people are honest with themselves and others.

                      People who are happy often exhibit the virtues of honesty and trustworthiness. They would rather give you candid feedback, even when the truth hurts, and they expect the same in return. Happy people respect people who give them an honest opinion.

                      7. Happy people show signs of happiness.

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                      smile

                        This one may sound obvious but it’s a key differentiator between happy and unhappy people. Think about your happiest friends. Chances are, the mental image you form is of them smiling, laughing, and appearing genuinely happy. On the flip side, those who aren’t happy tend to look the part. Their posture may be slouched and you may perceive a lack of confidence.

                        8. Happy people are passionate.

                        Another thing happy people have in common is their ability to find their passions in life and pursue those passions to the fullest. Happy people have found what they’re looking for, and they spend their time doing what they love.

                        9. Happy people see challenges as opportunities.

                        Folks who are happy accept challenges and use them as opportunities to learn and grow. They turn negatives into positives and make the best out of seemingly bad situations. They don’t dwell on things that are out of their control; rather, they seek solutions and creative ways of overcoming obstacles.

                        10. Happy people live in the present.

                        While unhappy people tend to dwell on the past and worry about the future, happy people live in the moment. They are grateful for “the now” and focus their efforts on living life to the fullest in the present. Their philosophy is:

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                        There’s a reason it’s called “the present.” Because life is a gift.

                        So if you’d like to bring a little more happiness into your life, think about the 10 principles above and how you can use them to make yourself better.

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