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Learn How To Really Maintain A Long-Term And Fulfilling Relationship

Learn How To Really Maintain A Long-Term And Fulfilling Relationship

Many men think that seduction stops when the relationship begins. Some guys think of  “settling down” as a kind of retirement, a vacation from being an independent charismatic person, and a shift to a more restrictive lifestyle. These men know nothing about women or living as a couple…

The contradiction is that in seduction the idea is to show you are attracted and make the girl attracted back. There’s no use in trying to conceal it. But why do we use the tools of seduction during the first few dates and then throw them away? And why do we trade in the excitement of the seduction for the stability of a relationship anyways?

We will explore all of these issues through the most important question: does seduction stop once you enter the door of a relationship? Hang on; the answer is going to blow you away!

A relationship is not an end in itself

What many people forget is that entering into a relationship is not jumping into a bed of rose petals. It shouldn’t be some kind of life goal (note that people obsessed with the idea of living as a couple face enormous difficulties in finding a suitable partner) nor fate.

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I have often observed this kind of thinking. The guy in a relationship is seen either as a caged prisoner desperate for freedom, or as the luckiest man in the world (let’s be honest, according to the shape of his girlfriend).

However, we all need to recognize that the flame of a relationship grows through a simple process: seduction.

There is nothing shameful in this. Having feelings is not something we control. They are there, and that’s it. From that point on, it is our responsibility only to make enough efforts to continue just enough to keep the flame alive.

Love stories don’t just happen, gentlemen. They evolve, taking shape, according to mutual feelings, time spent together, arguments, or successes …

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Love stories as cyclical patterns

What people see on the surface in any relationship is a happy couple, solid, ready to meet the challenges of everyday life. This idea is bolstered by what we often consider a traditional family (two parents and two children).

These standards tend to make us believe that once we fall into a relationship the worst is over. We’ve made it! But then the passion dies. “L’amour fou” (mad love) is a short-term contract. Once this period (from 1 to 3 years according to experts) is over, the challenge begins.

Yes, I said it: CHALLENGE. Any routine that can lead to comfort, can also lead to weariness. And weariness can slowly lead to separation. You must build a set of habits that keep things interesting if you want to push through this period.

This spiral can be prevented, and here we’ll give you some tools to push through … First off we need to establish that seduction should constantly remain part of your repertoire. Second, stop thinking about whether or not you’ve found “the one” (it’s a silly question, it will be obvious, and it’s the basis of a boring relationship).

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Actions to fully satisfy your partner on a daily basis

Relationship seduction will be A couple needs energy and dynamism. The latter can be created or promoted by following some simple but effective principles:

Be yourself: It is a necessity. A man who acts like a phony dick will eventually be tossed into the trash heap. Psychological and intellectual challenges must be permanent. Your personal development is at the heart of your relationship. Be a man or your relationship would not survive.

Don’t be predictable: Instead of waiting for a birthday or valentine’s day, be more the type to organize surprises from time to time (go out to dine in a restaurant, travel or make a short trip, have a romantic weekend …). This will kick boring habits to the curb. Include your partner in your personal development process. Bam! Two birds and one stone…

Always be honest and sincere: A life based on lies and deception doesn’t last you very long. If you love your partner, prove it by allowing him or her to get a place in your world and never hid from her what lies deep within you.

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Be strong:  If you can share your feelings and thoughts, be careful not to abandon your status as an independent man. Women are looking for protection and security (financial, intellectual, psychological and physical). So do not spend your time complaining or highlight your weaknesses.

Be independent: An attractive man is a proactive man, always demanding challenges and personal fulfillment. If she feels she is a hindrance to your development there may be lost confidence (on both sides) in your ability to be happy with her. Stay active!

This is but a small snapshot. Unlike in traditional seduction, in relationship seduction men need to consistently and effectively work on their image, behavior… otherwise the relationship could go haywire. So, is seduction important to relationships? Yes!

Seduction is not only important; it is the cement, the base. If you abandon this outlook when settling down with a woman, you lose yourself and your freedom, and you might lose the girl in the process.

You have been warned, my friend.

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Last Updated on May 17, 2019

This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

The pursuit of worthwhile goals is a part of what makes life enjoyable. Being able to set a goal, then see yourself progress towards achieving that goal is an amazing feeling.

But do you know the biggest obstacle for most people trying to achieve their goals, the silent dream killer that stops people before they ever even get started? That obstacle is the comfort zone, and getting stuck there is bound to derail any efforts you make towards achieving the goals you’ve set for yourself.

If you want to achieve those goals, you’ll have to break free from your comfort zone. Let’s take a look at how your life will change once you build up the courage to leave your comfort zone.

What Is the Comfort Zone?

The comfort zone is defined as “a behavioural state within which a person operates in an anxiety-neutral condition, using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.”

What stands out to me the most about that definition is the last part: “using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.” How many successful people do you know who deliver a steady level of performance?

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The goal in life is to continually challenge yourself, and continually improve yourself. And in order to do that, you have move out of your comfort zone. But once you do, your life will start to change in ways you could never have imagined. I know because it’s happening right now in my own life.

Here’s what I’ve learned.

1. You will be scared

Leaving your comfort zone isn’t easy. In fact, in can be downright terrifying at times, and that’s okay. It’s perfectly normal to feel a little trepidation when you’re embarking on a journey that forces you to try new things.

So don’t freak out or get overwhelmed when you feel yourself getting a little scared. It’s perfectly normal and all part of the process. What’s important is that you don’t let that fear hold you back. You must continue to take action in the face of fear.

That’s what separates winners from losers.

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2. You will fail

Stepping out of your comfort zone means you’re moving into uncharted territory. You’re trying things that you’ve never tried before, and learning things you’ve never learned before.

That steep learning curve means you’re not going to get everything right the first time, and you will eventually fail when you move out of your comfort zone. But as long as the failures aren’t catastrophic, it can actually be a good thing to fail because …

3. You will learn

Failure is the best teacher. I’ve learned more from each one of my failures than I have from each one of my successes. When you fail small, and fail often, you rapidly increase the rate at which you learn new insights and skills. And that new knowledge, if applied correctly, will eventually lead to your success.

4. You will see yourself in a different way

Once you move out of your comfort zone, you immediately prove to yourself that you’re capable of achieving more than you thought was possible. And that will change the way you see yourself.

Moving forward, you’ll have more confidence in yourself whenever you step out of your comfort zone, and that increased confidence will make it more likely that you continue to step outside your comfort zone. And each time you do, you’ll prove to yourself again and again what you’re really capable of.

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5. Your peers will see you in a different way

Whether we want to admit or not, people judge other people. And right now, people view you in a certain way, and they have a certain idea of what you’re capable of. That’s because they’ve become accustomed to seeing you operate in your comfort zone.

But once you move out of your comfort zone, you’ll prove to other people, as well, that you’re capable of much more than you’ve shown in the past.

The increased confidence other people place in you will bring about more opportunities than ever before.

6. Your comfort zone will expand

The good thing about the comfort zone is that it’s flexible and malleable. With each action you take outside of your comfort zone, it expands. And once you master that new skill or action, it eventually becomes part of your comfort zone.

This is great news for you because it means that you can constantly increase and improve upon the behaviors that you’re comfortable with. And the more tools and skills you have at your disposal, the easier it will be to achieve your goals.

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7. You will increase your concentration and focus

When you’re living inside of your comfort zone, the bulk of your actions are habitual: automatic, subconscious, and requiring limited focus.

But once you move out of your comfort zone, you no longer rely on those habitual responses. You’re forced to concentrate and focus on the new action in a way you never do in your comfort zone.

8. You will develop new skills

Moving out of your comfort zone requires that you develop new skills. One of the many benefits you’ll experience is that you’ll be stepping away from the “limited set of behaviors” and start to develop your ability and expertise in new areas.

Living inside of your comfort zone only requires a limited skill set, and those skills won’t contribute much to your success. Once you can confidently step outside of your comfort zone and learn a new skill, there’s no limit to how much you can achieve.

9. You will achieve more than before

With everything that happens once you move out of your comfort zone, you’re naturally going to achieve more than ever before.

Your increased concentration and focus will help you develop new skills. Those new skills will change the way you see yourself, encouraging you to step even further out of your comfort zone.

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