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How to Give Yourself a Pep Talk in 5 Simple Steps

How to Give Yourself a Pep Talk in 5 Simple Steps

Feeling down, anxious, hesitant, or unmotivated? Trying to gear up for that half-marathon, job interview, or distant goal? You need a pep talk. It’s great to glean some pep from a friend or seek advice from someone you trust, but let’s face it… sometimes what you need the most is reassurance from within. That, my friend, is you.

1. High-five Yourself

Go on, high-five yourself! Or give yourself a pat on the back because you deserve it. We humans rarely acknowledge ourselves in this way, and perhaps we should. (Bonus if you say something along the line of “Way to go!” along with it.)

2. Practice Positive Self-talk

Positive self-talk is a great way to relieve stress, increase your self-esteem, and gradually strengthen your mind. It will train your brain to think positively, which will be the source of your future attitude. Not sure where to start? Try these:

  • I’m awesome because __________.
  • I’m proud of myself because __________.
  • Even though _______ didn’t work out, I am moving forward.
  • One of my strengths is _________.
  • I am thankful for __________.
  • I can do it because _____________.
  • I look up to my role model, _________.
  • I am a role model to __________.
  • I believe in my abilities to ________.
  • I will triumph and ___________.
  • I rock more than Elvis Presley in the Grand Canyon.

3. Write Out Lists

Specifically, write out a list of–

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  1. your talents, passions, interests, or strengths
  2. your short term and long term goals
  3. steps you aim to take to achieve a certain goal
  4. reasons why you are amazing

All of the above will help you to not only regain focus and map your own path to your goal but also maintain a positive mindset throughout the process.

4. Treat Yourself

Sometimes, you can be really hard on yourself… so make a change, and do the opposite. Need motivation to finish that gruesome textbook chapter? Promise yourself some TV free time afterwards, or treat yourself to a chip after every page. Feeling particularly down? Give yourself some “me” time and get back in touch with what makes you smile.

No matter what purpose or back story you may have for giving yourself a pep talk, you can always work this one in somehow. Ultimately, treating yourself creates an incentive system that will help your pep-talk locomotive get going.

5. Get Inspired Online

These days we have the world at our fingertips… so use it! There are countless treasure troves of motivational information online. The following hyperlinks will take you to a few sites and videos that will enhance your self-pep talk experience, depending on your particular situation. So click away…

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If you have a dream. Go get it. (Most universal)

If you need to hear a pep talk from a kid, a younger perspective.

If you’re feeling down and just need a pep talk (general)

If you need motivation to go that extra degree in your pursuits.

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If you need a talk on life, failure, and the future – (JK Rowling Harvard Commencement Speech)

If you’re thinking big, on leaving a legacy.

If you need motivation to get back up after falling down.

If you need an inspirational pep talk for sports

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If you want to get particularly inspired on any topic (TED).

If you’re feeling blue and just need to know everything’s OK.

Finally, A Pep Talk From Me to You.

You got this. You know it’s in you somewhere. Even I know that, and I don’t even know you.

Look. Maybe things aren’t going too well right now, or maybe everything’s relatively OK but you’re feeling uninspired, or maybe you want to do great things but don’t know where to start. Whatever the situation, you will rise above it. Simply by reading this Lifehack article, you’ve already taken the first step.

You CAN get to that goal– say it out loud– and you WILL. So get out there.

Featured photo credit: Mark Davis via flickr.com

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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