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How to Give Yourself a Pep Talk in 5 Simple Steps

How to Give Yourself a Pep Talk in 5 Simple Steps

Feeling down, anxious, hesitant, or unmotivated? Trying to gear up for that half-marathon, job interview, or distant goal? You need a pep talk. It’s great to glean some pep from a friend or seek advice from someone you trust, but let’s face it… sometimes what you need the most is reassurance from within. That, my friend, is you.

1. High-five Yourself

Go on, high-five yourself! Or give yourself a pat on the back because you deserve it. We humans rarely acknowledge ourselves in this way, and perhaps we should. (Bonus if you say something along the line of “Way to go!” along with it.)

2. Practice Positive Self-talk

Positive self-talk is a great way to relieve stress, increase your self-esteem, and gradually strengthen your mind. It will train your brain to think positively, which will be the source of your future attitude. Not sure where to start? Try these:

  • I’m awesome because __________.
  • I’m proud of myself because __________.
  • Even though _______ didn’t work out, I am moving forward.
  • One of my strengths is _________.
  • I am thankful for __________.
  • I can do it because _____________.
  • I look up to my role model, _________.
  • I am a role model to __________.
  • I believe in my abilities to ________.
  • I will triumph and ___________.
  • I rock more than Elvis Presley in the Grand Canyon.

3. Write Out Lists

Specifically, write out a list of–

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  1. your talents, passions, interests, or strengths
  2. your short term and long term goals
  3. steps you aim to take to achieve a certain goal
  4. reasons why you are amazing

All of the above will help you to not only regain focus and map your own path to your goal but also maintain a positive mindset throughout the process.

4. Treat Yourself

Sometimes, you can be really hard on yourself… so make a change, and do the opposite. Need motivation to finish that gruesome textbook chapter? Promise yourself some TV free time afterwards, or treat yourself to a chip after every page. Feeling particularly down? Give yourself some “me” time and get back in touch with what makes you smile.

No matter what purpose or back story you may have for giving yourself a pep talk, you can always work this one in somehow. Ultimately, treating yourself creates an incentive system that will help your pep-talk locomotive get going.

5. Get Inspired Online

These days we have the world at our fingertips… so use it! There are countless treasure troves of motivational information online. The following hyperlinks will take you to a few sites and videos that will enhance your self-pep talk experience, depending on your particular situation. So click away…

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If you have a dream. Go get it. (Most universal)

If you need to hear a pep talk from a kid, a younger perspective.

If you’re feeling down and just need a pep talk (general)

If you need motivation to go that extra degree in your pursuits.

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If you need a talk on life, failure, and the future – (JK Rowling Harvard Commencement Speech)

If you’re thinking big, on leaving a legacy.

If you need motivation to get back up after falling down.

If you need an inspirational pep talk for sports

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If you want to get particularly inspired on any topic (TED).

If you’re feeling blue and just need to know everything’s OK.

Finally, A Pep Talk From Me to You.

You got this. You know it’s in you somewhere. Even I know that, and I don’t even know you.

Look. Maybe things aren’t going too well right now, or maybe everything’s relatively OK but you’re feeling uninspired, or maybe you want to do great things but don’t know where to start. Whatever the situation, you will rise above it. Simply by reading this Lifehack article, you’ve already taken the first step.

You CAN get to that goal– say it out loud– and you WILL. So get out there.

Featured photo credit: Mark Davis via flickr.com

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.

When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.

Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.

1. Become Grateful for Everything

When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.

People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.

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When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.

We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.

2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself

Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.

Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?

Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.

If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.

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3. Help Others

Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.

Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.

Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.

4. Change Your Thinking

We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.

The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”

Changing our self-talk is powerful.

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5. Surround Yourself with Positive People

We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.

As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.

Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.

6. Get into Action

Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.

Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.

Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity

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7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim

You are responsible for your thoughts.

People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.

Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.

Make positive choices in favor of yourself.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu

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