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How to Give Yourself a Pep Talk in 5 Simple Steps

How to Give Yourself a Pep Talk in 5 Simple Steps

Feeling down, anxious, hesitant, or unmotivated? Trying to gear up for that half-marathon, job interview, or distant goal? You need a pep talk. It’s great to glean some pep from a friend or seek advice from someone you trust, but let’s face it… sometimes what you need the most is reassurance from within. That, my friend, is you.

1. High-five Yourself

Go on, high-five yourself! Or give yourself a pat on the back because you deserve it. We humans rarely acknowledge ourselves in this way, and perhaps we should. (Bonus if you say something along the line of “Way to go!” along with it.)

2. Practice Positive Self-talk

Positive self-talk is a great way to relieve stress, increase your self-esteem, and gradually strengthen your mind. It will train your brain to think positively, which will be the source of your future attitude. Not sure where to start? Try these:

  • I’m awesome because __________.
  • I’m proud of myself because __________.
  • Even though _______ didn’t work out, I am moving forward.
  • One of my strengths is _________.
  • I am thankful for __________.
  • I can do it because _____________.
  • I look up to my role model, _________.
  • I am a role model to __________.
  • I believe in my abilities to ________.
  • I will triumph and ___________.
  • I rock more than Elvis Presley in the Grand Canyon.

3. Write Out Lists

Specifically, write out a list of–

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  1. your talents, passions, interests, or strengths
  2. your short term and long term goals
  3. steps you aim to take to achieve a certain goal
  4. reasons why you are amazing

All of the above will help you to not only regain focus and map your own path to your goal but also maintain a positive mindset throughout the process.

4. Treat Yourself

Sometimes, you can be really hard on yourself… so make a change, and do the opposite. Need motivation to finish that gruesome textbook chapter? Promise yourself some TV free time afterwards, or treat yourself to a chip after every page. Feeling particularly down? Give yourself some “me” time and get back in touch with what makes you smile.

No matter what purpose or back story you may have for giving yourself a pep talk, you can always work this one in somehow. Ultimately, treating yourself creates an incentive system that will help your pep-talk locomotive get going.

5. Get Inspired Online

These days we have the world at our fingertips… so use it! There are countless treasure troves of motivational information online. The following hyperlinks will take you to a few sites and videos that will enhance your self-pep talk experience, depending on your particular situation. So click away…

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If you have a dream. Go get it. (Most universal)

If you need to hear a pep talk from a kid, a younger perspective.

If you’re feeling down and just need a pep talk (general)

If you need motivation to go that extra degree in your pursuits.

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If you need a talk on life, failure, and the future – (JK Rowling Harvard Commencement Speech)

If you’re thinking big, on leaving a legacy.

If you need motivation to get back up after falling down.

If you need an inspirational pep talk for sports

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If you want to get particularly inspired on any topic (TED).

If you’re feeling blue and just need to know everything’s OK.

Finally, A Pep Talk From Me to You.

You got this. You know it’s in you somewhere. Even I know that, and I don’t even know you.

Look. Maybe things aren’t going too well right now, or maybe everything’s relatively OK but you’re feeling uninspired, or maybe you want to do great things but don’t know where to start. Whatever the situation, you will rise above it. Simply by reading this Lifehack article, you’ve already taken the first step.

You CAN get to that goal– say it out loud– and you WILL. So get out there.

Featured photo credit: Mark Davis via flickr.com

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The Gentle Art of Saying No

The Gentle Art of Saying No

No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

  1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
  2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
  3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
  4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
  5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
  6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
  7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
  8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
  9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
  10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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