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Every Adult Should Recall Their Childhood and Learn from Themselves

Every Adult Should Recall Their Childhood and Learn from Themselves

You may have heard the quote “All grown-ups were once children…but only few of them remember it.” from The Little Prince before, but have you ever really stopped to reflect on it? Have you ever sat down to reminisce about your childhood, maybe even wish you were a child again? Here are some things you may have done as a child that you should still be doing as an adult.

1. You used to get so excited over things that you take for granted now. Do you even stop to appreciate how beautiful the rain is?

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    2 .Everything you did lacked inhibition. You would jump off slides, slide down a hill in a makeshift sled, and eat snow. When was the last time you did something without overthinking it?

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      3. You fought to do things you loved. Passion for life was bursting through your veins. 

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        4. The smallest good thing to happen was like Christmas day. Now it seems like the small good things go unnoticed.
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          5. Your birthday was an excuse to eat all the cake and chocolate you wanted. It was the most exciting day of the year. The day you were born still should be a day that brings you that much happiness. Celebrate yourself.

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            6. When somebody told you you couldn’t do something, you would go out of your way to prove them wrong. Maybe climbing that tree wasn’t the best idea, but the same principle should be applied to life now.

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              7. You would read anything and everything you could get your hands on. When was the last time you read something that wasn’t a to-do list?

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                8. You would eat anything as long as it was delicious. It’s okay to indulge in food that makes you happy, life is short.

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                  9. You would have big, boundless dreams. Remember that time you wanted to be a veterinarian by day and a secret spy by night?

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                    10. You believed in unicorns, Santa Claus, and miracles. They still exist, you just stopped believing.

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                      11. Cartoons were your favourite time of day. There was something special about laughing till you thought you’d be sick. Do you remember the last time you had a good laugh?

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                        12. You sang at the top of your lungs, not caring about what anybody thought. It was very entertaining then but could be very therapeutic now.

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                          13. You danced like no one was watching, letting go of all the things you were sad about.

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                            14. You used to sit back and admire pictures you just painted. When was the last time you appreciated something you did?

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                              15. You let the people you love know you love them countless times in one day. Life is short, the people you love should hear how much you love them every chance you get.

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                                16. Your only care was what was for dinner that night or when your next field trip was. Do you remember to slow down and not worry too much about the big things in life?

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                                  17. You loved dancing in the rain barefoot with no raincoat on. It didn’t even matter that you’d wake up sick the next day. The smell of rain on your skin was the best part.

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                                    18. You wore clothes that made you happy and let you run fast without caring about what people would say. Style used to be who you were, not what everyone else was doing.

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                                      19. You spun around in circles till the world felt like it was spinning out of control. Do you remember what it was like to let go and lose control?

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                                        20. But most of all you had time. Time for your friends. Time for enjoying activities you loved to do. Time for hobbies that are now long forgotten. You can still have that time, all you have to do is make it.

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                                          Last Updated on October 14, 2020

                                          Had a Bad Day? 7 Ways to Rebound From It and Feel Good Again

                                          Had a Bad Day? 7 Ways to Rebound From It and Feel Good Again

                                          Today didn’t turn out as you planned, but it doesn’t mean you’re weak. It simply means that you’re human, and you’re not bad just because you had a bad day.

                                          “Not everyday is a good day but there is something good in every day.” -Alice Morse Earle

                                          It’s not the end of the world when you find yourself thinking “I had a bad day,” but it can feel like it. You may have had plans that fell apart, experiences that set you back, and interactions that only did harm.

                                          You may have started the day thinking you could take on it all, only to find you could hardly get out of bed. When you have a bad day, you can forget to look at the good.

                                          Sometimes, self-care helps us to remember why we are worth it. It helps us to recharge and reset our mindset. It helps us to know that there are still options and that the day isn’t over yet.

                                          Love yourself today, no matter how hard it’s been. That’s the way to find yourself amidst the hardships you have. That’s how you center yourself and regain focus and live a more meaningful life. Give yourself some credit and compassion.

                                          Here are 7 ways to rebound from a bad day using self-compassion as a tool. If you had a bad day, these are for you!

                                          1. Make a Gratitude List

                                          In a study on gratitude, psychologists Dr. Robert A Emmons and Dr. Michael E. McCullough conducted an experiment where one group of people wrote out gratitude lists for ten weeks while another group wrote about irritations. The study found that the group that wrote about gratitude reported more optimistic mindsets in their lives[1].

                                          Overall, having a gratitude list improved well-being and made one truly grateful by counting the blessings in their lives.

                                          Write a list of what you are grateful for if you had a bad day. Make it as long as you like, but also remember to note why you’re grateful for each thing you write.

                                          What has given you the most joy? What has set you up for better days? Keep a tally of triumphs in mind, especially when you do have the bad days.

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                                          The day doesn’t define you, and you still have things of value that surround you. These could be material things, spiritual connections and experiences, relationships, basic needs, emotional and mental well-being, physical health, progress towards hopes and dreams, or simply being alive.

                                          Here are some other simple ways to practice gratitude.

                                          2. Write in a Journal

                                          Journaling affects your overall mental health, which also affects physical health and aids in the management of stress, depression, anxiety, and more[2].

                                          All you need is a pen and paper, or you could do an online, password-protected journal such as Penzu. The key is to get started and not pressure yourself on how polished or perfect it is. You don’t need to have prior experience to start journal writing. Just start.

                                          Write out everything that is bothering you for 15 minutes. This helps with rumination, processing problems, and can even aid with brainstorming solutions.

                                          However you approach it, you can find patterns of thinking that no longer serve you and start to transform your overall mental state. This will impact all areas of your life and is a great coping skill.

                                          3. Meditate

                                          Meditation can help you overcome negative thought patterns, worrying about the future, dwelling on the past, or struggling to overcome a bad day[3]. It shifts your mentality and helps you focus on the present or any one thing you truly want to focus on.

                                          Here is an example of a meditation you can do:

                                          Get into a comfortable position. Close your eyes. Rest your body, release tension, and unclench your jaw. Tighten and release each muscle group in a body scan for progressive muscle relaxation.

                                          Focus on your breath, taking a few deep breaths. Let your belly expand when you breathe in for diaphragmatic breathing. Empty yourself completely of air, then return to normal breathing.

                                          Next, focus on the idea of self-love and let it erase negative thoughts. Think about the ways you’ve been judging yourself, with the narratives coming up that your mind may create.

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                                          Give yourself unconditional love and release judgment. Take your time meditating on this because you matter. This is particularly important if you had a bad day.

                                          Check out this article for more on how to get started with a meditation practice.

                                          4. Do Child’s Pose

                                          Yoga Outlet says:

                                          “Child’s Pose is a simple way to calm your mind, slow your breath, and restore a feeling of peace and safety. Practicing the pose before bedtime can help to release the worries of the day. Practicing in the morning can you help transition from sleeping to waking.”[4]

                                          When you do Child’s Pose, it can be between difficult positions in yoga, or it can be anytime you feel you need a rest. It helps you recover from difficulties and relax the mind.

                                          It also has the physical health benefits of elongating your back, opening your hips, and helping with digestion[5].

                                          To do Child’s Pose, rest your buttocks back on your feet, knees on the floor. Elongate your body over your knees with both arms extended or tucked back, with head and neck resting on the floor[6].

                                          Had a bad day? Try Child's Pose.

                                             

                                            Do this pose as a gift to yourself. You are allowing yourself to heal, rest, get time for yourself, recover, and recharge. When you’ve had a bad day, it’s there waiting for you.

                                            5. Try Positive Self-Talk

                                            Engage in positive self-talk. This is essentially choosing your thoughts.

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                                            When you have a negative thought, such as “I can’t do this,” replace it consciously with the thought “I can do this.” Give yourself positive affirmations to help with this.

                                            Negative self-talk fits into four general categories: personalizing or blaming yourself, magnifying or only focusing on the negative, catastrophizing or expecting the worst to happen, and polarizing or only seeing back and white[7].

                                            When you stop blaming yourself for everything and start focusing on the positive, expecting things to work out, and seeing the areas of grey in life, you reverse these negative mindsets and engage in positive self-talk.

                                            When you speak words of kindness to yourself, your brain responds with a more positive attitude. That attitude will affect everything you do. It’s how you take care of yourself if you had a bad day.

                                            Check in with yourself to know when you are having negative self-talk. Are you seeing patterns? When did they start to become a problem? Are you able to turn these thoughts around?

                                            6. Use Coping Skills and Take a Break

                                            Use your coping skills. This means not letting your thoughts take control of yourself.

                                            You can distract yourself and escape a bit. Do things you love. You can exercise, listen to music, dance, volunteer or help someone, be in nature, or read a book.

                                            It isn’t about repression. It’s about redirection. You can’t stay in thoughts that are no longer working for you.

                                            Sometimes, it’s okay to get out of your own way. Give yourself a break from the things going on in your head. You can always come back to a problem later. This may even help you figure out the best course of action as sometimes stepping away is the only way to see the solution.

                                            If you had a bad day, you may not feel like addressing what went wrong. You may need a break, so take one.

                                            7. If a Bad Day Turns Into Bad Days

                                            “I believe depression is legitimate. But I also believe that if you don’t exercise, eat nutritious food, get sunlight, get enough sleep, consume positive material, surround yourself with support, then you aren’t giving yourself a fighting chance.” –Jim Carrey

                                            If you’ve been feeling out of control, depressed, or unstable for more than a few weeks, it’s time to call a mental health professional. This is not because you have failed in any way. It’s because you are human, and you simply need help.

                                            You may not be able to quickly rebound from a bad day, and that’s fine. Feel what you feel, but don’t let it consume you.

                                            When you talk to a professional, share the techniques that you have already tried here and whether they were helpful. They may tell you additional ideas or gain insights from your struggles of not being able to rebound from a series of bad days.

                                            If you’re having more than just a bad day, they will want to know. If you don’t have the answers, that’s okay, too. You just need to try these tools and figure out how you’re feeling. That’s all that’s required of you.

                                            Keep taking care of yourself. Any progress is progress, no matter how small. Give yourself a chance to get better by reaching out.

                                            Final Thoughts

                                            If you had a bad day, don’t let it stop you.

                                            Know this: It’s okay not to be okay. You have a right to feel what you feel. But there is something you can do about it.

                                            You can invest in yourself via self-care.

                                            You are not alone in this. Everyone has bad days from time to time. You just need to know that you are the positive things you tell yourself.

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