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9 Tips To Give Your Best Speech Ever

9 Tips To Give Your Best Speech Ever

We’ve all been there, whether it’s a class project, large presentation, or just a quick wedding address, public speaking is high on the list of things we hate. In fact, people tend to fear public speaking more than death. You are in good company if your next public speech has your palms sweaty and knees trembling, but that’s no reason to let your fear get the best of you. Get your cue cards together and take a deep breath – these nine tips will help you polish your speaking skills until you’re in complete control.

Study Your Topic

The better you know the subject you’re talking about, the less likely you’ll be to stumble when the big day comes. If possible, pick a topic you know a lot about or are interested in, so you start off confident in your knowledge. If you can’t pick your topic, don’t despair. Research the topic you’re going to speak on, especially points you’re not too familiar with. Thoroughly knowing your material will help you speak with authority. It will also help boost your confidence before, and while you speak.

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Practice. Then practice again.

Now that you know your subject inside and out, practice your speech as often as possible. Practice in front of the mirror or with a few friends, whichever you’re comfortable with. Practice will help you gauge how long your speech is, and where changes may need to be made. Plus, practicing out loud a few times will help you feel familiar with your speech the day of the event. Growing comfortable with your speech is essential if you’d like to eliminate “um”s, “like”s and other distracting pauses.

Know Your Audience

When in the practice stage, it’s a good idea to consider who your audience is. Are you speaking to young kids with short attention spans, or an older crowd that appreciates direct, solemn communication? If you’ve taken time to craft your speech specifically to your audience, you’ll feel less out of place when you go to address the crowd.

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Make Friends

Try and mingle with the audience before the event starts. By shaking hands and chatting with the audience first, you’ll feel a bit more at home when you need to stand at the front. If, like most of us, you get nervous when speaking in public, a warm, familiar smile from audience members can make all the difference. Especially if you’re speaking to strangers, you’ll have some familiar faces to focus on while your talking. 

Get Comfortable

Another way to lessen pre-speech jitters is to arrive early. Familiarize yourself with the space, and make sure you test any AV or visual aid equipment. Not only will you be less likely to run into technical difficulties mid-speech, you’ll also get another chance to practice your material once or twice.

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Be Welcoming

Start your speech with a warm welcome to the audience, and possibly a quick joke or story. By starting out with a few colloquial items, you’ll have a minute to adjust to your position and calm your nerves a bit. Additionally, we all seem most relaxed when discussing something in a conversational matter,  allowing you an opportunity to take control of your speech. Plus, by grabbing the audiences attention first, you can help the audience warm up to you.

Visualize

Though it may seem silly, visualization is a technique used by successful people around the world – from business moguls to athletes. Visualize yourself giving the best, most rousing version of your speech to help you feel confident during your address. Not only does this help nerves, it’s another way to practice and reinforce your material in your head.

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Relax. Then Relax Again

Relaxation techniques are a must before going on, even if you’re a seasoned public speaker. No one likes watching someone who seems uncomfortable, even if what they’re saying is useful. Deep breathing techniques, a cup of tea, or a short walk can all go along way towards making you look like a natural.

Exude Confidence

Finally, even if your stomach is in knots and your knees are shaking, try to project confidence during your speech. Use appropriate eye contact, project your voice, and gesture normally to appear relaxed. Even if you feel out of place, approaching your topic with confidence will maximize the audiences desire to pay attention. If there’s a glitch with the equipment or you misspeak, laugh it off and keep going. The audience will be less likely to focus on imperfections if you ignore them too. 

Featured photo credit: Paul Hudson via flickr.com

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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