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8 simple ways to help someone today and make them feel special

8 simple ways to help someone today and make them feel special

Spending more time making others feel special by being more thoughtful and considerate should become part of a daily routine. The theme is about ‘giving’ which has a powerful effect not only on others but upon your own well-being also. Here are some simple actionable ideas you can implement today which will help make someone’s day and make them feel great! The themes to all the tips below are about being genuine and authentic in your approach while opening up your heart to others as you set out to help someone.

1. Spend time each day thinking about how and what you can ‘give’ to others

Focus on being thoughtful and meaningful rather than having to spend money. Sending flowers to someone via courier bought online in a couple of clicks is a nice thought, but far more personal if the flowers are chosen by you and hand delivered. What have you got to offer your friends and family? Just taking the time out to think will help create some ideas you can start to implement and be creative!

2. Call someone you care about to let them know that you are thinking of them

This may be someone who may be facing a few issues in their life at the moment, or even someone who is experiencing some great times and successes. Even leaving a short message is effective and does the job. Simply thinking about that person is a waste if the thought isn’t clearly communicated!

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3. Pay someone a compliment

Preferably face to face with solid eye contact, even if it’s a stranger that you’ve never met!  Who doesn’t like receiving compliments? Tell someone they look great but don’t overdo it. Make sure you are being authentic and genuine.

4. Give positive feedback to someone with others around to hear  

Saying to a friend, family member, colleague or employee something really positive about something they did is even better if others are around to hear. Reinforce a specific behaviour rather than saying “great job today”. Rather, say “I love the way that you managed to show your dedication through completing this take on time with such commitment”.

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5. Say “thank you”

Say thank you more often is a form of being grateful. Don’t rely on momentous occasions and greeting cards to say your thanks. An unexpected “thank you” is far more powerful and always appreciated. Being appreciative about something someone has done for you is always well received. The words “I just wanted to say thanks” means a lot and helps us stop taking things for granted. Tell your parents you really appreciate the support they have given you, or tell the cleaner you just wanted them to know you are grateful for the work they do.

6. Smile more

When you greet people, smile more. It’s inviting and instantly creates a positive feeling for others to warm to you and feel more friendly and upbeat. People who are down and frown typically don’t make others feel good around them. Positive people who smile have this innate ability to bring others along for the ride.

7. Send someone an article of interest

This shows thought and consideration. If you read something that could be useful for someone else, why not share it and send it to them also with a nice personalised message attached.

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8. Repeat

Most importantly, make the above actions a regular habit and part of your routine rather than on an ad-hoc basis. Watch the Karma start to flow and relationships flourish.

 

Watch what happens when you start to implement these actions more regularly. Others feel great and you will feel great. There is no downside and there doesn’t need to be monetary spend to achieve the same outcome. The only cost is the time taken to think about others and take action accordingly. It’s amazing how such simple things can be done that are far more impactful than simply buying a Porsche for someone! But hey, I’m sure you wouldn’t turn down the offer, right?

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.

When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.

Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.

1. Become Grateful for Everything

When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.

People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.

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When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.

We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.

2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself

Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.

Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?

Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.

If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.

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3. Help Others

Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.

Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.

Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.

4. Change Your Thinking

We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.

The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”

Changing our self-talk is powerful.

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5. Surround Yourself with Positive People

We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.

As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.

Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.

6. Get into Action

Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.

Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.

Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity

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7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim

You are responsible for your thoughts.

People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.

Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.

Make positive choices in favor of yourself.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu

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