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8 simple ways to help someone today and make them feel special

8 simple ways to help someone today and make them feel special

Spending more time making others feel special by being more thoughtful and considerate should become part of a daily routine. The theme is about ‘giving’ which has a powerful effect not only on others but upon your own well-being also. Here are some simple actionable ideas you can implement today which will help make someone’s day and make them feel great! The themes to all the tips below are about being genuine and authentic in your approach while opening up your heart to others as you set out to help someone.

1. Spend time each day thinking about how and what you can ‘give’ to others

Focus on being thoughtful and meaningful rather than having to spend money. Sending flowers to someone via courier bought online in a couple of clicks is a nice thought, but far more personal if the flowers are chosen by you and hand delivered. What have you got to offer your friends and family? Just taking the time out to think will help create some ideas you can start to implement and be creative!

2. Call someone you care about to let them know that you are thinking of them

This may be someone who may be facing a few issues in their life at the moment, or even someone who is experiencing some great times and successes. Even leaving a short message is effective and does the job. Simply thinking about that person is a waste if the thought isn’t clearly communicated!

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3. Pay someone a compliment

Preferably face to face with solid eye contact, even if it’s a stranger that you’ve never met!  Who doesn’t like receiving compliments? Tell someone they look great but don’t overdo it. Make sure you are being authentic and genuine.

4. Give positive feedback to someone with others around to hear  

Saying to a friend, family member, colleague or employee something really positive about something they did is even better if others are around to hear. Reinforce a specific behaviour rather than saying “great job today”. Rather, say “I love the way that you managed to show your dedication through completing this take on time with such commitment”.

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5. Say “thank you”

Say thank you more often is a form of being grateful. Don’t rely on momentous occasions and greeting cards to say your thanks. An unexpected “thank you” is far more powerful and always appreciated. Being appreciative about something someone has done for you is always well received. The words “I just wanted to say thanks” means a lot and helps us stop taking things for granted. Tell your parents you really appreciate the support they have given you, or tell the cleaner you just wanted them to know you are grateful for the work they do.

6. Smile more

When you greet people, smile more. It’s inviting and instantly creates a positive feeling for others to warm to you and feel more friendly and upbeat. People who are down and frown typically don’t make others feel good around them. Positive people who smile have this innate ability to bring others along for the ride.

7. Send someone an article of interest

This shows thought and consideration. If you read something that could be useful for someone else, why not share it and send it to them also with a nice personalised message attached.

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8. Repeat

Most importantly, make the above actions a regular habit and part of your routine rather than on an ad-hoc basis. Watch the Karma start to flow and relationships flourish.

 

Watch what happens when you start to implement these actions more regularly. Others feel great and you will feel great. There is no downside and there doesn’t need to be monetary spend to achieve the same outcome. The only cost is the time taken to think about others and take action accordingly. It’s amazing how such simple things can be done that are far more impactful than simply buying a Porsche for someone! But hey, I’m sure you wouldn’t turn down the offer, right?

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The Gentle Art of Saying No

The Gentle Art of Saying No

No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

  1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
  2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
  3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
  4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
  5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
  6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
  7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
  8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
  9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
  10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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