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8 Reasons You Should Stop Making Plans For Everything

8 Reasons You Should Stop Making Plans For Everything

Poet Robert Burns wrote, “The best laid schemes of mice and men often go awry.” While plans can make some things easier, it’s not good to rely too heavily on them. It can set us up for disappointment if something goes wrong along the way. While it’s definitely good to plan for some things, such as retirement and college, others are best left unplanned. It might surprise you how easily you can get by without a plan at all.

1. You’ll worry too much.

Plans are made for ultimately one reason: to see it through to the end successfully. If you’re worrying constantly about making sure your plan goes smoothly and just how you want it to, you might want to ease back on your planning. With some things, it’s easier to just let things go along. That way, you can relax and enjoy the experience.

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2. You won’t see alternatives.

Often, plans are too rigid. They don’t allow for changes. Somewhere along the way, you might run into something that would work out better for you than what you had originally planned. Plans that are too rigid might keep you from making a better decision, simply because the alternatives aren’t a part of your original plan.

3. You might be disappointed with the outcome.

Your plans might get your hopes up too high. If you find yourself stressing out about what you’ll do if your plans don’t go as you want them to, you might be too disappointed in the event that they go a bit awry. Setting out on something without a plan gives you the freedom to simply look forward to the outcome, and you’ll rarely find yourself getting disappointed this way.

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4. You could get too controlling.

It can be nice to take the reigns, but doing so too often can lead to major stress down the road. Let someone else take over for a while. You’ll feel much better, and you’re certainly less likely to feel the pressure of being in charge. Even the most controlling people need a break every so often.

5. It’s possible your plans will get derailed.

Things happen. That’s just the way the world works. If you have too many plans going on at once, it’s entirely possible that they won’t work out. Staying flexible allows you to modify your plans as needed, as well as ensures that your expectations aren’t too high.

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6. You might get trapped.

Making too many plans could bind you. If your plans are set and something happens that necessitates a change, you might not be able to. Keeping things open allows you the luxury of moving things around if you need to. You never know what might come up, for good or for bad, so it’s always nice to have some wiggle room.

7. You’re more likely to feel isolated.

Plans could isolate you from your friends and family. Often, it’s not easy to keep others in your life if you’re too focused on seeing your plans through. Make sure you open up your life to others and their plans, as well. People are more willing to be around someone who doesn’t feel the need to be controlling all of the time, and simply letting others take the lead will show them that you trust them.

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8. You might have less fun.

Let’s say you’re going on vacation and have everything planned, from sunup to sundown. If you’re worrying about making sure you stay on schedule, you’re not going to be able to have fun in the process. It’s good to have some things planned, such as transportation and hotels, but leave some things open. Go where the day takes you.

Featured photo credit: Teresa Robinson via flickr.com

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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