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8 Reasons You Have Nothing To Prove To Anyone

8 Reasons You Have Nothing To Prove To Anyone

Today’s world is difficult enough to navigate while finding true happiness. When you add in another person’s or group’s ideals about how you should live your life or what defines success and happiness, it sometimes seems nearly impossible. The urge to measure oneself by what someone else is doing, like one’s favorite rap star, writer or football player, can be overwhelming. The problem is this is a false ideal that actually leads more often to misery than to happiness. There’s always that artificial, built-in need to prove oneself to one’s boss, spouse, family, and so on.

The good news is that you can break out of this cycle and define happiness and success according to what’s right for you. You may catch some grief for it and it may not always be a comfortable journey, but you can use these eight reasons you have nothing to prove to anyone as a sorting screen to choose how you want to live your life.

1. You should judge your success by your own standards.

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    In modern society, we’ve come to a highly artificial view of what success looks like. Reality TV has only bolstered these ideals, celebrating public opinion more than who has the most technical skill or proficiency. Instead of judging your life by the mass media rubric, decide what really matters to you and go for it. Even if it doesn’t work out, you will be a success by the only standard that matters—your own.

    2. Your value is not judged by external validation.

    We’d all love to set a world record, make the New York Times bestseller list, be at the top of the Fortune 100, or become the next American (Australian, British, whatever) Idol. However, these kinds of validation are external and often flawed. The best kind of success is the kind you find on your own. If you count kindness, charity, wisdom, and justice higher than money and property in your personal value scheme and live up to those ideals as often and as best you can, then your internal value is the only one that makes a difference.

    3. You cannot expect to please everyone.

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      Abraham Lincoln once quipped, “You can please all of the people some of the time, and you can please some of the people all of the time, but you can’t please all the people all the time.” We have a cultural horror and fear of letting anyone down, ever. As a result, we take on too many tasks and make too many commitments with the end result that some of these are going to have to go by the wayside. It is acceptable to say no on occasion, especially when you’re making time for the people who really matter the most to you at the end of the day.

      4. You are doing fine as long as you’re giving your personal best.

      We are afraid to fail. We hate the idea of coming in “second best” to an arbitrary standard. B students long for As, while baseball players who bat a .350 for the season wish they’d made a .400. It is natural to want to do better, but if you can look at a completed task or objective and honestly say you gave it everything you had, you’re living up to your own highest ideals. Be proud of that!

      5. You know what’s best for you.

      The people who care about us often batter us with well-meaning but unsolicited or incorrectly gauged advice. “You should take that job at _______, because it pays $10,000 more a year and you’ll be happier.” “You should get a bigger house in __________, because your family’s growing and you’ll be happier.” What these people really mean is, “I want to be happier for you, so you should take my advice and you will be happier for you as well.” This kind of sentiment creates an awkward position. We don’t want to be unkind, but we also want to stand our ground. Being able to say “I’m fine where I’m at” is a gentle way of saying you have nothing to prove to anyone, while still acknowledging the other party’s intentions and hopes for you.

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      6. You know better than anyone else what you are capable of.

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        People tend to judge others by statistics and files, not by individual ability. This can be frustrating when you’re trying to do more than “the norm” and hearing how it’s impossible. You are the only one who can judge your capabilities and potential effectively. After all, you know more about you than anyone else possibly can. Part of having nothing to prove is the willingness to prove it, even when the only person you’re proving it to is yourself.

        7. You have the right to define happiness on your own terms.

        Happiness means something different to everyone. I define happiness in terms of reader reviews and financial security. A plumber may define happiness in terms of how many sinks and toilets she or he unclogged today. Everyone views happiness differently, and it’s up to you to determine what happiness looks like to you. Knowing what makes you happy will in turn make you happier and better able to make others happy.

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        8. Do the things that satisfy you.

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          If you can’t make everyone happy, you should at least be able to be happy yourself. Albert Einstein said, “The definition of insanity is repeating the same action expecting a different outcome.” You should be able to look back at the end of each day, week, month, or year and say, “I did my absolute best with everything I attempted, and I can be content with that.” Of course, you should always seek to improve, but be modestly proud of your achievements and successes. Satisfaction is really just happiness when a task you take pride in is done and done well.

          Of course, none of this means you should not take into account the happiness of your spouse or the people around you. You should never be so self-absorbed in the pursuit of your personal happiness that you cause misery to others. Part of being a happy person is being able to spread the wealth. If you cannot do this, you cannot be a truly happy person.

          So, how do you define happiness? I’d love to hear your thoughts!

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          50+ Best Motivational Quotes To Prepare You For Any Challenges In Life

          50+ Best Motivational Quotes To Prepare You For Any Challenges In Life

          Life is filled with highs and lows —happiness and struggles that will test your resilience and integrity, push you to overcome challenges and leave you with lessons that will make you even stronger on your way up.

          It’s the way you feel and think about yourself, including your expectations and beliefs about what is possible to you, greatly determines everything that happens to you.

          It all starts with your thoughts. When you change your thoughts, you transform the quality of your life. (Right, Nancy’s story is a typical example!)

          Below is a list of the best motivational quotes to inspire you to start your day with a blast:

          Quotes for self-assurance

          1. Don’t downgrade your dream just to fit your reality, upgrade your conviction to match your destiny.

            2. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think.

              3. You are confined only by the walls you build yourself.

                4. The man who has confidence in himself gains the confidence of others

                  5. You attract what you are, not what you want. If you want great, then be great.

                    6. It’s not who you are that holds you behind, it’s who you think your are not.

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                      7. Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and think of what could go right.

                        8. You should never regret anything in life. If it’s good, it’s wonderful. If it’s bad, it is experience.

                          9. Falling down is an accident, staying down is a choice.

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                            10. If you have the power to make someone happy, do it. The world needs more of that.

                              11. Always believe that something wonderful is about to happen.

                                12. Don’t be afraid to give up the good and go for great.

                                  13. Remember that life’s greatest lessons are usually learned from worst times and from the worst mistakes.

                                    Quotes for work and success

                                    14. Don’t talk, just act. Don’t say, just show. Don’t promise, just prove.

                                      15. Never stop doing great just because someone doesn’t give you credit.

                                        16. Discipline is doing what needs to be done, even if you don’t want to.

                                          17. Work while they sleep. Learn while they party. Save while they spend. Live like they dream.

                                            18. The key to success is to focus our conscious mind on things we desire, not things we fear.

                                              19. Never apologize for having high standards, people who really want to be in your life will rise to meet them.

                                                20. If it doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change you.

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                                                  21. Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it, time will pass anyway.

                                                    22. Don’t fear failure. Fear being in the exact same place next year as you are today.

                                                      23. A hill is just another opportunity to leave your competition behind.

                                                        24. Don’t quit. You’re already in pain. You’re already hurt. Get a reward from it.

                                                          25. Hustle until you no longer need to introduce yourself.

                                                            26. You didn’t come this far only to come this far.

                                                              27. Be selective in your battles for sometimes peace is better than being right.

                                                                28 If we keep doing what we are doing, we’re going to keep getting what we’re getting.

                                                                  29. You will never know your limits until you push yourself to them.

                                                                    30. Do what you have to do until you can do what you want to do.

                                                                      31. The man on top of the mountain didn’t fall there.

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                                                                        32. If your dreams don’t scare you, they are not big enough.

                                                                          33. If you can’t handle stress, you won’t manage success.

                                                                            34. Don’t be pushed by your problems, be led by your dreams.

                                                                              35. Don’t mistake silence for weakness. Smart people don’t plan big moves out loud.

                                                                                36. Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.

                                                                                  37. Obsessed is the word the lazy use to describe dedicated.

                                                                                    38. You become who you spend your time with.

                                                                                      39. Be stubborn about your goals and flexible about your methods.

                                                                                        40. Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard.

                                                                                          41. If you don’t build your dreams, someone else will hire you to build theirs.

                                                                                            42. Between stimulus and response is our greatest power –the freedom to choose.

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                                                                                              43. What comes easy won’t last, what lasts won’t come easy.

                                                                                                44. Don’t limit your challenges, challenge your limits.

                                                                                                  45. Work until your idols become your rivals.

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                                                                                                    46. Formal education will make you a living. Self-education will make you a fortune.

                                                                                                      47. I create new enemies every day, it’s called business.

                                                                                                        48. When you have a Million Dollar vision, don’t surround yourself with 1 cent minds.

                                                                                                          49. You can’t get rich thinking poor.

                                                                                                            50. Doing what is comfortable is rarely profitable.

                                                                                                              51. If you can count your money, work harder.

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