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7 Things To Remember If Your Loved Ones Suffer From OCD

7 Things To Remember If Your Loved Ones Suffer From OCD

Having an Obsessive – Compulsive Disorder is really hard and stressful. How can I say so? Because I have OCD myself. Life is hard, but uncontrollable, just like this disorder, as much as we want to control and to prevent it, but sadly I have to say, we can’t. Below are 7 things to remember if your loved ones suffer from OCD.

1. They don’t want immediate negative criticisms or comments.

This is really the most powerful tip I have. Whenever persons with OCD receive criticisms, they really feel down.

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Instead of helping us to make better our behavior, criticism makes it worse. This is because they usually feel unworthy if they did something imperfectly. Normally, people will accept criticism as a way to become better. But people with OCD need a positive environment rather than being surrounded with critics.

2. They do want to be corrected, but in the nicest way possible.

In relation to the first point, whenever a person with OCD hears someone telling them that they did wrong, they interpret it worse than it was meant. Well, of course, you can correct them, but not by shouting at them or pointing fingers. It’s better to tell them in a calm and soothing manner rather in a nagging or scolding way.

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3. They need your extreme patience.

Kindness and patience is one of OCD’s biggest demands. People with OCD need to feel that they don’t have to worry or be so anxious about something. Never ever make them feel like they annoy you. As much as they want to control it, unfortunately, they can’t.

4. They have uncontrollable and compelled rituals.

As much as possible, try to stop them in a calming, peaceful, soothing manner. Try to tell them in a nice way that there are other things that they might like to do instead of what they are repeatedly doing.

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5. They know that their urges are uncontrollable.

People with OCD really need the support of their loved ones. As much as possible, don’t try to stop them from what they need to do. Rather, invite them to a short and quiet talk as a family. A person with OCD needs to feel that you do accept them and you that know how much they are struggling because of their disorder.

6. They sometimes find their OCD humorous.

Having an OCD is never a funny issue. But there are people who can laugh at it and this makes them feel better. For me, having this disorder is often funny and I just usually ignore and enjoy it in some ways. But this depends on the person and if he or she finds it really humorous or not. Be sensitive about it.

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7. They need support, not judgment.

This is one of the most important things to remember. There are times that the OCD swallow up the normal way of thinking about things since a person with OCD does have the tendency to think too much and to feel guilty for things her or she didn’t do.

In general, having an OCD is a big struggle. But then again, OCD is a part of many person’s lifes and they can’t avoid it.

You may ask: Why do people have this disorder? There are a lot of theories. But no one can name the exact cause of OCD. What you have to remember is that no matter how much this disorder distracts and prevents people from thinking logical, each person with OCD has his or her own ways to manage it. They just need your support and positive communication.

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Last Updated on July 27, 2020

7 Ways to Make Life Changing Decisions

7 Ways to Make Life Changing Decisions

Most people don’t know the profound effects of making life decisions. Often times, we go through life oblivious to what thoughts we are thinking and what actions we are taking. Every single decision we make in our days shapes our current reality. It shapes who we are as a person because we habitually follow through with the decisions we make without even realizing it.

If you’re unhappy with the results in your life right now, making the effort to changing your decisions starting today will be the key to creating the person you want to be and the life you want to have in the future.

Let’s talk about the 7 ways you can go about making life changing decisions.

1. Realize the Power of Decision Making

Before you start making a decision, you have to understand what a decision does.

Any decision that you make causes a chain of events to happen. When you decide to pick up a cigarette to smoke it, that decision might result in you picking up another one later on to get that same high feeling. After a day, you may have gone through a pack without knowing it. But if you decide not to smoke that first cigarette and make a decision every five minutes to focus your attention somewhere else when you get that craving, after doing this for a week, your cravings will eventually subside and you will become smoke-free.

But it comes down to making that very first decision of deciding whether or not to pick up that cigarette.

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2. Go with Your Gut

Often times, we take too much time to make a decision because we’re afraid of what’s going to happen. As a result of this, we go through things like careful planning, deep analysis, and pros and cons before deciding. This is a very time consuming process.

Instead, learn to trust your gut instinct. For the most part, your first instinct is usually the one that is correct or the one that you truly wanted to go with.

Even if you end up making a mistake, going with your gut still makes you a more confident decision maker compared to someone who takes all day to decide.

3. Carry Your Decision Out

When you make a decision, act on it. Commit to making a real decision.

What’s a real decision? It’s when you decide on something, and that decision is carried out through action. It’s pointless to make a decision and have it played out in your head, but not doing anything about it. That’s the same as not making a decision at all.

If you want to make real changes in life, you have to make it a habit to apply action with your decision until it’s completed. By going through this so many times, you will feel more confident with accomplishing the next decision that you have in mind.

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4. Tell Others About Your Decisions

There’s something about telling other people what we’re going to do that makes us follow through.

For example, for the longest time, I’ve been trying to become an early riser. Whenever I tried to use my own willpower, waking up early without falling back asleep felt impossible. So what I did was I went to a forum and made the decision to tell people that I would wake up at 6 AM and stay up. Within two days, I was able to accomplish doing this because I felt a moral obligation to follow through with my words even though I failed the first time.

Did people care? Probably not, but just the fact that there might be someone else out there seeing if you’re telling the truth will give you enough motivation to following through with your decision.

5. Learn from Your Past Decisions

Even after I failed to follow through my decision the first time when I told people I was going to wake up early and stay up, I didn’t give up. I basically asked myself, “What can I do this time to make it work tomorrow?”

The truth is, you are going to mess up at times when it comes to making decisions. Instead of beating yourself up over it, learn something from it.

Ask yourself, what was good about the decision I made? What was bad about it? What can I learn from it so I can make a better decision next time?

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Remember, don’t put so much emphasis focusing on short term effects; instead focus on the long term effects.

6. Maintain a Flexible Approach

I know this might sound counter-intuitive, but making a decision doesn’t mean that you can’t be open to other options.

For example, let’s say you made the decision to lose ten pounds by next month through cardio. If something comes up, you don’t have to just do cardio. You can be open to losing weight through different methods of dieting as long as it helps you reach your goal in the end.

Don’t be stubborn to seek out only one way of making a decision. Embrace any new knowledge that brings you closer to accomplishing your initial decision.

7. Have Fun Making Decisions

Finally, enjoy the process. I know decision-making might not be the most fun thing world to do, but when you do it often, it becomes a game of opportunity.

You’ll learn a lot about yourself on the way, you’ll feel and become a lot more confident when you’re with yourself and around others, and making decisions will just become a lot easier after you do it so often that you won’t even think about it.

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Anything you decide to do from this point on can have a profound effect later on. Opportunities are always waiting for you. Examine the decisions that you currently have in the day.

Are there any that can be changed to improve your life in some way? Are there any decisions that you can make today that can create a better tomorrow?

Final Thoughts

Some decisions in life are harder to make, but with these 7 pieces of advice, you can trust yourself more even when you’re making some of the most important decisions.

Making a decision is the only way to move forward. So remember, any decision is better than none at all.

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