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7 Things To Remember If Your Loved Ones Suffer From OCD

7 Things To Remember If Your Loved Ones Suffer From OCD

Having an Obsessive – Compulsive Disorder is really hard and stressful. How can I say so? Because I have OCD myself. Life is hard, but uncontrollable, just like this disorder, as much as we want to control and to prevent it, but sadly I have to say, we can’t. Below are 7 things to remember if your loved ones suffer from OCD.

1. They don’t want immediate negative criticisms or comments.

This is really the most powerful tip I have. Whenever persons with OCD receive criticisms, they really feel down.

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Instead of helping us to make better our behavior, criticism makes it worse. This is because they usually feel unworthy if they did something imperfectly. Normally, people will accept criticism as a way to become better. But people with OCD need a positive environment rather than being surrounded with critics.

2. They do want to be corrected, but in the nicest way possible.

In relation to the first point, whenever a person with OCD hears someone telling them that they did wrong, they interpret it worse than it was meant. Well, of course, you can correct them, but not by shouting at them or pointing fingers. It’s better to tell them in a calm and soothing manner rather in a nagging or scolding way.

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3. They need your extreme patience.

Kindness and patience is one of OCD’s biggest demands. People with OCD need to feel that they don’t have to worry or be so anxious about something. Never ever make them feel like they annoy you. As much as they want to control it, unfortunately, they can’t.

4. They have uncontrollable and compelled rituals.

As much as possible, try to stop them in a calming, peaceful, soothing manner. Try to tell them in a nice way that there are other things that they might like to do instead of what they are repeatedly doing.

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5. They know that their urges are uncontrollable.

People with OCD really need the support of their loved ones. As much as possible, don’t try to stop them from what they need to do. Rather, invite them to a short and quiet talk as a family. A person with OCD needs to feel that you do accept them and you that know how much they are struggling because of their disorder.

6. They sometimes find their OCD humorous.

Having an OCD is never a funny issue. But there are people who can laugh at it and this makes them feel better. For me, having this disorder is often funny and I just usually ignore and enjoy it in some ways. But this depends on the person and if he or she finds it really humorous or not. Be sensitive about it.

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7. They need support, not judgment.

This is one of the most important things to remember. There are times that the OCD swallow up the normal way of thinking about things since a person with OCD does have the tendency to think too much and to feel guilty for things her or she didn’t do.

In general, having an OCD is a big struggle. But then again, OCD is a part of many person’s lifes and they can’t avoid it.

You may ask: Why do people have this disorder? There are a lot of theories. But no one can name the exact cause of OCD. What you have to remember is that no matter how much this disorder distracts and prevents people from thinking logical, each person with OCD has his or her own ways to manage it. They just need your support and positive communication.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

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By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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