“Pearls don’t lie on the seashore. If you want one, you must dive for it.”
Life is beautiful once you go out on quests that coincide with your beliefs. This article will provide you with insights and motivate you to pursue the love of your life, rather than merely residing inside your comfort cave with regrets.
1. The future is not obvious.
The future is neither secured nor obvious if you reside in the comfort cave. Change is constantly happening in life; if you resist it by staying inside, you will simply perish. Charles Darwin wrote about “survival of the fittest,” not survival of strongest. Those who adapt to change ultimately survive and achieve their aspirations, so why waste time by residing inside the cave when the future is not promised? Just start your quest in search for eternity or meaning. Nothing is lost except your dreadful fear.Advertising
2. Inaction leads to eventually hating yourself.
Residing inside the comfort cave feels secure at the beginning. But in due course, you will come to hate yourself for your inaction and you may die at the end of a boring life. It’s better to die from living life without regret and shame; the worst predicament you could find yourself in is hating yourself despite knowing this fact and doing nothing about it. Just get up and start the adventurous voyage of life, which you will never be ashamed of, unlike residing in a cave.
3. The journey is worth pursuing.
The journey outside the cave can leave you with many trials and tribulations. It’s definitely not going to be easy, but I can surely say that it’s worth pursuing. All those hurdles in the way make you tough and capable of fighting the uncertainties of life. The pursuit towards happiness is always preceded by harsh truths, so be prepared and cherish the journey. At the end of the day, its not always about destination; the journey matters too.Advertising
4. You may find the treasure.
Joseph Campbell famously says, “The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.” Treasure could be anything that you truly believe in; it might be your passion toward music, interest in politics, love of art, faith in people, etc. History is full of amazing heroes who challenged the comfort cave and found their treasures. So do not worry—have faith in your heart and plunge into the journey, for we live by faith not by sight.
5. You will grow as a person.
The universe is within you; you cannot discover it unless you grow as a person. The journey outside of the comfort cave gives you a chance to grow spiritually and change accordingly. You cannot expect the world to change and anticipate that the world will change you. Life is full of paradoxes; you can only understand them if you grow within, or else you end up succumbing to the paradoxes in search for answers.Advertising
6. You will discover the purpose of life.
The ultimate purpose of life is not defined by destiny; it has to be discovered by you. It is only possible to discover this purpose by coming out of the comfort cave, for discovery will happen only on the journey. Residing in the comfort cave and contemplating the purpose of life will ensure that the maze always remains unsolved to you. The purpose of life will never be discovered unless you go on a quest for it.
7. You will achieve “Nirvana.”
Buddha describes “Nirvana” as the supreme form of human achievement; it is nothing but a transcendent state of overcoming fear and desire. The journey tests you to the core to overcome the fear of uncertainty and to lose your petty desires in transcendence, along the way of achieving “Nirvana.” The true and transcendent state of mind will be the eternal source of happiness that you have been searching for your entire life.
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Last Updated on July 16, 2019
7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive
Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.
When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.
Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.
Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.
1. Become Grateful for Everything
When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.
People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.
When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.
We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.
2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself
Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.
Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?
Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.
If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.
3. Help Others
Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.
Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.
Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.
4. Change Your Thinking
We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.
The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”
Changing our self-talk is powerful.
5. Surround Yourself with Positive People
We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.
As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.
Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.
6. Get into Action
Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.
Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.
Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity
7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim
You are responsible for your thoughts.
People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.
Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.
Make positive choices in favor of yourself.
“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu
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