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7 Easy Ways To Boost Your Confidence

7 Easy Ways To Boost Your Confidence

1. Stop constantly comparing yourself to others

It is easy in the age of digital media, to be constantly bombarded with snapshots of other people’s ideal lives. Scrolling through your Facebook newsfeed it is hard not to feel discouraged when you see photos of friends on tropical vacations, eating Thai from your favorite restaurant or effortless looking stylish with some of the latest fashion trends. Remind yourself that what may appear on the surface is not the entire picture and comparing yourself to them is not only inaccurate, but a waste of time.

2. Begin with changing what you can control

It is important to really look at your insecurities and estimate if you can realistically change what you dislike about yourself. If it is something physical, like losing weight, create a plan that is reasonable for your abilities and then take baby steps towards your goals. If your lack of confidence is psychological, it is important to look into why you feel this way, possibly with the help of a close friend or professional help in the form of a therapist. If you feel like you have trouble speaking up for instance, pinpoint a moment in your day when you feel like you should stand up for yourself and then encourage yourself to do so. It will be hard in the beginning, but after awhile it will be easier.

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3. Fake it until you make it

It can be very hard to confront your own moments of insecurity and try to act confident when you really feel like you would rather magically disappear from the situation. It is important in moments like these to pretend to have confidence, even when you feel like it is the last thing that defines you. A helpful tip is to go into a private space and put your hands on your hips, with your feet spread apart. This is called the superwoman/man stance and has been proven to help individuals gain more confidence through body language.

4. Remind yourself that the loudest voice in the room is not always the person that has the most confidence

In Western culture we are taught that the volume of your voice is equivalent to a person’s level of confidence. This is not always true because it can just be a way for someone to be mask their own feelings of insecurity. It is important to remember that if you speak with an even tone and do not ask for validation in the form of a question when you speak, then you can still be seen as a confident person. If you are quiet because you lack confidence, practice speaking in front of a mirror every day by yourself and find a tone of voice that you feel comfortable with. Say positive affirmations to yourself and pretty soon you will start believing them.

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5. Push any doubts about yourself to the back of your mind

Everyone, no matter how confident they may seem, has something that they do not like about themselves. The difference between people who appear confident is that they focus on their strengths and not their weaknesses. When you hear the little voice of doubt in your head, practice replacing those doubts with things that you excel in. It may be hard at first, but remember practice makes progress.

6. Stay diligent and consistent in building a more confident version of yourself

It’s important to remember that change takes time and consistent effort. If you don’t feel like you are making progress in a larger scale, focus on smaller accomplishments. One way to notice change is by keeping a record of each day and writing down what you feel you accomplished. Looking back on each day, week and month you will start to notice improvement.

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7. Find a solid support group

When focusing on confidence-building it’s important to have a group of friends, romantic partners and family that are 100 percent behind your goals. If you have anyone who is toxic to your self-improvement and will not support you, then it is important to talk with them about this. Sit down with them face to face and explain how you feel or write them a heartfelt email. If they are still not supportive, than maybe it’s in your best interest to discontinue the relationship.

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Last Updated on August 16, 2018

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.

In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:

1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone

What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?

Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.

2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome

Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.

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How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.

Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?

Or, are you afraid of being ignored?

3. Get comfortable with discomfort

One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.

Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.

4. See failure as a teacher

Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.

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Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?

Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:

10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On

5. Take baby steps

Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.

Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.

Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:

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The Number One Secret to Life Success: Baby Steps

6. Hang out with risk takers

There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).

Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.

7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses

Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”

Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.

8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you

What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.

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9. Don’t take yourself too seriously

Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.

If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.

10. Focus on the fun

Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.

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