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6 Essential Tips To Discover Your Inner Soul And Live Better!

6 Essential Tips To Discover Your Inner Soul And Live Better!

Have you ever realized your sense of being? It is that feeling when you ask yourself “who am I?” Discovering yourself is the first step toward living a better, successful life.

When you are unfamiliar with certain shades of your personality, you suffer from an “awareness crisis.” It is like living a life that lacks purpose. Life becomes a complex labyrinth of internal conflicts and contradictions when you are not aware of your true being. Truly successful people have a sense of their inner soul and, therefore, they make the right choices in life.

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Travelling is just another way you can explore your inner side. Sometimes, people pursue travelling as a source to get away from their outer voices and focus on their inner being. However, travelling is not the only option for self-exploration. You can find your true being without going through the inconvenience of travelling abroad. Besides, it is a costly affair that requires a huge amount of money. But, why spend your hard-earned bucks on a foreign trip when you can explore yourself at the comfort of your own place? All you need is to follow these handy guidelines.

1. Do some introspection.

Introspection is perhaps the best way you can search your soul. It opens windows to your thoughts and the perspectives through which you see the various aspects of life. It is a kind of self-reflection which gives you access into your internal world. How do you perceive life? How do you see the world? Who you are? And why you are the way you are? Answering these types of questions will provide you with an understanding of your nature and the way you see the world.

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2. Perform a self-analysis.

Get deeper into your inner soul and drill down the things that matter in your life. In simpler words, you need to perform a reality check of your life. It is a kind of mind mapping where you will be listing the things that inspire you, frustrate you, and make you happy or angry. Mind mapping is like designing a logo where you will be composing different elements to form a complete visual identity. But in this case, it is you who will be the subject. An honest analysis of yourself will reflect your temperament and allow you to understand the things that affect your mood.

3. Take a look at your past.

We become what we experience in life. To make an attempt at self-discovery, you should see your past in the hindsight. Start from your childhood as it is the stage of life when we begin to form our opinions of the world and people. Analyze the events of your childhood through the eyes of an adult. Make a list of events that changed your life and shaped your ideas and beliefs in a certain way.

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4. Get focused in life.

Discovering yourself is work itself. So, you have to have genuine dedication to successfully achieve it. Sometimes, the pressure and hassles of life tend to overwhelm our feelings and make us lose track of our lives. You cannot think clearly because you are suffering from financial troubles. You cannot focus on your work because you are having domestic issues. Similarly, you cannot explore yourself well enough if your mind is preoccupied with intrusive thoughts. Take a break from your work, disengage yourself from external affairs and then use this time to do self-reflections.

5. Explore things that excite you.

Make a list of all the things that give you pleasure and motivate you in life. What are they? How do they relate to you? How do they make you happy? Answering these questions will give you an idea of the type of person you are and the things that influence you on emotional level.

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6. Take help from a confidant.

Our best friends are perhaps the greatest resource in our self-exploration. As they know us on a personal level, they identify us as a person better than anyone else. Meet with your best friends and ask for their opinions about you. Analyze their comments and try to find common elements that define you as a person. Ask questions about all the good, bad and unique things in your personality.

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The Gentle Art of Saying No

The Gentle Art of Saying No

No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

  1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
  2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
  3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
  4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
  5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
  6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
  7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
  8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
  9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
  10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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