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6 Essential Tips To Discover Your Inner Soul And Live Better!

6 Essential Tips To Discover Your Inner Soul And Live Better!

Have you ever realized your sense of being? It is that feeling when you ask yourself “who am I?” Discovering yourself is the first step toward living a better, successful life.

When you are unfamiliar with certain shades of your personality, you suffer from an “awareness crisis.” It is like living a life that lacks purpose. Life becomes a complex labyrinth of internal conflicts and contradictions when you are not aware of your true being. Truly successful people have a sense of their inner soul and, therefore, they make the right choices in life.

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Travelling is just another way you can explore your inner side. Sometimes, people pursue travelling as a source to get away from their outer voices and focus on their inner being. However, travelling is not the only option for self-exploration. You can find your true being without going through the inconvenience of travelling abroad. Besides, it is a costly affair that requires a huge amount of money. But, why spend your hard-earned bucks on a foreign trip when you can explore yourself at the comfort of your own place? All you need is to follow these handy guidelines.

1. Do some introspection.

Introspection is perhaps the best way you can search your soul. It opens windows to your thoughts and the perspectives through which you see the various aspects of life. It is a kind of self-reflection which gives you access into your internal world. How do you perceive life? How do you see the world? Who you are? And why you are the way you are? Answering these types of questions will provide you with an understanding of your nature and the way you see the world.

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2. Perform a self-analysis.

Get deeper into your inner soul and drill down the things that matter in your life. In simpler words, you need to perform a reality check of your life. It is a kind of mind mapping where you will be listing the things that inspire you, frustrate you, and make you happy or angry. Mind mapping is like designing a logo where you will be composing different elements to form a complete visual identity. But in this case, it is you who will be the subject. An honest analysis of yourself will reflect your temperament and allow you to understand the things that affect your mood.

3. Take a look at your past.

We become what we experience in life. To make an attempt at self-discovery, you should see your past in the hindsight. Start from your childhood as it is the stage of life when we begin to form our opinions of the world and people. Analyze the events of your childhood through the eyes of an adult. Make a list of events that changed your life and shaped your ideas and beliefs in a certain way.

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4. Get focused in life.

Discovering yourself is work itself. So, you have to have genuine dedication to successfully achieve it. Sometimes, the pressure and hassles of life tend to overwhelm our feelings and make us lose track of our lives. You cannot think clearly because you are suffering from financial troubles. You cannot focus on your work because you are having domestic issues. Similarly, you cannot explore yourself well enough if your mind is preoccupied with intrusive thoughts. Take a break from your work, disengage yourself from external affairs and then use this time to do self-reflections.

5. Explore things that excite you.

Make a list of all the things that give you pleasure and motivate you in life. What are they? How do they relate to you? How do they make you happy? Answering these questions will give you an idea of the type of person you are and the things that influence you on emotional level.

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6. Take help from a confidant.

Our best friends are perhaps the greatest resource in our self-exploration. As they know us on a personal level, they identify us as a person better than anyone else. Meet with your best friends and ask for their opinions about you. Analyze their comments and try to find common elements that define you as a person. Ask questions about all the good, bad and unique things in your personality.

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How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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