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6 Differences Between Ones Who Like You And The One Who’ll Keep You

6 Differences Between Ones Who Like You And The One Who’ll Keep You

If you’re like most of us, no matter what relationship you are in, you’re likely to think at one time or another that you’re with the one. As much as we’d like to follow our hearts however, finding the one is more than just a matter of strong attraction. It’s important to make sure your heart and your head agree if you are spending the rest of your life with someone, so it’s vital to sort out the qualities that make someone worth spending your life with. Overall, the biggest indicator is when someone is truly selfless, invested, and interested in who you are and what you want. The following points will help you make that distinction, and are qualities anyone should value when looking for the one.

Attention Vs Care

One big difference between someone you like and someone you should stay with is paying attention to you, versus caring about you. Any healthy romantic relationship means that the other person should pay attention to your desires, likes, and day-to-day schedule. However, when somebody really cares, there’s a difference. Someone who listens to your favorite songs just to get to know you better, for example, is somebody who cares about you and isn’t just paying attention for the short term benefits.

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All Talk Vs All Action

It’s easy to have feelings for people who are smooth talkers. It seems that they know just how to appeal to your insecurities and hopes. However, when you’re with the one who is really interested in you, you’ll find that actions speak louder than words. Especially when you have disagreements and ask your other half to change the way they treat you; words promising to make changes are nowhere near as important as active steps. When you find someone who is willing to put in the effort and make real decisions for your best interest, keep them.

Hearing Vs Listening

Another difference between a significant other and a significant other who could be the one, is how they listen to you. If your significant other appears to listen to you, but rarely understands what you’re saying or makes changes, they may just be hearing you instead of listening to you.

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Interest Vs Investment

Another way to recognize the one is how interested they are in you. Anyone you date is likely to show some amount of interest in your passions and career, however the one will be truly invested in everything from your relationships, to how your day goes. You should always seek out people who are truly invested in you, and want to see you be your happiest. If you’re going to be with someone long term, it is crucial that they are not only interested in you, but invested in you.

Concerned Vs Involved

Another way to measure whether you are with the one, is to consider how involved they are in your life. Someone who sees themselves with you for a long period of time will not just concern themselves with your life and family, but will look for new ways to be truly involved. When your significant other moves from learning the names of your relatives to cracking jokes with and looking forward to seeing them, you know you have someone special.

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Thinking For You Vs Thinking Of You

Another way to sort out whether your relationship is the right one, is to consider whether they think of you or for you. An involved, concerned significant other will offer you advice, give you feedback, and be honest about their opinions. However, a love interest who offers cutting criticisms, and makes you feel less confident is a sign that they are thinking for you and not about what’s best for you. Always try to find those who are honest about what they think, without manipulating you or shaming you into doing what they want. When you’re with the one, it should always be obvious that they want what’s best for you, not what’s best for them.

Featured photo credit: Dennis Skley via flickr.com

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30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

In today’s world, true peace must come from within us and our own actions. Here are 30 small things you can do on a regular basis to increase your overall sense of harmony, peace, and well-being:

1. Don’t go to every fight you’re invited to

Particularly when you’re around those who thrive on chaos, be willing to decline the invitation to join in on the drama.

2. Focus on your breath

Throughout the day, stop to take a few deep breaths. Keep stress at bay with techniques such as “square breathing.” Breathe in for four counts, hold for four counts, then out for four counts, and hold again for four counts. Repeat this cycle four times.

3. Get organized and purge old items

A cluttered space often creates a cluttered spirit. Take the time to get rid of anything you haven’t used in a year and invest in organizational systems that help you sustain a level of neatness.

4. Stop yourself from being judgmental

Whenever you are tempted to have an opinion about someone else’s life, check your intentions. Judging others creates and promotes negative energy.

5. Say ‘thank you’ early and often

Start and end each day with an attitude of gratitude. Look for opportunities in your daily routine and interactions to express appreciation.

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6. Smile more

Even if you have to “fake it until you make it,” there are many scientific benefits of smiling and laughing. Also, pay attention to your facial expression when you are doing neutral activities such as driving and walking. Turn that frown upside down!

7. Don’t worry about the future

As difficult as this sounds, there is a direct connection between staying in the present and living a more peaceful life. You cannot control the future. As the old proverb goes, “Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it won’t get you anywhere.” Practice gently bringing your thoughts back to the present.

8. Eat real food

The closer the food is to the state from which it came from the earth, the better you will feel in eating it. Choose foods that grew from a plant over food that was made in a plant.

9. Choose being happy over being right

Too often, we sacrifice inner peace in order to make a point. It’s rarely worth it.

10. Keep technology out of the bedroom

Many studies, such as one conducted by Brigham and Women’s Hospital, have connected blue light of electronic devices before bed to adverse sleep and overall health. To make matters worse, many people report that they cannot resist checking email and social media when their cell phone is in reach of their bed, regardless of the time.

11. Make use of filtering features on social media

You may not want to “unfriend” someone completely, however you can choose whether you want to follow their posts and/or the sources of information that they share.

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12. Get comfortable with silence

When you picture someone who is the ultimate state of peace, typically they aren’t talking.

13. Listen to understand, not to respond

So often in conversations, we use our ears to give us cues about when it is our turn to say what we want to say. Practice active listening, ask questions, process, then speak.

14. Put your troubles in a bubble

Whenever you start to feel anxious, visualize the situation being wrapped in a bubble and then picture that sphere floating away.

15. Speak more slowly

Often a lack of peace manifests itself in fast or clipped speech. Take a breath, slow down, and let your thoughtful consideration drive your words.

16. Don’t procrastinate

Nothing adds stress to our lives like waiting until the last minute.

17. Buy a coloring book

Mandala coloring books for adults are becoming more popular because of their connection to creating inner peace.

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18. Prioritize yourself

You are the only person who you are guaranteed to live with 24 hours a day for the rest of your life.

19. Forgive others

Holding a grudge is hurting you exponentially more than anyone else. Let it go.

20. Check your expectations

Presumption often leads to drama. Remember the old saying, “Expectations are premeditated resentments.”

21. Engage in active play

Let your inner child come out and have some fun. Jump, dance, play, and pretend!

22. Stop criticizing yourself

The world is a hard enough place with more than enough critics. Your life is not served well by being one of them.

23. Focus your energy and attention on what you want

Thoughts, words, and actions all create energy. Energy attracts like energy. Put out what you want to get back.

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24. Assign yourself “complaint free” days.

Make a conscious decision not to complain about anything for a whole day. It might be harder than you think and the awareness will stick with you.

25. Surround yourself with people you truly enjoy being in the company of

Personalities tend to be contagious, and not everyone’s is worth catching. Be judicious in your choices.

26. Manage your money

Financial concerns rank top on the list of what causes people stress. Take the time each month to do a budget, calculate what you actually spend and sanity check that against the money you have coming in.

27. Stop trying to control everything

Not only is your inner control freak sabotaging your sense of peace, it is also likely getting in the way of external relationships as well.

28. Practice affirmations

Repeat positive phrases that depict the life and qualities you want to attract. It may not come naturally to you, but it works.

29. Get up before sunrise

Personally witnessing the dawn brings a unique sense of awe and appreciation for life.

30. Be yourself

Nothing creates more inner discord than trying to be something other than who we really are. Authenticity breeds happiness.

Featured photo credit: man watching sunrise via stokpic.com

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