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5 Ways To Overcome Disappointments

5 Ways To Overcome Disappointments

It seems very natural. We get hit by the wrong assumption and the disappointments lurk under the blanket. It’s a phase in which we are sad and displeased caused by false expectations.

It’s just the way of life. We get hit by it and we are in a bad mood until the unpleasant feeling subsides after a while. William Shakespeare said, “Expectation is the root of all heartache.

Whoever shares knowledge about disappointments can state it as “a feeling of false expectations.” That would be the shortest explanation.

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However, as every bad mood has a remedy, disappointment does too. I would like to jump to the five ways to overcome disappointments so I can help you pass the sad feeling.

1. Identify what made you disappointed

I know I am stating the obvious, but finding the rebel that made you feel sad and displeasured is the first step to the remedy. The rebel is false expectation, but if you already find yourself caught in the trap, you should see the reason for it. Your girlfriend or boyfriend cheating on you can be a vast disappointment. It can be cured only if you consider what sphere in your faithfulness needs to be lowered. Of course there is a way and that’s the end of your relationship, but consider the feeling gone once you “see” what made you feel that way.

2. Find pleasure in the disappointment

Finding pleasure in disappointment is about strengthening your character. Pleasure is about satisfaction, and your satisfaction should be that you passed one massive “character” test that made you stronger. Nobody can share knowledge of “what if” if they haven’t survived that feeling. Be grateful that you planted an iron helm onto your brain and you upgraded your level of greatness.

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Always remember, it is all about balance. Nobody can be happy and full of joy all the time. There has to be moments of sadness and displeasure to test your capability of overcoming the bad feelings.

3. Look on the bright side

If you have seen the movie Monty Python you know what I am talking about. It’s about seeing the possibility and bright side in every disappointment, even if you are hung on a cross.

It connects with number two. By finding pleasure in the disappointment we let the shine pass through. Every disappointment helps us become self-determined. By conquering the bad feelings, we have experience in steering the wheel during bad times.

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4. Boost your mood with motivation

It always works, believe me. If you go with the flow and watch sad movies like The Notebook and P.S I Love You or watch Tyson lose from Holyfield after you lost a boxing match, it will make you feel worse. I know it feels right to watch these sorts of movies but you need to force yourself against your will.

Watch a couple of happy ending love stories such as Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind or highlights from Mike Tyson’s knockouts. Not only will it transform your bad mood into positive, but it will motivate you to feel stupid that you felt so sad before. Motivational clips and adrenaline boosting songs always work for me. We are all different so you have to experiment on this one.

5. Lower your expectations

I left this one last because it’s most important. It’s like the cherry on the top of a pie. Expectations can lead to disappointments and that’s the only thing that made you feel sad. We induct so many feelings and false expectations in one particular thing that not only will it make you sad, but it can make you sick. Since all the bad thoughts result in dysfunction of the body, that can result in the break down of the immune system and viruses see the body as a playground.

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It is vital to expect less, because doing so can rarely lead you to sadness. Always remember that bad mood can be cured only by you. The five steps to remedy disappointments once more:

  • Identify what made you disappointed and realize why.
  • Find pleasure in the disappointment by strengthening your character and remember, it’s all about balance.
  • Always look on the bright side as Monty Python did.
  • Boost your mood with motivation (you have to experiment your remedies on this one).
  • Lower your expectations if you want to stay happy for a longer period of time.

Featured photo credit: Kristina Alexanderson via flickr.com

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Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

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7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

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Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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