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5 Must Read Self Help Books You Never Heard Of

5 Must Read Self Help Books You Never Heard Of

What is a must read self help book?  It is a book that has beneficial information that will help you in one way or another improve your well being.  Most of these books were released years ago, or even decades ago, but the information in them is relevant today.  Here is the list of must read self help books.

1. Psycho-Cybernetics, A New Way to Get More Living Out of Life by Maxwell Maltz

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    You will be blown away by this self help book.  Maxwell Maltz was a plastic surgeon who realized that most of his patients didn’t need plastic surgery.  All they needed was to spend twenty minutes a day thinking about how they would go through life after the plastic surgery.  The patient would come back after the three weeks and cancel the plastic surgery because they realized that it was not the plastic surgery that they needed but rather to gain self confidence.  This is one of many examples in this powerful book.  Some would say that this is the self help books of all self help books.  I think you will agree after you read it.

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    2. The Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy

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      You will enjoy this inspiring and enjoyable book.  Some readers may not like the numerous religious references, but if you can get past it you will read some amazing true stories about how positive thinking can change your life.  Joseph Murphy provides examples to back up what he writes about.  Do you ever wonder why some people are happy and some are miserable?  Is it as simple as desire?  Read this self help book and rediscover yourself.

      3. The Genie Within: Your Subconcious Mind–How It Works and How to Use It by Harry W Carpenter

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        How do you communicate with your subconscious mind?  Why would you want to communicate with your subconscious mind?  This self hep book will answer these two questions in a very believable and simple to understand way.  The techniques he writes about are crystal clear and easy to learn.  You will see results from his techniques immediately.

         

        4. The Secret of Quantum Living by Frank J Kinslow

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          This self help book is about the awesome feeling your body gets when you clear your mind and think about nothing.  Some call this being in the present.  You could compare this self help book to the more popular book “The Power Of The Now“, but this book is easier to read, the author provides a more clear understanding how to do it, and you will catch yourself smiling because his writing is captivating.  It can be difficult learning new techniques that will help you, but this one is very simple because the author makes is simple to learn and fun to read.

          5. It Works: The Famous Little Red Book That Makes Your Dreams Come True! by RHJ

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            When they say little in the title, they actually mean it here.  This book is very precise and provides examples on a technique that will make your dreams come true.  You will be sceptical but like anything if you don’t try it you will not see the proof.  It is very simple and can be put into action immediately.

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            That’s it!  These five book are packed with life changing information.  Search these books on the Internet and you will notice that most will say these self hep books are indeed the best written and most useful.  They all have different techniques, they are all different, but they all work.  There are thousands of self help books, but very few that actually impact the readers life.  These five will impact your life.

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            How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

            How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

            For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

            If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

            Example 1

            You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

            You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

            In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

            Example 2

            You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

            People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

            You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

            Example 3

            You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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            The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

            Example 4

            You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

            Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

            If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

            Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

            • Understand your own communication style
            • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
            • Communicate with precision and care
            • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

            1. Understand Your Communication Style

            To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

            In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

            Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

            2. Learn Others Communication Styles

            Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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            If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

            “How do you prefer to receive information?”

            This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

            To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

            3. Exercise Precision and Care

            A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

            On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

            Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

            I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

            I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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            In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

            The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

            Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

            4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

            Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

            In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

            “Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

            Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

            Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

            It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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            It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

            It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

            Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

            Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

            The Bottom Line

            When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

            I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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