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5 Bad Mindsets You Should Change

5 Bad Mindsets You Should Change

The best of the best, I want that to be me!

For some reason, the standard of work quality and results have dropped drastically worldwide:  few of us are giving our best at the things that are so fundamentally important in life.

Why have we become so lazy? I’d really love to know the answer to thisit seems as though the only people who are giving their best and working truly hard are those developers of products and apps that are destined to make us lazier.

Completion has become more important than quality.

Really think about this: most of us would rather get over with something as fast as possible instead of giving it our best. It’s no longer a battle between quality over quantity, it’s now about quality VS time of completion, so instead of investing time into doing something as best as we can, we choose to take the easy route.

Our minds have been brainwashed into thinking that we shouldn’t exhaust ourselves with too much hard work, and yet countless people put off their goals by saying they don’t have time for them, yet they spend hours in front of the TV, wasting precious time.

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What the hell are we doing?

You only get one life to live, and if you continue wasting it on making others rich and yourself sick, it would be a complete waste. You are never too old to establish a dream for yourself , so put your priorities in order and make time for the important things.

Do You Think That You’re Perfect?

There’s another issue which is extremely frustrating and such a major setback in productivity, and that’s letting your ego convince you that you have the answer to every question. Many people are so caught up by this deadly mindset and ego that they refuse to accept knowledge from others and expand their own knowledge base.

Don’t be that person! If anything, be the person who is extremely open-minded and actually takes other people’s opinions into consideration before passing judgement on something you may not be as knowledgeable about as you believe.

It’s okay to accept advice from others; in fact, it’s one of the best ways to learn and improve yourself

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Aside from the knowledge aspect, it’s very difficult being around someone who acts high and mighty when you’re honestly trying to be sincere by offering worthy advice and opinions. Don’t isolate yourself with such a bad mindsetbe open-minded, accepting, and appreciative of the knowledge you pick up from others.

Unwillingness to Share Your Winnings.

A lesson to be learnt from a few online entrepreneurs is the courage and sincerity to share successful strategies with others. Somewhere along the way, we’ve become selfish:  on the surface we may seem fine, but inside our hearts we have jealousy and greed to hog all the rewards.

Be a kind person: Be someone who cares enough to share a winning strategy. That is a person capable of greatness and others appreciate such people; I know I do. The moment you let go of the vices that hold back the humanitarian within is when you have reached a state of greatness.

Sharing is caring: Live with that philosophy and your life will be showered with rewards.

If that isn’t convincing enough, think about how spiritually uplifting such graciousness can be. 

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Meaningless Sex and Toying with Emotions

Random and meaningless sex has impacted marriage and commitment greatly. Many people don’t appreciate the values and morals behind commitment anymore, as we have been brainwashed into believing that the random hookups that occur in movies and stuff will lead to an intensely amazing love storyboy have we been fooled!

Instead, we have an increasing divorce rate and STD transmissions. Why? Because the mindset of being old-fashioned is seen as a bad thing, but if we continued to hold onto the beliefs from 30+ years ago, things wouldn’t be so bad. It’s possible that love would be better than depicted in the movies, commitment would actually mean something, and the concept of marriage would truly be valued and respected.

Be sincere and respect that if someone grants you the amazing privilege of having their trust and love, treat it like you would want yours to be treated. Treat others the way you would want to be treated.

Believing that Your Job is Your Best and Most Stable Source of Income. 

I understand how difficult it is to get a job: employers want people with experience, but how do you get experience if no one will give you a chance? The instant you do bag a job, it can be pretty easy to make that one job your sole means of income.

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Depending on the income from a single job is realistic and normal, but the problem is that one source of income doesn’t seem so safe, especially with the way recession comes and goes. My grandfather, my father, and my uncle all had the mindset of doing as many things as possible to make a living, which is why my father has built a house without using credit, bought his car without credit, and why everything belongs to us rather than to creditors.

Going this route isn’t easy, but it’s not impossible. The right amount of work, proper planning, prioritizing, and a bit of legal can help you on your way to earning more than you ever could from just that one job.

Are You Ready To Change The Way You Think?

Are you ready to put aside your issues and work on changing the way you think?

Change is difficult, but it’s likely to save your life. That may sound like a very bold statement, but ask people who have battled with a drug addiction, unhealthy eating, or bad financial management and find out exactly how a change in their mindset saved their lives.

It’s a day by day job to change; results may happen after a long period but when it does, it will change your life for the better.

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Last Updated on October 14, 2020

Had a Bad Day? 7 Ways to Rebound From It and Feel Good Again

Had a Bad Day? 7 Ways to Rebound From It and Feel Good Again

Today didn’t turn out as you planned, but it doesn’t mean you’re weak. It simply means that you’re human, and you’re not bad just because you had a bad day.

“Not everyday is a good day but there is something good in every day.” -Alice Morse Earle

It’s not the end of the world when you find yourself thinking “I had a bad day,” but it can feel like it. You may have had plans that fell apart, experiences that set you back, and interactions that only did harm.

You may have started the day thinking you could take on it all, only to find you could hardly get out of bed. When you have a bad day, you can forget to look at the good.

Sometimes, self-care helps us to remember why we are worth it. It helps us to recharge and reset our mindset. It helps us to know that there are still options and that the day isn’t over yet.

Love yourself today, no matter how hard it’s been. That’s the way to find yourself amidst the hardships you have. That’s how you center yourself and regain focus and live a more meaningful life. Give yourself some credit and compassion.

Here are 7 ways to rebound from a bad day using self-compassion as a tool. If you had a bad day, these are for you!

1. Make a Gratitude List

In a study on gratitude, psychologists Dr. Robert A Emmons and Dr. Michael E. McCullough conducted an experiment where one group of people wrote out gratitude lists for ten weeks while another group wrote about irritations. The study found that the group that wrote about gratitude reported more optimistic mindsets in their lives[1].

Overall, having a gratitude list improved well-being and made one truly grateful by counting the blessings in their lives.

Write a list of what you are grateful for if you had a bad day. Make it as long as you like, but also remember to note why you’re grateful for each thing you write.

What has given you the most joy? What has set you up for better days? Keep a tally of triumphs in mind, especially when you do have the bad days.

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The day doesn’t define you, and you still have things of value that surround you. These could be material things, spiritual connections and experiences, relationships, basic needs, emotional and mental well-being, physical health, progress towards hopes and dreams, or simply being alive.

Here are some other simple ways to practice gratitude.

2. Write in a Journal

Journaling affects your overall mental health, which also affects physical health and aids in the management of stress, depression, anxiety, and more[2].

All you need is a pen and paper, or you could do an online, password-protected journal such as Penzu. The key is to get started and not pressure yourself on how polished or perfect it is. You don’t need to have prior experience to start journal writing. Just start.

Write out everything that is bothering you for 15 minutes. This helps with rumination, processing problems, and can even aid with brainstorming solutions.

However you approach it, you can find patterns of thinking that no longer serve you and start to transform your overall mental state. This will impact all areas of your life and is a great coping skill.

3. Meditate

Meditation can help you overcome negative thought patterns, worrying about the future, dwelling on the past, or struggling to overcome a bad day[3]. It shifts your mentality and helps you focus on the present or any one thing you truly want to focus on.

Here is an example of a meditation you can do:

Get into a comfortable position. Close your eyes. Rest your body, release tension, and unclench your jaw. Tighten and release each muscle group in a body scan for progressive muscle relaxation.

Focus on your breath, taking a few deep breaths. Let your belly expand when you breathe in for diaphragmatic breathing. Empty yourself completely of air, then return to normal breathing.

Next, focus on the idea of self-love and let it erase negative thoughts. Think about the ways you’ve been judging yourself, with the narratives coming up that your mind may create.

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Give yourself unconditional love and release judgment. Take your time meditating on this because you matter. This is particularly important if you had a bad day.

Check out this article for more on how to get started with a meditation practice.

4. Do Child’s Pose

Yoga Outlet says:

“Child’s Pose is a simple way to calm your mind, slow your breath, and restore a feeling of peace and safety. Practicing the pose before bedtime can help to release the worries of the day. Practicing in the morning can you help transition from sleeping to waking.”[4]

When you do Child’s Pose, it can be between difficult positions in yoga, or it can be anytime you feel you need a rest. It helps you recover from difficulties and relax the mind.

It also has the physical health benefits of elongating your back, opening your hips, and helping with digestion[5].

To do Child’s Pose, rest your buttocks back on your feet, knees on the floor. Elongate your body over your knees with both arms extended or tucked back, with head and neck resting on the floor[6].

Had a bad day? Try Child's Pose.

     

    Do this pose as a gift to yourself. You are allowing yourself to heal, rest, get time for yourself, recover, and recharge. When you’ve had a bad day, it’s there waiting for you.

    5. Try Positive Self-Talk

    Engage in positive self-talk. This is essentially choosing your thoughts.

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    When you have a negative thought, such as “I can’t do this,” replace it consciously with the thought “I can do this.” Give yourself positive affirmations to help with this.

    Negative self-talk fits into four general categories: personalizing or blaming yourself, magnifying or only focusing on the negative, catastrophizing or expecting the worst to happen, and polarizing or only seeing back and white[7].

    When you stop blaming yourself for everything and start focusing on the positive, expecting things to work out, and seeing the areas of grey in life, you reverse these negative mindsets and engage in positive self-talk.

    When you speak words of kindness to yourself, your brain responds with a more positive attitude. That attitude will affect everything you do. It’s how you take care of yourself if you had a bad day.

    Check in with yourself to know when you are having negative self-talk. Are you seeing patterns? When did they start to become a problem? Are you able to turn these thoughts around?

    6. Use Coping Skills and Take a Break

    Use your coping skills. This means not letting your thoughts take control of yourself.

    You can distract yourself and escape a bit. Do things you love. You can exercise, listen to music, dance, volunteer or help someone, be in nature, or read a book.

    It isn’t about repression. It’s about redirection. You can’t stay in thoughts that are no longer working for you.

    Sometimes, it’s okay to get out of your own way. Give yourself a break from the things going on in your head. You can always come back to a problem later. This may even help you figure out the best course of action as sometimes stepping away is the only way to see the solution.

    If you had a bad day, you may not feel like addressing what went wrong. You may need a break, so take one.

    7. If a Bad Day Turns Into Bad Days

    “I believe depression is legitimate. But I also believe that if you don’t exercise, eat nutritious food, get sunlight, get enough sleep, consume positive material, surround yourself with support, then you aren’t giving yourself a fighting chance.” –Jim Carrey

    If you’ve been feeling out of control, depressed, or unstable for more than a few weeks, it’s time to call a mental health professional. This is not because you have failed in any way. It’s because you are human, and you simply need help.

    You may not be able to quickly rebound from a bad day, and that’s fine. Feel what you feel, but don’t let it consume you.

    When you talk to a professional, share the techniques that you have already tried here and whether they were helpful. They may tell you additional ideas or gain insights from your struggles of not being able to rebound from a series of bad days.

    If you’re having more than just a bad day, they will want to know. If you don’t have the answers, that’s okay, too. You just need to try these tools and figure out how you’re feeling. That’s all that’s required of you.

    Keep taking care of yourself. Any progress is progress, no matter how small. Give yourself a chance to get better by reaching out.

    Final Thoughts

    If you had a bad day, don’t let it stop you.

    Know this: It’s okay not to be okay. You have a right to feel what you feel. But there is something you can do about it.

    You can invest in yourself via self-care.

    You are not alone in this. Everyone has bad days from time to time. You just need to know that you are the positive things you tell yourself.

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