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5 Bad Mindsets You Should Change

5 Bad Mindsets You Should Change

The best of the best, I want that to be me!

For some reason, the standard of work quality and results have dropped drastically worldwide:  few of us are giving our best at the things that are so fundamentally important in life.

Why have we become so lazy? I’d really love to know the answer to thisit seems as though the only people who are giving their best and working truly hard are those developers of products and apps that are destined to make us lazier.

Completion has become more important than quality.

Really think about this: most of us would rather get over with something as fast as possible instead of giving it our best. It’s no longer a battle between quality over quantity, it’s now about quality VS time of completion, so instead of investing time into doing something as best as we can, we choose to take the easy route.

Our minds have been brainwashed into thinking that we shouldn’t exhaust ourselves with too much hard work, and yet countless people put off their goals by saying they don’t have time for them, yet they spend hours in front of the TV, wasting precious time.

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What the hell are we doing?

You only get one life to live, and if you continue wasting it on making others rich and yourself sick, it would be a complete waste. You are never too old to establish a dream for yourself , so put your priorities in order and make time for the important things.

Do You Think That You’re Perfect?

There’s another issue which is extremely frustrating and such a major setback in productivity, and that’s letting your ego convince you that you have the answer to every question. Many people are so caught up by this deadly mindset and ego that they refuse to accept knowledge from others and expand their own knowledge base.

Don’t be that person! If anything, be the person who is extremely open-minded and actually takes other people’s opinions into consideration before passing judgement on something you may not be as knowledgeable about as you believe.

It’s okay to accept advice from others; in fact, it’s one of the best ways to learn and improve yourself

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Aside from the knowledge aspect, it’s very difficult being around someone who acts high and mighty when you’re honestly trying to be sincere by offering worthy advice and opinions. Don’t isolate yourself with such a bad mindsetbe open-minded, accepting, and appreciative of the knowledge you pick up from others.

Unwillingness to Share Your Winnings.

A lesson to be learnt from a few online entrepreneurs is the courage and sincerity to share successful strategies with others. Somewhere along the way, we’ve become selfish:  on the surface we may seem fine, but inside our hearts we have jealousy and greed to hog all the rewards.

Be a kind person: Be someone who cares enough to share a winning strategy. That is a person capable of greatness and others appreciate such people; I know I do. The moment you let go of the vices that hold back the humanitarian within is when you have reached a state of greatness.

Sharing is caring: Live with that philosophy and your life will be showered with rewards.

If that isn’t convincing enough, think about how spiritually uplifting such graciousness can be. 

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Meaningless Sex and Toying with Emotions

Random and meaningless sex has impacted marriage and commitment greatly. Many people don’t appreciate the values and morals behind commitment anymore, as we have been brainwashed into believing that the random hookups that occur in movies and stuff will lead to an intensely amazing love storyboy have we been fooled!

Instead, we have an increasing divorce rate and STD transmissions. Why? Because the mindset of being old-fashioned is seen as a bad thing, but if we continued to hold onto the beliefs from 30+ years ago, things wouldn’t be so bad. It’s possible that love would be better than depicted in the movies, commitment would actually mean something, and the concept of marriage would truly be valued and respected.

Be sincere and respect that if someone grants you the amazing privilege of having their trust and love, treat it like you would want yours to be treated. Treat others the way you would want to be treated.

Believing that Your Job is Your Best and Most Stable Source of Income. 

I understand how difficult it is to get a job: employers want people with experience, but how do you get experience if no one will give you a chance? The instant you do bag a job, it can be pretty easy to make that one job your sole means of income.

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Depending on the income from a single job is realistic and normal, but the problem is that one source of income doesn’t seem so safe, especially with the way recession comes and goes. My grandfather, my father, and my uncle all had the mindset of doing as many things as possible to make a living, which is why my father has built a house without using credit, bought his car without credit, and why everything belongs to us rather than to creditors.

Going this route isn’t easy, but it’s not impossible. The right amount of work, proper planning, prioritizing, and a bit of legal can help you on your way to earning more than you ever could from just that one job.

Are You Ready To Change The Way You Think?

Are you ready to put aside your issues and work on changing the way you think?

Change is difficult, but it’s likely to save your life. That may sound like a very bold statement, but ask people who have battled with a drug addiction, unhealthy eating, or bad financial management and find out exactly how a change in their mindset saved their lives.

It’s a day by day job to change; results may happen after a long period but when it does, it will change your life for the better.

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The Gentle Art of Saying No

The Gentle Art of Saying No

No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

  1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
  2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
  3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
  4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
  5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
  6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
  7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
  8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
  9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
  10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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