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5 Bad Mindsets You Should Change

5 Bad Mindsets You Should Change

The best of the best, I want that to be me!

For some reason, the standard of work quality and results have dropped drastically worldwide:  few of us are giving our best at the things that are so fundamentally important in life.

Why have we become so lazy? I’d really love to know the answer to thisit seems as though the only people who are giving their best and working truly hard are those developers of products and apps that are destined to make us lazier.

Completion has become more important than quality.

Really think about this: most of us would rather get over with something as fast as possible instead of giving it our best. It’s no longer a battle between quality over quantity, it’s now about quality VS time of completion, so instead of investing time into doing something as best as we can, we choose to take the easy route.

Our minds have been brainwashed into thinking that we shouldn’t exhaust ourselves with too much hard work, and yet countless people put off their goals by saying they don’t have time for them, yet they spend hours in front of the TV, wasting precious time.

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What the hell are we doing?

You only get one life to live, and if you continue wasting it on making others rich and yourself sick, it would be a complete waste. You are never too old to establish a dream for yourself , so put your priorities in order and make time for the important things.

Do You Think That You’re Perfect?

There’s another issue which is extremely frustrating and such a major setback in productivity, and that’s letting your ego convince you that you have the answer to every question. Many people are so caught up by this deadly mindset and ego that they refuse to accept knowledge from others and expand their own knowledge base.

Don’t be that person! If anything, be the person who is extremely open-minded and actually takes other people’s opinions into consideration before passing judgement on something you may not be as knowledgeable about as you believe.

It’s okay to accept advice from others; in fact, it’s one of the best ways to learn and improve yourself

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Aside from the knowledge aspect, it’s very difficult being around someone who acts high and mighty when you’re honestly trying to be sincere by offering worthy advice and opinions. Don’t isolate yourself with such a bad mindsetbe open-minded, accepting, and appreciative of the knowledge you pick up from others.

Unwillingness to Share Your Winnings.

A lesson to be learnt from a few online entrepreneurs is the courage and sincerity to share successful strategies with others. Somewhere along the way, we’ve become selfish:  on the surface we may seem fine, but inside our hearts we have jealousy and greed to hog all the rewards.

Be a kind person: Be someone who cares enough to share a winning strategy. That is a person capable of greatness and others appreciate such people; I know I do. The moment you let go of the vices that hold back the humanitarian within is when you have reached a state of greatness.

Sharing is caring: Live with that philosophy and your life will be showered with rewards.

If that isn’t convincing enough, think about how spiritually uplifting such graciousness can be. 

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Meaningless Sex and Toying with Emotions

Random and meaningless sex has impacted marriage and commitment greatly. Many people don’t appreciate the values and morals behind commitment anymore, as we have been brainwashed into believing that the random hookups that occur in movies and stuff will lead to an intensely amazing love storyboy have we been fooled!

Instead, we have an increasing divorce rate and STD transmissions. Why? Because the mindset of being old-fashioned is seen as a bad thing, but if we continued to hold onto the beliefs from 30+ years ago, things wouldn’t be so bad. It’s possible that love would be better than depicted in the movies, commitment would actually mean something, and the concept of marriage would truly be valued and respected.

Be sincere and respect that if someone grants you the amazing privilege of having their trust and love, treat it like you would want yours to be treated. Treat others the way you would want to be treated.

Believing that Your Job is Your Best and Most Stable Source of Income. 

I understand how difficult it is to get a job: employers want people with experience, but how do you get experience if no one will give you a chance? The instant you do bag a job, it can be pretty easy to make that one job your sole means of income.

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Depending on the income from a single job is realistic and normal, but the problem is that one source of income doesn’t seem so safe, especially with the way recession comes and goes. My grandfather, my father, and my uncle all had the mindset of doing as many things as possible to make a living, which is why my father has built a house without using credit, bought his car without credit, and why everything belongs to us rather than to creditors.

Going this route isn’t easy, but it’s not impossible. The right amount of work, proper planning, prioritizing, and a bit of legal can help you on your way to earning more than you ever could from just that one job.

Are You Ready To Change The Way You Think?

Are you ready to put aside your issues and work on changing the way you think?

Change is difficult, but it’s likely to save your life. That may sound like a very bold statement, but ask people who have battled with a drug addiction, unhealthy eating, or bad financial management and find out exactly how a change in their mindset saved their lives.

It’s a day by day job to change; results may happen after a long period but when it does, it will change your life for the better.

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Last Updated on March 14, 2019

7 Questions to Ask in a Job Interview That Will Impress the Interviewer

7 Questions to Ask in a Job Interview That Will Impress the Interviewer

Recruiters might hold thousands of interviews in their careers and a lot of them are reporting the same thing—that most candidates play it safe with the questions they ask, or have no questions to ask in a job interview at all.

For job applicants, this approach is crazy! This is a job that you’re going to dedicate a lot of hours to and that might have a huge impact on your future career. Don’t throw away the chance to figure out if the position is perfect for you.

Here are 7 killer questions to ask in a job interview that will both impress your counterpart and give you some really useful insights into whether this job will be a dream … or a nightmare.

1. What are some challenges I might come up against this role?

A lesser candidate might ask, “what does a typical day look like in this role?” While this is a perfectly reasonable question to ask in an interview, focusing on potential challenges takes you much further because it indicates that you already are visualizing yourself in the role.

It’s impressive because it shows that you are not afraid of challenges, and you are prepared to strategize a game plan upfront to make sure you succeed if you get the job.

It can also open up a conversation about how you’ve solved problems in the past which can be a reassuring exercise for both you and the hiring manager.

How it helps you:

If you ask the interviewer to describe a typical day, you may get a vibrant picture of all the lovely things you’ll get to do in this job and all the lovely people you’ll get to do them with.

Asking about potential roadblocks means you hear the other side of the story—dysfunctional teams, internal politics, difficult clients, bootstrap budgets and so on. This can help you decide if you’re up for the challenge or whether, for the sake of your sanity, you should respectfully decline the job offer.

2. What are the qualities of really successful people in this role?

Employers don’t want to hire someone who goes through the motions; they want to hire someone who will excel.

Asking this question shows that you care about success, too. How could they not hire you with a dragon-slayer attitude like that?

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How it helps you:

Interviewers hire people who are great people to work with, but the definition of “great people” differs from person to person.

Does this company hire and promote people with a specific attitude, approach, worth ethic or communication style? Are the most successful people in this role strong extroverts who love to talk and socialize when you are studious and reserved? Does the company reward those who work insane hours when you’re happiest in a more relaxed environment?

If so, then this may not be the right match for you.

Whatever the answer is, you can decide whether you have what it takes for the manager to be happy with your performance in this role. And if the interviewer has no idea what success looks like for this position, this is a sign to proceed with extreme caution.

3. From the research I did on your company, I noticed the culture really supports XYZ. Can you tell me more about that element of the culture and how it impacts this job role?

Of course, you could just ask “what is the culture like here? ” but then you would miss a great opportunity to show that you’ve done your research!

Interviewers give BIG bonus point to those who read up and pay attention, and you’ve just pointed out that (a) you’re diligent in your research (b) you care about the company culture and (c) you’re committed to finding a great cultural fit.

How it helps you:

This question is so useful because it lets you pick an element of the culture that you really care about and that will have the most impact on whether you are happy with the organization.

For example, if training and development is important to you, then you need to know what’s on offer so you don’t end up in a dead-end job with no learning opportunities.

Companies often talk a good talk, and their press releases may be full of shiny CSR initiatives and all the headline-grabbing diversity programs they’re putting in place. This is your opportunity to look under the hood and see if the company lives its values on the ground.

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A company that says it is committed to doing the right thing by customers should not judge success by the number of up-sells an employee makes, for instance. Look for consistency, so you aren’t in for a culture shock after you start.

4. What is the promotion path for this role, and how would my performance on that path be measured?

To be clear, you are not asking when you will get promoted. Don’t go there—it’s presumptuous, and it indicates that you think you are better than the role you have applied for.

A career-minded candidate, on the other hand, usually has a plan that she’s working towards. This question shows you have a great drive toward growth and advancement and an intention to stick with the company beyond your current state.

How it helps you:

One word: hierarchy.

All organizations have levels of work and authority—executives, upper managers, line managers, the workforce, and so on. Understanding the hierarchical structure gives you power, because you can decide if you can work within it and are capable of climbing through its ranks, or whether it will be endlessly frustrating to you.

In a traditional pyramid hierarchy, for example, the people at the bottom tend to have very little autonomy to make decisions. This gets better as you rise up through the pyramid, but even middle managers have little power to create policy; they are more concerned with enforcing the rules the top leaders make.

If having a high degree of autonomy and accountability is important to you, you may do better in a flat hierarchy where work teams can design their own way of achieving the corporate goals.

5. What’s the most important thing the successful candidate could accomplish in their first 3 months/6 months/year?

Of all the questions to ask in a job interview, this one is impressive because it shows that you identify with and want to be a successful performer, and not just an average one.

Here, you’re drilling down into what the company needs, and needs quite urgently, proving that you’re all about adding value to the organization and not just about what’s in it for you.

How it helps you:

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Most job descriptions come with 8, 10 or 12 different job responsibilities and a lot of them with be boilerplate or responsibilities that someone in HR thinks are associated with this role. This question gives you a better sense of which responsibilities are the most important—and they may not be what initially attracted you to the role.

If you like the idea of training juniors, for example, but success is judged purely on your sales figures, then is this really the job you thought you were applying for?

This question will also give you an idea of what kind of learning curve you’re expected to have and whether you’ll get any ramp-up time before getting down to business. If you’re the type of person who likes to jump right in and get things done, for instance, you may not be thrilled to hear that you’re going to spend the first three months shadowing a peer.

6. What do you like about working here?

This simple question is all about building rapport with the interviewer. People like to talk about themselves, and the interviewer will be flattered that you’re interested in her opinions.

Hopefully, you’ll find some great connection points that the two of you share. What similar things drive you head into the office each day? How will you fit into the culture?

How it helps you:

You can learn a lot from this question. Someone who genuinely enjoys his job will be able to list several things they like, and their answers will sound passionate and sincere. If not….well, you might consider that a red flag.

Since you potentially can learn a lot about the company culture from this question, it’s a good idea to figure out upfront what’s important to you. Maybe you’re looking for a hands-off boss who values independent thought and creativity? Maybe you work better in environments that move at a rapid, exciting pace?

Whatever’s important to you, listen carefully and see if you can find any common ground.

7. Based on this interview, do you have any questions or concerns about my qualifications for the role?

What a great closing question to ask in a job interview! It shows that you’re not afraid of feedback—in fact, you are inviting it. Not being able to take criticism is a red flag for employers, who need to know that you’ll act on any “coaching moments” with a good heart.

As a bonus, asking this question shows that you are really interested in the position and wish to clear up anything that may be holding the company back from hiring you.

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How it helps you:

What a devious beast this question is! On the surface, it looks straightforward, but it’s actually giving you four key pieces of information.

First, is the manager capable of giving you feedback when put on the spot like this? Some managers are scared of giving feedback, or don’t think it’s important enough to bother outside of a formal performance appraisal. Do you want to work for a boss like that? How will you improve if no one is telling you what you did wrong?

Second, can the manager give feedback in a constructive way without being too pillowy or too confrontational? It’s unfair to expect the interviewer to have figured out your preferred way of receiving feedback in the space of an interview, but if she come back with a machine-gun fire of shortcomings or one of those corporate feedback “sandwiches” (the doozy slipped between two slices of compliment), then you need to ask yourself, can you work with someone who gives feedback like that?

Third, you get to learn the things the hiring manager is concerned about before you leave the interview. This gives you the chance to make a final, tailored sales pitch so you can convince the interviewer that she should not be worried about those things.

Fourth, you get to learn the things the hiring manager is concerned about period. If turnover is keeping him up at night, then your frequent job hopping might get a lot of additional scrutiny. If he’s facing some issues with conflict or communication, then he might raise concerns regarding your performance in this area.

Listen carefully: the concerns that are being raised about you might actually be a proxy for problems in the wider organization.

Making Your Interview Work for You

Interviews are a two-way street. While it is important to differentiate yourself from every other candidate, understand that convincing the interviewer you’re the right person for the role goes hand-in-hand with figuring out if the job is the right fit for you.

Would you feel happy in a work environment where the people, priorities, culture and management style were completely at odds with the way you work? Didn’t think so!

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