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The True Happiness that Only Parents Understand When Children Do These 40 Small Things

The True Happiness that Only Parents Understand When Children Do These 40 Small Things

Being a parent means navigating a never ending and unexpected myriad of adventures, emotions, celebrations and experiments; and at times living what can be deemed as both the best of and worst of days. It can be the toughest and the most blessed job in the world – so here’s 40 treasured child related moments guaranteed to leave a smile on your face, an acknowledging nod and a glow in your heart.

  1. Snuggling up close
  2. Feeling the warmth and energetic vibrations of their little bodies merging with yours
  3. Sticky little hands and chubby wrists gripping and holding you tight – as though their world depended on it
  4. Feeling their strong beating hearts fluttering against you
  5. Knowing that you are their everything
  6. Crying out only for you, and knowing nobody else but you can help them
  7. Picking them back up after they’ve fallen (physically or metaphorically)
  8. Empowering and reassuring them when another has emotionally hurt them
  9. Being the safe harbour when the world becomes too overwhelming and they need help regaining their bearings
  10. Drawing a picture, singing a song, making up a story, telling a joke for your entertainment only
  11. Doing whatever it takes to engage your full attention and watch your eyes light up and your smile spread from ear to ear
  12. Being privy to all their hopes and fears, secrets and vulnerabilities
  13. Encouraging and applauding their originality and creativity for the same task for the hundredth time
  14. Looking for your encouragement and approval that it is okay to be exactly as they are
  15. Every time they proclaim and express their love and gratitude for you (long may it last!)
  16. Colourful scribbles of unidentifiable objects, out of tune ditties with made up words, never ending stories that have no beginning, middle or end
  17. Repeating made up jokes that they find the hilarious (but make no sense to you!)
  18. Playing make believe, exercising your imagination and creativity and resurrecting your own inner child
  19. Being a single person engaged, enthusiastic and cheerleading audience like no other will ever be
  20. Being gifted hundreds of interesting facts that you probably already know
  21. Laying claim to being the raison d’etre of your child’s budding talents
  22. Being repeatedly informed and re-educated on topics such as the difference between each of the Disney princesses and Skylanders
  23. Having the privilege to play Santa, the tooth fairy, the elf on the shelf, and the Easter bunny
  24. The day they finally recognise that your way is the best way (for now!)
  25. Watching tongues slightly protruding from the lips, eyes glazing over and ears tuning out when utterly absorbed in a task
  26. Being totally occupied by something other than you
  27. Falling asleep on you
  28. FINALLY falling asleep on their own (although this can be a double edged sword!)
  29. Listening in on their conversations with friends on whose mummy or daddy is the best
  30. Knowing you will take on exalted challenges like a knight in shining armour, fighting any monsters or demons that may be lurking to keep them safe
  31. Hearing them say I love you for the first or the millionth time
  32. Listening to their ideas of what they will be like when they grow up
  33. Watching them earnestly attempt to dance and master their body movements
  34. Multiple happy birthday, Christmas and other special occasion cards, notes and letters created for you
  35. Their take on ‘helping’ you
  36. Telling you that you are the most beautiful, brave, amazing, special person ever
  37. Their idea of taking turns and rules when playing a game
  38. Fitting together puzzle pieces that don’t fit together
  39. Tidying up
  40. Knowing that no matter what came before – and what is to come after – it has all been worth it

Featured photo credit: beautiful little girl with her mother outdoors in Autumn via shutterstock.com

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Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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