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4 Surprisingly Wonderful Benefits of Long Distance Relationships

4 Surprisingly Wonderful Benefits of Long Distance Relationships

No… No… Wait a minute!

You might think you have read the title wrong…

Some of you might have remembered the farewell of your beloved, be it for higher studies, job or other reasons, in some other city, state, nation or even continent!

You recollect emotions overwhelmed to the fullest as your parting moment came nearer and nearer.

You sadly smile remembering the moments spent together.

And you think..

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How can Long Distance Relationship (LDR) even have benefits?

Let’s get a check on reality.

Not every LDR couple is depressed and has a heart-wrenching tale to tell!

By saying so, I do not wish to state that couples in LDR rejoice the distance, no!

All I mean is that some couples try to look at the positive aspect of being apart and make the most of it.

Hats off to such couples who instill (re-instill for some people) trust that LDR’s do work… Successfully!

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Some surprisingly wonderful benefits of LDR are as stated:

1. It makes you a time and communication expert

No doubt, when you have to prioritize time from your schedule to talk with your beloved, especially if you are in different time zones, you ought to get a degree in time management! LDR makes your communication effective and to the point.

Since some of you may get less time to speak, you actually learn to express yourself clearly and plan things and expectations. You get to know each other thoroughly.

2. You learn to trust more and more

First of all, trust yourself, individually and as a couple.Your LDR will surely work!

Secondly, ignore pessimists who say that “LDR’s don’t work”, “It’s just not possible”, “Feelings change with distance and time” and similar blah-blah.

“It’s you, your beloved and your life. Learn to trust goodness!” LDR was never for the weaklings.

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You need to have guts to face the distance and still find your love and trust grow with time! 

3. You value your time together

In LDR’s, longings highlight the next meeting. It could be spending a vacation with your beloved at an exotic spot, hiking together or a simple candlelight dinner at home!

Suddenly you find you are missing some things that you earlier found annoying about them (e.g.: snoring, laughing loudly, frowning). You always have something to look forward to!

4. A package of small lovely benefits

You cherish the past and love repeatedly falling for your beloved. You tend to have a balanced outlook towards life by remembering the past, living in the present and looking forward to an happier future together. You get plenty of personal space and independence.

Why not secretly learn some activity of your choice and surprise your beloved the next time they meet you? Sometimes in a relationship, our beloved becomes the center of our world.

All our actions and plans revolve around him/her. However, it was the original YOU that was so very adorable for your beloved to fall for! Retain your uniqueness in spite of being together.

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You may feel sad at times and terribly miss your beloved. But that does not mean you isolate yourself from your social circle. It’s good to hang around with other buddies. In fact, meeting and chilling out with old friends is always refreshing.

I would recommend LDR couples to read an article of mine: What Love Really Means… whenever you feel low.

Hope it helps you. Distance may seem to be a villain in our love stories. It is not.

In fact, it helps many of the LDR couples to rediscover the spark which keeps their relationship going inspite of all odds.

All I wish to say is, you are strong enough to live with it!

Keep the romance alive and….

Keep loving!

Featured photo credit: Photo cc-by Dvortygirl via flickr.com

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Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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