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4 Surprisingly Wonderful Benefits of Long Distance Relationships

4 Surprisingly Wonderful Benefits of Long Distance Relationships

No… No… Wait a minute!

You might think you have read the title wrong…

Some of you might have remembered the farewell of your beloved, be it for higher studies, job or other reasons, in some other city, state, nation or even continent!

You recollect emotions overwhelmed to the fullest as your parting moment came nearer and nearer.

You sadly smile remembering the moments spent together.

And you think..

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How can Long Distance Relationship (LDR) even have benefits?

Let’s get a check on reality.

Not every LDR couple is depressed and has a heart-wrenching tale to tell!

By saying so, I do not wish to state that couples in LDR rejoice the distance, no!

All I mean is that some couples try to look at the positive aspect of being apart and make the most of it.

Hats off to such couples who instill (re-instill for some people) trust that LDR’s do work… Successfully!

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Some surprisingly wonderful benefits of LDR are as stated:

1. It makes you a time and communication expert

No doubt, when you have to prioritize time from your schedule to talk with your beloved, especially if you are in different time zones, you ought to get a degree in time management! LDR makes your communication effective and to the point.

Since some of you may get less time to speak, you actually learn to express yourself clearly and plan things and expectations. You get to know each other thoroughly.

2. You learn to trust more and more

First of all, trust yourself, individually and as a couple.Your LDR will surely work!

Secondly, ignore pessimists who say that “LDR’s don’t work”, “It’s just not possible”, “Feelings change with distance and time” and similar blah-blah.

“It’s you, your beloved and your life. Learn to trust goodness!” LDR was never for the weaklings.

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You need to have guts to face the distance and still find your love and trust grow with time! 

3. You value your time together

In LDR’s, longings highlight the next meeting. It could be spending a vacation with your beloved at an exotic spot, hiking together or a simple candlelight dinner at home!

Suddenly you find you are missing some things that you earlier found annoying about them (e.g.: snoring, laughing loudly, frowning). You always have something to look forward to!

4. A package of small lovely benefits

You cherish the past and love repeatedly falling for your beloved. You tend to have a balanced outlook towards life by remembering the past, living in the present and looking forward to an happier future together. You get plenty of personal space and independence.

Why not secretly learn some activity of your choice and surprise your beloved the next time they meet you? Sometimes in a relationship, our beloved becomes the center of our world.

All our actions and plans revolve around him/her. However, it was the original YOU that was so very adorable for your beloved to fall for! Retain your uniqueness in spite of being together.

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You may feel sad at times and terribly miss your beloved. But that does not mean you isolate yourself from your social circle. It’s good to hang around with other buddies. In fact, meeting and chilling out with old friends is always refreshing.

I would recommend LDR couples to read an article of mine: What Love Really Means… whenever you feel low.

Hope it helps you. Distance may seem to be a villain in our love stories. It is not.

In fact, it helps many of the LDR couples to rediscover the spark which keeps their relationship going inspite of all odds.

All I wish to say is, you are strong enough to live with it!

Keep the romance alive and….

Keep loving!

Featured photo credit: Photo cc-by Dvortygirl via flickr.com

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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