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4 Surprisingly Wonderful Benefits of Long Distance Relationships

4 Surprisingly Wonderful Benefits of Long Distance Relationships

No… No… Wait a minute!

You might think you have read the title wrong…

Some of you might have remembered the farewell of your beloved, be it for higher studies, job or other reasons, in some other city, state, nation or even continent!

You recollect emotions overwhelmed to the fullest as your parting moment came nearer and nearer.

You sadly smile remembering the moments spent together.

And you think..

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How can Long Distance Relationship (LDR) even have benefits?

Let’s get a check on reality.

Not every LDR couple is depressed and has a heart-wrenching tale to tell!

By saying so, I do not wish to state that couples in LDR rejoice the distance, no!

All I mean is that some couples try to look at the positive aspect of being apart and make the most of it.

Hats off to such couples who instill (re-instill for some people) trust that LDR’s do work… Successfully!

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Some surprisingly wonderful benefits of LDR are as stated:

1. It makes you a time and communication expert

No doubt, when you have to prioritize time from your schedule to talk with your beloved, especially if you are in different time zones, you ought to get a degree in time management! LDR makes your communication effective and to the point.

Since some of you may get less time to speak, you actually learn to express yourself clearly and plan things and expectations. You get to know each other thoroughly.

2. You learn to trust more and more

First of all, trust yourself, individually and as a couple.Your LDR will surely work!

Secondly, ignore pessimists who say that “LDR’s don’t work”, “It’s just not possible”, “Feelings change with distance and time” and similar blah-blah.

“It’s you, your beloved and your life. Learn to trust goodness!” LDR was never for the weaklings.

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You need to have guts to face the distance and still find your love and trust grow with time! 

3. You value your time together

In LDR’s, longings highlight the next meeting. It could be spending a vacation with your beloved at an exotic spot, hiking together or a simple candlelight dinner at home!

Suddenly you find you are missing some things that you earlier found annoying about them (e.g.: snoring, laughing loudly, frowning). You always have something to look forward to!

4. A package of small lovely benefits

You cherish the past and love repeatedly falling for your beloved. You tend to have a balanced outlook towards life by remembering the past, living in the present and looking forward to an happier future together. You get plenty of personal space and independence.

Why not secretly learn some activity of your choice and surprise your beloved the next time they meet you? Sometimes in a relationship, our beloved becomes the center of our world.

All our actions and plans revolve around him/her. However, it was the original YOU that was so very adorable for your beloved to fall for! Retain your uniqueness in spite of being together.

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You may feel sad at times and terribly miss your beloved. But that does not mean you isolate yourself from your social circle. It’s good to hang around with other buddies. In fact, meeting and chilling out with old friends is always refreshing.

I would recommend LDR couples to read an article of mine: What Love Really Means… whenever you feel low.

Hope it helps you. Distance may seem to be a villain in our love stories. It is not.

In fact, it helps many of the LDR couples to rediscover the spark which keeps their relationship going inspite of all odds.

All I wish to say is, you are strong enough to live with it!

Keep the romance alive and….

Keep loving!

Featured photo credit: Photo cc-by Dvortygirl via flickr.com

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How to Crush Your Lack of Motivation and Always Stay Motivated

How to Crush Your Lack of Motivation and Always Stay Motivated

How many times have you not achieved your goals and let yourself down due to your lack of motivation? When you’re not wallowing in sadness and self-pity, you are too busy procrastinating till you can’t anymore and before you know it, you are part of vicious cycle of anxiety and stress.

Whether it’s losing weight or bringing your business to fruition – motivation is essential for growth and success in every sphere of our lives.

That said, it is not easy staying motivated. In order to constantly stay motivated, you need to take ownership of your life and consciously make efforts in that direction.

Well, it’s never too late to take matters in your hands and change the course of your life. Here are 11 effective ways to crush your lack of motivation and always stay motivated:

1. Write Your Goals

The power of writing goals down has always been underestimated. Why write when you can remember, right? Wrong.

Our thoughts are all over the place and the first step to achieve your goals is to organize your thoughts. So, write your goals down, however big or small they might be. Make them as specific as possible and assign deadlines to each of them.

As you write them down and revisit them regularly, they get further drilled in your head, taking you closer to your goals. Doing this small exercise helps you to remain focused, motivated and lets you track your progress with ease.

Start today – take to your laptop or a diary and get down to writing what you wish to achieve in life.

2. Beat Procrastination

Your lack of motivation and procrastination go hand in hand. Every time you procrastinate, your motivation levels take a greater hit. The only way to bring an end to this loop is to stop procrastinating.

Next time you find yourself putting off something for ‘later’, stop and assess the reasons behind it. Get to the root of the cause and eliminate it in order to overcome this poor habit of procrastinating which is sabotaging your life and mental health.

Take a look at this guide and learn how to beat procrastination:

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When you finally overcome procrastination, you will realize the positive impact it has on your mood and motivation levels.

3. Celebrate Small Wins

In the quest to achieve the bigger goals in life, we often forget to celebrate the smaller wins along the way. An achievement is an achievement – be it big or small, it deserves to be acknowledged and celebrated.

Finished a project on time? Reward yourself. Managed to run on the treadmill for a good one hour? Pat yourself on the back. Found time to meditate? Celebrate it.

It is these small achievements that reinstate that we are on the right path and take us one step closer to the bigger goals.

So, get into the habit of recognizing and appreciating small wins. You will be surprised to see how this practice helps you stay motivated.

4. Practice Gratitude

It’s easier to whine about what we don’t have rather than counting our blessings. Isn’t it?

Making gratefulness a part of your life is a very important step to retain high motivational levels. It revitalizes our spirits and renews our enthusiasm for life.

So, how do you practice gratitude? For starters, keep a gratitude journal to jot down what you are grateful for, express your gratitude to people you love and spread positivity wherever you go. If you need some inspiration to be thankful for, here it is:

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By doing so, you begin to focus more on what you have rather than what you don’t and that is a great start to stay motivated.

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5. Be Optimistic

Life is not always hunky dory. There will be bad days when things aren’t going in your favor, when you feel lost and all you want to do is give up.

At such times, instead of letting negativity take over your life, adopt an optimistic approach to life. Quit overthinking, ask the right questions and focus on finding solutions.

Yes, there will be hurdles along the way but if you hang on to positive affirmations and hopes, the journey will be a lot smoother. So, with every passing day, sow the seeds of positivity and you are sure to build a positive environment around you.

6. Don’t Dwell on the Past

A lot of times, our lack of motivation stems from the habit of dwelling on the past. This gives rise to fear and regrets, preventing us from making progress in the present day.

Dwelling on the past is nothing but a waste of time. Understand that the past is long gone, and you cannot do anything to change that.

What you can do is make your present day worthwhile. Instead of looking back and having regrets, learn from your mistakes, forgive yourself and move on.

So, the next time you find your mind wandering off to the past, be determined to change the way you think and consciously concentrate on living in the present. This guide can help you:

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7. Face your Fears

You can never find motivation where there is fear. Identify the fear that is pulling you back and tackle it.

If you don’t face your fear head on, you cannot expect to conquer it and renew your motivation.

Ask yourself: What is stopping you? What are you scared of?

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Once you accept your fear, you can work on an action plan and think of solutions to overcome it. This article will give you some effective tips on conquering your fears:

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Seek external help if required but don’t choose to turn a blind eye over your fears – it will only aggravate matters.

8. Visualize your Success

You must have heard the famous quote, ‘see it to believe it’. That is exactly what visualization is about.

One of the most effective self-motivation techniques, visualizing the process to your desired outcome helps you move in a positive direction and achieve your goal.

Close your eyes and focus all your energies on the minutest of details that will take you where you want to reach. Doing this exercise everyday inspires you to keep going and not lose hope. The vision of attaining success will drive you to do better while instilling belief and confidence.

9. Find Inspiration

Can’t seem to find inspiration inwards? Don’t panic. There are plenty of external sources to gain inspiration from.

From motivational books and quotes to speeches, films and apps – it is a good idea to take help from motivational material to rekindle your spirits and regain your motivation.

Everyone is wired differently. For instance, a self-help book might work for your friend, but it might do nothing to move you. So, find what inspires you and turn to it when you are in desperate need for motivation.

Finding inspiration externally fills you with hope and sometimes that is all you need.

10. Enjoy Downtime

You are clearly exhausted with all the running you’re doing in life. So much, that you don’t even have time to stop and think what’s causing you so much unhappiness. All you know is that you are lacking motivation and everyday seems to have become a struggle.

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Now, that’s certainly not how you should live the rest of your life.

You need to schedule downtime for yourself, relax and give your mind and body some rest. Take a vacation, indulge in hobbies, meet some friends, put your hair down and stop with all the overthinking. It is important to do things that make you happy in order to think clearly and stay motivated.

11. Meditate Regularly

Meditation lets you take control of your mind. It improves focus and concentration while helping you relax.

Whenever you have had a tough day or find your thoughts going places, the best way to calm yourself down is by closing your eyes and meditating. It helps you to remove all the unnecessary frills in life and keeps you on the right track.

Include meditation in your daily schedule and you are sure to see an improvement in your productivity and motivation.

The Bottom Line

Practicing these simple exercises isn’t the tough part, what’s tough is religiously doing them every day.

However, don’t expect to get rid of your lack of motivation overnight. There will still be days when you will be low on energy but by making these conscious efforts to stay motivated, you are sure to see a vast change in your perspective and your response to bad days.

So, start today and be committed to making a positive change in your life.

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