No… No… Wait a minute!
You might think you have read the title wrong…
Some of you might have remembered the farewell of your beloved, be it for higher studies, job or other reasons, in some other city, state, nation or even continent!
You recollect emotions overwhelmed to the fullest as your parting moment came nearer and nearer.
You sadly smile remembering the moments spent together.
And you think..
How can Long Distance Relationship (LDR) even have benefits?
Let’s get a check on reality.
Not every LDR couple is depressed and has a heart-wrenching tale to tell!
By saying so, I do not wish to state that couples in LDR rejoice the distance, no!
All I mean is that some couples try to look at the positive aspect of being apart and make the most of it.
Hats off to such couples who instill (re-instill for some people) trust that LDR’s do work… Successfully!
Some surprisingly wonderful benefits of LDR are as stated:
1. It makes you a time and communication expert
No doubt, when you have to prioritize time from your schedule to talk with your beloved, especially if you are in different time zones, you ought to get a degree in time management! LDR makes your communication effective and to the point.
Since some of you may get less time to speak, you actually learn to express yourself clearly and plan things and expectations. You get to know each other thoroughly.
2. You learn to trust more and more
First of all, trust yourself, individually and as a couple.Your LDR will surely work!
Secondly, ignore pessimists who say that “LDR’s don’t work”, “It’s just not possible”, “Feelings change with distance and time” and similar blah-blah.
“It’s you, your beloved and your life. Learn to trust goodness!” LDR was never for the weaklings.
You need to have guts to face the distance and still find your love and trust grow with time!
3. You value your time together
In LDR’s, longings highlight the next meeting. It could be spending a vacation with your beloved at an exotic spot, hiking together or a simple candlelight dinner at home!
Suddenly you find you are missing some things that you earlier found annoying about them (e.g.: snoring, laughing loudly, frowning). You always have something to look forward to!
4. A package of small lovely benefits
You cherish the past and love repeatedly falling for your beloved. You tend to have a balanced outlook towards life by remembering the past, living in the present and looking forward to an happier future together. You get plenty of personal space and independence.
Why not secretly learn some activity of your choice and surprise your beloved the next time they meet you? Sometimes in a relationship, our beloved becomes the center of our world.
All our actions and plans revolve around him/her. However, it was the original YOU that was so very adorable for your beloved to fall for! Retain your uniqueness in spite of being together.
You may feel sad at times and terribly miss your beloved. But that does not mean you isolate yourself from your social circle. It’s good to hang around with other buddies. In fact, meeting and chilling out with old friends is always refreshing.
I would recommend LDR couples to read an article of mine: What Love Really Means… whenever you feel low.
Hope it helps you. Distance may seem to be a villain in our love stories. It is not.
In fact, it helps many of the LDR couples to rediscover the spark which keeps their relationship going inspite of all odds.
All I wish to say is, you are strong enough to live with it!
Keep the romance alive and….
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