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4 Empowering Ways to Feel Confident and Be Mindful Every Day

4 Empowering Ways to Feel Confident and Be Mindful Every Day

If you find it hard to believe in yourself, then you need to see these empowering ways to feel confident and be mindful.

1. Compliment Your Body

Begin every morning by performing these five steps to compliment your body:

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  • Slowly get out of bed, focusing on mindful movement
  • Take a deep inhale while reaching your arms to the sky
  • Let out a slow exhale while lowering your arms to your sides
  • Look at yourself in the mirror – smile – fake it if you gotta do it
  • Identify something specific that you find attractive about yourself

That last part might feel awkward at first, but it’s okay. You’ll learn to love the process of complimenting your body as time goes on. You just have to be patient.

2. Maximize Your Commute

On your morning commute, turn on a song that excites you, makes you want to dance like wild person. It would be wise to make your own playlist so you’re not at the mercy of tiresome radio stations that play the same songs over and over and OVER again. “Wrecking Ball,” was okay the first time I heard it, but I’m not sure how I feel about the other 100 times…no offense, Miley; it’s not you, it’s me!

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3. Improve Your Posture

How confident do you think you’re going to feel if you present yourself with the physicality of a timid child? Answer: Not very. Develop body confidence by following these four steps to improve your posture:

  • In the standing position, keep your feet roughly hip-width apart.
  • Press your heels into the ground. If your legs are a tree trunk, the bottom of your feet are the roots that keep it planted.
  • Hold your head high and gaze forward (not at the ground), while maintaining a proud (but not overly exaggerated) chest and neutral spine.
  • In the seated position, avoid the temptation to: slump over, round your back, or close your body completely by crossing your arms or legs

Hint: Closing your body off as described above can be considered a visual cue that you aren’t open to meeting new people… so if you’re a single person on the prowl who wonders why nobody is approaching you, this might be something to consider).

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4. Identify Your Strengths* 

Think about three of the biggest achievements of your life. That could be graduating college, getting a raise or promotion, landing your first “real job,” getting published for the first time, or (insert your thing here). Now, think about what personal strengths you used to achieve those things. See any trends? If so, the road that leads to success is right in front of you. It might be helpful to write down your personal strengths in a notebook or journal, because this will help you to remember to look for opportunities to use those more often.

*Note: That paragraph is one of these ten questions that will unlock your potential. Click here to open that in a new tab, as it will help you be more confident, too.

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To Change Your Body, You Must First Change Your Thoughts

 

Questions? You are welcome to leave them in the comments (or if you just want to “hi,” that’s fine, too).

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Featured photo credit: violino section playing/www.audio-luci-store.it via flickr.com

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Last Updated on August 6, 2020

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

We’ve all done it. That moment when a series of words slithers from your mouth and the instant regret manifests through blushing and profuse apologies. If you could just think before you speak! It doesn’t have to be like this, and with a bit of practice, it’s actually quite easy to prevent.

“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” – Napolean Hill

Are we speaking the same language?

My mum recently left me a note thanking me for looking after her dog. She’d signed it with “LOL.” In my world, this means “laugh out loud,” and in her world it means “lots of love.” My kids tell me things are “sick” when they’re good, and ”manck” when they’re bad (when I say “bad,” I don’t mean good!). It’s amazing that we manage to communicate at all.

When speaking, we tend to color our language with words and phrases that have become personal to us, things we’ve picked up from our friends, families and even memes from the internet. These colloquialisms become normal, and we expect the listener (or reader) to understand “what we mean.” If you really want the listener to understand your meaning, try to use words and phrases that they might use.

Am I being lazy?

When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, a strange metamorphosis takes place. People tend to become lazier in the way that they communicate with each other, with less thought for the feelings of their partner. There’s no malice intended; we just reach a “comfort zone” and know that our partners “know what we mean.”

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Here’s an exchange from Psychology Today to demonstrate what I mean:

Early in the relationship:

“Honey, I don’t want you to take this wrong, but I’m noticing that your hair is getting a little thin on top. I know guys are sensitive about losing their hair, but I don’t want someone else to embarrass you without your expecting it.”

When the relationship is established:

“Did you know that you’re losing a lot of hair on the back of your head? You’re combing it funny and it doesn’t help. Wear a baseball cap or something if you feel weird about it. Lots of guys get thin on top. It’s no big deal.”

It’s pretty clear which of these statements is more empathetic and more likely to be received well. Recognizing when we do this can be tricky, but with a little practice it becomes easy.

Have I actually got anything to say?

When I was a kid, my gran used to say to me that if I didn’t have anything good to say, I shouldn’t say anything at all. My gran couldn’t stand gossip, so this makes total sense, but you can take this statement a little further and modify it: “If you don’t have anything to say, then don’t say anything at all.”

A lot of the time, people speak to fill “uncomfortable silences,” or because they believe that saying something, anything, is better than staying quiet. It can even be a cause of anxiety for some people.

When somebody else is speaking, listen. Don’t wait to speak. Listen. Actually hear what that person is saying, think about it, and respond if necessary.

Am I painting an accurate picture?

One of the most common forms of miscommunication is the lack of a “referential index,” a type of generalization that fails to refer to specific nouns. As an example, look at these two simple phrases: “Can you pass me that?” and “Pass me that thing over there!”. How often have you said something similar?

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How is the listener supposed to know what you mean? The person that you’re talking to will start to fill in the gaps with something that may very well be completely different to what you mean. You’re thinking “pass me the salt,” but you get passed the pepper. This can be infuriating for the listener, and more importantly, can create a lack of understanding and ultimately produce conflict.

Before you speak, try to label people, places and objects in a way that it is easy for any listeners to understand.

What words am I using?

It’s well known that our use of nouns and verbs (or lack of them) gives an insight into where we grew up, our education, our thoughts and our feelings.

Less well known is that the use of pronouns offers a critical insight into how we emotionally code our sentences. James Pennebaker’s research in the 1990’s concluded that function words are important keys to someone’s psychological state and reveal much more than content words do.

Starting a sentence with “I think…” demonstrates self-focus rather than empathy with the speaker, whereas asking the speaker to elaborate or quantify what they’re saying clearly shows that you’re listening and have respect even if you disagree.

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Is the map really the territory?

Before speaking, we sometimes construct a scenario that makes us act in a way that isn’t necessarily reflective of the actual situation.

A while ago, John promised to help me out in a big way with a project that I was working on. After an initial meeting and some big promises, we put together a plan and set off on its execution. A week or so went by, and I tried to get a hold of John to see how things were going. After voice mails and emails with no reply and general silence, I tried again a week later and still got no response.

I was frustrated and started to get more than a bit vexed. The project obviously meant more to me than it did to him, and I started to construct all manner of crazy scenarios. I finally got through to John and immediately started a mild rant about making promises you can’t keep. He stopped me in my tracks with the news that his brother had died. If I’d have just thought before I spoke…

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