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4 Empowering Ways to Feel Confident and Be Mindful Every Day

4 Empowering Ways to Feel Confident and Be Mindful Every Day

If you find it hard to believe in yourself, then you need to see these empowering ways to feel confident and be mindful.

1. Compliment Your Body

Begin every morning by performing these five steps to compliment your body:

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  • Slowly get out of bed, focusing on mindful movement
  • Take a deep inhale while reaching your arms to the sky
  • Let out a slow exhale while lowering your arms to your sides
  • Look at yourself in the mirror – smile – fake it if you gotta do it
  • Identify something specific that you find attractive about yourself

That last part might feel awkward at first, but it’s okay. You’ll learn to love the process of complimenting your body as time goes on. You just have to be patient.

2. Maximize Your Commute

On your morning commute, turn on a song that excites you, makes you want to dance like wild person. It would be wise to make your own playlist so you’re not at the mercy of tiresome radio stations that play the same songs over and over and OVER again. “Wrecking Ball,” was okay the first time I heard it, but I’m not sure how I feel about the other 100 times…no offense, Miley; it’s not you, it’s me!

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3. Improve Your Posture

How confident do you think you’re going to feel if you present yourself with the physicality of a timid child? Answer: Not very. Develop body confidence by following these four steps to improve your posture:

  • In the standing position, keep your feet roughly hip-width apart.
  • Press your heels into the ground. If your legs are a tree trunk, the bottom of your feet are the roots that keep it planted.
  • Hold your head high and gaze forward (not at the ground), while maintaining a proud (but not overly exaggerated) chest and neutral spine.
  • In the seated position, avoid the temptation to: slump over, round your back, or close your body completely by crossing your arms or legs

Hint: Closing your body off as described above can be considered a visual cue that you aren’t open to meeting new people… so if you’re a single person on the prowl who wonders why nobody is approaching you, this might be something to consider).

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4. Identify Your Strengths* 

Think about three of the biggest achievements of your life. That could be graduating college, getting a raise or promotion, landing your first “real job,” getting published for the first time, or (insert your thing here). Now, think about what personal strengths you used to achieve those things. See any trends? If so, the road that leads to success is right in front of you. It might be helpful to write down your personal strengths in a notebook or journal, because this will help you to remember to look for opportunities to use those more often.

*Note: That paragraph is one of these ten questions that will unlock your potential. Click here to open that in a new tab, as it will help you be more confident, too.

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To Change Your Body, You Must First Change Your Thoughts

 

Questions? You are welcome to leave them in the comments (or if you just want to “hi,” that’s fine, too).

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Featured photo credit: violino section playing/www.audio-luci-store.it via flickr.com

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The Gentle Art of Saying No

The Gentle Art of Saying No

No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

  1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
  2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
  3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
  4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
  5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
  6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
  7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
  8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
  9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
  10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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