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22 Reasons Why Your High School Friends Are Your Lifelong Friends

22 Reasons Why Your High School Friends Are Your Lifelong Friends

Whether we like it or not, we are all like to be connected to our teenage years in some way. High school friends bring that connection. This is why people set up Facebook groups and organize reunions to relive the moments from the past. Your high school friends will always remain lifelong friends and here are 22 reasons why.

1. You grew up together

In high school you pretty much grew up with your friends. You all went to the same movies, walked down the same hallways, listened to the same kind of music, and got used to each other as you grew up in the strong social environment high school presented to you.

2. They are a place to return to

Your high school friends offer you a place to return to no matter how much time or distance separates you. With your high school friends you can always return back home to laugh about the dumb things that you did.

3. They were there for you through your earliest heartbreaks

Your high school friends stuck with you while you were absolutely humiliated by that one person you ever liked or dated.

4.They were the friends who never really judged you

Somehow they were comfortable around you, whether you ate so much on any given night or a fast food run.

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5.They were the first ones to offer you a spontaneous sex education

They were always willing to offer an opinion on super intimate issues such as sex and this sort of bonded you through those times.

6.They offer you a sense of hometown pride

They are the only ones who can take you through that feeling that your hometown will always be special. Whether your hometown is noteworthy or not they will relive its glory and pleasant memories with you any day, anytime.

7.They offer the best reunions

When you reconnect with a high school friend it is like nothing has ever changed. It could be the “group” you belonged to, or that you saw each other literally for seven times a day, or the sports you played. With your high school friends you get back into the swing of things in a millisecond.

8. You had enough time to build your friendship

In high school you were enclosed in a space and had every day to build your friendship. Such helped to create groups you became in tune with.

9. They offer grounding

Your high school friends offer you a unique element, elements that defined you as you grew up. Even when you are lost in a new environment, they are the ones who still remain unforgettable in your heart.

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10. They would hang out with you no matter what

During the times when your parents still had to drive you to the movies or before you could go out to get drinks they were the ones who were there to stay at your side. It wasn’t about convenience, it was about commitment.

11. You identified with their families

Since you spent so much time with your high school friends, getting to know their parents was inevitable. You knew their families in such a way that they seemed to be an extension of your own.

12.They always stick to tradition

Tradition means drinking mimosas before summer’s music festival, tradition means hanging out at the same diner you have been frequenting since you were seventeen. With your high school friends, there is always tradition hanging over you and your friends that holds you together.

13.You took special photos together

Photos with your high school friends remind you of exuberance and enthusiasm. All the long, posed photobooth sessions gave you some of your best profile pictures.

14.They understand you just by your body expressions

Your high school friends don’t require you to say it all before they get the message. You can communicate very well with just facial expressions.

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15.They are the only ones who can tell you how the story turned out for your former classmates

They seem to have an updated version of every classmate’s story. With only high school friends can you discuss what became of those random classmates from high school.

16.They can share all of the inside jokes with you

The inside jokes you shared amidst your friend circle still remain funny no matter the passage of time. Even new friends cannot be able to relate with this. It is like a code of honor between you and your high school friends.

17.You had your fair share of dramas and fights

There were times you didn’t talk to each other because of something incredibly stupid. But you were able to patch things up and make your relationship stronger than before.

18.You made promises to each other

Yes as much as they were right there to support you through the toughest days of your life, you promised each other that you will stick with each other through future memorable events, like your wedding or your baby showers.

19.They were your best therapist

Somehow they were the only ones who could understand your mood swings, like when you wanted a Big Mac or you wanted a tub of chocolate chip ice cream. They could also relate with the fact that there were times when you were depressed and that your best way of expressing anger was damaging things.

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20.You kept some of each other’s stuff

Yes you didn’t just grow apart with time; you also took something from each other and kept it with you. It may be your friend’s clothes, some books, a mix CD or even a note.

21.You survived the toughest period of teenage years with them

All those awkward years of raging hormones and trying to find a solution to a difficult mathematics problem is enough to tie you together like a blood pact. Somehow your high school friends helped you survive through that period.

22.They have an entire archive of your embarrassing stories

They know the nicknames you were called in high school and how awful those embarrassing moments in high school made you feel. They still have some evidence and can pull them out at any given moment to remind you how stupid you were, and laugh with you. They know you!

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7 Questions to Ask in a Job Interview That Will Impress the Interviewer

7 Questions to Ask in a Job Interview That Will Impress the Interviewer

Recruiters might hold thousands of interviews in their careers and a lot of them are reporting the same thing—that most candidates play it safe with the questions they ask, or have no questions to ask in a job interview at all.

For job applicants, this approach is crazy! This is a job that you’re going to dedicate a lot of hours to and that might have a huge impact on your future career. Don’t throw away the chance to figure out if the position is perfect for you.

Here are 7 killer questions to ask in a job interview that will both impress your counterpart and give you some really useful insights into whether this job will be a dream … or a nightmare.

1. What are some challenges I might come up against this role?

A lesser candidate might ask, “what does a typical day look like in this role?” While this is a perfectly reasonable question to ask in an interview, focusing on potential challenges takes you much further because it indicates that you already are visualizing yourself in the role.

It’s impressive because it shows that you are not afraid of challenges, and you are prepared to strategize a game plan upfront to make sure you succeed if you get the job.

It can also open up a conversation about how you’ve solved problems in the past which can be a reassuring exercise for both you and the hiring manager.

How it helps you:

If you ask the interviewer to describe a typical day, you may get a vibrant picture of all the lovely things you’ll get to do in this job and all the lovely people you’ll get to do them with.

Asking about potential roadblocks means you hear the other side of the story—dysfunctional teams, internal politics, difficult clients, bootstrap budgets and so on. This can help you decide if you’re up for the challenge or whether, for the sake of your sanity, you should respectfully decline the job offer.

2. What are the qualities of really successful people in this role?

Employers don’t want to hire someone who goes through the motions; they want to hire someone who will excel.

Asking this question shows that you care about success, too. How could they not hire you with a dragon-slayer attitude like that?

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How it helps you:

Interviewers hire people who are great people to work with, but the definition of “great people” differs from person to person.

Does this company hire and promote people with a specific attitude, approach, worth ethic or communication style? Are the most successful people in this role strong extroverts who love to talk and socialize when you are studious and reserved? Does the company reward those who work insane hours when you’re happiest in a more relaxed environment?

If so, then this may not be the right match for you.

Whatever the answer is, you can decide whether you have what it takes for the manager to be happy with your performance in this role. And if the interviewer has no idea what success looks like for this position, this is a sign to proceed with extreme caution.

3. From the research I did on your company, I noticed the culture really supports XYZ. Can you tell me more about that element of the culture and how it impacts this job role?

Of course, you could just ask “what is the culture like here? ” but then you would miss a great opportunity to show that you’ve done your research!

Interviewers give BIG bonus point to those who read up and pay attention, and you’ve just pointed out that (a) you’re diligent in your research (b) you care about the company culture and (c) you’re committed to finding a great cultural fit.

How it helps you:

This question is so useful because it lets you pick an element of the culture that you really care about and that will have the most impact on whether you are happy with the organization.

For example, if training and development is important to you, then you need to know what’s on offer so you don’t end up in a dead-end job with no learning opportunities.

Companies often talk a good talk, and their press releases may be full of shiny CSR initiatives and all the headline-grabbing diversity programs they’re putting in place. This is your opportunity to look under the hood and see if the company lives its values on the ground.

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A company that says it is committed to doing the right thing by customers should not judge success by the number of up-sells an employee makes, for instance. Look for consistency, so you aren’t in for a culture shock after you start.

4. What is the promotion path for this role, and how would my performance on that path be measured?

To be clear, you are not asking when you will get promoted. Don’t go there—it’s presumptuous, and it indicates that you think you are better than the role you have applied for.

A career-minded candidate, on the other hand, usually has a plan that she’s working towards. This question shows you have a great drive toward growth and advancement and an intention to stick with the company beyond your current state.

How it helps you:

One word: hierarchy.

All organizations have levels of work and authority—executives, upper managers, line managers, the workforce, and so on. Understanding the hierarchical structure gives you power, because you can decide if you can work within it and are capable of climbing through its ranks, or whether it will be endlessly frustrating to you.

In a traditional pyramid hierarchy, for example, the people at the bottom tend to have very little autonomy to make decisions. This gets better as you rise up through the pyramid, but even middle managers have little power to create policy; they are more concerned with enforcing the rules the top leaders make.

If having a high degree of autonomy and accountability is important to you, you may do better in a flat hierarchy where work teams can design their own way of achieving the corporate goals.

5. What’s the most important thing the successful candidate could accomplish in their first 3 months/6 months/year?

Of all the questions to ask in a job interview, this one is impressive because it shows that you identify with and want to be a successful performer, and not just an average one.

Here, you’re drilling down into what the company needs, and needs quite urgently, proving that you’re all about adding value to the organization and not just about what’s in it for you.

How it helps you:

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Most job descriptions come with 8, 10 or 12 different job responsibilities and a lot of them with be boilerplate or responsibilities that someone in HR thinks are associated with this role. This question gives you a better sense of which responsibilities are the most important—and they may not be what initially attracted you to the role.

If you like the idea of training juniors, for example, but success is judged purely on your sales figures, then is this really the job you thought you were applying for?

This question will also give you an idea of what kind of learning curve you’re expected to have and whether you’ll get any ramp-up time before getting down to business. If you’re the type of person who likes to jump right in and get things done, for instance, you may not be thrilled to hear that you’re going to spend the first three months shadowing a peer.

6. What do you like about working here?

This simple question is all about building rapport with the interviewer. People like to talk about themselves, and the interviewer will be flattered that you’re interested in her opinions.

Hopefully, you’ll find some great connection points that the two of you share. What similar things drive you head into the office each day? How will you fit into the culture?

How it helps you:

You can learn a lot from this question. Someone who genuinely enjoys his job will be able to list several things they like, and their answers will sound passionate and sincere. If not….well, you might consider that a red flag.

Since you potentially can learn a lot about the company culture from this question, it’s a good idea to figure out upfront what’s important to you. Maybe you’re looking for a hands-off boss who values independent thought and creativity? Maybe you work better in environments that move at a rapid, exciting pace?

Whatever’s important to you, listen carefully and see if you can find any common ground.

7. Based on this interview, do you have any questions or concerns about my qualifications for the role?

What a great closing question to ask in a job interview! It shows that you’re not afraid of feedback—in fact, you are inviting it. Not being able to take criticism is a red flag for employers, who need to know that you’ll act on any “coaching moments” with a good heart.

As a bonus, asking this question shows that you are really interested in the position and wish to clear up anything that may be holding the company back from hiring you.

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How it helps you:

What a devious beast this question is! On the surface, it looks straightforward, but it’s actually giving you four key pieces of information.

First, is the manager capable of giving you feedback when put on the spot like this? Some managers are scared of giving feedback, or don’t think it’s important enough to bother outside of a formal performance appraisal. Do you want to work for a boss like that? How will you improve if no one is telling you what you did wrong?

Second, can the manager give feedback in a constructive way without being too pillowy or too confrontational? It’s unfair to expect the interviewer to have figured out your preferred way of receiving feedback in the space of an interview, but if she come back with a machine-gun fire of shortcomings or one of those corporate feedback “sandwiches” (the doozy slipped between two slices of compliment), then you need to ask yourself, can you work with someone who gives feedback like that?

Third, you get to learn the things the hiring manager is concerned about before you leave the interview. This gives you the chance to make a final, tailored sales pitch so you can convince the interviewer that she should not be worried about those things.

Fourth, you get to learn the things the hiring manager is concerned about period. If turnover is keeping him up at night, then your frequent job hopping might get a lot of additional scrutiny. If he’s facing some issues with conflict or communication, then he might raise concerns regarding your performance in this area.

Listen carefully: the concerns that are being raised about you might actually be a proxy for problems in the wider organization.

Making Your Interview Work for You

Interviews are a two-way street. While it is important to differentiate yourself from every other candidate, understand that convincing the interviewer you’re the right person for the role goes hand-in-hand with figuring out if the job is the right fit for you.

Would you feel happy in a work environment where the people, priorities, culture and management style were completely at odds with the way you work? Didn’t think so!

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