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20 Amazing Things Only People Who Have a Big Sister Would Understand

20 Amazing Things Only People Who Have a Big Sister Would Understand

Growing up, sisters played a part in our development. Having an older sister was a plus rather than a minus. The early years may have been awkward, but both of you came to understand why you have to always be together and be there for each other. Through these times, there are amazing memories that will forever be a part of you.

1. You had someone to protect you.

In the mission to become a better person and enjoy the adventures life has to offer, your older sister was there to have your back. She didn’t just protect you; she also made sure you were always safe from the terror of the world.

2. You had someone to look up to.

An older sister is there to act as a pacesetter to all the achievements you will forever make. If she was getting a C, you had to get an A. At least there was something to look up to and records you had to surpass.

3. She was the mother when your parents were not around.

You never had to be lonely when your parents were gone. She stood as a shield and quickly took on the mantle of responsibility in making sure you were well taken care of.

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4. There was someone to be proud of.

Whether you felt intimidated or envious when she graduated sum cum laude from a prestigious college or not, you had something to share on your Instagram page.

5. You had someone you could call when you got knocked down.

Life has its way of throwing stones at us. However having an older sister made sure you were not overwhelmed with the frustrating times and you were not beaten by them. You had someone to give a call to provide an illumination when it all seemed dark.

6. There were clothes and toys that you could borrow.

Your sister’s items could also be borrowed and you could feel proud wearing her shoes or clothes to that dinner party because she shared her best items with you.

7. There was someone to give you a good laugh.

You knew your sister wouldn’t fake or pretend. She was always herself around you. That was why humor between the two of you was real and clear.

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8. She offered solid advice about the opposite sex.

Yes, she has been through it all, and she could relate with any issues you have about the opposite sex. She never restrained from telling you what she knew. And oh, how this proved beneficial.

9. There were ugly times, but both of you conquered.

There were disagreements and sometimes, it was not just okay between you two. However, you knew how important it was for you to stick together and pummel through the ugly times and build something everlasting.

10. She never forgot your birthdays.

It hurt your feelings when others forgot to recognize such special moments in your life, but to your older sister, it was a duty not only to remember your birthday, but to make sure you got a special gift.

11. She gave you the best graduation party.

She was someone who cherished your achievements just as much as you cherished hers. She was there on your graduation day and made that photo complete.

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12. She wanted the best future for you.

Yes, there were times when you just didn’t feel right about what will happen next and did not know what direction your future would take. But she made a future with you. If there was any opportunity, she let you know about it. She planned what would be the best option for you to take.

13. She loved you unconditionally.

It wasn’t about the circumstance being favorable or not. It wasn’t about if she was positive or negative about what choices you were making. She loved you unconditionally and supported you all the way.

14. She was there to build your character.

Having a bigger sister doesn’t mean that you had someone who pampered you outrageously. There were also limitations. If you had to be in your room when her friends were around, that was it. Somehow these limitations made you see the reality of dealing with people and how you could rise above an obstacle.

15. She covered for you.

Sometimes when things went wrong in the house, you never took the blame—your older sister did. She could be scolded or grounded, but that didn’t stop her from going on another risky adventure with you.

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16. You were popular in school because your older sister made it so.

Before your first day in school, you were already expected. People referred to you as so-and-so’s sister and somehow you got shielded from all the bullies who would have been happy to take a shot at you.

17. She made a fool of you sometimes.

You would never have taken her too seriously, right? Because despite all her accusations of you being the adopted one, she was only trying to pull a fast one on you and make you look stupid.

18. She was the best babysitter you ever had.

There were other babysitters but she was a special babysitter. Because after the curtains came down, she was the most consistent babysitter you ever had.

19. She was your best friend.

There were secrets between you two—secrets your parents will never hear about. And these secrets bonded you better and made you best friends.

20. She challenged you to become the best person you could be.

Looking back now at all the memories and all the times you spent together and played together, you can’t help but admit that your sister defined and shaped a part of you. She challenged you and gave you more understanding than any teacher would ever give you.

Featured photo credit: Two sisters in green on grass, st patricks day via shutterstock.com

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Last Updated on September 17, 2018

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

Featured photo credit: josh peterson via unsplash.com

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