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20 Amazing Things Only Big Sisters Would Understand

20 Amazing Things Only Big Sisters Would Understand

Do you have a big sister? There really is no friendship like it; she had your back before you even had hair, she is pretty much your oldest best friend, and your life is much better for her being a part of it.

Check out 20 amazing things you’ll only understand if you had a big sister, or if you are a big sister.

1. You Were Her Taxi Driver

Let’s face it; it made your little sister feel much cooler when you drove her to school, rather than when your parents did it. You were also the only person who she could rely on to pick her up drunk at 3 a.m. without a long lecture.

2. She Was Your Guinea Pig

No matter how old your sister was,  you used them to try out everything; new games you’d created, your makeup and clothes, and even the dubious ‘meals’ you made. It was a lot of fun for you – and hopefully character building for her.

3. You Taught Her Strength

Literally – anything you could find in your house could (and would) be used as a weapon of war against your younger sister. After that, playground bullies were nothing to your sister; you’d already taught her to stick up for herself.

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4. You Are Her Life Guru

You have been giving your little sister sound advice since she was a toddler, and she trusts you to know what’s up. Whether she needs help with a promotion or choosing what to eat for lunch, you always know the right answer – mainly because you both know each other so well.

5. You Always Chose The Game

Being the eldest meant you got to decide what game you and your sister were going to play – which also meant you got to be the coolest character. You loved playing the teacher, the doctor or the shop owner, while your sister eventually got used to playing the student, the patient and the customer.

6. You Helped Shape Your Younger Sister’s Music Taste

Your younger sister shares a love of the same music as you – mainly because she grew up listening to your CDs.  She may have groaned at the time, but now you both love to listen to the songs and reminisce together.

7. You Were Semi Cool – Which Benefited Your Little Sister

You seemed so cool to your little sister – mainly because you went to secondary school first and had ID. Before she was old enough, you would buy her beers whenever she asked (well, begged.) Ditto to lending her clothes or money for any cool parties she was invited to. In fact, you’re pretty sure you  helped shape her social life, which you’re fine with. After all, what else are big sisters for?

8. You Always Got In More Trouble Than Your Younger Sister

If you and your little sister were pulling off a prank, you were always a little more worried – because you knew if you were discovered, you’d end up in much more trouble than your younger, equally mischievous sister. Sigh.

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9. You Will Always Be Honest

Even when the truth hurts, you will always be totally honest with your little sister, and you’re pretty certain she is glad you are. From relationship advice to career advice, you will always tell her what she needs to hear, rather than what she wants to hear.

10. You Keep Her Secrets

No matter what is going on in your younger sister’s life, she knows that she can always talk to you and trust you to keep her secrets. You still haven’t told anyone the secrets she told you when she was five.

11. You Share Some Of Your Best Memories With Your Younger Sister

From family vacations to getting drunk together, some of your fondest memories are with each other.

12. You Prepared Your Parents For Your Sister

Most parents go through seeing their teenager drunkenly throwing up for the first time, and it’s normally pretty horrible for both parties. However, you did all of that first, saving your younger sister from unlimited guilt at the hands of your parents.

13. You Share A Unique Sense Of Humor

Your sister has known you her whole life, so it isn’t surprising that you share a sense of humor that makes no sense to anyone else. You have endless inside jokes with each other, and they can make you laugh like no-one else.

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14. You Know You Can Fight And Still Be Friends

There is no one in the world you fight with more than your little sister – but there is no one you love more, either. And somehow, it is reassuring that no matter how much you fight, you will always make up.

15. You Will Always Be There For Your Younger Sister

From tough break ups to having a hard day, your door is always open to your little sister.

16. You Helped Make Family Parties Fun

Family events can be particularly boring when you’re a child, but you tried to make every family party fun for your sister. While the adults drank wine and discussed renovating the kitchen, you and your sister would sneak off to play house in the bedroom – which was much more fun.

17. Your Sister Borrowed/Stole Everything You Owned

Clothes, food, money, makeup; anything your sister could get her hands on, she would take. It was pretty annoying at the time, but it taught you to be more relaxed and reasonable later in life.

18. You Taught Your Younger Sister About Sex

Well, not all of it – but your sister could always come to you to learn about the more squeamish stuff your parents tended to skim over.

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19. You Always Have Their Back

Even though you and your sister can (and regularly do) openly insult each other, no-one else can. You all feel grateful for having a supportive ally no matter what – especially when you’re happy to tell your little sister if she is making a bad decision.

20. You Are One Of Their Best Friends

You’ve been through it all together; emotional break-ups, family parties, groundings, and general life struggles. You share more experiences with your sister than any of your other friends, and those experiences have made you inseparable.

Can you think of any more amazing things only big sisters would understand? Comment your ideas below!

Featured photo credit: sisters make a wish via shutterstock.com

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Last Updated on June 24, 2019

Why Social Media Might Be Causing Depression

Why Social Media Might Be Causing Depression

A study [1] published in Depression and Anxiety found that social media users are more likely to be depressed. This was just one of the huge number of studies linking social media and depression[2] . But why exactly do platforms like Facebook and Instagram make people so unhappy? Well, we don’t know yet for sure, but there are some explanations.

Social Media Could Lead to Depression

Depression is a serious medical condition that affects how you think, feel, and behave. Social media may lead to depression in predisposed individuals or make existing symptoms of depression[3] worse explains[4] the study above’s senior author Dr. Brian Primack. So, the problem may not be in social media per se, but how we use it.

Signs You’re Suffering From “Social Media Depression”

If you feel like social media is having a negative impact on your mood, then you may be suffering from “social media depression.” Look for symptoms like:

• low self-esteem,

• negative self-talk,

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• a low mood,

• irritability,

• a lack of interest in activities once enjoyed,

• and social withdrawal.

If you’ve had these symptoms for more than two weeks and if this is how you feel most of the time, then you are likely depressed. Although “social media depression “is not a term recognized in the medical setting, social media depression seems to be a real phenomenon affecting around 50% of social media users. As explained in a review study[5] published in Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking, if a person has a certain predisposition to depression and other mental disorders, social media use may only worsen their mental health.

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Social Media Could Crush Self-Esteem

We know that social media and depression are in some way linked, but why is this so? Well, according to Igor Pantic, MD, Ph.D.[6], social media use skews your perception about other people’s lives and traits. To explain this further, most people like to portray an idealized image of their lives, personal traits, and appearance on sites like Facebook and Instagram. If you confuse this idealized image with reality, you may be under the false impression that everyone is better than you which can crush your self-esteem and lead to depression. This is especially true for teens and young adults who are more likely to compare themselves to others. If you already suffer from low self-esteem, the illusion that everyone has it better off than you will just make you feel worse.

Causing Social Isolation and Other Negative Emotions

Another commonly cited reason for the negative impact of social media on mental health is its link with social isolation. Depressed people are more likely to isolate themselves socially and chose only to interact indirectly through social media platforms. But communication online tends to be superficial and is lacking when compared to real-life interaction explains Panic. What this means is not that social media leads to isolation but the other way around, possibly explaining why we find so many depressed persons on these sites.

Lastly, social media use may generate negative emotions in you like envy, jealousy, dislike, loneliness, and many others and this may worsen your depressive symptoms.

Why We Need to Take This Seriously

Both depression and social media use are on the rise according to epidemiological studies. Since each one has an impact on the other, we have to start thinking of healthier ways to use social media. Teens and young adults are especially vulnerable to the negative impact of social media on mental health.

Advice on Social Media Use

Although these findings did not provide any cause-effect explanation regarding Facebook and depression[7], they still do prove that social media use may not be a good way to handle depression. For this reason, the leading authors of these studies gave some suggestions as to how clinicians and people can make use of such findings.

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One suggestion is that clinicians should ask patients about their social media habits. Then they can advise them on how to change their outlook on social media use or even suggest limiting their time spent on social media.

Some social media users may also exhibit addictive behavior; they may spend too much time due to compulsive urges. Any compulsive behavior is bound to lead to feelings of guilt which can worsen depressive symptoms.

Having Unhealthy Relationship with Social Media

If you feel like your relationship with social media is unhealthy, then consider the advice on healthy social media use provided by psychology experts from Links Psychology[8]:

Avoid negative social comparison – always keep in mind that how people portray themselves and their lives on social media is not a realistic picture, but rather an idealized one. Also, avoid comparing yourself to others because this behavior can lead to negative self-talk.

Remember that social media is not a replacement for real life – Social media is great for staying in touch and having fun, but it should never replace real-world interactions.

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Avoid releasing personal information – For your safety and privacy, make sure to be careful with what you post online.

Report users who bully and harass you – It’s easy to be a bully in the anonymous and distant world of social media. Don’t take such offense personally and report those who abuse social media to harass others.

The bits of advice listed above can help you establish a healthy relationship with social media. Always keep these things in mind to avoid losing an objective perspective of what social media is and how it is different from real life. If you are currently suffering from depression, talk to your doctor about what is bothering you so that you can get the treatment you need to get better. Tell your doctor about your social media use and see if they could give you some advice on this topic.

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