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15 Things To Tell Yourself Today To Live Better

15 Things To Tell Yourself Today To Live Better

Calling yourself an unworthy idiot might be high up there as one of the worst things you can do if you want to improve your life. But admit it, we sometimes say things like that to ourselves. Your mind is truly listening to everything you say. Do you want to improve your daily life? Here’s a list of things to tell yourself today!

1. I Will Fight For What I Want

It is important to be strong, mentally. For instance, if you really want to lose weight, you need to be confident that you can do it. Tell yourself that you deserve more from life. You deserve to be healthy. You deserve to be the sexiest guy or girl in the room. Now, be brave and go get it!

2. I Am Proud Of Who I Am

We all come from different backgrounds, and there’s no shame in who you are. It is important that you walk tall, and embrace your individuality. Did you fail in the past? It doesn’t matter. You now have the opportunity to do things better. Keep your chin held high and let the world see that you’re proud.

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3. I Have A Reason To Smile

Not every day is going to go your way. Your car might run out of gas, you might be late for work, or you might be behind on bills. No matter what’s happening, you need to stand back and say to yourself, “I have a reason to smile.” Think of all the good things in your life. Having a positive attitude is the key to turning things around for yourself.

4. I Do The Best I Can

There are situations where you won’t come out on top. For instance, not every athlete will win every competition they’re in. The point is that you are trying your best to be a winner. Focus on that, and you’re sure to live better.

5. I Will Make Time For My Goals Today

More and more people are living with very full schedules – work, kids, sports, spouse – and it often seems like there isn’t enough time to get everything done in one day. However, if you tell yourself in the morning that you will make time to accomplish your goals, you will find that you have more time than you thought.

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6. I Am Worth Something

There are days that you might feel worthless, like you’re not doing enough, but most of this is due to a negative attitude. If you wake up every morning and tell yourself that you are worth something to someone, even if it’s your kids, your spouse, or even your parents, you will feel much better. A positive attitude is the foundation for living better.

7. I Will Accomplish Something Today

Similar to making time to accomplish your goals in one day, you need to make sure you accomplish something. For instance, if you haven’t done the laundry in a few days, or you haven’t played a board game with your kids, set that as your goal for today. Take small steps, focusing on one goal each day. Accomplishing something, no matter how small, is better than accomplishing nothing.

8. I Will Make Today Count

Each day it is important to go on living your life to the fullest. You want to go out and do what you can and always strive to be the best person that you can be.

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9. I Will Help Someone Today

Being a good Samaritan is a great way to live better, and to feel better about the person you are. Whether you help an elderly person cross the street, or retrieve a kite from a tree for a little kid at the park, you’re helping someone, which in turn helps you.

10. I Will Think Good Thoughts

As I mentioned, positive thinking is the key to being successful and living better. You want to push the negative thoughts out of your mind, and focus on only those that are positive, even when negativity starts to creep in.

11. I Will Enjoy Today

Again, you need to think positively about today, and remember to enjoy the time you have on this earth. Make sure you do at least one ‘just for fun’ activity each day. Having joy in your heart and mind is essential to living better.

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12. I Am Strong

Many people think that they can’t accomplish certain goals because they aren’t ‘strong’ enough to do so. It is important that you realize you can accomplish anything you set your mind to, and that you are stronger than you think.

13. I Am In Charge Of My Life

Once you come to the realization that you are in charge of your life, you will begin to live better. It is the choices you make each day that make you who you are. You have control of those choices, so you can definitely choose to be better and to live better.

14. I Believe In The Impossible

You will run into people who think your goals and dreams are impossible. In response simply say, “I believe in the impossible.” This means that you believe your dreams will come true if you just live the right way, work hard, and be determined. Remember, if you believe it, you can achieve it.

15. I Will Not Believe The Naysayers

When trying to live better, it’s important to put some other people out of your mind – the naysayers, that is. People who bring you down, tell you that you aren’t worth it, that you aren’t strong, and that you can’t do anything, are people you should ignore. You want to bring positivity to your life, so do away with the negativity.

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Last Updated on January 16, 2020

12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

The way you feel about yourself greatly influences how you live and interact with others. If you are confident about yourself, you tend to see yourself positively and actually enjoy spending time with and around people. You don’t feel self-conscious or awkward around others, and that allows you to live your fullest and happiest life.

However, if you’re drowning in a sea of self-doubt, hesitancy and shyness, you often withdraw and isolate yourself from others and avoid interacting and connecting with people. That anxiety you feel in the pit of your stomach when you are around people is holding you back greatly and it is not good for your emotional health and overall well-being. You need to do something about it if you are low in self-confidence or have friends or family members who are not confident.

“Confidence isn’t walking into a room thinking you’re better than everyone, it’s walking in not having to compare yourself to anyone” – Anonymous

Here are simple, practical tips to boost your confidence right now and make you feel and act your best.

1. Stop labeling yourself as awkward, timid or shy.

When you label yourself as awkward, timid or shy, you sub-consciously tell your mind to act accordingly and psychologically feel inclined to live up to those expectations. Instead of labeling and entertaining negative self-talk, visualize and affirm yourself as confident and strong. Close your eyes for a minute and visualize yourself in different situation as you would like to be.

Be your own cheerleader. Experts believe that positive affirmation and good mental practices like picturing yourself winning or achieving a goal can lead to greater feelings of self-assurance and prepare your brain for success.[1] As the saying goes, “seeing is believing.” Picture yourself as confident and soon enough you will begin to manifest behavior that gives evidence to this new ‘fact.’

2. Recognize that the world is not focused on you (unless, of course, you are Kanye West).

That means you don’t have to be excessively sensitive about who you are or what you are doing (or not doing). You are not on the center stage; there is no need for preoccupation with self and perfectionism. As rap music star Rocko sings, “You just do you and I will do me, aight?”

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Forget about trying to please everyone or being perfect. Trying to be perfect and being a people-pleaser puts too much pressure on you and creates unnecessary anxiety. Besides, people are too preoccupied with their own issues to pay much attention to your every move unless, of course, you are a mega famous, super celebrity like Beyonce or Kanye West.

3. Focus on other people as opposed to yourself.

If you are low on confidence, self-conscious, nervous and shy in social situations, focus your attention on other people and what they are saying or doing instead of focusing on your own awkwardness.

For example, think about what it is that is interesting about the person who’s the centre of the party or the guy or girl you are talking with. Prompt them to talk more about themselves and be genuinely curious and interested in what they say. You will instantly come across as confident and warmhearted.

People generally want to talk about themselves, be heard and understood. They will love it when you’re eager and willing to listen to them and really hear what they have to say.

This habit of focusing more on what you love in others as opposed to what you dislike in yourself will not only help you become more assertive and comfortable in virtually all social situations, but also instantly make you feel great about yourself.

4. Know (and accept) yourself for who you are.

Chinese military general, strategist and philosopher Sun Tzu, author of the internationally acclaimed book The Art of War, said, “Know yourself and you will win all battles.” Even in the battle with lack of confidence, you will need to know yourself to win.

Knowing yourself starts with understanding that people are not all the same, neither are all social situation suitable for everyone. You might not be confident in large gatherings, but you could be bold and confident in one-on-one and small group interactions. We all have our own unique gifts and unique ways of expressing ourselves. Embrace yours!

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Introverts, for example, have a quiet confidence that is, unfortunately, often confused for shyness. They are naturally low key and prefer to spend time alone. However, this natural disposition affords them certain unique gifts, such as an ability to listen better than most people and notice things that others don’t.

Your uniqueness is where your strength and advantage lies. You won’t be comfortable and confident in all situations all the time. Albert Einstein said,

“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

5. Crack a smile.

If there is one sure way to instantly boost your confidence, it’s cracking a smile. Christine Clapp, a public speaking expert at The George Washington University, says that flashing those pretty, pearly white teeth will immediately make you appear both confident and composed. But, the effect of smiling is not just external. Studies show that smiling can also help nix feelings of stress and pave the way for a happier and more relaxed you.[2]

Not a bad return for something seemingly so trite, wouldn’t you agree?

6. Break a sweat—with exercise.

Working out is another great way to make yourself feel amazing and confident. Science has shown that exercising increases your endorphins, helps reduce stress, tones your muscles and makes you feel happy and confident.[3]

And hey, all you have to do is take a walk a few times a week and you’ll see the benefits. What seems to matter—as far as your confidence goes—is whether you break a sweat, not how strenuous your session is, which is pretty cool. Start working out now.

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7. Groom yourself.

This might seem mundane, but it’s amazing how much of a difference a shower and shave can have on your confidence and self-image. And when you spritz on a scent, the boost on confidence and self-esteem is incredible. As it turns out, your favorite fragrance does more than make you smell oh-so-nice.

A study found that a fragrance can inspire confidence in men. Interestingly, the study also found that the more a man likes the fragrance, the more confident he might feel. Another study found that 90% of women feel more confident while wearing a scent than those who go fragrance-free.

8. Dress nicely.

Another one that might seem trite, but it works. If you dress nicely, you’ll instantly feel good about yourself and give your confidence a real boost. That is largely because you’ll feel attractive, presentable and sometimes even successful in nice clothes.

While dressing nicely means something different for everyone, it does not necessarily mean wearing $500 designer outfits. It means wearing clothes that are clean, that you are comfortable in and that are nice-looking and presentable, including casual clothes.

9. Do activities you enjoy.

Whether it is reading a book, playing a musical instrument, riding your bicycle or going fishing, do what you really enjoy and what makes you truly happy often. It will boost your self-esteem, soothe your ego and allow you to identify with your gifts and talents. That will in turn bolster your self-belief and grow your confidence exponentially.

You might not become popular for doing what you love, but you might not even want to be popular at all. Being popular doesn’t make you happy; doing what you love does.

10. Prepare for the possibility of rejection / setback.

Late World No. 1 professional tennis player Arthur Ashe said, “One important key to success is self-confidence. A key to self-confidence is preparation.” You need to prepare for the possibility of rejection and setback.

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Why?

Everybody suffers rejection and setback at one point or another. You are not exempted. The question on your mind, therefore, should not be if you will be rejected, but how you will handle rejection when it comes.

Prepare yourself adequately in every situation to minimize the risk and effect of rejection and so that your confidence is not broken. For example, learn public speaking and rehearse what you are going to say beforehand if you have landed a public speaking engagement. That way, you are sure of yourself and confident you have what it takes to hack it. If you are rejected, don’t take it personally.

Rejection and setbacks happen to the best of us. Take it as a learning experience. Learn from your mistakes and move on.

11. Face uncomfortable situations square in the face.

Don’t run away from uncomfortable situations. Running away from people or situations because you feel scared, shy or timid only confirms and reinforces your shyness. Instead, face the situation that makes you uneasy square in the face. For example, go ahead and talk to that person you are afraid to approach, or go straight to the front of your yoga class! What’s the worst that can happen?

Prepare and be ready for any eventuality. The more you face your fears, the more you realize you are stronger than you thought and the more confident you get. This simple, yet admittedly courageous, act makes you unstoppable. You get comfortable being uncomfortable and begin to feel like you can take on the world. And that is the hallmark of someone destined for great things.

12. Sit up straight and walk tall—you are awesome!

Yes, sit up straight and believe you are awesome. Don’t slump in your chair or slouch your shoulders. Experts say the right stance can not only keep your self-esteem and mood lifted, but also lead to more confidence in your own thoughts.[4]

The way to sit is to open up your chest and keep your head level so that you look and feel poised and assured. And when you get up, stand tall and walk like you’re on a mission. People who sit up straight and walk tall are more attractive and instantly feel more confident. Try it now: you’ll feel fierce and confident just by sitting up straight and walking tall.

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