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15 Things Self-Destructive People Do That Makes Their Life Harder

15 Things Self-Destructive People Do That Makes Their Life Harder

Have you ever wondered why some people seem to have a really difficult time in life? Have you often thought that they should turn their life around? Well, we have, and here are 15 things we’ve noticed that self-destructive people do that makes their life much harder.

1. They are friends with people who bring them down.

Self-destructive people often surround themselves with other self-destructive people. Sadly, in most cases, the friends they have are often the ones to help them along their journey in a negative way. It would be difficult for a self-destructive person to be friends with someone who would motivate them to do the right thing.

2.They don’t need any help.

People with problems, such as drug or alcohol addiction, are always inclined to say, “I don’t need help.” In reality, these are the people who need the most help – they are just unable or unwilling to realize it.

3. They turn to alternate methods for coping.

Many self-destructive people who suffer from mental issues, such as depression, often look for other ways to cope with their problems. In many cases, they turn to alcohol or drugs, which allow them to forget the problem for the moment. Unfortunately, this doesn’t help them deal with the real issues, and often creates new ones.

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4. They date the wrong kind of people.

Self-destructive individuals often have low self-esteem. For this reason, they often choose partners who help make their self-image thoughts come true. In many cases, they will allow themselves to become victims of sexual, physical, and mental abuse because the person they’re with always says, “I’m sorry,” “I love you,” and, “I won’t ever do that again.” Being in a relationship like this will just bring you down further and further.

5. They spend money on wants not necessarily needs.

People can also be financially self-destructive. These types of people often spend money on items they want, such as designer clothes, a fancy car, and the latest technological devices. However, they often neglect the things that are really important, such as bills, a home, and food.

6. They repeatedly make the same mistakes.

It is in most people’s nature to learn from their mistakes and not make the same one twice. This is not true with self-destructive individuals. Instead, they continually make the same mistake twice, whether it’s doing drugs, drinking and driving, or being careless about their sexual behavior.

7. They live in the moment.

Although most people try to live in the moment, they mean that they’re enjoying the time they have today. However, they also think about the consequences of their actions. Individuals who are self-destructive don’t think about the consequences of their actions, and only think about what they are thinking and feeling in the exact moment they make a decision, often ruining relationships around them.

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8. They are habitual liars.

People who are self-destructive are often habitual liars. In fact, they often find themselves lying to cover up lies, forgetting what they have lied about and to whom. They are definitely people who cannot be trusted.

9. They feel they have no positive assets.

Similar to self-esteem, self-destructive individuals only believe in and focus on their flaws. In fact, they feel they have no added value to give the world, and believe there is no point in striving to be a better person.

10. They often lack good hygiene habits.

This does not mean that every self-destructive person doesn’t shower, but they may not take care of themselves otherwise. For instance, they may be lacking a good tooth brushing and dental flossing, as well as other grooming habits, such as shaving or combing their hair.

11. They seclude themselves from the ones who love them most.

One of the most difficult aspects of being around a self-destructive person is being someone who truly loves them for who they were and are. Self-destructive individuals tend to seclude them from the ones who love them most, as they are the ones who would offer to help them, or get them the help they need to become better.

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12. They have no ambition in life.

Due to their low self-esteem, self-destructive individuals have no ambition in life. They feel they can’t accomplish anything, so what’s the point in trying, and that’s something they simply don’t do. They often can’t hold a job, and if they do, it’s not usually an upstanding position.

13. They are often seriously unhealthy.

In combination with the bad habits they develop – drugs and alcohol abuse – they often forgo making other healthy decisions. They don’t eat foods that are good for them, if they even eat, and they definitely don’t consult a physician when they aren’t feeling well, even if it could be something serious.

14. They start fights for no reason.

Because they don’t focus on the consequences of their actions, they tend to pick fights for no reason. Oftentimes, they focus on the biggest person in the room, thinking they will be the one to show them a lesson, even though there’s really no chance. They thrive on violence and anger.

15. They steal and cheat.

Again, most self-destructive individuals aren’t upstanding citizens. Because they don’t hold a job or care about consequences, they often partake in illegal activities, such as stealing, and are often cheaters, whether in competition or relationships.

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Self-destructive behavior is bad. Not only are these people taking themselves down, they also take down the people around them who love them. Essentially, their poor behavior and bad decisions destroy everything around them.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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