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15 Things To Remember If You Love A Person With Autism

15 Things To Remember If You Love A Person With Autism

The rumors keep screaming at us about what causes autism. The trauma of having someone with autism can be hard to deal with. According to estimates 70 million people worldwide have autism. In the United States autism is the fastest growing disability. Famous and successful people likeDan Aykroyd, Susan Boyle and Daryl Hannah have been diagnosed on the autism spectrum.

Autism is a complex developmental disability. This condition affects the normal function of the brain and thus alters the development of the individual’s communication and social interaction skills. Accordingly, autism related costs average $65, 000 per family.

But there is hope as millions of dollars are spent on research to find the causes and the cure for autism. As we wait, here are fifteen things you need to remember if you love someone with autism.

Autism is an infectious laugh, feeling and giving everything to emotions, confusion. Autism is not friendless, dull, what you fear it will be. — Denise Henry

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1.They shouldn’t be criticized

If you are correcting an individual, let it be done with mildly and with kindness. Discipline shouldn’t be imposed when they are angry, shut down or anxious, or they won’t be able to connect with you emotionally

2. They need to be offered real choices

Learn to offer them real choices. As you demand trust from them, let your questions be veered at offering them real choices. Ask questions that do not demand a negative response.

3. They demand actions more than words

Don’t expect words like “I love you” to be spoken from them frequently. They believe actions speak stronger than words.

4. They are highly sensitive

They have tender hearts. Innocent comments or comical behavior may be taken seriously by them. Things that are seemingly trivial may upset them.

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5. They are honest

They may speak spontaneously about what they feel, and they can say this with elements of loyalty. They are extremely honest.

6. They are not in tune with you making sudden changes

They definitely will make plans about an event long before it happens, if you have informed them about it. If there is to be a sudden change, provide an option rather than force them to cope with the sudden change of plans, something they are not good at.

7. They have a unique brain system

According to research, people with autism have connections in their brain that are uniquely their own.

8. They have heightened sensory perception

Their moods could be affected by lights, noises, temperatures and numerous other variables. It is often better to keep the lightning soft and gentle when they are around. Places like supermarkets, the cinemas or nightclubs could make them feel nervous and cause them trauma.

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9. They may not remember dates

They may forget important events such as birthdays or anniversaries as they never can understand the importance that is placed on such dates.

10. They could be improved with some music therapy

According to studies, music therapy may help individuals with autism improve their skills in important areas such as communication and social interaction.

11. They need to be hugged only at special times

Hugs need to given at times when the individual is comfortable and relaxed to receive them, or it may become claustrophobic for them.

12. They only love to talk about things they are interested in

They may not want to talk and chatter about things that they are not interested in. It is not selfish, it is simply easier for them to concentrate on discussions that have their interest.

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13. They improve with time

According to a study, there is the possibility for improvement of an individual as he/she grows. Such improvement can sometimes be dramatic.

14. They communicate with their behavior

Their change in behavior always happens for a reason. Even when they cannot relate in words, they certainly would act and display their perception of what is going around them.

15. They don’t want you to assume anything

They may not know the rules or maybe they misunderstood them. Or they may have simply forgotten. It is better not to guess with them if you are not sure. With them you have to show some consistency.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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