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15 Things To Remember If You Love A Person With Autism

15 Things To Remember If You Love A Person With Autism

The rumors keep screaming at us about what causes autism. The trauma of having someone with autism can be hard to deal with. According to estimates 70 million people worldwide have autism. In the United States autism is the fastest growing disability. Famous and successful people likeDan Aykroyd, Susan Boyle and Daryl Hannah have been diagnosed on the autism spectrum.

Autism is a complex developmental disability. This condition affects the normal function of the brain and thus alters the development of the individual’s communication and social interaction skills. Accordingly, autism related costs average $65, 000 per family.

But there is hope as millions of dollars are spent on research to find the causes and the cure for autism. As we wait, here are fifteen things you need to remember if you love someone with autism.

Autism is an infectious laugh, feeling and giving everything to emotions, confusion. Autism is not friendless, dull, what you fear it will be. — Denise Henry

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1.They shouldn’t be criticized

If you are correcting an individual, let it be done with mildly and with kindness. Discipline shouldn’t be imposed when they are angry, shut down or anxious, or they won’t be able to connect with you emotionally

2. They need to be offered real choices

Learn to offer them real choices. As you demand trust from them, let your questions be veered at offering them real choices. Ask questions that do not demand a negative response.

3. They demand actions more than words

Don’t expect words like “I love you” to be spoken from them frequently. They believe actions speak stronger than words.

4. They are highly sensitive

They have tender hearts. Innocent comments or comical behavior may be taken seriously by them. Things that are seemingly trivial may upset them.

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5. They are honest

They may speak spontaneously about what they feel, and they can say this with elements of loyalty. They are extremely honest.

6. They are not in tune with you making sudden changes

They definitely will make plans about an event long before it happens, if you have informed them about it. If there is to be a sudden change, provide an option rather than force them to cope with the sudden change of plans, something they are not good at.

7. They have a unique brain system

According to research, people with autism have connections in their brain that are uniquely their own.

8. They have heightened sensory perception

Their moods could be affected by lights, noises, temperatures and numerous other variables. It is often better to keep the lightning soft and gentle when they are around. Places like supermarkets, the cinemas or nightclubs could make them feel nervous and cause them trauma.

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9. They may not remember dates

They may forget important events such as birthdays or anniversaries as they never can understand the importance that is placed on such dates.

10. They could be improved with some music therapy

According to studies, music therapy may help individuals with autism improve their skills in important areas such as communication and social interaction.

11. They need to be hugged only at special times

Hugs need to given at times when the individual is comfortable and relaxed to receive them, or it may become claustrophobic for them.

12. They only love to talk about things they are interested in

They may not want to talk and chatter about things that they are not interested in. It is not selfish, it is simply easier for them to concentrate on discussions that have their interest.

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13. They improve with time

According to a study, there is the possibility for improvement of an individual as he/she grows. Such improvement can sometimes be dramatic.

14. They communicate with their behavior

Their change in behavior always happens for a reason. Even when they cannot relate in words, they certainly would act and display their perception of what is going around them.

15. They don’t want you to assume anything

They may not know the rules or maybe they misunderstood them. Or they may have simply forgotten. It is better not to guess with them if you are not sure. With them you have to show some consistency.

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Specialized in motivation and personal growth, providing advice to make readers fulfilled and spurred on to achieve all that they desire in life.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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