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15 Things Only Book Lovers Would Truly Understand

15 Things Only Book Lovers Would Truly Understand

Growing up, I found books were the center of my life. I wouldn’t have attained so much in life if I wasn’t such an avid reader. Books contributed to my well rounded growth and anytime I see a book now there still is a turn on. Here are fifteen things only book lovers like me will truly understand.

1. They understand solitude

Reading a wonderful book requires a level of being alone, away from distractions and interruptions. They don’t understand socializing or being everywhere at once, but being alone magnifies the excitement of gaining more knowledge.

2. They understand the uniqueness of a book

They know watching a movie adaptation of a book can never be like reading the actual thing. They would prefer to read and challenge their imaginations rather than be consumed by any other medium.

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3. They understand what a hard copy of a book means

They understand the smell that emanates from a book and it adds to the excitement of reading it. It is not the same than reading on a Kindle or an I-pad.

4. They understand the relevance of a book

They know that a book adds to the true nature of our existence. Lending you a book is a nightmare for them. They find it so difficult to let go of their books.

5. They understand connections can be made through books

Yes connections with characters, places, and even the author can be made through reading a book. It is like freedom from themselves and the exploration of a new place and time.

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6. They understand the emotions that come with a good book

There are times when they finish a book and they are so caught in the drama that they could cry, laugh or wish it was rewritten to suit their expectations.

7. They understand a good book could mean another sleepless night

They don’t like to be interrupted and a good book can be so consuming they don’t want to sleep. A good book means needing to finish it and knowing what happens at the end as soon as they can.

8. They understand the true value of a book

This could mean a serious toll in their bank account or walking ten miles to borrow a book from a local library. They know what the essence of a book is to their intellectual growth and they are willing to pay the price to get one.

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9. They understand they can only build great friendships with other book lovers

Friendships with someone else means digging deep into what he or she has read and how intellectually rich he or she is. They understand cultivating friendships means also discussing about favorite authors, exchanging books, and obsessing about fictional characters together.

10. They prefer books to people

They understand books can be a helpful therapy through distressing times and could be a better source of comfort than words from another person.

11. They understand a perfect holiday is spent with a book

Since books could offer them a transition to a different place and time, they would prefer to either include it in a perfect holiday or make reading one their ideal vacation experience.

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12. They understand that starting a book could be hard…

Starting a book could mean a lot of expectations, excitement and desires. Once you start a book it becomes hard to stop and let it go.

13. …And finishing it can be even harder

While reading a book can come with a lot of expectations, finishing it can be disappointing and leave you exhausted. And no book lover would want to be told about the end of a book until he or she reaches it.

14. They never have a favorite book

They have read so many wonderful books, it is difficult to have one as a favorite pick. And it is difficult to answer such a question if they are ever interrogated about this.

15. They understand that no other activity can be as worthy as reading

Reading takes most of your time and it is what your world revolves around. Doing any other activity doesn’t mean much and can quickly lead to disinterest or you fantasizing about a book.

Featured photo credit: A young lovely woman relax reading an absorbing novel in beautiful the park via shutterstock.com

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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