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15 Things Happy People Do On a Daily Basis

15 Things Happy People Do On a Daily Basis

There’s not one single equation out there that results in happiness for everyone. People are all different; the things that make one person happy might not work for another. But there are some things that all happy people have in common. These 15 things are things that happy people do that you should start doing too.

1. Compliment other people.

Try your best to see the good in others. When you find something you admire about someone, let them know.

2. Volunteer and do small acts of kindness.

Service is a funny thing; as you help others, you help yourself. You lose your bitterness, your jealousy, your misunderstandings, even your unfair judgments. You see the world in a different way, a better way. These acts can be as big as volunteering at soup kitchen every week or just holding the door open for a mom with children in her arms.

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If you look for opportunities to serve, you will find them. They might not be at the most opportune times for you, but it wouldn’t be true service if you only helped others when it was convenient for you.

3. Early to bed, early to rise.

Your mind and body need rest. Get enough sleep at night so that you have the energy and will-power to get up and get things done.

4. Exercise and eat healthy.

Take care of your body. Be active, use it. Eat healthy and exercise.

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5. Meditate.

Take time every so often to just sit and clear your mind. A healthy mind and spirit are just as important as a healthy body.

6. Build strong relationships with friends and family.

Friends and family can be your support and your cheerleaders. They can be there for you when you need it and you can be there for them. Do what you can to build strong relationships with those around you. Be reliable and understanding. Learn how to make a relationship thrive.

7. Work hard.

Whether you are at work or at home, fulfill your responsibilities. Do what needs to get done and do it right. A job well done is a great way to lift your spirit.

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8. Set and accomplish goals.

Everyone is happy when they accomplish a long awaited goal or dream. Be active in setting goals. Be realistic in your expectations. Work hard to make things happen.

9. See failures and weaknesses as opportunities to improve.

When you find a flaw or a weakness in yourself that you aren’t happy with, then look at that as a chance to improve, to become a better you. Remember: that doesn’t mean you have to change and become someone else,

10. Listen.

When someone is talking to you, don’t be planning out in your mind what you’re to going to say as a response. Listen to them. What they have to say might be more important than what you’re planning on saying. Learn to have good communication skills.

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11. Express gratitude.

A simple “thank you” can go a long way. When you look for opportunities to express gratitude throughout the day, you will find them. You will see the good in people around you and the willingness that they have to help others.

12. Don’t judge or compare.

When most people compare themselves to another person, they are comparing their weaknesses with another’s strengths. It’s a flawed perception of reality. Don’t judge other people; you don’t know what they’re going through. Don’t compare yourself to other people. Your life is unique to you. You are the only person who can truly understand what it means to be you.

13. Learn to forgive; don’t hold grudges.

Forgiveness is hard, but by holding a grudge, you are the one who feels it in the end. Holding in resentment, anger, or hatred is unhealthy. It resides in you and puts you on the road to becoming bitter and pessimistic.

14. Have healthy coping strategies.

When people face hard times in their lives they have coping strategies that they fall back on. Some people eat, some people cry, some people get angry. Everyone’s coping strategies are different. Happy people are able to use coping strategies that still allow for them and the people around them to be healthy and strong.

15. Participate in activities.

These activities are things that are meaningful to you, are in line with your values and are things you feel strongly about. This could be anything from participating in religious organizations to joining a rally for animal rights. Be active in things you are passionate about.

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Last Updated on May 21, 2019

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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