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15 Reasons The Eldest Child Is Always A High-achiever

15 Reasons The Eldest Child Is Always A High-achiever

What do Oprah Winfrey, Sheryl Sandberg and Hilary Clinton have in common? They are all firstborn children. According to studies, if you are the first born child you have a solid chance of becoming more qualified and ambitious than your other siblings. Although many firstborn children may not agree with this notion and assertion, let us consider some reasons why the eldest child is a high achiever.

1.They are attended to the most

Before the arrival of siblings, firstborns do get most of the attention. It seems parents appreciate the arrival of firstborns and try to make an impact with them.

2. They have no one to teach them

They have to learn most of the things they know on their own. Unlike later siblings who have someone to instruct and pioneer them on the direction to go, firstborn’s do not have any one to look up to.

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3. They are surrounded with stability

Firstborn children are not bamboozled with the marriage crisis that somehow later erupts when love starts to dissipate. Firstborn children arrive into the stability of their parents who are still blossoming in the excitement of love.

4. They are more disciplined

While parents tend to relax a bit after the eldest child has a sibling or two, the eldest child is more scolded and disciplined than their siblings.

5. They have no early competition

When siblings emerge, they all start vying for recognition in different ways. One could be want to be a doctor, and another a musician. However the firstborn hits an early start in pursuing his interests with no competition appearing until later.

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6. They are given the most matured treatment

There is a theory that if you treat a child like an adult he or she will respond the same way. When the eldest child appears, he or she will grow accordingly to the intellectual culture of their home. Since there are no other young ones in the home, the eldest child grows in the intellectual culture that is already present in the home.

7. They are more pressured to succeed at school

According to a research eldest children face more pressure to succeed at school. This is as a result of parents having high expectations for their first children.

8. They are raised to lead

The eldest child are like surrogate parent towards his or her siblings. They fulfill parental roles towards their siblings when their parents are not around.

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9. They are raised to be responsible

Most times when things go wrong and mistakes are made, they are the ones who take the blame. They are nurtured to act responsible.

10. They grow up faster

Situations make the elder child grow up faster and adapt to tough situations. They get wiser while their younger ones are pampered through the process of growth.

11. They can deal with setbacks

As they grow older, the eldest child will not always have his or her way. They face setbacks, challenges early and they have to deal with them.

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12. They acknowledge hard work

They are quickly saddled with laborious or intellectual work as they grow. They become accustomed to working hard and being more resourceful.

13. They can sustain their budget

The elder child because of being responsible for not only themselves has to master the art of managing budgets and working with whatever limited resources they have.

14. They are disciplined

The discipline they receive from their parents build their focus and drives them to be more resilient and studious.

15. They are more down to earth

There were not many rooms for failures or cutting corners. The older one has to be a pacesetter to the younger. Thus they were more honest, truthful and sincere in proving to their parents that they could take charge.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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