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15 Reasons The Eldest Child Is Always A High-achiever

15 Reasons The Eldest Child Is Always A High-achiever

What do Oprah Winfrey, Sheryl Sandberg and Hilary Clinton have in common? They are all firstborn children. According to studies, if you are the first born child you have a solid chance of becoming more qualified and ambitious than your other siblings. Although many firstborn children may not agree with this notion and assertion, let us consider some reasons why the eldest child is a high achiever.

1.They are attended to the most

Before the arrival of siblings, firstborns do get most of the attention. It seems parents appreciate the arrival of firstborns and try to make an impact with them.

2. They have no one to teach them

They have to learn most of the things they know on their own. Unlike later siblings who have someone to instruct and pioneer them on the direction to go, firstborn’s do not have any one to look up to.

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3. They are surrounded with stability

Firstborn children are not bamboozled with the marriage crisis that somehow later erupts when love starts to dissipate. Firstborn children arrive into the stability of their parents who are still blossoming in the excitement of love.

4. They are more disciplined

While parents tend to relax a bit after the eldest child has a sibling or two, the eldest child is more scolded and disciplined than their siblings.

5. They have no early competition

When siblings emerge, they all start vying for recognition in different ways. One could be want to be a doctor, and another a musician. However the firstborn hits an early start in pursuing his interests with no competition appearing until later.

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6. They are given the most matured treatment

There is a theory that if you treat a child like an adult he or she will respond the same way. When the eldest child appears, he or she will grow accordingly to the intellectual culture of their home. Since there are no other young ones in the home, the eldest child grows in the intellectual culture that is already present in the home.

7. They are more pressured to succeed at school

According to a research eldest children face more pressure to succeed at school. This is as a result of parents having high expectations for their first children.

8. They are raised to lead

The eldest child are like surrogate parent towards his or her siblings. They fulfill parental roles towards their siblings when their parents are not around.

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9. They are raised to be responsible

Most times when things go wrong and mistakes are made, they are the ones who take the blame. They are nurtured to act responsible.

10. They grow up faster

Situations make the elder child grow up faster and adapt to tough situations. They get wiser while their younger ones are pampered through the process of growth.

11. They can deal with setbacks

As they grow older, the eldest child will not always have his or her way. They face setbacks, challenges early and they have to deal with them.

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12. They acknowledge hard work

They are quickly saddled with laborious or intellectual work as they grow. They become accustomed to working hard and being more resourceful.

13. They can sustain their budget

The elder child because of being responsible for not only themselves has to master the art of managing budgets and working with whatever limited resources they have.

14. They are disciplined

The discipline they receive from their parents build their focus and drives them to be more resilient and studious.

15. They are more down to earth

There were not many rooms for failures or cutting corners. The older one has to be a pacesetter to the younger. Thus they were more honest, truthful and sincere in proving to their parents that they could take charge.

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Casey Imafidon

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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