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15 Inspiring Books Every Parent Should Read

15 Inspiring Books Every Parent Should Read

Some parents avoid reading parenting books because they say the books promote formulaic ways of parenting. That is an understandable concern especially considering that children aren’t robots. Children are special individuals with their own minds and character traits. However, there are some books that are just too helpful for parents who want to understand their kids’ better and raise them right. These books aren’t necessarily all parenting books—they are just good books that every parent has to read to draw inspiration and learn ways to become a better parent.

1. The Magic Years: Understanding and Handling the Problems of Early Childhood by Selma H. Fraiberg.

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    This is a classic book that was first published about 40 years ago. It offers a distinctive way to look at how kids think and why they act the way they do based on their emotional and cognitive abilities. It’s an eye-opening read that will help you appreciate that your child isn’t driving you nuts just for fun.

    2.   The Ten Greatest Gifts I Give My Children: Parenting from the Heart by Steven W. Vannoy

    The Ten Greatest Gifts I Give My Children

      Sometimes we don’t realize we are being patronizing to our children and are actually the cause of why children become rebellious and insubordinate. This book reminds us what it means to be a parent and teaches you how to employ the power of positive reinforcement and other techniques to establish a healthy, pleasant relationship with you children. A very good read.

      3.  The Five Love Languages for Children by Chapman, Campbell & Campbell

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      The Five Love Languages for Children

        Because children are unique individuals, they experience and show love in different ways. This book tells you more about the five love language for children and helps you determine which love language best suits your child. The more you understand your child’s love language, the more effectively you can communicate and the stronger you can bond with your child.

        4.  How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish

        How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk

          Like all other relationships, your relationship with your child requires effective communication to thrive. That means learning to not only be the one speaking and giving instructions, but also the one who listens and hears what your child has to say. This heartfelt book delves into this dynamic and offers valuable lessons on how to effectively handle this critical aspect of parenting that is, sadly, often badly overlooked.

          5. The Irreducible Needs of Children: What Every Child Must Have to Grow, Learn, and Flourish by T. Berry Brazelton, and Stanley Greenspan.

          The Irreducible Needs of Children_What Every Child Must Have to Grow Learn and Flourish

            How much time do children need one-on-one with a parent? What is the effect of shifting caregivers, of custody arrangements? This informative book written by two renowned child advocates answers these and other thorny questions parents often grapple with. You will even learn the seven irreducible needs of any child, in any society. A must read for anyone who cares about the welfare of children.

            6. No Regrets Parenting: Turning Long Days and Short Years into Cherished Moments with Your Kids by Harley Robart, M.D.

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            No Regrets Parenting

              An excellent quick read with irrefutable nuggets of wisdom for busy parents about being present in the life of your children. The book’s size alone means that you have no excuse not to read it no matter how busy you say you are if you truly want to avoid common areas of regret as a parent.

              7. Get Out of My Life, but First Could you Drive Me and Cheryl to the Mall: A Parent’s Guide to the New Teenager by Anthony E. Wolf

              Get Out of My Life but First Could you Drive Me and Cheryl to the Mall

                If you are the parent of an adolescent, you’ve likely had those moments when you genuinely feel your relationship with your child is suddenly going down the tubes. This well crafted book make good use humor to explain the basic issues of adolescence and offers practical guidance on how to salvage your relationship with your teenager and get the parent-child relationship back on track.

                8. Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids by Kim John Payne and Lisa M. Ross

                Simplicity Parenting

                  This fantastic book written by internationally renowned family consultant Kim John Payne offers inspiration and ideas to reduce clutter, as well as a blueprint to live with a greater sense of ease as you raise your child. It’s an amazing read that will help you change your routine so you worry less and hover less while enjoying life more in parenthood.

                  9. Siblings without Rivalry by Faber and Mazlish.

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                  Siblings without Rivalry

                    It can be quite frustrating and exhausting if you are constantly forced to play referee because your kids are always fighting. This #1 New York Times bestseller is one of the best books you’ll read on how to handle sibling relationships. It challenges the notion that constant conflict among siblings is natural and unavoidable and shows you how to teach kids to get along.

                    10. Fun on the Run!: 324 Instant Family Activities by Cynthia L. Copeland

                    Fun on the Run

                      This is an excellent travel activity book that’s written in a fun-to-read style – one of the best you’ll read, actually. The author offers tons of fresh ideas for things to do anywhere with your kids, such as when held up at restaurants, the doctor’s office or on those “booooring” car rides.  Best of all, all ideas seem like real activities that real parents would actually do. No Martha Stewart craft projects for the backseat. Hurray!

                      11. Heroes for My Son/Heroes for My Daughter by Brad Meltzer

                      Heroes for My daughter

                        An inspiring collection of heroes from whom our sons and daughters can learn from with an extra page at the back to add your own hero for your child. It’s a brilliant little book you have to read for yourself and with your child to highlight people who truly exemplify the characteristics you are trying to help your child develop and show how great humanity can actually be if we only cared enough.

                        12. 100 Promises to My Baby by Mallika Chopra

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                        100 Promises to My Baby

                          Mallika Chopra, the daughter of well-known author Deepak Chopra, reflects on motherhood by recording a series of 100 promises that she made to her baby, which we can all relate to. It’s the perfect read if you are a new parent and even more powerful to revisit as your child grows. It will help you reflect on the amazing hopes and dreams you have/had for your child and remember just the kind of parent you set out to be.

                          13. The Heart of Anger: Practical Help for Prevention and Cure of Anger in Children by Lou Priolo

                          The Heart of Anger

                            If you have an angry child and you’d like some practical, biblical-based help to correct or prevent the development of chronic “behavior problems” stemming from this anger, this is the book for you. Priolo, an experienced counselor, delves into anger’s root causes, gives you sound advice for the prevention of anger in children and even lists ways in which as parents we often unwittingly provoke our little ones to anger. It’s a great read that will help you examine the heart for anger and bring it under control.

                            14. The Sneaky Chef: Simple Strategies for Hiding Healthy Foods in Kids’ Favorite Meals by Missy Chase Lapine

                            The Sneaky Chef

                              As a parent you will do almost anything to get your child to eat healthy. Unfortunately, begging, pleading, bribing and threatening doesn’t work. This cookbook will teach you sneaky ways to effortlessly ensure your young picky eaters eat healthy. While there are some who question the author’s methods, the book is filled with neat tips and tricks you can use to provide nutrition in the cuisine your children usually crave for.

                              15. What Every 21st Century Parent Needs to Know: Facing Today’s Challenges With Wisdom and Heart by Debra W. Haffner 

                              What Every 21st Century Parent Needs to Know

                                Parenting in the 21st Century has evolved tremendously with new sets of challenges emerging, such as cyber security. Debra W. Haffner, a parenting educator for more than twenty-five years, offers one of the most authoritative guides yet on how modern parents can navigate the challenging times we live in today that are characterized by ever-evolving technology and media. As she says in the book, “The choices we make can greatly increase our chances of raising a child who becomes a happy, productive adult.”

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                                Last Updated on April 23, 2019

                                13 Ways Happy People Think and Feel Differently

                                13 Ways Happy People Think and Feel Differently

                                Let me begin by being 100% frank with you – everyone is capable of happiness.

                                Happiness is first a choice but it also takes persistence to maintain. Happiness is our birth right and my mission is to help as many people as I can live their happiest life.

                                My mission is to spread the message that everyone deserves happiness.

                                To live a happy life; however, you must do the work, gain the necessary knowledge, and increase your awareness.

                                You must fully embody this state and begin to think and feel happiness on every level of your being.

                                Often times, excuses present themselves and our mind gives us the reasons why we can’t be happy:

                                “I am too busy right now to focus on happiness”

                                “I will be happy when I finish school, when I have the money, when I am in the right relationship, when I have kids, when my children are older….”

                                “I would have had a happy life if this traumatic event had never happened”

                                “I don’t deserve happiness”

                                EVERYONE deserves happiness. The reason that you are here right now is because you have a purpose and you are on the earth to enjoy your journey.

                                Think BIGGER than your excuses. Push FARTHER than your complaints.

                                Don’t be pulled away from greatness. Get uncomfortable. At least these are what happy and successful people do on a daily basis.

                                This article highlights the top 13 tips and tricks of how happy people think and feel.

                                If you would like to begin embodying this life-changing state, then… Here are the 13 ways Happy People Think and Feel Differently:

                                1. Happy People Put Happiness First

                                Happy people have made the decision that their end goal is happiness.

                                Every situation, event, bad day ultimately ends with happiness.

                                To them, happiness is equivalent to sleep and water – it is a necessity to their life. To live an unhappy life is to have never lived at all.

                                The happy person asks,

                                “What would be the point of living if every day and moment were filled with negativity?”

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                                “Why would I deplete my energy on negativity when I expend less to be positive?”

                                They make happy-based decisions which means in EVERY MOMENT they choose happiness.

                                If their circumstances can’t change then they instead change their perspective, they look for the silver lining in the negative.

                                Happy people don’t let negativity steal their moments away – a positive mindset always prevails.

                                If you ask a happy person how their day was, they will always answer your question with a highlight or a lesson learned.

                                2. Happy People Embrace Pain

                                I know what you are thinking –

                                “No one is ALWAYS happy”

                                or …

                                “Even happy people get in bad moods”

                                and …

                                These statements are absolutely accurate.

                                Happy people aren’t always happy and they DO get into bad moods. They get overwhelmed, they feel defeated, and their feelings get hurt.

                                Happy people aren’t invincible and they feel pain just like everyone else. The only difference between happy people and people who let negativity run their lives is that…

                                Happy people quickly acknowledge their pain and they make a decision to find a way to transform their pain into something greater. They also use these 13 simple ways to shake off the sadness.

                                Happy people admit the negativity they feel and they do what it takes to get back into their natural state: happiness.

                                When your end goal is happiness, then you will find a way to achieve it no matter how much strength you have to muster.

                                3. Happy People Have a Happy Self-Image

                                We all have an image in our minds that we subconsciously live up to.

                                The reason that change is so hard is because our subconscious mind is programmed to live by how we define ourselves.

                                How are you currently defining yourself?

                                For happy people, they see themselves with a smile, positive outlook, and/or a bounce in their step. When an event or situation arises that brings in a negative emotion, they quickly change their state to resemble their natural self-image.

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                                When happy people are in a bad mood, it feels unusual to them because feeling negative isn’t aligned with how they see themselves.

                                When they feel upset, they acknowledge the negativity and look for a solution to bring their emotions to the level of how they perceive themselves.

                                Look at how you define yourself today – your mind and body are always trying to live up to the definition it is taught to believe.

                                Your body’s job is to keep you in a “normal” state because this is where it feels most comfortable.

                                If your self-image is happy, then your mind and body will naturally be brought back to where it feels at home. Your actions will be a clue to how you define yourself.

                                4. Happy People Have a Strong Support System

                                The happiest people know that it takes a village and they lean on others for support.

                                Happy people feel comfortable reaching out for help when they feel that their resistances are overpowering them. They quickly sense their negativity and they tell somebody.

                                Happy people ask for assistance when they can’t figure out a problem. Seeking help takes strength and it never gets in the way of their self-worth. Happy people appreciate the wisdom that their support system provides.

                                They have strong connections with the people who are close to them. They never trudge through tough times alone because jeopardizing their happiness for too long would be detrimental to their well-being.

                                5. Happy People Safeguard Their Minds from Negative Triggers

                                Warding off negativity is almost impossible when we live in a society that lives by what went wrong and feeds off of what could go wrong. News travels instantaneously so it would be unrealistic to shut this out of your life completely.

                                However, one strategy that happy people use to safeguard their minds is regulating their environment.

                                We have a lot of control on how we allow our environments to affect us. We can control our social media feed, the television shows and movies we watch, the books that we read, the people that we spend our time with, and the places that we hang out.

                                If happiness is your end goal, then take a good look at what is bringing you down. What triggers your unhappiness? See if there is anything in your environment that can be changed……

                                What we listen to, read, and who we hang out with influence our mind, what we think about, what we worry about, our reactions, and behaviors.

                                Happy people know what triggers a feeling of negativity and it feels out of alignment for them so they do what it takes to avoid it.

                                They might regulate their social media news feed to reflect the information that brings them positive energy. They might regulate the people that they spend their time with. It is important to hang out with like-minded people.

                                What are you triggers? How can you avoid the negativity in your environment?

                                These are ways that happy people regulate their environment and safeguard their minds.

                                6. Happy People Know When to Say “No”

                                Happy people know when to sit one out and say “no.” They do this to protect their happiness and well-being.

                                Life gets overwhelming – a lot of people need our attention and the to do list can seem never ending.

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                                Happy people give themselves permission to take the day off and they feel comfortable with saying “no” when their stress levels begin to climb. They understand that those around them aren’t benefiting from someone who is frazzled, overwhelmed, and tired.

                                A happy person identifies their negative emotion and then they quickly treat it to bring themselves back to their “normal” state, so that they can be at their best for not only themselves but for those around them, too.

                                A simple “no” can ultimately mean many more “yes’s” in the future because happiness has a long battery life. You can take a look at Leo Babauta’s article The Gentle Art of Saying No and learn to say no.

                                7. Happy People Are Good Evaluators

                                Happy people can quickly sense when something is off with themselves or others. They are very intuitive to happiness levels. When someone isn’t quite right, they are the first ones to notice.

                                Being able to evaluate happiness means that you can identify when negativity is lingering around for too long.

                                We all have bad days; however, the happy person evaluates often and quickly intervenes.

                                In other words, happy people frequently evaluate their state and immediately change when their pessimism is overshadowing their joy.

                                8. Happy People Bring Other People Up

                                What goes on inside of us is mirrored into our physical world.

                                What we think about literally consumes our life and is displayed in our work, relationships, and attitude.

                                Happy people naturally feel good inside and about themselves so they treat others the way that they treat themselves. It never feels forced to give a compliment or to help out a stranger.

                                When we are truly happy with ourselves, everyone around us has a better experience. Happy people are kind to themselves and because of this, it feels natural to them to want to make others’ happy, too.

                                9. Happy People Go After Their Dreams

                                Happy people are always following the joyful path. They make happy-based decisions and because of this, they always end up where they want to be.

                                It’s absolutely impossible to be happy by following an undesirable path, which is quite opposite for unhappy people.

                                Most people journey through life on a path they think they are “supposed” to be own. Warning signs (negativity) are often ignored because they truly believe that these feelings are a normal part of life.

                                Negativity is NOT normal.

                                The happiest people investigate the negativity in their life and quickly analyze the results. This process allows them to get back on the joyful path which ends in a desirable outcome.

                                Follow your happiness and your dreams will come true (If that isn’t motivation then I don’t know what is!)

                                In addition to happiness, here are 14 amazing things that happen when you live your passion.

                                10. Happy People Never Sweat the Small Stuff

                                The only expectation that the happy person has is that they remain in a joyful state.

                                They rarely have expectations for the events and people in their lives because they know that this is a sure way to get let down.

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                                The happiest people take life as it comes – you could say that they roll with the punches. When you don’t have expectations, thenyoue can just sit back and watch how beautifully life unfolds.

                                Happy people understand that bad things are inevitable, they are a part of life – The car will break, the kids will make mistakes, people will be late, and dinner will burn.

                                If it’s not anything seriously affecting their lives, then they don’t give their energy to it.

                                11. Happy People Rarely Have to Prove That They Are Right

                                Happy people remember that it’s more important to live up to what they believe. When you live your life aligned with your belief system, then there is no need to explain or prove yourself to others.

                                Differences in opinions are inevitable, but the happiest of people know it’s wasted energy to defend their position.

                                It is more effective to simply show people, through actions, how you think, feel, and what you believe.

                                Energy is saved, arguments are diminished, and credibility/respect are gained when we live by what we believe.

                                12. Happy People Smile (Even When They Don’t Want To)

                                Smiling is one of the healthiest things we can do; and happy people use this simple trick quite often.

                                It has been proven that smiling has the ability to boost your immune system, decrease stress levels, and can even make you look younger. The benefits of smiling have even been backed up by science.[1]

                                Better yet, smiling is contagious. When you engage in a quick smile, you are likely to brighten someone else’s day along with your own. It is no wonder why happy people smile often!

                                13. Happy People Live Life in the Present Moment.

                                When we are genuinely happy, we are living for the moment.

                                Happy people let go of the past, enjoy the present, and look forward to the future. They take the moments for what they are worth – they only invest their energy in what feels right to them.

                                Everyone is capable of living a happy-centered life. You deserve a life that you desire – your dream life. All you have to start doing is make happy-based decisions TODAY.

                                In every moment, decide on what makes you happy – decide on what gets you excited. Stop doing what you don’t love, don’t listen to the people that you dislike.

                                If you are engaging in something that isn’t bringing you joy, then quit doing it. Listen to your heart, stop ignoring the warning signs (negativity) because they are there for a reason.

                                I have observed, studied, and interviewed some of the happiest and most successful people along with some of the most miserable and self-loathing.

                                It starts with one decision – happiness.

                                The happiest, most successful people choose happiness with EACH and EVERY decision. And you can start doing this today.

                                Featured photo credit: Autumn Goodman via unsplash.com

                                Reference

                                [1] Harvard Business Review: The Science Behind the Smile

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