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15 Habits of Highly Fulfilled People

15 Habits of Highly Fulfilled People

You know those people who always seem to have smile on their face, the ones who seem to have all the world’s secrets tucked away in their pockets?  Chances are, those people seem as happy and content as they do because they live highly fulfilled lives.  If you’re thinking, “Hey, I want that too!  How can I live a highly fulfilled life?”  The good news is: you’ve come to the right place.  And the truth is, as bewildering and confusing as finding fulfillment might seem, it’s really not quite as hard as you’d think.  Read on for a list of what fulfilled people do, and perhaps you’ll be inspired to start doing these things too:

1. They do what they love

People who are highly fulfilled do what they love on a regular basis.  They believe that life is meant to be enjoyed, and it is best enjoyed when they’re doing what they enjoy.  Whether it’s dancing, painting, cooking, doing yoga, or reading, think about what you love to do and find a way to make time for it.

2. They set reasonable goals

Highly fulfilled people do not create to-do lists that are a mile long simply because they know they will not be able to get all those tasks accomplished.  And that’s okay with them, because they focus on quality over quantity.  They know that anything worth doing is worth doing well, and by doing things right the first time, they won’t have to go back and re-do them.  Think about what you can reasonably accomplish within a day, and put only those things on your to-do list.

3. They have high standards

Being a fulfilled person does not necessarily equate to being a perfectionist (especially because “perfect” is always out of reach, a perfectionist mindset is actually quite unfulfilling). However, people who are fulfilled typically set high standards for themselves because they’re confident they can achieve them and they take pride in what they do.  Think about how you can raise the bar in your professional life and your personal life.  Ask your boss for feedback on what you can do to improve.  Ask your spouse or significant other what you can do to be a better husband/ wife/ partner.

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4. They embrace challenges

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    Unlike some people, highly fulfilled people don’t run away from challenges.  They embrace them because they know that anytime they tackle a challenge, they come out stronger on the other side.  Whether it’s learning a new language, enforcing green policies to help the environment, giving an important speech, or spearheading a project at work, don’t be afraid to take on the things that might be a challenge to you.  Not only will it make you a stronger person, but it will also make you feel good too.

    5. They are acutely aware of their strengths and weaknesses

    Fulfilled people know what they do well and the areas in which they could improve.  When they’re working as part of a team at work, they’ll use their strengths to benefit the entire team.  For instance, someone who’s very analytic might be in charge of problem solving tasks, while someone who’s outgoing and gregarious might become the face of the company, serving as a representative at corporate functions.  When it comes to the things that they don’t do well (AKA their weaknesses), they will either work to improve them, or they’ll find a way to delegate them to someone else for whom those weaknesses might be a strength.

    6. They do good things for other people

    If it sounds cliché’, it’s because it’s true: when you do good things for other people, you can’t help but feel good too.  Fulfilled people know this and so they find a way to do nice things for others whenever or wherever they can.  Whether it’s getting coffee for the person in line behind you at Starbucks, leaving an extra generous tip, or running a race for a good cause, finding a way to give back to the community is a guaranteed path to fulfillment.

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    7. They prioritize their well-being and overall health

    Fulfilled people know that in order to do the things that make them feel fulfilled, they have to take care of themselves.  People who are constantly pouring out of their cup into others’ cups will ultimately have an empty cup if they don’t take care to fill themselves back up.  Fulfilled people are keenly aware of this, and so they prioritize things like getting in a workout, eating healthy foods, getting enough shut eye, and spending time with the people they love.  Health and wellness is an integral part of fulfillment.  Take a step towards improving your health today, and you’ll be well on your way to living a more fulfilling life.

    8. They do what they do well

    Most people feel good when they’re doing something they do well.  A dancer who knows how to move and groove will feel great when she’s doing her thing out on the dance floor.  A photographer who has a knack for capturing a moment will feel in their element when they’re snapping pictures.  A basketball player who slam dunks like Michael Jordan will feel in the zone when they’re on the court playing their game.  Think about the things that you do well, and whatever it is, spend time doing it.

    9. They don’t waste time multi-tasking

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      Fulfilled people don’t fall into the trap of multi-tasking.  They know that when they multi-task, they can’t give their full attention to the tasks they’re executing, so one or both of them will have a poor outcome.  Rather, they do one thing at a time, and in that moment, they give it all their time, focus, energy, and attention.

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      10. They connect with friends and family

      People who are fulfilled know the importance of prioritizing the people they care about.  They make time for friends and family because they feel the happiest when they’re spending time with the people they love.

      11. They are in tune with their spirituality

      In many cases, fulfillment comes from being in tune with your spiritual side and practicing your religious faith.  That’s why fulfilled people regularly spend time in prayer, meditating, going to Bible studies, and connecting with other believers who can provide encouragement and spur them on in their walks of faith.

      12. They have an unshakable inner confidence

      Fulfilled people know deep down that they matter, that they have value, and that they can make a significant contribution to the world around them.  If you’re someone who struggles with self- confidence, consider taping up personal mantras around your desk or somewhere you will see them on a regular basis to remind yourself of just how awesome you are.

      13. They practice mindfulness

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        People who are fulfilled might have worries and fears just like the rest of us, but they don’t let that rob them from the joy of living in the moment.  They soak in every great experience they have, savoring even the littlest details and appreciating them for what they’re worth.

        14. They express gratitude

        It’s hard to feel fulfilled if you don’t ever feel thankful for what you already have.  Fulfilled people count their blessings, and rather than fixating on what they don’t have, they focus on being grateful for what they’ve got.

        15. They do things that give them a feeling of purpose

        This might be one of the most important concepts related to fulfillment: in order to feel fulfilled, you have to feel like you are living out your purpose.  Fulfilled people do what they feel they were created to do, and they reap great satisfaction from doing so.  Whatever you feel you were made to do, whether it’s going on a mission to a third world country, starting a nonprofit company, or raising your children to become responsible good people – do it.  When you live life according to a higher purpose, you will know what it means to be fulfilled.

        Ultimately, personal fulfillment comes down to the little decisions you’re making on a daily basis.  You can either make toxic choices that drag you down and keep you from moving forward or positive choices that boost you up and fulfill you.  The choice is yours.  Make it a good one.

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        10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively

        10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively

        Most discussions on positively influencing others eventually touch on Dale Carnegie’s seminal work, How to Win Friends and Influence People. Written more than 83 years ago, the book touches on a core component of human interaction, building strong relationships. It is no wonder why.

        Everything that we do hinges on our ability to connect with others and formulate deep relationships. You cannot sell a house, buy a house, advance in most careers, sell a product, pitch a story, teach a course, etc. without building healthy relationships. Managers get the best results from their teams, not through brute force, but to careful appeals to their sensibilities, occasional withdrawals from the reservoir of respect they’ve built. Using these tactics, they can influence others to excellence, to productivity, and to success.

        Carnegie’s book is great. Of course, there are other resources too. Most of us have someone in our lives who positively influences us. The truth is positively influencing people is about centering the humanity of others. Chances are, you know someone who is really good at making others feel like stars. They can get you to do things that the average person cannot. Where the requests of others sound like fingernails on a chalkboard, the request from this special person sounds like music to your ears. You’re delighted to not only listen but also to oblige.

        So how to influence people in a positive way? Read on for tips.

        1. Be Authentic

        To influence people in a positive way, be authentic. Rather than being a carbon copy of someone else’s version of authenticity, uncover what it is that makes you unique.

        Discover your unique take on an issue and then live up to and honor that. Once of the reasons social media influencers are so powerful is that they have carved out a niche for themselves or taken a common issue and approached it from a novel or uncommon way. People instinctually appreciate people whose public persona matches their private values.

        Contradictions bother us because we crave stability. When someone professes to be one way, but lives contrary to that profession, it signals that they are confused or untrustworthy and thereby, inauthentic. Neither of these combinations bode well for positively influencing others.

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        2. Listen

        Growing up, my father would tell me to listen to what others said. He told me if I listened carefully, I would know all I needed to know about a person’s character, desires and needs.

        To positively influence others, you must listen to what is spoken and what is left unsaid. Therein lies the explanation for what people need in order to feel validated, supported and seen. If a person feels they are invisible, and unseen by their superiors, they are less likely to be positively influenced by that person.

        Listening meets a person’s primary need of validation and acceptance.

        Take a look at this guide on how to be a better listener: How to Practice Active Listening (A Step-By-Step Guide)

        3. Become an Expert

        Most people are predisposed to listen to, if not respect, authority. If you want to positively influence others, become an authority in the area in which you seek to lead others. Research and read everything you can about the given topic, and then look for opportunities to put your education into practice.

        You can argue over opinions. You cannot argue, or it is unwise to argue, over facts and experts come with facts.

        4. Lead with Story

        From years of working in the public relations space, I know that personal narratives, testimonials and impact stories are incredibly powerful. But I never cease to be amazed with how effective a well-timed and told story can be.

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        If you want to influence people, learn to tell stories. Your stories should be related to the issue or concept you are discussing. They should be an analogy or metaphor that explains your topic in ordinary terms and in vivid detail. To learn more about how to tell powerful stories, and the ethics of storytelling, take a look at this article: How To Tell An Interesting Story In 4 Simple Steps

        5. Lead by Example

        It is incredibly inspiring to watch passionate, talented people at work or play. One of the reasons a person who is not an athlete can be in awe of athletic prowess is because human nature appreciates the extraordinary. When we watch the Olympics, Olympic trials, gymnastic competitions, ice skating, and other competitive sports, we can recognize the effort of people who day in and day out give their all. C

        ase in point: Simone Biles. The gymnast extraordinaire won her 6TH all-around title at the U.S. Gymnastics Championships after doing a triple double. She was the first woman to do so. Watching her gave me chills. Even non-gymnasts and non-competitive athletes can appreciate the talent required to pull off such a remarkable feat.

        We celebrate remarkable accomplishments and believe that their example is proof that we too can accomplish something great, even if it isn’t qualifying for the Olympics. To influence people in a positive way, we must lead by example, lead with intention and execute with excellence.

        6. Catch People Doing Good

        A powerful way to influence people in a positive way is to catch people doing good. Instead of looking for problems, look for successes. Look for often overlooked, but critically important things that your peers, subordinates and managers do that make the work more effective and more enjoyable.

        Once you catch people doing good, name and notice their contributions.

        7. Be Effusive with Praise

        It did not take me long to notice a remarkable trait of a former boss. He not only began and ended meetings with praise, but he peppered praise throughout the entire meeting. He found a way to celebrate the unique attributes and skills of his team members. He was able to quickly and accurately assess what people were doing well and then let them and their colleagues know.

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        Meetings were not just an occasion to go through a “To Do” list, they were opportunities to celebrate accomplishments, no matter how small they are.

        8. Be Kind Rather Than Right

        I am going to level with you; this one is tough. It is easy to get caught up in a cycle of proving oneself. For people who lack confidence, or people who prioritize the opinions of others, being right is important. The validation that comes with being perceived as “right” feeds one’s ego. But in the quest to be “right,” we can hurt other people. Once we’ve hurt someone by being unkind, it is much harder to get them to listen to what we’re trying to influence them to do.

        The antidote to influencing others via bullying is to prioritize kindness above rightness. You can be kind and still stand firm in your position. For instance, many people think that they need others to validate their experience. If a person does not see the situation you experienced in the way you see it, you get upset. But your experience is your experience.

        If you and your friends go out to eat and you get food poisoning, you do not need your friends to agree that the food served at the restaurant was problematic for you. Your own experience of getting food poisoning is all the validation you need. Therefore, taking time to be right is essentially wasted and, if you were unkind in seeking validation for your food-poison experience, now you’ve really lost points.

        9. Understand a Person’s Logical, Emotional and Cooperative Needs

        The Center for Creative Leadership has argued that the best way to influence others is to appeal to their logical, emotional and cooperative needs. Their logical need is their rational and educational need. Their emotional need is the information that touches them in a deeply personal manner. The cooperative need is understanding the level of cooperation various individuals need and then appropriately offering it.

        The trick with this system is to understand that different people need different things. For some people, a strong emotional appeal will outweigh logical explanations. For others, having an opportunity to collaborate will override emotional connection.

        If you know your audience, you will know what they need in order to be positively influenced. If you have limited information about the people whom you are attempting to influence, you will be ineffective.

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        10. Understand Your Lane

        If you want to positively influence others, operate from your sphere of influence. Operate from your place of expertise. Leave everything else to others. Gone are the days when being a jack of all trades is celebrated.

        Most people appreciate brands that understand their target audience and then deliver on what that audience wants. When you focus on what you are uniquely gifted and qualified to do, and then offer that gift to the people who need it, you are likely more effective. This effectiveness is attractive.

        You cannot positively influence others if you are more preoccupied by what others do well versus what you do well.

        Final Thoughts

        Influencing people is about centering your humanity. If you want to influence others positively, focus on the way you communicate and improve the relationship with yourself first.

        It’s hard to influence others if you’re still trying to figure out how to communicate with yourself.

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