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15 Habits of Highly Fulfilled People

15 Habits of Highly Fulfilled People
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You know those people who always seem to have smile on their face, the ones who seem to have all the world’s secrets tucked away in their pockets?  Chances are, those people seem as happy and content as they do because they live highly fulfilled lives.  If you’re thinking, “Hey, I want that too!  How can I live a highly fulfilled life?”  The good news is: you’ve come to the right place.  And the truth is, as bewildering and confusing as finding fulfillment might seem, it’s really not quite as hard as you’d think.  Read on for a list of what fulfilled people do, and perhaps you’ll be inspired to start doing these things too:

1. They do what they love

People who are highly fulfilled do what they love on a regular basis.  They believe that life is meant to be enjoyed, and it is best enjoyed when they’re doing what they enjoy.  Whether it’s dancing, painting, cooking, doing yoga, or reading, think about what you love to do and find a way to make time for it.

2. They set reasonable goals

Highly fulfilled people do not create to-do lists that are a mile long simply because they know they will not be able to get all those tasks accomplished.  And that’s okay with them, because they focus on quality over quantity.  They know that anything worth doing is worth doing well, and by doing things right the first time, they won’t have to go back and re-do them.  Think about what you can reasonably accomplish within a day, and put only those things on your to-do list.

3. They have high standards

Being a fulfilled person does not necessarily equate to being a perfectionist (especially because “perfect” is always out of reach, a perfectionist mindset is actually quite unfulfilling). However, people who are fulfilled typically set high standards for themselves because they’re confident they can achieve them and they take pride in what they do.  Think about how you can raise the bar in your professional life and your personal life.  Ask your boss for feedback on what you can do to improve.  Ask your spouse or significant other what you can do to be a better husband/ wife/ partner.

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4. They embrace challenges

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    Unlike some people, highly fulfilled people don’t run away from challenges.  They embrace them because they know that anytime they tackle a challenge, they come out stronger on the other side.  Whether it’s learning a new language, enforcing green policies to help the environment, giving an important speech, or spearheading a project at work, don’t be afraid to take on the things that might be a challenge to you.  Not only will it make you a stronger person, but it will also make you feel good too.

    5. They are acutely aware of their strengths and weaknesses

    Fulfilled people know what they do well and the areas in which they could improve.  When they’re working as part of a team at work, they’ll use their strengths to benefit the entire team.  For instance, someone who’s very analytic might be in charge of problem solving tasks, while someone who’s outgoing and gregarious might become the face of the company, serving as a representative at corporate functions.  When it comes to the things that they don’t do well (AKA their weaknesses), they will either work to improve them, or they’ll find a way to delegate them to someone else for whom those weaknesses might be a strength.

    6. They do good things for other people

    If it sounds cliché’, it’s because it’s true: when you do good things for other people, you can’t help but feel good too.  Fulfilled people know this and so they find a way to do nice things for others whenever or wherever they can.  Whether it’s getting coffee for the person in line behind you at Starbucks, leaving an extra generous tip, or running a race for a good cause, finding a way to give back to the community is a guaranteed path to fulfillment.

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    7. They prioritize their well-being and overall health

    Fulfilled people know that in order to do the things that make them feel fulfilled, they have to take care of themselves.  People who are constantly pouring out of their cup into others’ cups will ultimately have an empty cup if they don’t take care to fill themselves back up.  Fulfilled people are keenly aware of this, and so they prioritize things like getting in a workout, eating healthy foods, getting enough shut eye, and spending time with the people they love.  Health and wellness is an integral part of fulfillment.  Take a step towards improving your health today, and you’ll be well on your way to living a more fulfilling life.

    8. They do what they do well

    Most people feel good when they’re doing something they do well.  A dancer who knows how to move and groove will feel great when she’s doing her thing out on the dance floor.  A photographer who has a knack for capturing a moment will feel in their element when they’re snapping pictures.  A basketball player who slam dunks like Michael Jordan will feel in the zone when they’re on the court playing their game.  Think about the things that you do well, and whatever it is, spend time doing it.

    9. They don’t waste time multi-tasking

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      Fulfilled people don’t fall into the trap of multi-tasking.  They know that when they multi-task, they can’t give their full attention to the tasks they’re executing, so one or both of them will have a poor outcome.  Rather, they do one thing at a time, and in that moment, they give it all their time, focus, energy, and attention.

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      10. They connect with friends and family

      People who are fulfilled know the importance of prioritizing the people they care about.  They make time for friends and family because they feel the happiest when they’re spending time with the people they love.

      11. They are in tune with their spirituality

      In many cases, fulfillment comes from being in tune with your spiritual side and practicing your religious faith.  That’s why fulfilled people regularly spend time in prayer, meditating, going to Bible studies, and connecting with other believers who can provide encouragement and spur them on in their walks of faith.

      12. They have an unshakable inner confidence

      Fulfilled people know deep down that they matter, that they have value, and that they can make a significant contribution to the world around them.  If you’re someone who struggles with self- confidence, consider taping up personal mantras around your desk or somewhere you will see them on a regular basis to remind yourself of just how awesome you are.

      13. They practice mindfulness

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        People who are fulfilled might have worries and fears just like the rest of us, but they don’t let that rob them from the joy of living in the moment.  They soak in every great experience they have, savoring even the littlest details and appreciating them for what they’re worth.

        14. They express gratitude

        It’s hard to feel fulfilled if you don’t ever feel thankful for what you already have.  Fulfilled people count their blessings, and rather than fixating on what they don’t have, they focus on being grateful for what they’ve got.

        15. They do things that give them a feeling of purpose

        This might be one of the most important concepts related to fulfillment: in order to feel fulfilled, you have to feel like you are living out your purpose.  Fulfilled people do what they feel they were created to do, and they reap great satisfaction from doing so.  Whatever you feel you were made to do, whether it’s going on a mission to a third world country, starting a nonprofit company, or raising your children to become responsible good people – do it.  When you live life according to a higher purpose, you will know what it means to be fulfilled.

        Ultimately, personal fulfillment comes down to the little decisions you’re making on a daily basis.  You can either make toxic choices that drag you down and keep you from moving forward or positive choices that boost you up and fulfill you.  The choice is yours.  Make it a good one.

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        How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

        How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)
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        You’re standing behind the curtain, just about to make your way on stage to face the many faces half-shrouded in darkness in front of you. As you move towards the spotlight, your body starts to feel heavier with each step. A familiar thump echoes throughout your body – your heartbeat has gone off the charts.

        Don’t worry, you’re not the only one with glossophobia(also known as speech anxiety or the fear of speaking to large crowds). Sometimes, the anxiety happens long before you even stand on stage.

        Your body’s defence mechanism responds by causing a part of your brain to release adrenaline into your blood – the same chemical that gets released as if you were being chased by a lion.

        Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking:

        1. Prepare yourself mentally and physically

        According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.

        “Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor

        Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:

        Warming up

        If you’re nervous, chances are your body will feel the same way. Your body gets tense, your muscles feel tight or you’re breaking in cold sweat. The audience will notice you are nervous.

        If you observe that this is exactly what is happening to you minutes before a speech, do a couple of stretches to loosen and relax your body. It’s better to warm up before every speech as it helps to increase the functional potential of the body as a whole. Not only that, it increases muscle efficiency, improves reaction time and your movements.

        Here are some exercises to loosen up your body before show time:

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        1. Neck and shoulder rolls – This helps relieve upper body muscle tension and pressure as the rolls focus on rotating the head and shoulders, loosening the muscle. Stress and anxiety can make us rigid within this area which can make you feel agitated, especially when standing.
        2. Arm stretches – We often use this part of our muscles during a speech or presentation through our hand gestures and movements. Stretching these muscles can reduce arm fatigue, loosen you up and improve your body language range.
        3. Waist twists – Place your hands on your hips and rotate your waist in a circular motion. This exercise focuses on loosening the abdominal and lower back regions which is essential as it can cause discomfort and pain, further amplifying any anxieties you may experience.

        Stay hydrated

        Ever felt parched seconds before speaking? And then coming up on stage sounding raspy and scratchy in front of the audience? This happens because the adrenaline from stage fright causes your mouth to feel dried out.

        To prevent all that, it’s essential we stay adequately hydrated before a speech. A sip of water will do the trick. However, do drink in moderation so that you won’t need to go to the bathroom constantly.

        Try to avoid sugary beverages and caffeine, since it’s a diuretic – meaning you’ll feel thirstier. It will also amplify your anxiety which prevents you from speaking smoothly.

        Meditate

        Meditation is well-known as a powerful tool to calm the mind. ABC’s Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and Good Morning America weekend and author of the book titled10% Happier , recommends that meditation can help individuals to feel significantly calmer, faster.

        Meditation is like a workout for your mind. It gives you the strength and focus to filter out the negativity and distractions with words of encouragement, confidence and strength.

        Mindfulness meditation, in particular, is a popular method to calm yourself before going up on the big stage. The practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing and then bringing your mind’s attention to the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future – which likely includes floundering on stage.

        Here’s a nice example of guided meditation before public speaking:

        2. Focus on your goal

        One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure.

        Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’

        Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience.

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        Decide on the progress you’d like your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people.

        If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.[1]

        3. Convert negativity to positivity

        There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed?

        ‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’

        It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true.

        Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!”

        Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’.

        Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:

        4. Understand your content

        Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech.

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        However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.

        “No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor

        Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out.

        Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.[2]

        One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost like taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.

        5. Practice makes perfect

        Like most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation.

        In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers like the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand.

        Public speaking, like any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!

        6. Be authentic

        There’s nothing wrong with feeling stressed before going up to speak in front of an audience.

        Many people fear public speaking because they fear others will judge them for showing their true, vulnerable self. However, vulnerability can sometimes help you come across as more authentic and relatable as a speaker.

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        Drop the pretence of trying to act or speak like someone else and you’ll find that it’s worth the risk. You become more genuine, flexible and spontaneous, which makes it easier to handle unpredictable situations – whether it’s getting tough questions from the crowd or experiencing an unexpected technical difficulty.

        To find out your authentic style of speaking is easy. Just pick a topic or issue you are passionate about and discuss this like you normally would with a close family or friend. It is like having a conversation with someone in a personal one-to-one setting. A great way to do this on stage is to select a random audience member(with a hopefully calming face) and speak to a single person at a time during your speech. You’ll find that it’s easier trying to connect to one person at a time than a whole room.

        With that said, being comfortable enough to be yourself in front of others may take a little time and some experience, depending how comfortable you are with being yourself in front of others. But once you embrace it, stage fright will not be as intimidating as you initially thought.

        Presenters like Barack Obama are a prime example of a genuine and passionate speaker:

        7. Post speech evaluation

        Last but not the least, if you’ve done public speaking and have been scarred from a bad experience, try seeing it as a lesson learned to improve yourself as a speaker.

        Don’t beat yourself up after a presentation

        We are the hardest on ourselves and it’s good to be. But when you finish delivering your speech or presentation, give yourself some recognition and a pat on the back.

        You managed to finish whatever you had to do and did not give up. You did not let your fears and insecurities get to you. Take a little more pride in your work and believe in yourself.

        Improve your next speech

        As mentioned before, practice does make perfect. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, try asking someone to film you during a speech or presentation. Afterwards, watch and observe what you can do to improve yourself next time.

        Here are some questions you can ask yourself after every speech:

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        • How did I do?
        • Are there any areas for improvement?
        • Did I sound or look stressed?
        • Did I stumble on my words? Why?
        • Was I saying “um” too often?
        • How was the flow of the speech?

        Write everything you observed down and keep practicing and improving. In time, you’ll be able to better manage your fears of public speaking and appear more confident when it counts.

        If you want even more tips about public speaking or delivering a great presentation, check out these articles too:

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