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15 Habits of Highly Fulfilled People

15 Habits of Highly Fulfilled People

You know those people who always seem to have smile on their face, the ones who seem to have all the world’s secrets tucked away in their pockets?  Chances are, those people seem as happy and content as they do because they live highly fulfilled lives.  If you’re thinking, “Hey, I want that too!  How can I live a highly fulfilled life?”  The good news is: you’ve come to the right place.  And the truth is, as bewildering and confusing as finding fulfillment might seem, it’s really not quite as hard as you’d think.  Read on for a list of what fulfilled people do, and perhaps you’ll be inspired to start doing these things too:

1. They do what they love

People who are highly fulfilled do what they love on a regular basis.  They believe that life is meant to be enjoyed, and it is best enjoyed when they’re doing what they enjoy.  Whether it’s dancing, painting, cooking, doing yoga, or reading, think about what you love to do and find a way to make time for it.

2. They set reasonable goals

Highly fulfilled people do not create to-do lists that are a mile long simply because they know they will not be able to get all those tasks accomplished.  And that’s okay with them, because they focus on quality over quantity.  They know that anything worth doing is worth doing well, and by doing things right the first time, they won’t have to go back and re-do them.  Think about what you can reasonably accomplish within a day, and put only those things on your to-do list.

3. They have high standards

Being a fulfilled person does not necessarily equate to being a perfectionist (especially because “perfect” is always out of reach, a perfectionist mindset is actually quite unfulfilling). However, people who are fulfilled typically set high standards for themselves because they’re confident they can achieve them and they take pride in what they do.  Think about how you can raise the bar in your professional life and your personal life.  Ask your boss for feedback on what you can do to improve.  Ask your spouse or significant other what you can do to be a better husband/ wife/ partner.

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4. They embrace challenges

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    Unlike some people, highly fulfilled people don’t run away from challenges.  They embrace them because they know that anytime they tackle a challenge, they come out stronger on the other side.  Whether it’s learning a new language, enforcing green policies to help the environment, giving an important speech, or spearheading a project at work, don’t be afraid to take on the things that might be a challenge to you.  Not only will it make you a stronger person, but it will also make you feel good too.

    5. They are acutely aware of their strengths and weaknesses

    Fulfilled people know what they do well and the areas in which they could improve.  When they’re working as part of a team at work, they’ll use their strengths to benefit the entire team.  For instance, someone who’s very analytic might be in charge of problem solving tasks, while someone who’s outgoing and gregarious might become the face of the company, serving as a representative at corporate functions.  When it comes to the things that they don’t do well (AKA their weaknesses), they will either work to improve them, or they’ll find a way to delegate them to someone else for whom those weaknesses might be a strength.

    6. They do good things for other people

    If it sounds cliché’, it’s because it’s true: when you do good things for other people, you can’t help but feel good too.  Fulfilled people know this and so they find a way to do nice things for others whenever or wherever they can.  Whether it’s getting coffee for the person in line behind you at Starbucks, leaving an extra generous tip, or running a race for a good cause, finding a way to give back to the community is a guaranteed path to fulfillment.

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    7. They prioritize their well-being and overall health

    Fulfilled people know that in order to do the things that make them feel fulfilled, they have to take care of themselves.  People who are constantly pouring out of their cup into others’ cups will ultimately have an empty cup if they don’t take care to fill themselves back up.  Fulfilled people are keenly aware of this, and so they prioritize things like getting in a workout, eating healthy foods, getting enough shut eye, and spending time with the people they love.  Health and wellness is an integral part of fulfillment.  Take a step towards improving your health today, and you’ll be well on your way to living a more fulfilling life.

    8. They do what they do well

    Most people feel good when they’re doing something they do well.  A dancer who knows how to move and groove will feel great when she’s doing her thing out on the dance floor.  A photographer who has a knack for capturing a moment will feel in their element when they’re snapping pictures.  A basketball player who slam dunks like Michael Jordan will feel in the zone when they’re on the court playing their game.  Think about the things that you do well, and whatever it is, spend time doing it.

    9. They don’t waste time multi-tasking

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      Fulfilled people don’t fall into the trap of multi-tasking.  They know that when they multi-task, they can’t give their full attention to the tasks they’re executing, so one or both of them will have a poor outcome.  Rather, they do one thing at a time, and in that moment, they give it all their time, focus, energy, and attention.

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      10. They connect with friends and family

      People who are fulfilled know the importance of prioritizing the people they care about.  They make time for friends and family because they feel the happiest when they’re spending time with the people they love.

      11. They are in tune with their spirituality

      In many cases, fulfillment comes from being in tune with your spiritual side and practicing your religious faith.  That’s why fulfilled people regularly spend time in prayer, meditating, going to Bible studies, and connecting with other believers who can provide encouragement and spur them on in their walks of faith.

      12. They have an unshakable inner confidence

      Fulfilled people know deep down that they matter, that they have value, and that they can make a significant contribution to the world around them.  If you’re someone who struggles with self- confidence, consider taping up personal mantras around your desk or somewhere you will see them on a regular basis to remind yourself of just how awesome you are.

      13. They practice mindfulness

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        People who are fulfilled might have worries and fears just like the rest of us, but they don’t let that rob them from the joy of living in the moment.  They soak in every great experience they have, savoring even the littlest details and appreciating them for what they’re worth.

        14. They express gratitude

        It’s hard to feel fulfilled if you don’t ever feel thankful for what you already have.  Fulfilled people count their blessings, and rather than fixating on what they don’t have, they focus on being grateful for what they’ve got.

        15. They do things that give them a feeling of purpose

        This might be one of the most important concepts related to fulfillment: in order to feel fulfilled, you have to feel like you are living out your purpose.  Fulfilled people do what they feel they were created to do, and they reap great satisfaction from doing so.  Whatever you feel you were made to do, whether it’s going on a mission to a third world country, starting a nonprofit company, or raising your children to become responsible good people – do it.  When you live life according to a higher purpose, you will know what it means to be fulfilled.

        Ultimately, personal fulfillment comes down to the little decisions you’re making on a daily basis.  You can either make toxic choices that drag you down and keep you from moving forward or positive choices that boost you up and fulfill you.  The choice is yours.  Make it a good one.

        Featured photo credit: stevendepolo via flickr.com

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        How to Be True to Yourself and Live the Life You Want

        How to Be True to Yourself and Live the Life You Want

        We live in a world that constantly tells us what to do, how to act, what to be. Knowing how to be true to yourself and live the life you want can be a challenge.

        When someone asks how we are, we assume that the person does not mean the question sincerely, for it would lead to an in depth conversation. So telling them that you are good or fine, even if you’re not, is the usual answer.

        In an ideal world, we would stop and truly listen. We wouldn’t be afraid to be ourselves. Instead, when we answer about how we are doing, our mask, the persona we show the world, tightens. Sometimes even more so than it might have been before. Eventually, it becomes hard to take off, even when you’re alone.

        Imagine a world where we asked how someone was doing and they really told us. Imagine a world where there were no masks, only transparency when we talked to one another.

        If you want to live in a world that celebrates who you are, mistakes and all, take off the mask. It doesn’t mean you have to be positive or fine all the time.

        According to a Danish psychologist, Svend Brinkman, we expect each other to be happy and fine every second, and we expect it of ourselves. And that “has a dark side.”[1] Positive psychology can have its perks but not at the expense at hiding how you truly feel in order to remain seemingly positive to others.

        No one can feel positive all the time and yet, that is what our culture teaches us to embrace. We have to unlearn this. That said, telling others you are ‘“fine”’ all the time is actually detrimental to your wellbeing, because it stops you from being assertive, from being authentic or your truest self.

        When you acknowledge a feeling, it leads you to the problem that’s causing that feeling; and once you identify the problem, you can find a solution to it. When you hide that feeling, you stuff it way down so no one can help you.You can’t even help yourself.

        Feelings are there for one reason: to be felt. That doesn’t mean you have to act on that feeling. It just means that you start the process of problem solving so you can live the life you want.

        1. Embrace Your Vulnerability

        When you are your true self, you can better self-advocate or stand up for what you need. Your self-expression matters, and you should value your voice. It’s okay to need things, it’s okay to speak up, and it’s okay not to be okay.

        Telling someone you are simply “fine” when you are not, does your story and your journey a great disservice. Being true to yourself entails embracing all aspects of your existence.

        When you bring your whole self to the table, there is nothing that you can’t beat. Here’re 7 benefits of being vulnerable you should learn.

        Can you take off the mask? This is the toughest thing anyone can do. We have learned to wait until we are safe before we start to be authentic.

        In relationships especially, this can be hard. Some people avoid vulnerability at any cost. And in our relationship with ourselves, we can look in the mirror and immediately put on the mask.

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        It all starts with your story. You have been on your own unique journey. That journey has led you here, to the person you are today. You have to be unafraid, and embrace all aspects of that journey.

        You should seek to thrive, not just survive. That means you do not have to compete or compare yourself with anyone.

        Authenticity means you are enough. It’s enough to be who you are to get what you want.

        What if for the first time ever, you were real? What if you said what you wanted to say, did what you wanted to do, and didn’t apologize for it?

        You were assertive, forthcoming in your opinions or actions to stand for what is right for you, (rather than being passive or aggressive) in doing so. You didn’t let things get to you. You knew you had something special to offer.

        That’s where we all should be.

        So, answer me this:

        How are you, really?

        And know that no matter the answer, you should still be accepted.

        Bravery is in the understanding that you still may not be accepted for your truth.

        Bravery is knowing you matter even when others say that you do not.

        Bravery is believing in yourself when all evidence counters doing so (i.e. past failures or losses)

        Bravery is in being vulnerable while knowing vulnerability is a sign of strength.

        It’s taking control.

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        2. Choose Your Attitude in Adversity

        You can take control of your destiny and live the life you want by being true to yourself. You can start anytime. You can start today.

        You can start with one day at a time, just facing what happens that day. Most of us get overwhelmed when faced with the prospect of a big change. Even if the only thing we change is our attitude.

        In one instant, you can become a different person with a change of attitude. When you take control of your attitude, you become able to better understand what is around you. This allows you to move forward.

        Originally, you may have had a life plan. It could have started when you were little; you were hoping to become a mermaid, doctor, astronaut or all three when you grew up. You were hoping to be someone. You were hoping to be remembered.

        You can still dream those dreams, but eventually reality sets in. Obstacles and struggles arise. You set on a different path when the last one didn’t work out. You think of all the “shoulds” in your life in living the life you want. You should be doing this…should be doing that…

        Clayton Barbeau, psychologist, coined the term “shoulding yourself.’[2] When we are set on one path and find ourselves doing something different. It becomes all the things you should be doing rather than seeing the opportunities right in front of you.

        But in all this disarray, did you lose sight of the real you?

        It may be in our perceived failures and blunders that we lose sight of who we are, because we try to maintain position and status.

        In being who we really are and achieving what we really want, we need to be resilient: How to Build Resilience to Face What Life Throws at You

        It means that we do not see all possibilities of what might happen, but must trust ourselves to begin again, and continue to build the life we want. In the face of adversity, you must choose your attitude.

        Can attitude overcome adversity? It certainly helps. While seeking to be true to yourself and live the life you want, you will have to face a fact:

        Change will happen.

        Whether that change is good or bad is unique to each person and their perspective.

        You might have to start over, once, twice, a few times. It doesn’t mean that everything will be okay, but that you will be okay. What remains or should remain is the true you. When you’ve lost sight of that, you’ve lost sight of everything.

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        And then, you rebuild. Moment after moment, day after day. We all have a choice, and in this moment, that matters.

        You can choose to have a positive attitude, seeing the silver lining in each situation and, where there is none, the potential for one. Maybe that silver lining is you and what you will do with the situation. How will you use it for something good?

        That’s how you can tap into yourself and your power. Sometimes it happens by accident, sometimes on purpose. It can happen when we aren’t even looking for it, or it can be your only focus. Everyone gets there differently.

        You can rise, or you can remain. Your choice.

        When the worst happens, you can rely on your authenticity to pull you through. That’s because Self Advocacy, speaking up to let others know what you need, is part of finding the real you.

        There is nothing wrong with asking for help. Or sometimes, helping others can help us deal with the pain of a hurtful situation. You decide how you’re going to help others, and suddenly, you become your best self.

        3. Do What Makes You Happy When No One’s Looking

        Being the best version of you has nothing to do with your success or your status. It has everything to do with your Character, what you do when no one’s looking.

        In order to create the life you want, you have to be the person you want to be. Faking it till you make it is just a way to white knuckle it through your journey. You have the fire inside of you to make things right, to put the pieces together, to live authentically. And Character is how you get there.

        If you fall down and you help another up while you’re down there, it’s like you rise twice.

        Along with attitude, your character is about the choices you make rather than what happens to you.

        Yes, it’s about doing the right thing even when obstacles seem insurmountable.  It’s about using that mountain you’ve been given to show others it can be moved.  It’s about being unapologetically you, taking control, choosing your attitude in adversity and being the best version of you to create the life you want.

        How do you know what you really want? Is it truly status or success?

        Unfortunately, these things do not always bring happiness. And aspects of our image or “performance driven existence” may not achieve satisfaction. Materialism is part of our refusal to accept ourselves as enough. All the things we use to repress our true selves are about being enough.

        “Enoughness” is what we truly seek, but ego gets in the way.

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        Ego is the perception of self as outer worth. It’s not REAL self worth.

        Ego represses our true self with a new self— the self of chasing ‘“Am I ever enough?”’ questions. And instead of filling our true selves with self-love and acceptance, when we “should ourselves” and chase “enoughness,” we feed the ego or our image.

        It’s important to realize YOU ARE ENOUGH, without all the material trappings.

        Stanford psychologist Meagan O’Reilly describes the damage of not thinking we are enough. One of her tactics for combating this is to complete the sentence,[3]

        “If I believed I were already enough, I’d ____”

        What would you do if you felt you were enough?

        By believing you are enough, you can live the life you want.

        So many fake it to try to get there, and they end up losing themselves when they lose more and more touch with their Authenticity.

        Final Thoughts

        By being yourself, you are being brave. By acknowledging all you can be, you tell the universe that you can until you believe it too. The steps are easy, and you are worth it. All of it is about the purpose you are leading and the passion that is your fuel.

        Being true to yourself is all about mastering how to live life authentically rather than faking or forcing it. Having the life you want (and deserve) is about being trusting in yourself and the purpose you are living for. Both need passion behind it, fueling it each second, or you will experience burn out.

        When you are authentic, you can call the road you walk your own. When you live your life for you and not just the results of all your actions (faking it till you make it), you can let go of what you don’t need. This clarifies and pushes purpose to you, living for something that is greater than you.

        You will find that making decisions based on what will actually achieve your goals, will help you attain the life you want, and your success with each step, will allow you to enjoy the process. Good luck!

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