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15 Habits of Highly Fulfilled People

15 Habits of Highly Fulfilled People

You know those people who always seem to have smile on their face, the ones who seem to have all the world’s secrets tucked away in their pockets?  Chances are, those people seem as happy and content as they do because they live highly fulfilled lives.  If you’re thinking, “Hey, I want that too!  How can I live a highly fulfilled life?”  The good news is: you’ve come to the right place.  And the truth is, as bewildering and confusing as finding fulfillment might seem, it’s really not quite as hard as you’d think.  Read on for a list of what fulfilled people do, and perhaps you’ll be inspired to start doing these things too:

1. They do what they love

People who are highly fulfilled do what they love on a regular basis.  They believe that life is meant to be enjoyed, and it is best enjoyed when they’re doing what they enjoy.  Whether it’s dancing, painting, cooking, doing yoga, or reading, think about what you love to do and find a way to make time for it.

2. They set reasonable goals

Highly fulfilled people do not create to-do lists that are a mile long simply because they know they will not be able to get all those tasks accomplished.  And that’s okay with them, because they focus on quality over quantity.  They know that anything worth doing is worth doing well, and by doing things right the first time, they won’t have to go back and re-do them.  Think about what you can reasonably accomplish within a day, and put only those things on your to-do list.

3. They have high standards

Being a fulfilled person does not necessarily equate to being a perfectionist (especially because “perfect” is always out of reach, a perfectionist mindset is actually quite unfulfilling). However, people who are fulfilled typically set high standards for themselves because they’re confident they can achieve them and they take pride in what they do.  Think about how you can raise the bar in your professional life and your personal life.  Ask your boss for feedback on what you can do to improve.  Ask your spouse or significant other what you can do to be a better husband/ wife/ partner.

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4. They embrace challenges

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    Unlike some people, highly fulfilled people don’t run away from challenges.  They embrace them because they know that anytime they tackle a challenge, they come out stronger on the other side.  Whether it’s learning a new language, enforcing green policies to help the environment, giving an important speech, or spearheading a project at work, don’t be afraid to take on the things that might be a challenge to you.  Not only will it make you a stronger person, but it will also make you feel good too.

    5. They are acutely aware of their strengths and weaknesses

    Fulfilled people know what they do well and the areas in which they could improve.  When they’re working as part of a team at work, they’ll use their strengths to benefit the entire team.  For instance, someone who’s very analytic might be in charge of problem solving tasks, while someone who’s outgoing and gregarious might become the face of the company, serving as a representative at corporate functions.  When it comes to the things that they don’t do well (AKA their weaknesses), they will either work to improve them, or they’ll find a way to delegate them to someone else for whom those weaknesses might be a strength.

    6. They do good things for other people

    If it sounds cliché’, it’s because it’s true: when you do good things for other people, you can’t help but feel good too.  Fulfilled people know this and so they find a way to do nice things for others whenever or wherever they can.  Whether it’s getting coffee for the person in line behind you at Starbucks, leaving an extra generous tip, or running a race for a good cause, finding a way to give back to the community is a guaranteed path to fulfillment.

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    7. They prioritize their well-being and overall health

    Fulfilled people know that in order to do the things that make them feel fulfilled, they have to take care of themselves.  People who are constantly pouring out of their cup into others’ cups will ultimately have an empty cup if they don’t take care to fill themselves back up.  Fulfilled people are keenly aware of this, and so they prioritize things like getting in a workout, eating healthy foods, getting enough shut eye, and spending time with the people they love.  Health and wellness is an integral part of fulfillment.  Take a step towards improving your health today, and you’ll be well on your way to living a more fulfilling life.

    8. They do what they do well

    Most people feel good when they’re doing something they do well.  A dancer who knows how to move and groove will feel great when she’s doing her thing out on the dance floor.  A photographer who has a knack for capturing a moment will feel in their element when they’re snapping pictures.  A basketball player who slam dunks like Michael Jordan will feel in the zone when they’re on the court playing their game.  Think about the things that you do well, and whatever it is, spend time doing it.

    9. They don’t waste time multi-tasking

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      Fulfilled people don’t fall into the trap of multi-tasking.  They know that when they multi-task, they can’t give their full attention to the tasks they’re executing, so one or both of them will have a poor outcome.  Rather, they do one thing at a time, and in that moment, they give it all their time, focus, energy, and attention.

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      10. They connect with friends and family

      People who are fulfilled know the importance of prioritizing the people they care about.  They make time for friends and family because they feel the happiest when they’re spending time with the people they love.

      11. They are in tune with their spirituality

      In many cases, fulfillment comes from being in tune with your spiritual side and practicing your religious faith.  That’s why fulfilled people regularly spend time in prayer, meditating, going to Bible studies, and connecting with other believers who can provide encouragement and spur them on in their walks of faith.

      12. They have an unshakable inner confidence

      Fulfilled people know deep down that they matter, that they have value, and that they can make a significant contribution to the world around them.  If you’re someone who struggles with self- confidence, consider taping up personal mantras around your desk or somewhere you will see them on a regular basis to remind yourself of just how awesome you are.

      13. They practice mindfulness

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        People who are fulfilled might have worries and fears just like the rest of us, but they don’t let that rob them from the joy of living in the moment.  They soak in every great experience they have, savoring even the littlest details and appreciating them for what they’re worth.

        14. They express gratitude

        It’s hard to feel fulfilled if you don’t ever feel thankful for what you already have.  Fulfilled people count their blessings, and rather than fixating on what they don’t have, they focus on being grateful for what they’ve got.

        15. They do things that give them a feeling of purpose

        This might be one of the most important concepts related to fulfillment: in order to feel fulfilled, you have to feel like you are living out your purpose.  Fulfilled people do what they feel they were created to do, and they reap great satisfaction from doing so.  Whatever you feel you were made to do, whether it’s going on a mission to a third world country, starting a nonprofit company, or raising your children to become responsible good people – do it.  When you live life according to a higher purpose, you will know what it means to be fulfilled.

        Ultimately, personal fulfillment comes down to the little decisions you’re making on a daily basis.  You can either make toxic choices that drag you down and keep you from moving forward or positive choices that boost you up and fulfill you.  The choice is yours.  Make it a good one.

        Featured photo credit: stevendepolo via flickr.com

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        How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

        How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

        They say we are the average of the five persons we spend the most time with. For a minute, consider the people around you. Are they truly who your “tribe” should be or who you aspire to become in the future? Are they really genuine people who want to see you succeed? Or are they fake people who don’t really want to see you happy?

        In this article, I’ll review why it is important to surround yourself with genuine individuals—the ones who care, bring something to our table, and first and foremost, who leave all fakeness behind.

        How to Spot Fake People?

        When you’ve been working in the helping professions for a while, spotting fake people gets a bit easier. There are some very clear signs that the person you are looking at is hiding something, acting somehow, or simply wanting to get somewhere. Most often, there is a secondary gain—perhaps attention, sympathy, or even a promotion.

        Whatever it is, you’re better off working their true agenda and staying the hell away. Here are some things you should look out for to help spot fake people.

        1. Full of Themselves

        Fake people like to show off. They love looking at themselves in the mirror. They collect photos and videos of every single achievement they had and every part of their body and claim to be the “best at what they do.”

        Most of these people are actually not that good in real life. But they act like they are and ensure that they appear better than the next person. The issue for you is that you may find yourself always feeling “beneath” them and irritated at their constant need to be in the spotlight.

        2. Murky in Expressing Their Emotions

        Have you ever tried having a deep and meaningful conversation with a fake person? It’s almost impossible. It’s because they have limited emotional intelligence and don’t know how they truly feel deep down—and partly because they don’t want to have their true emotions exposed, no matter how normal these might be.

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        It’s much harder to say “I’m the best at what I do” while simultaneously sharing “average” emotions with “equal” people.

        3. Zero Self-Reflection

        To grow, we must accept feedback from others. We must be open to our strengths and to our weaknesses. We must accept that we all come in different shapes and can always improve.

        Self-reflection requires us to think, forgive, admit fault, and learn from our mistakes. But to do that, we have to be able to adopt a level of genuineness and depth that fake people don’t routinely have. A fake person generally never apologizes, but when they do, it is often followed with a “but” in the next breath.

        4. Unrealistic Perceptions

        Fake people most often have an unrealistic perception of the world—things that they want to portray to others (pseudo achievements, materialistic gains, or a made-up sense of happiness) or simply how they genuinely regard life outside themselves.

        A lot of fake people hide pain, shame, and other underlying reasons in their behavior. This could explain why they can’t be authentic and/or have difficulties seeing their environment for the way it objectively is (both good and bad).

        5. Love Attention

        As I mentioned earlier, the biggest sign that something isn’t quite right with someone’s behavior can be established by how much they love attention. Are you being interrupted every time you speak by someone who wants to make sure that the spotlight gets reverted back to them? Is the focus always on them, no matter the topic? If yes, you’re probably dealing with a fake person.

        6. People Pleaser

        Appreciation feels nice but having everyone like you is even better. While it is completely unrealistic for most people to please everyone all the time, fake people seem to always say yes in pursuit of constant approval.

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        Now, this is a problem for two reasons. Firstly, these people are simply saying yes to things for their own satisfaction. Secondly, they often end up changing their minds or retracting their offer for one reason or another (“I would have loved to, but my grandmother suddenly fell ill.”), leaving you in the lurch for the 100th time this year.

        7. Sarcasm and Cynicism

        Behind the chronic pasted smile, fake people are well known for brewing resentment, jealousy, or anger. This is because, behind the postcard life, they are often unhappy. Sarcasm and cynicism are well known to act as a defense mechanism, sometimes even a diversion—anything so they can remain feeling on top of the world, whether it is through boosting themselves or bringing people down.

        8. Crappy friend

        Fake people are bad friends. They don’t listen to you, your feelings, and whatever news you might have to share. In fact, you might find yourself migrating away from them when you have exciting or bad news to share, knowing that it will always end up one way—their way. In addition, you might find that they’re not available when you truly need them or worse, cancel plans at the last minute.

        It’s not unusual to hear that a fake person talks constantly behind people’s backs. Let’s be honest, if they do it to others, they’re doing it to you too. If your “friend” makes you feel bad constantly, trust me, they’re not achieving their purpose, and they’re simply not a good person to have around.

        The sooner you learn to spot these fake people, the sooner you can meet meaningful individuals again.

        How to Cope With Fake People Moving Forward?

        It is important to remind yourself that you deserve more than what you’re getting. You are worthy, valuable, precious, and just as important as the next person.

        There are many ways to manage fake people. Here are some tips on how to deal with them.

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        1. Boundaries

        Keep your boundaries very clear. As explained in the book Unlock Your Resilience, boundaries are what keep you sane when the world tries to suffocate you. When fake people become emotional vampires, make sure to keep your distances, limit contact, and simply replace them with more valuable interactions.

        2. Don’t Take Their Behavior Personally

        Sadly, they most likely have behaved this way before they knew you and will continue much longer after you have moved on. It isn’t about you. It is about their inner need to meet a void that you are not responsible for. And in all honesty, unless you are a trained professional, you are unlikely to improve it anyway.

        3. Be Upfront and Honest About How You Feel

        If your “friend” has been hurtful or engaged in behaviors you struggle with, let them know—nicely, firmly, however you want, but let them know that they are affecting you. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll feel better and when you’re ready to move on, you’ll know you tried to reach out. Your conscience is clear.

        4. Ask for Advice

        If you’re unsure about what you’re seeing or feeling, ask for advice. Perhaps a relative, a good friend, or a colleague might have some input as to whether you are overreacting or seeing some genuine concerns.

        Now, don’t confuse asking for advice with gossiping behind the fake person’s back because, in the end, you don’t want to stoop down to their level. However, a little reminder as to how to stay on your own wellness track can never hurt.

        5. Dig Deeper

        Now, this one, I offer with caution. If you are emotionally strong, up to it, guaranteed you won’t get sucked into it, and have the skills to manage, perhaps you could dig into the reasons a fake person is acting the way they do.

        Have they suffered recent trauma? Have they been rejected all their lives? Is their self-esteem so low that they must resort to making themselves feel good in any way they can? Sometimes, having an understanding of a person’s behavior can help in processing it.

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        6. Practice Self-Care!

        Clearly, putting some distance between the fake person and yourself is probably the way to go. However, sometimes, it takes time to get there. In the meantime, make sure to practice self-care, be gentle with yourself, and compensate with lots of positives!

        Self-care can be as simple as taking a hot shower after talking to them or declining an invitation when you’re not feeling up to the challenge.

        Spotting fake people isn’t too hard. They generally glow with wanna-be vibes. However, most often, there are reasons as to why they are like this. Calling their behavior might be the first step. Providing them with support might be the second. But if these don’t work, it’s time to stay away and surround yourself with the positivity that you deserve.

        Final Thoughts

        Remember that life is a rollercoaster. It has good moments, tough moments, and moments you wouldn’t change for the world. So, look around and make sure that you take the time to choose the right people to share it all with.

        We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, so take a good look around and choose wisely!

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