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14 Habits Of Highly Excellent People

14 Habits Of Highly Excellent People

Highly excellent people seem to have it all figured out, don’t they? There’s stress and chaos going on all around them, but they barely break a sweat. They just go about their excellency and leave the rest of us who aren’t feeling very…well, excellent…to wonder what we’re doing wrong. What can we do to upgrade our lives and become highly excellent people? What are they doing that’s so different from what we’re doing?

As it turns out, a lot. Here’s a breakdown of what highly excellent people have in common so you can get in on the action too:

1. They focus on quality over quantity.

Their priorities are top of mind and never waver. Instead of being bogged down by details and expectations, they keep their stress levels in check by accomplishing what’s most important to them first, and then dedicating the time that’s left to the little extras.

2. They put their health/well-being first.

Highly excellent people know they can’t accomplish anything of any quality when they feel like sh…crap. They always put their health and well-being first: They exercise regularly, eat healthy, and always make time for leisurely activities and hobbies they consider relaxing.

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3. They know their strengths and weaknesses.

We all have strengths and weaknesses, but instead of suppressing their weaknesses and struggling to overcome them, highly excellent people accept and work with their shortcomings (after all, the harder you try to deny something about yourself, the stronger it becomes). From personal experience, it’s also a great way to keep your self-esteem intact. Nobody can accept who you are in your entirety until you do.

4. They trust their instincts.

Highly excellent people are a sucker for their instincts. They don’t cater to what others expect of them – their compass always points toward what they expect from themselves.

5. They have high standards.

Not only do they have high standards, they don’t allow the concept of high standards to intimidate them. They understand nothing’s perfect, but find deep satisfaction in doing things to the best of their ability. They know it’s a lot easier to do things right the first time than to have to redo them later.

6. They have a plan.

Highly excellent people know exactly what they want, both professionally and personally. They have a very clear picture of what their life will look like if they keep striving and keep moving ahead. They also don’t settle for anything less than what they want.

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7. They don’t sacrifice their creativity.

By that I mean, they don’t let the concept of potentially living out of a shopping cart intimidate them. Sure, they might go through the occasional financial drought where all that’s on the menu is peanut butter sandwiches, but at least they feel alive. They don’t take on jobs they don’t believe in for the sake of making money – they use the threat of having to do so as fuel and work harder on their big picture.

8. They set realistic goals.

They don’t create to-do lists that not even a robot could complete in a timely manner. When they set their goals, they always factor in time for, you know, eating, sleeping, even going to the bathroom. They appreciate showering too.

9. They singletask.

Highly excellent people know multitasking is a crock. See #1.

10. They constantly adjust their course.

Success doesn’t happen in a straight line. It’s more like steering a car: You keep the car straight by moving the steering wheel from side-to-side to stay on track. This is how highly excellent people tackle their goals: They constantly evolve, integrate new strategies, and reevaluate after each step.

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11. They automate what will never change.

Laundry, drag. Dishes, barf. Emails, puh-lease! This is where many of us trip over ourselves as highly excellent people breeze right past us. Instead of becoming annoyed and disrupted by the ongoing details of maintaining their lifestyle, they use them to their advantage by creating creativity pillars.

What they want to accomplish isn’t easy. Their day is filled with uncertainty, but the above ongoing tasks are certain. They will always be there. Highly excellent people have automated these habits so they can get them done quickly while using the least amount of energy possible. Genius, no?

12. They do what they love.

I mean, really, what else is there?

13. They work smart.

They work in short bursts of 30 to 90 minutes, with short breaks in between to regroup and rest before moving on to the next task. Some days they’ll only work for four hours, while others they’ll work eight. It all depends on what needs to be done that day. They do what it takes to make it happen, but without burning themselves out in the process.

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14. They trust in their talent.

No matter who tries (whether intentionally or not) to disrupt their thought process or plant seeds of doubt, highly excellent people know without a doubt that they’re doing exactly what they want to be doing exactly when they want to be doing it. Can their critics say the same?

What do you admire most about highly excellent people? Let us know in the comments.

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A women's health & wellness writer with a short-term goal to leave women feeling a little more empowered and a little less verklempt.

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Last Updated on March 25, 2020

How Do You Change a Habit (According to Psychology)

How Do You Change a Habit (According to Psychology)

Habits are hard to kill, and rightly so. They are a part and parcel of your personality traits and mold your character.

However, habits are not always something over-the-top and quirky enough to get noticed. Think of subtle habits like tapping fingers when you are nervous and humming songs while you drive. These are nothing but ingrained habits that you may not realize easily.

Just take a few minutes and think of something specific that you do all the time. You will notice how it has become a habit for you without any explicit realization. Everything you do on a daily basis starting with your morning routine, lunch preferences to exercise routines are all habits.

Habits mostly form from life experiences and certain observed behaviors, not all of them are healthy. Habitual smoking can be dangerous to your health. Similarly, a habit could also make you lose out on enjoying something to its best – like how some people just cannot stop swaying their bodies when delivering a speech.

Thus, there could be a few habits that you would want to change about yourself. But changing habits is not as easy as it seems.

In this article, you will learn why it isn’t easy to build new habits, and how to change habits.

What Makes It Hard To Change A Habit?

To want to change a particular habit means to change something very fundamental about your behavior.[1] Hence, it’s necessary to understand how habits actually form and why they are so difficult to actually get out of.

The Biology

Habits form in a place what we call the subconscious mind in our brain.[2]

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Our brains have two modes of operation. The first one is an automatic pilot kind of system that is fast and works on reflexes often. It is what we call the subconscious part. This is the part that is associated with everything that comes naturally to you.

The second mode is the conscious mode where every action and decision is well thought out and follows a controlled way of thinking.

A fine example to distinguish both would be to consider yourself learning to drive or play an instrument. For the first time you try learning, you think before every movement you make. But once you have got the hang of it, you might drive without applying much thought into it.

Both systems work together in our brains at all times. When a habit is formed, it moves from the conscious part to the subconscious making it difficult to control.

So, the key idea in deconstructing a habit is to go from the subconscious to the conscious.

Another thing you have to understand about habits is that they can be conscious or hidden.

Conscious habits are those that require active input from your side. For instance, if you stop setting your alarm in the morning, you will stop waking up at the same time.

Hidden habits, on the other hand, are habits that we do without realizing. These make up the majority of our habits and we wouldn’t even know them until someone pointed them out. So the first difficulty in breaking these habits is to actually identify them. As they are internalized, they need a lot of attention to detail for self-identification. That’s not all.

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Habits can be physical, social, and mental, energy-based and even be particular to productivity. Understanding them is necessary to know why they are difficult to break and what can be done about them.

The Psychology

Habits get engraved into our memories depending on the way we think, feel and act over a particular period of time. The procedural part of memory deals with habit formation and studies have observed that various types of conditioning of behavior could affect your habit formations.

Classical conditioning or pavlovian conditioning is when you start associating a memory with reality.[3] A dog that associates ringing bell to food will start salivating. The same external stimuli such as the sound of church bells can make a person want to pray.

Operant conditioning is when experience and the feelings associated with it form a habit.[4] By encouraging or discouraging an act, individuals could either make it a habit or stop doing it.

Observational learning is another way habits could take form. A child may start walking the same way their parent does.

What Can You Do To Change a Habit?

Sure, habits are hard to control but it is not impossible. With a few tips and hard-driven dedication, you can surely get over your nasty habits.

Here are some ways that make use of psychological findings to help you:

1. Identify Your Habits

As mentioned earlier, habits can be quite subtle and hidden from your view. You have to bring your subconscious habits to an aware state of mind. You could do it by self-observation or by asking your friends or family to point out the habit for your sake.

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2. Find out the Impact of Your Habit

Every habit produces an effect – either physical or mental. Find out what exactly it is doing to you. Does it help you relieve stress or does it give you some pain relief?

It could be anything simple. Sometimes biting your nails could be calming your nerves. Understanding the effect of a habit is necessary to control it.

3. Apply Logic

You don’t need to be force-fed with wisdom and advice to know what an unhealthy habit could do to you.

Late-night binge-watching just before an important presentation is not going to help you. Take a moment and apply your own wisdom and logic to control your seemingly nastily habits.

4. Choose an Alternative

As I said, every habit induces some feeling. So, it could be quite difficult to get over it unless you find something else that can replace it. It can be a simple non-harming new habit that you can cultivate to get over a bad habit.

Say you have the habit of banging your head hard when you are angry. That’s going to be bad for you. Instead, the next time you are angry, just take a deep breath and count to 10. Or maybe start imagining yourself on a luxury yacht. Just think of something that will work for you.

5. Remove Triggers

Get rid of items and situations that can trigger your bad habit.

Stay away from smoke breaks if you are trying to quit it. Remove all those candy bars from the fridge if you want to control your sweet cravings.

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6. Visualize Change

Our brains can be trained to forget a habit if we start visualizing the change. Serious visualization is retained and helps as a motivator in breaking the habit loop.

For instance, to replace your habit of waking up late, visualize yourself waking up early and enjoying the early morning jog every day. By continuing this, you would naturally feel better to wake up early and do your new hobby.

7. Avoid Negative Talks and Thinking

Just as how our brain is trained to accept a change in habit, continuous negative talk and thinking could hamper your efforts put into breaking a habit.

Believe you can get out of it and assert yourself the same.

Final Thoughts

Changing habits isn’t easy, so do not expect an overnight change!

Habits took a long time to form. It could take a while to completely break out of it. You will have to accept that sometimes you may falter in your efforts. Don’t let negativity seep in when it seems hard. Keep going at it slowly and steadily.

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