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14 Things Dads Teach Their Daughters About the Boyfriends They Deserve

14 Things Dads Teach Their Daughters About the Boyfriends They Deserve

As a father, do you have the qualities your daughter deserves to see in her boyfriend? Even better, her future husband? I always ask myself this question to see how l can improve as a father, and teach my daughter who deserves to be her boyfriend.

You might have heard, “be the change you want to see” but are you truly working to be the change you want to see?

Here are some great things a daughter can learn from her father about the boyfriend she deserves.

Heck yes, even the husband she deserves to marry.

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1. She deserves a boyfriend who will treat her with respect.

She is an equal partner in the relationship and deserves to be treated as such. A father always treats his daughter with respect, so why not her boyfriend? Ladies, if your boyfriend does not treat you with respect, he does not deserve to be your man!

2. She deserves a boyfriend who believes in her.

Every woman deserves a boyfriend who will never give up on her and her dreams. Each one of us has dreams, goals we have set for ourselves. As a father myself, one of my dreams is to work from home. My daughter’s dreams might not be same as mine, but l will do all l can to help her achieve her dreams. She needs a partner who will do the same.

3. She deserves a boyfriend who is confident in her abilities and will value her opinion.

Sometimes, all it takes is for a father to sit down with his daughter and discuss a problem she is facing. By doing this together, she will appreciate her father believing in her abilities to have a great conversation. A great example is how a father can teach his daughter how to make her own opinions and not just accept any opinion someone throws at her. Two heads are better than one!

4. She deserves a boyfriend she can trust.

If a daughter cannot trust her father, neither will benefit from the relationship. Therefore a daughter who knows she can trust her father will expect her boyfriend to be trustworthy. If a daughter does not trust her father, it is very likely she will have a difficult time trusting her boyfriend.

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5. She deserves a boyfriend who loves kids, and plays with them.

You can love kids, but what happens if you do not know how to play with them? Loving kids is not enough; fathers need to also learn how to interact with their kids. By watching her father show affection towards herself and other kids by playing with them, a daughter can be certain a boyfriend with these qualities has the potential to be a great father in the future.

6. She deserves a boyfriend who will be honest with her, and critique her constructively.

There will be times when our daughters will make bad choices. It is during these moments that a father needs to be bold enough to tell her the truth, even if it’s not what she may want to hear. This will help her stay on track with her goals, and also help her make better decisions in the future.

7. She deserves a boyfriend who is smart, intelligent and hardworking.

A father should teach his daughter how to work hard and smart by being an example. She can learn that a man should not only work hard, but work smart.

8. She deserves a boyfriend who will admit when he is wrong.

As a father, there have been times when l have been wrong. Even though admitting being wrong is simple, sometimes l find it difficult to do. But as l have matured as a person, l am now quick to admit my mistakes. A daughter knowing her father can accept his mistakes and admit he is wrong means she can be be sincere and honest with her father when he is wrong. This is another great trait to look for in a boyfriend.

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9. She deserves a boyfriend who will treasure and protect her with all he’s got.

Your father will do everything he can to protect you from harmful things that come your way. It is because he treasures you like no other. So why not choose a boyfriend who will do the same? If you are not a treasure to him, he will treat you like he treats his other stuff. You should have a special place in his life, just as you have a special place in your father’s life.

10. She deserves a boyfriend who will listen to her.

A father listens to the concerns of his daughter; he wants her to know he is there for her. Your boyfriend should be able to listen and properly communicate with you. In today’s world of social media and business, our attention span is so short that we do not listen attentively. Finding a boyfriend who is a great listener is like hitting a home run.

11. She deserves a boyfriend who knows how to be serious when the time calls for it.

Having a life full of fun is great, but there will be a time that will require the balancing of fun with some seriousness to accomplish certain goals. When hard moments, such as financial difficulties arise, a father will put jokes aside to concentrate on resolving these difficulties. A boyfriend who plays and has fun all the time without taking anything seriously will not help you.

12. She deserves a boyfriend who treats her like a queen.

Fathers set a standard with not only the way they treat their daughters, but how they treat her mother. She will learn how she should expect to be treated by him.

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13. She deserves a boyfriend who is kind, patient, loving, gentle, and strong when he needs to be.

Fathers set examples by playing dolls, dress up, and allowing their daughters to paint their nails. Her boyfriend should not be afraid to do things that would “threaten his manhood”. A great man is secure in himself. There is a time to be strong, a time to be protective, and a time to be gentle.

14. She deserves a boyfriend who wants to be with her for more than her physical appearance and what she can do for him.

She can learn that her worth is not based on her physical appearance or ability. Her father loves her, and shows it through his actions as well as his words. You do not have to prove your love to your boyfriend by sleeping with him.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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