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14 Things Dads Teach Their Daughters About the Boyfriends They Deserve

14 Things Dads Teach Their Daughters About the Boyfriends They Deserve

As a father, do you have the qualities your daughter deserves to see in her boyfriend? Even better, her future husband? I always ask myself this question to see how l can improve as a father, and teach my daughter who deserves to be her boyfriend.

You might have heard, “be the change you want to see” but are you truly working to be the change you want to see?

Here are some great things a daughter can learn from her father about the boyfriend she deserves.

Heck yes, even the husband she deserves to marry.

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1. She deserves a boyfriend who will treat her with respect.

She is an equal partner in the relationship and deserves to be treated as such. A father always treats his daughter with respect, so why not her boyfriend? Ladies, if your boyfriend does not treat you with respect, he does not deserve to be your man!

2. She deserves a boyfriend who believes in her.

Every woman deserves a boyfriend who will never give up on her and her dreams. Each one of us has dreams, goals we have set for ourselves. As a father myself, one of my dreams is to work from home. My daughter’s dreams might not be same as mine, but l will do all l can to help her achieve her dreams. She needs a partner who will do the same.

3. She deserves a boyfriend who is confident in her abilities and will value her opinion.

Sometimes, all it takes is for a father to sit down with his daughter and discuss a problem she is facing. By doing this together, she will appreciate her father believing in her abilities to have a great conversation. A great example is how a father can teach his daughter how to make her own opinions and not just accept any opinion someone throws at her. Two heads are better than one!

4. She deserves a boyfriend she can trust.

If a daughter cannot trust her father, neither will benefit from the relationship. Therefore a daughter who knows she can trust her father will expect her boyfriend to be trustworthy. If a daughter does not trust her father, it is very likely she will have a difficult time trusting her boyfriend.

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5. She deserves a boyfriend who loves kids, and plays with them.

You can love kids, but what happens if you do not know how to play with them? Loving kids is not enough; fathers need to also learn how to interact with their kids. By watching her father show affection towards herself and other kids by playing with them, a daughter can be certain a boyfriend with these qualities has the potential to be a great father in the future.

6. She deserves a boyfriend who will be honest with her, and critique her constructively.

There will be times when our daughters will make bad choices. It is during these moments that a father needs to be bold enough to tell her the truth, even if it’s not what she may want to hear. This will help her stay on track with her goals, and also help her make better decisions in the future.

7. She deserves a boyfriend who is smart, intelligent and hardworking.

A father should teach his daughter how to work hard and smart by being an example. She can learn that a man should not only work hard, but work smart.

8. She deserves a boyfriend who will admit when he is wrong.

As a father, there have been times when l have been wrong. Even though admitting being wrong is simple, sometimes l find it difficult to do. But as l have matured as a person, l am now quick to admit my mistakes. A daughter knowing her father can accept his mistakes and admit he is wrong means she can be be sincere and honest with her father when he is wrong. This is another great trait to look for in a boyfriend.

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9. She deserves a boyfriend who will treasure and protect her with all he’s got.

Your father will do everything he can to protect you from harmful things that come your way. It is because he treasures you like no other. So why not choose a boyfriend who will do the same? If you are not a treasure to him, he will treat you like he treats his other stuff. You should have a special place in his life, just as you have a special place in your father’s life.

10. She deserves a boyfriend who will listen to her.

A father listens to the concerns of his daughter; he wants her to know he is there for her. Your boyfriend should be able to listen and properly communicate with you. In today’s world of social media and business, our attention span is so short that we do not listen attentively. Finding a boyfriend who is a great listener is like hitting a home run.

11. She deserves a boyfriend who knows how to be serious when the time calls for it.

Having a life full of fun is great, but there will be a time that will require the balancing of fun with some seriousness to accomplish certain goals. When hard moments, such as financial difficulties arise, a father will put jokes aside to concentrate on resolving these difficulties. A boyfriend who plays and has fun all the time without taking anything seriously will not help you.

12. She deserves a boyfriend who treats her like a queen.

Fathers set a standard with not only the way they treat their daughters, but how they treat her mother. She will learn how she should expect to be treated by him.

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13. She deserves a boyfriend who is kind, patient, loving, gentle, and strong when he needs to be.

Fathers set examples by playing dolls, dress up, and allowing their daughters to paint their nails. Her boyfriend should not be afraid to do things that would “threaten his manhood”. A great man is secure in himself. There is a time to be strong, a time to be protective, and a time to be gentle.

14. She deserves a boyfriend who wants to be with her for more than her physical appearance and what she can do for him.

She can learn that her worth is not based on her physical appearance or ability. Her father loves her, and shows it through his actions as well as his words. You do not have to prove your love to your boyfriend by sleeping with him.

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Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

Learn how to embrace your me time: What Your Fear of Being Alone Is Really About and How to Get over It

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

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7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

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Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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