As a father, do you have the qualities your daughter deserves to see in her boyfriend? Even better, her future husband? I always ask myself this question to see how l can improve as a father, and teach my daughter who deserves to be her boyfriend.
You might have heard, “be the change you want to see” but are you truly working to be the change you want to see?
Here are some great things a daughter can learn from her father about the boyfriend she deserves.
Heck yes, even the husband she deserves to marry.
1. She deserves a boyfriend who will treat her with respect.
She is an equal partner in the relationship and deserves to be treated as such. A father always treats his daughter with respect, so why not her boyfriend? Ladies, if your boyfriend does not treat you with respect, he does not deserve to be your man!
2. She deserves a boyfriend who believes in her.
Every woman deserves a boyfriend who will never give up on her and her dreams. Each one of us has dreams, goals we have set for ourselves. As a father myself, one of my dreams is to work from home. My daughter’s dreams might not be same as mine, but l will do all l can to help her achieve her dreams. She needs a partner who will do the same.
3. She deserves a boyfriend who is confident in her abilities and will value her opinion.
Sometimes, all it takes is for a father to sit down with his daughter and discuss a problem she is facing. By doing this together, she will appreciate her father believing in her abilities to have a great conversation. A great example is how a father can teach his daughter how to make her own opinions and not just accept any opinion someone throws at her. Two heads are better than one!
4. She deserves a boyfriend she can trust.
If a daughter cannot trust her father, neither will benefit from the relationship. Therefore a daughter who knows she can trust her father will expect her boyfriend to be trustworthy. If a daughter does not trust her father, it is very likely she will have a difficult time trusting her boyfriend.
5. She deserves a boyfriend who loves kids, and plays with them.
You can love kids, but what happens if you do not know how to play with them? Loving kids is not enough; fathers need to also learn how to interact with their kids. By watching her father show affection towards herself and other kids by playing with them, a daughter can be certain a boyfriend with these qualities has the potential to be a great father in the future.
6. She deserves a boyfriend who will be honest with her, and critique her constructively.
There will be times when our daughters will make bad choices. It is during these moments that a father needs to be bold enough to tell her the truth, even if it’s not what she may want to hear. This will help her stay on track with her goals, and also help her make better decisions in the future.
7. She deserves a boyfriend who is smart, intelligent and hardworking.
A father should teach his daughter how to work hard and smart by being an example. She can learn that a man should not only work hard, but work smart.
8. She deserves a boyfriend who will admit when he is wrong.
As a father, there have been times when l have been wrong. Even though admitting being wrong is simple, sometimes l find it difficult to do. But as l have matured as a person, l am now quick to admit my mistakes. A daughter knowing her father can accept his mistakes and admit he is wrong means she can be be sincere and honest with her father when he is wrong. This is another great trait to look for in a boyfriend.
9. She deserves a boyfriend who will treasure and protect her with all he’s got.
Your father will do everything he can to protect you from harmful things that come your way. It is because he treasures you like no other. So why not choose a boyfriend who will do the same? If you are not a treasure to him, he will treat you like he treats his other stuff. You should have a special place in his life, just as you have a special place in your father’s life.
10. She deserves a boyfriend who will listen to her.
A father listens to the concerns of his daughter; he wants her to know he is there for her. Your boyfriend should be able to listen and properly communicate with you. In today’s world of social media and business, our attention span is so short that we do not listen attentively. Finding a boyfriend who is a great listener is like hitting a home run.
11. She deserves a boyfriend who knows how to be serious when the time calls for it.
Having a life full of fun is great, but there will be a time that will require the balancing of fun with some seriousness to accomplish certain goals. When hard moments, such as financial difficulties arise, a father will put jokes aside to concentrate on resolving these difficulties. A boyfriend who plays and has fun all the time without taking anything seriously will not help you.
12. She deserves a boyfriend who treats her like a queen.
Fathers set a standard with not only the way they treat their daughters, but how they treat her mother. She will learn how she should expect to be treated by him.
13. She deserves a boyfriend who is kind, patient, loving, gentle, and strong when he needs to be.
Fathers set examples by playing dolls, dress up, and allowing their daughters to paint their nails. Her boyfriend should not be afraid to do things that would “threaten his manhood”. A great man is secure in himself. There is a time to be strong, a time to be protective, and a time to be gentle.
14. She deserves a boyfriend who wants to be with her for more than her physical appearance and what she can do for him.
She can learn that her worth is not based on her physical appearance or ability. Her father loves her, and shows it through his actions as well as his words. You do not have to prove your love to your boyfriend by sleeping with him.
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