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13 Quotes About Confidence That Will Encourage You to Accept Yourself

13 Quotes About Confidence That Will Encourage You to Accept Yourself

Confidence is a skill that can be learned just like anything else. If you struggle with doubt, check out these thirteen quotes about confidence for encouraging words that will help you accept yourself.

“I laugh at myself. I don’t take myself completely seriously. I think that’s another quality that people have to hold on to… you have to laugh, especially at yourself.” ― Madonna

Confident people don’t take things too seriously. They know stressing out about every embarrassing moment or minor mistake is counterproductive, so they try to find the humor in the situation.

“You will never gain anyone’s approval by begging for it. When you stand confident in your own worth, respect follows.”
― Mandy Hale

Confident people won’t change who they are to fit somebody else’s mold. They understand that people-pleasing is an exercise in futility, because they will never be able to make everybody happy.

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“Don’t be afraid of your fears. They’re not there to scare you. They’re there to let you know that something is worth it.”
― C. JoyBell C.

Confident people aren’t afraid to confront their fears. They strive to reach beyond what is comfortable, because true transformation cannot occur without a willingness to push yourself.

“Beauty is about being comfortable in your own skin. It’s about knowing and accepting who you are.” ― Ellen DeGeneres

Confident people don’t compare themselves to others. They accept their body as it is and embrace their authentic personality without apology.

“You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.” ― Eleanor Roosevelt

Confident people aren’t obsessed with what other people think. They know it’s silly to be self-conscious, given the fact that most people are far too busy dealing with their own issues to care about what everybody else is doing.

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“Just believe in yourself. Even if you don’t, pretend that you do and, at some point, you will.” ― Venus Williams

Confident people weren’t born with high self-esteem. They probably had to struggle with personal demons like self-doubt or a poor body image before they learned to accept themselves.

“Don’t waste your energy trying to change opinions. Do your thing, and don’t care if they like it.”  ― Tina Fey

Confident people won’t mince their words just because somebody might be offended. They present their ideas without filter, because they know it is better to have a few friends who accept you as you are than a lot of friends who can’t handle the truth.

“Success is most often achieved by those who don’t know that failure is inevitable.” ― Coco Chanel

Confident people don’t believe “failure” is a scary thing to be avoided. They stay encouraged by reminding themselves that mistakes are nothing more than learning opportunities in disguise.

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“I can be changed by what happens to me, but I refuse to be reduced by it.” — Maya Angelou

Confident people aren’t ruled by their circumstances. They know they can’t control every thing that happens to them, but they take personal responsibility by striving to react in a positive manner.

“Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.” ― Marilyn Monroe

Confident people don’t believe in hero worship. They might have positive role-models they look up to and learn from, but they have no interest in being a copy-cat.

“The worst enemy to creativity is self-doubt.”― Sylvia Plath

Confident people couldn’t achieve much if they didn’t believe in themselves. They remind themselves that doubt is just a nagging voice in their head, and discard negative thoughts that don’t serve their passion or purpose.

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“You can’t move mountains by whispering at them.” ― Pink

Confident people aren’t willing to stay silent when they see injustice in the world. They draw attention to issues they care about by speaking with conviction, no matter what “society” has to say about it.

“Never dull your shine for somebody else.”― Tyra Banks

Confident people won’t shrink themselves for the sake of others. They refuse to let negative people steal their power, because they know they deserve a happy and fulfilling life.

Featured photo credit: Urban Grafitti Portrait/Trenten Kelley via flickr.com

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Daniel is a writer who focuses on blogging about happiness and motivation at Lifehack.

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Last Updated on May 21, 2019

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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