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12 Reasons Why People Who Travel Are So Endearing

12 Reasons Why People Who Travel Are So Endearing

We all have that one friend that has been almost everywhere in the world (7% in reality, but it is more than you have seen). They are the one who has awe-inspiring experiences that makes you glad that they are your friend. Ever wonder why they are so endearing? Here are 12 reasons:

1. They are fearless.

It takes courage to take a leap of faith and step outside of your comfort zone. They are not afraid of picking out a few phrases each day and trying them out. They aren’t afraid of trying new foods and making new friends.

2. They have an open mind.

They are open-minded when it comes to understanding why people are the way they are. They do not turn up their nose at different countries and their traditions. Instead, they embrace it and are fascinated when learning about traditions that are passed throughout the generations.

They see it as something special and will want to take the traditions back home with them.

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3. They are spontaneous.

They are usually the friends you go to when you want to have a great time. They are the ones who live in the moment do it enthusiastically. There is never a boring moment when hanging out with them.

4. They will always have great food suggestions (no matter what you’re in the mood for).

It doesn’t matter if you are in the mood for Chinese, Filipino, Mexican, Indian or any type of food at all. They will likely have a suggestion and an excellent one at that. They know you and they already know what the food tastes like, so more than likely they will pair you with a meal that will become an all time favorite!

5. They have excellent stories.

There are nights where you can just sit in a pub and listen to the hilarious stories they have about meeting different people around the world. They tell them with such passion, you can’t help but listen. They will tell the story and you can almost see yourself standing there in the city center of Brussels enjoying a chocolate truffle and a cappuccino.

6. They are great listeners.

In return, they are great listeners because they have to be. Being in a different state, country or continent, they need to listen actively. They have to pay attention when someone gives them directions about either the local culture or when they are being told about the landmarks.

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They are always there to swap stories with you, as opposed to only talking about their own travels and adventures.

7. They have confidence in themselves.

They have confidence because they need to have it. If they didn’t have it at first, they faked it until it became authentic. They realized that trying to speak another language does not get you anywhere unless you speak up and say it with confidence.

More than likely, they have been corrected many times and are now proud that they can get it right. They walk with confidence because they have more experience than the majority of people out there. Why? Because they took the steps to make it happen. Traveling is not just for the rich and they are living proof of that.

8. They will send back cool postcards and souvenirs.

When they travel, they will always find something cool to send back to their friends. They send you postcards  and trinkets to keep. And maybe if they love you enough, you will get one specially post marked from the post office in a place like Vatican City.

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9. They appreciate the little things.

In this day and age, it is pretty hard to impress people. Those who travel are great because they see beauty and appreciate the little things in life. They appreciate a sunset because not all sunsets look the same.

They have experienced getting their breath taken away from architecture and they love the feeling. They have sat and slowly enjoyed cups of coffee on early morning strolls through the streets of Seattle.

10. They are okay with not having a plan.

They can tell you of countless times they were lost looking for a landmark and stumbled into a hole in the wall place that served the best tacos. They can tell you they have walked in circles around Brussels city center because their GPS was looking for the English translation of a particular street, as all of the streets are in French.

It doesn’t matter to them at all because they are okay with not having a plan. They believe it leads to great stories to tell down the road.

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11. They have a great attitude.

No matter what, they have a great attitude about life. People that travel have problems of their own. After all, they aren’t robots without feelings. The only difference is that they don’t let their problems consume their life. They have seen a little bit of the world and realize things can always be much worse.

12. They will inspire you.

They inspire you to be more positive in life and to have hope. The more you hang out with them, the more you develop your own wanderlust. They inspire you to get out there and embrace the world as it is.

Featured photo credit: Travel Plans/ Connor Bleakley via flickr.com

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Published on May 4, 2021

How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

They say we are the average of the five persons we spend the most time with. For a minute, consider the people around you. Are they truly who your “tribe” should be or who you aspire to become in the future? Are they really genuine people who want to see you succeed? Or are they fake people who don’t really want to see you happy?

In this article, I’ll review why it is important to surround yourself with genuine individuals—the ones who care, bring something to our table, and first and foremost, who leave all fakeness behind.

How to Spot Fake People?

When you’ve been working in the helping professions for a while, spotting fake people gets a bit easier. There are some very clear signs that the person you are looking at is hiding something, acting somehow, or simply wanting to get somewhere. Most often, there is a secondary gain—perhaps attention, sympathy, or even a promotion.

Whatever it is, you’re better off working their true agenda and staying the hell away. Here are some things you should look out for to help spot fake people.

1. Full of Themselves

Fake people like to show off. They love looking at themselves in the mirror. They collect photos and videos of every single achievement they had and every part of their body and claim to be the “best at what they do.”

Most of these people are actually not that good in real life. But they act like they are and ensure that they appear better than the next person. The issue for you is that you may find yourself always feeling “beneath” them and irritated at their constant need to be in the spotlight.

2. Murky in Expressing Their Emotions

Have you ever tried having a deep and meaningful conversation with a fake person? It’s almost impossible. It’s because they have limited emotional intelligence and don’t know how they truly feel deep down—and partly because they don’t want to have their true emotions exposed, no matter how normal these might be.

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It’s much harder to say “I’m the best at what I do” while simultaneously sharing “average” emotions with “equal” people.

3. Zero Self-Reflection

To grow, we must accept feedback from others. We must be open to our strengths and to our weaknesses. We must accept that we all come in different shapes and can always improve.

Self-reflection requires us to think, forgive, admit fault, and learn from our mistakes. But to do that, we have to be able to adopt a level of genuineness and depth that fake people don’t routinely have. A fake person generally never apologizes, but when they do, it is often followed with a “but” in the next breath.

4. Unrealistic Perceptions

Fake people most often have an unrealistic perception of the world—things that they want to portray to others (pseudo achievements, materialistic gains, or a made-up sense of happiness) or simply how they genuinely regard life outside themselves.

A lot of fake people hide pain, shame, and other underlying reasons in their behavior. This could explain why they can’t be authentic and/or have difficulties seeing their environment for the way it objectively is (both good and bad).

5. Love Attention

As I mentioned earlier, the biggest sign that something isn’t quite right with someone’s behavior can be established by how much they love attention. Are you being interrupted every time you speak by someone who wants to make sure that the spotlight gets reverted back to them? Is the focus always on them, no matter the topic? If yes, you’re probably dealing with a fake person.

6. People Pleaser

Appreciation feels nice but having everyone like you is even better. While it is completely unrealistic for most people to please everyone all the time, fake people seem to always say yes in pursuit of constant approval.

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Now, this is a problem for two reasons. Firstly, these people are simply saying yes to things for their own satisfaction. Secondly, they often end up changing their minds or retracting their offer for one reason or another (“I would have loved to, but my grandmother suddenly fell ill.”), leaving you in the lurch for the 100th time this year.

7. Sarcasm and Cynicism

Behind the chronic pasted smile, fake people are well known for brewing resentment, jealousy, or anger. This is because, behind the postcard life, they are often unhappy. Sarcasm and cynicism are well known to act as a defense mechanism, sometimes even a diversion—anything so they can remain feeling on top of the world, whether it is through boosting themselves or bringing people down.

8. Crappy friend

Fake people are bad friends. They don’t listen to you, your feelings, and whatever news you might have to share. In fact, you might find yourself migrating away from them when you have exciting or bad news to share, knowing that it will always end up one way—their way. In addition, you might find that they’re not available when you truly need them or worse, cancel plans at the last minute.

It’s not unusual to hear that a fake person talks constantly behind people’s backs. Let’s be honest, if they do it to others, they’re doing it to you too. If your “friend” makes you feel bad constantly, trust me, they’re not achieving their purpose, and they’re simply not a good person to have around.

The sooner you learn to spot these fake people, the sooner you can meet meaningful individuals again.

How to Cope With Fake People Moving Forward?

It is important to remind yourself that you deserve more than what you’re getting. You are worthy, valuable, precious, and just as important as the next person.

There are many ways to manage fake people. Here are some tips on how to deal with them.

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1. Boundaries

Keep your boundaries very clear. As explained in the book Unlock Your Resilience, boundaries are what keep you sane when the world tries to suffocate you. When fake people become emotional vampires, make sure to keep your distances, limit contact, and simply replace them with more valuable interactions.

2. Don’t Take Their Behavior Personally

Sadly, they most likely have behaved this way before they knew you and will continue much longer after you have moved on. It isn’t about you. It is about their inner need to meet a void that you are not responsible for. And in all honesty, unless you are a trained professional, you are unlikely to improve it anyway.

3. Be Upfront and Honest About How You Feel

If your “friend” has been hurtful or engaged in behaviors you struggle with, let them know—nicely, firmly, however you want, but let them know that they are affecting you. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll feel better and when you’re ready to move on, you’ll know you tried to reach out. Your conscience is clear.

4. Ask for Advice

If you’re unsure about what you’re seeing or feeling, ask for advice. Perhaps a relative, a good friend, or a colleague might have some input as to whether you are overreacting or seeing some genuine concerns.

Now, don’t confuse asking for advice with gossiping behind the fake person’s back because, in the end, you don’t want to stoop down to their level. However, a little reminder as to how to stay on your own wellness track can never hurt.

5. Dig Deeper

Now, this one, I offer with caution. If you are emotionally strong, up to it, guaranteed you won’t get sucked into it, and have the skills to manage, perhaps you could dig into the reasons a fake person is acting the way they do.

Have they suffered recent trauma? Have they been rejected all their lives? Is their self-esteem so low that they must resort to making themselves feel good in any way they can? Sometimes, having an understanding of a person’s behavior can help in processing it.

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6. Practice Self-Care!

Clearly, putting some distance between the fake person and yourself is probably the way to go. However, sometimes, it takes time to get there. In the meantime, make sure to practice self-care, be gentle with yourself, and compensate with lots of positives!

Self-care can be as simple as taking a hot shower after talking to them or declining an invitation when you’re not feeling up to the challenge.

Spotting fake people isn’t too hard. They generally glow with wanna-be vibes. However, most often, there are reasons as to why they are like this. Calling their behavior might be the first step. Providing them with support might be the second. But if these don’t work, it’s time to stay away and surround yourself with the positivity that you deserve.

Final Thoughts

Remember that life is a rollercoaster. It has good moments, tough moments, and moments you wouldn’t change for the world. So, look around and make sure that you take the time to choose the right people to share it all with.

We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, so take a good look around and choose wisely!

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