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10 Simple Ways To Deal With Sadness When You Still Need To Work

10 Simple Ways To Deal With Sadness When You Still Need To Work

There’s overwhelming pressure to look happy at work when you’re dealing with sadness. The “mask” you wear can be unbearable.  What happens when you just filed for divorce?  When your children are in trouble? When you’re in trouble?  There is a way to accept your sadness and not let it control you.  The last thing you want is to appear weak or vulnerable in the office.  Here are some ways to help you deal with sadness and stay focused.

1. Be sad.

Don’t force happy. As long as you get the work done on time, no one is going to notice. Aside from crying openly in the office, manage your sadness in other ways:  write yourself an email listing all your sad thoughts, bring a knitted-stress ball to work.  You can stick needles in it during lunch as you imagine the person or thing doing you wrong.  It’s important not to hold this heavy, negative energy in your body.  You may let it out on the wrong person in the next cubicle.

2. Put together a self-care kit & don’t forget it at home.

Your bag is going to be heavy during this time, but for good reason.  Bring a few of your favorite magazines, lavender oil for relaxation, scented hand cream, aspirin, and a few bags of your favorite hot beverage, like coffee, tea or cocoa.  When everything else fails, grab one of these before a meltdown.

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3. Eat well.

Cooking is one of the hardest things to do when sad, so keep it simple, but delicious.  Favorite kid foods can bring back memories of comfortable, safe moments growing up.  Fix a couple of almond butter and strawberry jam sandwiches or a simple grilled cheese with tomato soup.  These pack enough basic nutrition to keep you alive, give you some energy to make eye contact, and help you last until the next break.

4. Listen to audio books.

It’s one of the best ways to keep people off your back.  Pop in a motivational book or the latest novel and drift away.  If you find your mind wandering, turn it off, but keep the plugs in your ears. Passersby will think you’re still listening and will not want to disturb you.

5. Do productive spurts of 45 minutes.

You have little energy for work, when all your energy is working out what’s happening in your life. Break your days up into 45-minute blocks of steady productivity.  After each block, smoke a cigarette, take a walk, or disappear for a few minutes to clear your head.  If you have to stay near the phone, consider letting some calls go to voicemail in between blocks to give you time to clear your head, and start again.

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6. Keep pesky co-workers at bay.

Establish healthy boundaries with talkative types who demand time and energy to act like you’re really interested in what they’re saying. You can use email and skip the face-to-face “check-ins.”

7. Eat at your desk.

Instead of joining the crew for lunch, stay behind.  You can eat in your office or desk and sit with your sadness. Be open to any solutions that arise.  Again, don’t suppress how you feel.  Oftentimes, in the routine of a workday, you may get the answers you need.

8. Get some sun and fresh air.

Leave the office.  If eating lunch at your desk doesn’t work, step outside for some fresh air, and natural vitamin D.  Vitamin D is a natural mood booster, and all it takes is 10 minutes.  The fresh air will soothe your nerves and give you a sense of well-being.

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9. Spend time in the bathroom.

Can’t sit at your desk for lunch or leave the office without someone making a big stink?  Go to the bathroom for a little rest and relaxation.  Not exactly the most serene place, but a notable venue for contemplation.  Stand or sit and do some deep breathing (bring that lavender oil, just in case) and feel your sadness.  Let it out. There’s plenty of tissue on deck.

10. Ask for help.

If you feel overwhelmed, ask a trusted colleague to help.  Perhaps, you can offer to take a shift or finish one of their projects as an exchange.  Keep the work you’re handing over small, and manageable, and use your free-time to focus on less, demanding tasks.

Sometimes the best way to deal with sadness that lasts more than a few days is to take some time off.  They don’t call them “personal days” for nothing.

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Last Updated on July 18, 2019

What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

Some people just seem to float through life with a relentless sense of happiness – through the toughest of times, they’re unfazed and aloof, stopping to smell the roses and drinking out of a glass half full.

They may not have much to be happy about, but the simplicity behind that fact itself may make them happy.

It’s all a matter of perspective, conscious effort and self-awareness. Listed below are a number of reasons why some people are always happy.

1. They Manage Their Expectations

They’re not crushed when they don’t get what they want – or misled into expecting to get the most out of every situation. They approach every situation pragmatically, hoping for the best but being prepared for the worst.

2. They Don’t Set Unrealistic Standards

Similar to the last point, they don’t live their lives in a constant pursuit towards impossible visions of perfection, only to always find themselves falling short of what they want.

3. They Don’t Take Anything for Granted

Happiness rests with feeling fulfilled – those who fail to stop and appreciate what they have every now and again will never experience true fulfillment.

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4. They’re Not Materialistic

There are arguing viewpoints on whether or not money can really buy happiness; if it can, then we know from experience that we can never be satisfied because there will always be something newer or better that we want. Who has ever had enough money?

5. They Don’t Dwell

They don’t sweat the small things or waste time worrying about things that don’t really matter at the end of the day. They don’t let negative thoughts latch onto them and drain them or distract them. Life’s too short to worry.

6. They Care About Themselves First

They’re independent, care for themselves and understand that they must put their needs first in order to accommodate the needs of others.

They indulge, aim to get what they want, make time for themselves and are extremely self-reliant.

7. They Enjoy the Little Things

They stop to smell the roses. They’re accustomed to find serenity when it’s available, to welcome entertainment or a stimulating discussion with a stranger when it crosses their path. They don’t overlook the small things in life that can be just as important.

8. They Can Adapt

They’re not afraid of change and they work to make the most out of new circumstances, good or bad. They thrive under pressure, are not overwhelmed easily and always embrace a change of pace.

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9. They Experiment

They try new things, experience new flavors and never shy away from something they have yet to experience. They never order twice from the same menu.

10. They Take Their Time

They don’t unnecessarily rush through life. They work on their own schedule to the extent that they can and maneuver through life at their own relaxing pace.

11. They Employ Different Perspectives

They’re not stuck in one perspective; a loss can result in a new opportunity, hitting rock bottom can mean that there’s no where to go but up.

12. They Seek to Learn

Their constant pursuit of knowledge keeps them inspired and interested in life. They cherish information and are on a life-long quest to learn as much as they can.

13. They Always Have a Plan

They don’t find themselves drifting without purpose. When something doesn’t go as planned, they have a plan for every letter in the alphabet to fall back on.

14. They Give Respect to Get It

They are respectful and, in turn, are seen as respectable; the respect they exude earns them the respect they deserve.

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15. They Consider Every Opportunity

They always have their eyes open for a new road, a new avenue worth exploring. They know how to recognize opportune moments and pounce on them to make the most of every situation. Success is inevitable for them.

16. They Always Seek to Improve

Perpetual self-improvement is the key towards their ongoing thirst for success. Whatever it is they do, they take pride in getting better and better, from social interactions to mundane tasks. Their pursuit at being the best eventually materializes.

17. They Don’t Take Life Too Seriously

They’re not ones to get offended easily over-analyze or complicate matters. They laugh at their own faults and misfortunes.

18. They Live in the Moment

They don’t live for tomorrow or dwell on what may have happened yesterday. Every day is a new opportunity, a new chapter. They live in the now, and in doing so, get the most out of every moment.

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19. They Say Yes

Much more often than they say no. They don’t have to be badgered to go out, don’t shy away from new opportunities or anything that may seem inconvenient.

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20. They’re Self-Aware

Most important, they’re wholly aware of themselves. They self-reflect and are conscious of their states of mind. If somethings bothering them, they fix it.

We’re all susceptible to feeling down every now and again, but we are all equipped with the necessary solutions that just have to be discovered.

Lack of confidence, inability to feel fulfilled, and susceptibility to stress are all matters that can be controlled through the way we handle our lives and perceive our circumstances.

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Final Thoughts

The main philosophy employed by the happiest includes the idea that life’s simply too short: life’s too short to let things get you down, to take things for granted, to pursue absolute and unrealistic perfection.

For some, employing these characteristics is a second nature – they do it without knowing. For others, a conscious effort must be put forth every now and again. Self-Awareness is key.

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