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10 Reasons to Date a Guy Who Reads

10 Reasons to Date a Guy Who Reads

Even though almost everyone learns how to read by the time they’re seven years old, it’s difficult to find people who read for fun. These days with smartphones, social media, hundreds of TV stations and streaming services, and more gaming platforms than you can shake a stick at, people are simply finding other ways to entertain themselves. Believe it or not, there are still men who read and here’s why you should seek those people out and date a guy who reads.

1. They tend to be more sophisticated

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    Men who read are generally more sophisticated than those who do not. Reading allows people to delve into opinions and realities other than their own and thus it helps improve their perspective. That can result in a higher intelligence, more wisdom, more patience, and more composure. Let’s not forget that people who frequently read are part of a culture of people who read and those people tend to enjoy things like good wine, tea, coffee, comfortable furniture, and mood lighting more than other people.

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    2. They’re more intelligent

    When you read a lot, you learn a lot. Just because they read a fantasy novel filled with dragons and elves doesn’t mean that there aren’t a lot of life lessons baked into those pages. You’ll find who people who read a lot of novels have a better vocabulary than those who read either magazines or not at all. They tend to connect the dots better, take hints better, and react better to new information. They also communicate better, which is one of the most important thing in a relationship. We’re not saying a man who reads is prepared for anything but you’ll definitely hear him utter the words, “I don’t know,” a lot less than normal men.

    3. They’re more creative

    Creativity matters in a relationship. After a few years it begins to get difficult to surprise your significant other or keep the romance fresh. When a guy reads a lot, he absorbs the creativity of authors as if through osmosis. Reading all those scenarios and stories in all of those books gives men ideas that they may not have had otherwise. If you’re in it for the long haul, a heavy reader will find ways to keep things interesting. It may not be skydiving or something ridiculous like that, but those epic scavenger hunts that end with the perfect anniversary gift wasn’t something he just dreamed up. He read it somewhere.

    4. His inner child is more alive

    That means he’ll know how to handle kids when you eventually have some. He’ll be the one who tucks in the kids with the perfect storybook in hand, ready to read the kids epic stories of love, adventure, and friendship. And if we’re honest, those are the lessons we want to teach our kids growing up, are they not? Since he loves to read anyway, he won’t mind reading for the kids at bed time. He’ll be the guy who gets into the stories with the fake voices and really cares that the kids are absorbed by the story. You’ll be the woman standing in the hall laughing at your big, lovable lug because, let’s face it, that’s adorable.

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    5. He’ll be a more passionate lover

    Have you ever read a tastefully written sex scene in a novel? They’re descriptive but not overly so and some authors are very imaginative. In the worlds that he visits, people are passionate. As we said earlier, people who read a lot learn from the things that they read. That means when he reads a tasteful, yet passionate sex scene, he learns from it and that only means good things for you.

    6. He’s more patient

    Reading a book takes time. Busy men may stay on that same book for weeks until they finish. For others, they can chew through a few hundred pages in just a few hours. Whether it’s being patient enough to read the same book for a long time or sit down long enough to read a whole book in one go, men who read are more patient. Patience is a skill and it’s one that is honed over years of practice. Readers have more patience, which means he’ll be less likely to just up and leave you for no apparent reason. He’ll be patient enough to work out problems in the relationship and stick around. That’s a trait that’s dying quickly in the newer generations. You’ll be like one of his books, and I guarantee you’ll never see him throw away one of his books.

    7. He will teach you things

    As we’ve stated repeatedly, men who read know things. They’ve read a lot of words and those words contain lessons. Not all books they read are fantasy or drama novels. Sometimes they read how-tos. Not only do they like to read but they like to learn and that means there are probably a considerable number of things that they can teach you about life, love, and maybe even some practical things, like DIY home projects or possibly even your computer or smartphone. As Red Green always said, “If women don’t find you handsome, they should at least find you handy.”

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    8. You are guaranteed private time

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      Readers like to read. That sounds like a dumb statement but hear me out. When readers read they don’t like to be disturbed. They’re engaging with the words and painting pictures of vast landscapes and epic scenes in their head. When a man who reads sits down to read, you have time to yourself to do what you want. Take a bath, take a nap, go out shopping for a couple of hours, or do whatever it is you like to do. Book readers aren’t clingy, because if you don’t want to hang out, they have a place to go to chill to wait for you.

      9. He knows what romance is really about

      He’s read books that contain romance. Even fantasy novels crafted for young adult men have romances in them. In the books he reads, the hero and/or heroine and the people they love endure the worst. They endure battles and betrayal, separation and desperation. They stay together (most of the time) and their characters are shining beacons of inspiration for what romance really is. When you find a guy who reads, you’ve found a guy who has seen romance done the right way and that means soon you will too.

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      10. He knows how to take care of things

      Books are made of paper and paper is fragile. It can be destroyed by water, dirt, neglect, abuse, and even time itself. You can be sure that a man who reads knows how to take care of his things because he wants his books to live on so he can read them again. That means there will be coasters on the tables, things will be dusted and cleaned, and he’ll treat his and your stuff with respect. You’re not a thing, but these habits of not abusing or neglecting his treasures will translate into not abusing or neglecting you. That’s a win-win.

      Readers in general are better people for having read about other people who do good things. They have a good example of how they should act and who they should be. But beware: not every reader is like this even if the majority of them are. Not every turtle-neck-toting guy reading a book in a Starbucks is going to match the description on this list and we know that. However, most of them do, and when you find one you’ll see how awesome it can be to date a guy who reads.

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      Last Updated on July 15, 2019

      41 Beautiful Pictures That Show What True Love Is All About

      41 Beautiful Pictures That Show What True Love Is All About

      Some things in life are hard to describe, yet we can recognize them when we see them.

      Love is one of those things.

      True love comes in many different forms, but here are some that many of us know well.

      True love means supporting those who can’t support themselves

      supportive couple

        A young man comforts his date in Times Square, New York City. Image by mbtrama

        strong hug

          A young man holds his significant other close to him. Image by Brad Fults

          running help

            A young track competitor helps one of her injured opponents over the finish line. Image from ViralNova.com

            feeding kitten

              A soldier in the Korean War takes time to feed a baby kitten. Image from US Naval Insititute

              It’s having the perfect selfie partner

              mom and daughter selfie

                A mother and her daughter take a selfie together. Image by Andrew Fysh

                girlfriends

                  Two young girls pose for the camera. Image by Rolands Lakis

                  selfies

                    A happy couple takes a picture together. Image by Kayla Heineman

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                    selfie

                      Two best friends take a selfie together. Image by Jason Wahido

                      dude selfie

                        Friends take a selfie together. Image by Glenn Scofield Williams

                        It’s all the warm fuzzies

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                          A young man spends time with his dog on a beach. Image by Magdalena Roeseler

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                            A pet owner hugs his dog while on a day trip in San Francisco. Image by Taro the Shiba Inu

                            It means having a friend to photobomb you

                            photobomb

                              A boy makes a funny face as he poses for a picture with his brother. Image by Michael Bentley

                              old man photobomb

                                A man photobombs his wife while their grandson snaps a picture. Image by Frank

                                family photobomb

                                  Family members photobomb their relatives’ Thanksgiving day family photo. Image by Beth Scupham

                                  boyfriend photobomb

                                    A friend photobombs the photographer and their friend, the woman in the foreground of this photo. Image by Lachlan Hardy

                                    True love means being there even when life gets unbearably hard

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                                    shoulder to cry on

                                      A family watches the Vermont National Guard depart for Afghanistan. Image by The U.S. Army

                                      flood dog

                                        During a monsoon in the Philippines, a boy carries his dog to safety. Image by Romeo Ranoco

                                        A woman is rescued from flood waters by a resident standing on top of her car during heavy rain in Chalandri suburb north of Athens

                                          A man helps a woman out of her vehicle during a flood in Chalandri, Greece. Image by John Kolesidis

                                          lunch

                                            A woman has lunch with her husband every day, even after he’s passed away. Image from ViralNova.com

                                            hug

                                              A woman hugs the mother of 6-year-old Noah Ponzer, who was one of the victims of the Sandy Hook shootings. Image by Spencer Platt

                                              rubble

                                                An Oklahoma couple pauses while trying to salvage belongings from a family member’s home after a tornado. Image by Adrees Latif

                                                sister and brother

                                                  A girl puts her arm around her little brother as they wait outside of Sandy Hook Elementary after gunshots are fired. Image by Reuters.

                                                  headstone

                                                    A woman sits at her husband’s grave the day before their wedding anniversary. Image from NBC news

                                                    It means taking the time for long goodbyes

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                                                      A man says goodbye to his son before deploying. Image by Official U.S. Navy Page

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                                                      national guard goodbye

                                                        A South Carolina man says goodbye to his son before deploying for Afghanistan. Image by The National Guard

                                                        saying goodbye

                                                          A Sergeant hugs both of his sons before being deployed to Afghanistan. Image by The National Guard

                                                          And cherishing reunions

                                                          husband home

                                                            A woman hugs her husband as she sees him for the first time since his deployment to Iraq. Image by The U.S. Army

                                                            boyfriend home

                                                              A young  woman hugs her significant other as he returns home for Kuwait. Image by The National Guard

                                                              mother hug

                                                                A mother drops to her knees as she hugs her son on her return home from the Persian Gulf. Image by The National Guard

                                                                True love is letting yourself feel young when they’re around

                                                                elderly women

                                                                  Two friends on their smartphones. Image by Robert Neff

                                                                  feeling young

                                                                    A young couple getting their picture taken. Image by db Photograph

                                                                    sprinkler dad

                                                                      A father plays in a sprinkler with his daughter at Millennium Park in Chicago. Image by Ben Forsberg

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                                                                      subway couple

                                                                        A young couple on a subway enjoys sharing time together, while the girlfriend’s father sneaks a photo of them. Image by Gareth Williams

                                                                        wheelchairs

                                                                          A couple holds hands on a fall day. Image by David Amsler

                                                                          It’s letting yourself be silly… just because they’ll enjoy it

                                                                          silly faces

                                                                            A grandfather makes faces at the camera with his granddaughters. Image by Tim Pierce

                                                                            vote for pedro

                                                                              A woman’s father wears a Napoleon Dynamite t-shirt to make his daughter laugh. Image by emdot

                                                                              True love is allowing yourself to show how you really feel

                                                                              date night

                                                                                A young couple kisses in the back of a restaurant in Washington, D.C. Image by Derek Key

                                                                                playing violin

                                                                                  Violinist Nancy Dinovo plays at a memorial service for the victims of 9/11. Image by Christopher Morris

                                                                                  True love is timeless

                                                                                  old friends

                                                                                    Friends spending some time together. Image by Cristian Bortes

                                                                                    sitting around a fire

                                                                                      A group of friends sits around a campfire eating. Image by New Old Stock

                                                                                      elderly couple

                                                                                        An elderly couple walks down a street together. Image by Matteo Paciotti

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