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10 Must Read Self-Help Books You Never Heard Of

10 Must Read Self-Help Books You Never Heard Of

Sometimes it is difficult to figure out who you really are. The world is full of colloquialisms and advice to help you along your way but it’s still really difficult to get a grasp of what you need to do to be who you really are. That’s why self help books exist. To explain things to people in a way that will motivate them to be themselves. Here are 10 self-help books you have probably never heard of that may say what you need in the way you need to hear it said.

1. Achieve Anything In Just One Year by Jason Harvey

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    Knowing what you want isn’t always all that you need. Sometimes you also need motivation to complete it and this book will help with that. Author Jason Harvey outlines some rules and suggestions to help get you more motivated and committed to your goals whatever they might be.

    2. Self-Defeating Behaviors by Milton R Cudney

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      The biggest obstacles we have are ones that we give to ourselves. This next book helps you identify behaviors you do that holds you back without you knowing. Once you have identified the problems you can then work to eliminate the behaviors and replace them with self-enhancing actions to help you move toward your goals.

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      3. No More Negative Thinking by Beau Norton

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        Depression is only a disease half of the time. The other half of the time it’s just us feeling a little bit blue. The effects are still the same, though. Being unhappy can prevent us from doing the things we love to do and it can prevent us from making progress. With this title, you can learn how to control your emotions and enjoy life with a more positive outlook.

        4. Healing Your Emotional Self by Beverley Engel

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          In this powerful title, you learn to identify who and what is being emotionally abusive to you so that you can overcome the terrible feelings that you have. If you live with demons that you can’t seem to shake, this can help you understand that it’s really not your fault and how you can move passed them.

          5. The Self-Esteem Workbook by Glenn R. Schiraldi

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            Some may argue that this one is a little out of date but it’s still an amazing book if you need help with your self-esteem. It takes a lighter approach and helps you identify reasons why you’re self-esteem is low and how to make it higher. It teaches how to be more compassionate and how to take criticism without getting down on yourself.

            6. The Courage to be Yourself by Sue Patton Thoele

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              This title is aimed at women who are in need of emotional strength and self-esteem. It helps women understand their problems in a way that they understand from someone who has experienced the same problems and knows how to fix them.

              7. Get Out of Your Own Way by Mark Goulston

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                We have one book on here already that helps deal with self defeating behavior but this one takes a no nonsense approach. What makes this one different is that it deals with specific stuff like anger, greed, envy, jealousy, and over 50 other common behaviors that do nothing more than hold people back.

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                8. You are dying and your world is a lie by Johnny Truant

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                  This is definitely the most unique book on the list. It takes a more aggressive approach to self help by telling what is really going on in the world around you. The idea being that once you have the shrouds of comfort shattered that you’ll be able to rebuild your life and your perspective with a more healthy and realistic approach. It’s a good read and every book in this series is actually free.

                  9. 50 Self-Help Classic by Tom Butler-Bowden

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                    There are so many self-help books that it can be difficult to find the one that helps you. One way is to buy a bunch of individual books and hope it works or you can pick up a book like this one. It features 50 self-help books compiled into a single volume from the likes of legendary minds like Benjamin Franklin and Paulo Coelho. It’s not a bad buy for the opinions of some of the greatest minds ever.

                    10. The Book of Awakening by Mark Nepo

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                      The last title in our round up comes from Mark Nepo who is not only a poet and a philosopher but also a cancer survivor. In his book he wants to teach you how to live each day one at a time, slow down, and enjoy the beauty of life all around us. It’s a great read for those who live life too fast and need to slow down and smell the flowers before it’s too late. It has a commanding 4.8 out of 5 rating on Amazon and that’s really saying something.

                      Self-help books are everywhere and they’re released all the time. Of course, if people didn’t need help the self-help book industry would be dead in the water instead of thriving like it is. If these lesser-known titles aren’t for you then just keep looking! You’ll find what you’re looking for eventually.

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                      Last Updated on January 16, 2020

                      12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

                      12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

                      The way you feel about yourself greatly influences how you live and interact with others. If you are confident about yourself, you tend to see yourself positively and actually enjoy spending time with and around people. You don’t feel self-conscious or awkward around others, and that allows you to live your fullest and happiest life.

                      However, if you’re drowning in a sea of self-doubt, hesitancy and shyness, you often withdraw and isolate yourself from others and avoid interacting and connecting with people. That anxiety you feel in the pit of your stomach when you are around people is holding you back greatly and it is not good for your emotional health and overall well-being. You need to do something about it if you are low in self-confidence or have friends or family members who are not confident.

                      “Confidence isn’t walking into a room thinking you’re better than everyone, it’s walking in not having to compare yourself to anyone” – Anonymous

                      Here are simple, practical tips to boost your confidence right now and make you feel and act your best.

                      1. Stop labeling yourself as awkward, timid or shy.

                      When you label yourself as awkward, timid or shy, you sub-consciously tell your mind to act accordingly and psychologically feel inclined to live up to those expectations. Instead of labeling and entertaining negative self-talk, visualize and affirm yourself as confident and strong. Close your eyes for a minute and visualize yourself in different situation as you would like to be.

                      Be your own cheerleader. Experts believe that positive affirmation and good mental practices like picturing yourself winning or achieving a goal can lead to greater feelings of self-assurance and prepare your brain for success.[1] As the saying goes, “seeing is believing.” Picture yourself as confident and soon enough you will begin to manifest behavior that gives evidence to this new ‘fact.’

                      2. Recognize that the world is not focused on you (unless, of course, you are Kanye West).

                      That means you don’t have to be excessively sensitive about who you are or what you are doing (or not doing). You are not on the center stage; there is no need for preoccupation with self and perfectionism. As rap music star Rocko sings, “You just do you and I will do me, aight?”

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                      Forget about trying to please everyone or being perfect. Trying to be perfect and being a people-pleaser puts too much pressure on you and creates unnecessary anxiety. Besides, people are too preoccupied with their own issues to pay much attention to your every move unless, of course, you are a mega famous, super celebrity like Beyonce or Kanye West.

                      3. Focus on other people as opposed to yourself.

                      If you are low on confidence, self-conscious, nervous and shy in social situations, focus your attention on other people and what they are saying or doing instead of focusing on your own awkwardness.

                      For example, think about what it is that is interesting about the person who’s the centre of the party or the guy or girl you are talking with. Prompt them to talk more about themselves and be genuinely curious and interested in what they say. You will instantly come across as confident and warmhearted.

                      People generally want to talk about themselves, be heard and understood. They will love it when you’re eager and willing to listen to them and really hear what they have to say.

                      This habit of focusing more on what you love in others as opposed to what you dislike in yourself will not only help you become more assertive and comfortable in virtually all social situations, but also instantly make you feel great about yourself.

                      4. Know (and accept) yourself for who you are.

                      Chinese military general, strategist and philosopher Sun Tzu, author of the internationally acclaimed book The Art of War, said, “Know yourself and you will win all battles.” Even in the battle with lack of confidence, you will need to know yourself to win.

                      Knowing yourself starts with understanding that people are not all the same, neither are all social situation suitable for everyone. You might not be confident in large gatherings, but you could be bold and confident in one-on-one and small group interactions. We all have our own unique gifts and unique ways of expressing ourselves. Embrace yours!

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                      Introverts, for example, have a quiet confidence that is, unfortunately, often confused for shyness. They are naturally low key and prefer to spend time alone. However, this natural disposition affords them certain unique gifts, such as an ability to listen better than most people and notice things that others don’t.

                      Your uniqueness is where your strength and advantage lies. You won’t be comfortable and confident in all situations all the time. Albert Einstein said,

                      “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

                      5. Crack a smile.

                      If there is one sure way to instantly boost your confidence, it’s cracking a smile. Christine Clapp, a public speaking expert at The George Washington University, says that flashing those pretty, pearly white teeth will immediately make you appear both confident and composed. But, the effect of smiling is not just external. Studies show that smiling can also help nix feelings of stress and pave the way for a happier and more relaxed you.[2]

                      Not a bad return for something seemingly so trite, wouldn’t you agree?

                      6. Break a sweat—with exercise.

                      Working out is another great way to make yourself feel amazing and confident. Science has shown that exercising increases your endorphins, helps reduce stress, tones your muscles and makes you feel happy and confident.[3]

                      And hey, all you have to do is take a walk a few times a week and you’ll see the benefits. What seems to matter—as far as your confidence goes—is whether you break a sweat, not how strenuous your session is, which is pretty cool. Start working out now.

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                      7. Groom yourself.

                      This might seem mundane, but it’s amazing how much of a difference a shower and shave can have on your confidence and self-image. And when you spritz on a scent, the boost on confidence and self-esteem is incredible. As it turns out, your favorite fragrance does more than make you smell oh-so-nice.

                      A study found that a fragrance can inspire confidence in men. Interestingly, the study also found that the more a man likes the fragrance, the more confident he might feel. Another study found that 90% of women feel more confident while wearing a scent than those who go fragrance-free.

                      8. Dress nicely.

                      Another one that might seem trite, but it works. If you dress nicely, you’ll instantly feel good about yourself and give your confidence a real boost. That is largely because you’ll feel attractive, presentable and sometimes even successful in nice clothes.

                      While dressing nicely means something different for everyone, it does not necessarily mean wearing $500 designer outfits. It means wearing clothes that are clean, that you are comfortable in and that are nice-looking and presentable, including casual clothes.

                      9. Do activities you enjoy.

                      Whether it is reading a book, playing a musical instrument, riding your bicycle or going fishing, do what you really enjoy and what makes you truly happy often. It will boost your self-esteem, soothe your ego and allow you to identify with your gifts and talents. That will in turn bolster your self-belief and grow your confidence exponentially.

                      You might not become popular for doing what you love, but you might not even want to be popular at all. Being popular doesn’t make you happy; doing what you love does.

                      10. Prepare for the possibility of rejection / setback.

                      Late World No. 1 professional tennis player Arthur Ashe said, “One important key to success is self-confidence. A key to self-confidence is preparation.” You need to prepare for the possibility of rejection and setback.

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                      Why?

                      Everybody suffers rejection and setback at one point or another. You are not exempted. The question on your mind, therefore, should not be if you will be rejected, but how you will handle rejection when it comes.

                      Prepare yourself adequately in every situation to minimize the risk and effect of rejection and so that your confidence is not broken. For example, learn public speaking and rehearse what you are going to say beforehand if you have landed a public speaking engagement. That way, you are sure of yourself and confident you have what it takes to hack it. If you are rejected, don’t take it personally.

                      Rejection and setbacks happen to the best of us. Take it as a learning experience. Learn from your mistakes and move on.

                      11. Face uncomfortable situations square in the face.

                      Don’t run away from uncomfortable situations. Running away from people or situations because you feel scared, shy or timid only confirms and reinforces your shyness. Instead, face the situation that makes you uneasy square in the face. For example, go ahead and talk to that person you are afraid to approach, or go straight to the front of your yoga class! What’s the worst that can happen?

                      Prepare and be ready for any eventuality. The more you face your fears, the more you realize you are stronger than you thought and the more confident you get. This simple, yet admittedly courageous, act makes you unstoppable. You get comfortable being uncomfortable and begin to feel like you can take on the world. And that is the hallmark of someone destined for great things.

                      12. Sit up straight and walk tall—you are awesome!

                      Yes, sit up straight and believe you are awesome. Don’t slump in your chair or slouch your shoulders. Experts say the right stance can not only keep your self-esteem and mood lifted, but also lead to more confidence in your own thoughts.[4]

                      The way to sit is to open up your chest and keep your head level so that you look and feel poised and assured. And when you get up, stand tall and walk like you’re on a mission. People who sit up straight and walk tall are more attractive and instantly feel more confident. Try it now: you’ll feel fierce and confident just by sitting up straight and walking tall.

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