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10 Must Read Self-Help Books You Never Heard Of

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10 Must Read Self-Help Books You Never Heard Of

Sometimes it is difficult to figure out who you really are. The world is full of colloquialisms and advice to help you along your way but it’s still really difficult to get a grasp of what you need to do to be who you really are. That’s why self help books exist. To explain things to people in a way that will motivate them to be themselves. Here are 10 self-help books you have probably never heard of that may say what you need in the way you need to hear it said.

1. Achieve Anything In Just One Year by Jason Harvey

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    Knowing what you want isn’t always all that you need. Sometimes you also need motivation to complete it and this book will help with that. Author Jason Harvey outlines some rules and suggestions to help get you more motivated and committed to your goals whatever they might be.

    2. Self-Defeating Behaviors by Milton R Cudney

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      The biggest obstacles we have are ones that we give to ourselves. This next book helps you identify behaviors you do that holds you back without you knowing. Once you have identified the problems you can then work to eliminate the behaviors and replace them with self-enhancing actions to help you move toward your goals.

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      3. No More Negative Thinking by Beau Norton

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        Depression is only a disease half of the time. The other half of the time it’s just us feeling a little bit blue. The effects are still the same, though. Being unhappy can prevent us from doing the things we love to do and it can prevent us from making progress. With this title, you can learn how to control your emotions and enjoy life with a more positive outlook.

        4. Healing Your Emotional Self by Beverley Engel

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          In this powerful title, you learn to identify who and what is being emotionally abusive to you so that you can overcome the terrible feelings that you have. If you live with demons that you can’t seem to shake, this can help you understand that it’s really not your fault and how you can move passed them.

          5. The Self-Esteem Workbook by Glenn R. Schiraldi

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            Some may argue that this one is a little out of date but it’s still an amazing book if you need help with your self-esteem. It takes a lighter approach and helps you identify reasons why you’re self-esteem is low and how to make it higher. It teaches how to be more compassionate and how to take criticism without getting down on yourself.

            6. The Courage to be Yourself by Sue Patton Thoele

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              This title is aimed at women who are in need of emotional strength and self-esteem. It helps women understand their problems in a way that they understand from someone who has experienced the same problems and knows how to fix them.

              7. Get Out of Your Own Way by Mark Goulston

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                We have one book on here already that helps deal with self defeating behavior but this one takes a no nonsense approach. What makes this one different is that it deals with specific stuff like anger, greed, envy, jealousy, and over 50 other common behaviors that do nothing more than hold people back.

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                8. You are dying and your world is a lie by Johnny Truant

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                  This is definitely the most unique book on the list. It takes a more aggressive approach to self help by telling what is really going on in the world around you. The idea being that once you have the shrouds of comfort shattered that you’ll be able to rebuild your life and your perspective with a more healthy and realistic approach. It’s a good read and every book in this series is actually free.

                  9. 50 Self-Help Classic by Tom Butler-Bowden

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                    There are so many self-help books that it can be difficult to find the one that helps you. One way is to buy a bunch of individual books and hope it works or you can pick up a book like this one. It features 50 self-help books compiled into a single volume from the likes of legendary minds like Benjamin Franklin and Paulo Coelho. It’s not a bad buy for the opinions of some of the greatest minds ever.

                    10. The Book of Awakening by Mark Nepo

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                      The last title in our round up comes from Mark Nepo who is not only a poet and a philosopher but also a cancer survivor. In his book he wants to teach you how to live each day one at a time, slow down, and enjoy the beauty of life all around us. It’s a great read for those who live life too fast and need to slow down and smell the flowers before it’s too late. It has a commanding 4.8 out of 5 rating on Amazon and that’s really saying something.

                      Self-help books are everywhere and they’re released all the time. Of course, if people didn’t need help the self-help book industry would be dead in the water instead of thriving like it is. If these lesser-known titles aren’t for you then just keep looking! You’ll find what you’re looking for eventually.

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                      21 Best Tips On Making A Long Distance Relationship Work

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                      21 Best Tips On Making A Long Distance Relationship Work

                      Having texting and video conferencing at our fingertips, it appears that maintaining a long-distance relationship is easier than ever. Long-distance calls are no longer a luxury; the days when they needed to be rationed are long gone.

                      Long-distance couples do not have to depend on 3 p.m. postal delivery, waiting for news that is at best four days old.

                      Now we’re no longer even in the days of waiting for our loved ones to check their e-mail when they get home from work. Instant messaging keeps us hooked to each other even when we are out shopping, working, playing, watching a movie and doing much more.

                      Technology, however, cannot compensate for everything in a long-distance relationship, as anyone with a long-distance relationship will tell you.

                      Many long-distance relationships still seem emotionally difficult despite the lack of regular physical proximity.

                      People often think long-distance relationships will never work. It may be discouraged by your family, and some of your best friends may tell you not to take it too seriously in case you end up heartbroken.

                      Many things are not possible due to the extra distance – no one can promise it will be easy. Things could get complicated, and you might feel lonely and sad at times.

                      Still, many of us try them.

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                      However, the extra distance also makes the simplest things the sweetest. Being able to hold the other person’s hand, eating together at the same table, feeling each other’s touch, taking a walk together, smelling each other’s hair… these small wishes could suddenly mean so much more in a long-distance relationship.

                      Long-distance relationships may be tough, but they have their own surprises too.

                      Here’re 21 tips on how to make a long distance relationship work:

                      1. Avoid excessive communication.

                      It is unwise to be overly “sticky” and possessive. You two don’t really have to communicate 12 hours a day to keep the relationship going. Many couples think that they need to compensate for the distance by doing more. This is not true. And it might only make things worse. Soon you would get tired of “loving.”

                      Remember: Less is more. It is not about spamming — you are only going to exhaust yourselves. It’s really about teasing at the right moments and tugging at the right spots.

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                      2. See it as an opportunity.

                      “If you want to live together, you first need to learn how to live apart.” – Anonymous

                      View it as a learning journey for both of you. This is an opportunity for you to prove your love for one another. According to a Chinese proverb, “Real gold is not afraid of the test of fire.” Instead of thinking that this long-distance relationship is pulling you two apart, you should believe that through this experience, the both of you will be bound together even stronger.

                      As Emma says it to Will in season four of Glee,

                      “I would rather be here, far from you, but feeling really close, rather than close to you but feeling really far away.” – Emma, Glee Season 4

                      3. Set some ground rules to manage your expectations.

                      Both of you need to be clear with what you expect of each other during this long-distance relationship. Set some ground rules so that none of you will do things that will take the other party by surprise.

                      For instance, are you two exclusive? Is it all right for the other person to go on dates? What is your commitment level? It’s better to be open with each other about all these things.

                      4. Try to communicate regularly, and creatively.

                      Greet each other “good morning” and “good night” every day — this is a must. On top of that, try to update your partner on your life and its happenings, however mundane some of the things may seem.

                      To up the game, send each other pictures, audio clips, and short videos from time to time. By putting in this kind of effort, you make the other person feel loved and attended to.

                      5. Talk dirty with each other.

                      Sexual tension is undoubtedly one of the most important things between couples. In a way, sexual desire is like the glue that keeps both parties from drifting apart. Sexual need is not only biological but also emotional.

                      Keep the flames burning by sending each other teasing texts filled with sexual innuendos and provocative descriptions. Sexy puns work pretty well too.

                      6. Avoid “dangerous” situations.

                      If you already know that going to the club or going drinking with your group of friends late at night will displease your partner, then you should either 1. Not do it or 2. Tell your partner beforehand to reassure them.

                      You should not let this sort of thing slip by because it will only make your partner extra worried or suspicious – and of course, very upset because they will feel powerless or lack control over the situation.

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                      You can fall victim to your traps by going out with eye candy from work after work or dating someone from your past who has been flirting with you without realizing it. Before entering a dangerous situation, you need to recognize the dangers.

                      Listen to your heart, but don’t just rely on it. Make sure you also listen to your mind.

                      7. Do things together.

                      Play a game online together. Watch a documentary at the same time on YouTube or Vimeo. Share a song on Skype while another plays the guitar. Video-call each other and go for a walk together. Together, go online shopping – and buy each other gifts (see #13).

                      You really have to be creative and spontaneous about it.

                      8. Do similar things.

                      Recommend books, TV shows, movies, music, news and etc., to each other. When you read, watch and listen to the same things, you get to have more topics in common to talk about.

                      Even if you live apart, it’s nice to have some shared experiences.

                      9. Make visits to each other.

                      Every long-distance relationship is enriched by visits.

                      After all the waiting and yearning and abstinence, you finally get to meet each other to fulfil all the little things like kissing, holding hands, etc. These are typical for couples in long-distance relationships but more special and intimate for long-distance couples.

                      The atmosphere will be filled with fireworks, glitter bombs, confetti, rainbows, and butterflies.

                      10. Have a goal in mind.

                      Are we going to be apart for a long time?” “what about the future?” These are the questions you should ask yourselves.

                      In fact, a couple cannot stay in a long-distance relationship forever. Eventually, we all need to settle down.

                      So make a plan with each other. Set up a timeline, mark down the estimated times apart and times together, and draw an end goal.

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                      It is important that you two are on the same page and have the same goals. So that even if you are not living in the same space and the same timezone, both of you are still motivated to work together in the same direction towards a future that includes one another.

                      That’s right, you need some motivation to make a relationship last too. Find out more about what motivates you here.

                      11. Enjoy your alone time and your time with your friends and family.

                      You are alone, but you are not lonely unless you choose to feel like it. You don’t have to let your world revolve around your partner — you still have you, your friends, and your family. Take this time apart to do more with your friends and family. Go to the gym more often. Get a new hobby. Binge-watch shows. There are plenty of things for you to do that don’t involve your partner.

                      12. Stay honest with each other.

                      Talk about your feelings of fear, insecurity, jealousy, apathy, whatsoever. If you try to hide anything from your partner, that secret will sooner or later swallow you up from the inside out. Don’t try to deal with things all by yourself. Be open and honest with each other. Let your partner help you and give you the support you need. It’s better to look at the problem during its initial stage than to only disclose it when it’s all too late.

                      13. Know each other’s schedules.

                      It’s helpful to know when the other person is busy and free. So that you can drop a text or make a call at the right time. You wouldn’t want to disturb your partner when they are in the middle of class or halfway through a business meeting. Make sure you are aware of everyone’s small and big events in their lives, i.e., college midterms and exams, important business trips and meetings, job interviews, etc. Particularly if you live in different time zones, this becomes more important.

                      14. Keep track of each other’s social media activities.

                      Facebook and Instagram photos of each other. Send each other tweets. Tag each other on Facebook. Post stuff on each other’s wall. Let them know you care. Be cool with stalking each other.

                      15. Gift a personal object for the other person to hold on to.

                      Memories have power. No matter what it is–a pendant, a ring, a keychain, a collection of songs and videos, or a perfume bottle. Everyday items and things have meanings to us, whether we realize it or not. We all try to store memories in material things so that when our minds fail, we will still be able to look at or hold onto something that will help us recall our memories. This is why something so simple can mean so much to a person when others may see little or no value in it.

                      16. Get a good messaging app.

                      This is extremely important because texting is the most frequent and common way of communication the two of you have. You need a good messaging app on your phones that allows interactions beyond words and emoticons.

                      Personally, I use this messaging app called LINE. I find it highly effective because it has a huge reserve of playful and very funny “stickers” that are free for its users to use. You can also go to the app’s “Sticker Shop” to download (or gift!) extra stickers of different themes (e.g., Hello Kitty, Pokemon, Snoopy, MARVEL, etc.) at a low price. Occasionally, the app will give out free sticker sets for promotions. This messaging app is cute and easy to learn to use.

                      17. Snail-mail your gift.

                      Mail each other postcards and hand-written love letters. Send each other gifts across the globe from time to time. Flower deliveries on birthdays, anniversaries, and Valentine’s Day. Shop online and surprise each other with cool T-shirts, sexy underwear, and such.

                      18. Stay positive.

                      You need to constantly inject positive energy into the long-distance relationship to keep it alive. Yes, the waiting can be painful, and you can sometimes feel lonely, but you need to remind yourself that the fruits at the end will be sweet as heaven.

                      One good trick to staying positive is to be grateful all the time. Be thankful that you have someone to love — someone who also loves you back. Be thankful for the little things, like the hand-made letter that arrived safely in your mailbox the other day. Be thankful for each other’s health and safety.

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                      19. Keep each other updated on each other’s friends and family.

                      This will help you two to know each other’s culture and values. Knowing small habits of each other helps in developing an understanding and building mutual trust.

                      Talking about family and friends gives you more matters to talk about. The best thing to talk about is gossip and scandals.

                      20. Video-call whenever possible.

                      Because sometimes looking into each other’s eyes and hearing each other’s voices can make everything feel alright again.

                      A video call is though nothing like being together, but it’s the best thing and the most to do for coziness in a long-distance relationship.

                      21. Give each other pet names.

                      Because it’s cute. It keeps the lovey-dovey going. Having special names for each other reserved only for one another are heart-warming. Hearing that one word with love lifts our spirits up, and we feel assured all over again.

                      Chaos seems to fade away just by hearing that special word from someone special.

                      With the best wishes…

                      Love (or like) is a force that is beyond your control. Love just happens. The same goes for turning off those feelings, even when you get the perfect job halfway across the country.

                      Neither one of us expects to be long-distance in a relationship. But if you’re in a relationship like this, you’ll just have to make the most out of a difficult situation. These advice for long distance relationships will hopefully help you stay strong and cheerful when living apart from one another.

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