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Last Updated on February 16, 2021

What to Do If You Don’t Want to Do Anything

What to Do If You Don’t Want to Do Anything

How often have you had these kinds of motivation problems?

Struggling to get up early to exercise…

Too tired to work on your side-business after work…

Not being “in the mood” to write your forever-in-draft-mode novel…

What’s even worse is that this feeling of “I don’t want to do anything” puts your goals on the back burner. And in many cases, they stay there till you gain the motivation to take action on them.

But many times, that ends up being weeks, months, or even years into the future.

Motivation Eludes Even the Best of Us

Motivation can be a tricky beast:

One the one hand, you can get a sudden inspiration to become healthy and drop everything to go for a jog.

On the other hand, hoping for out-of-nowhere boosts of motivation like this… is definitely an unreliable method of achieving your goals.

So where exactly does that leave you?

Motivation Is Unreliable With Most Common Strategies

At the end of the day, motivation is simply an emotion.

And like all emotions, it’s fickle.

It can be there one day, and then only moments later, disappear like a gust of wind.

But if motivation is finicky to work with… is it something you can ever rely on?

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Can it truly get rid of the “I don’t want to do anything” feeling?

Well, this is where most people get motivation wrong in the first place.

It’s not enough to just look at inspiring images or read motivational quotes online. At best, you might get a nice feeling after doing these things.

But if we’re being realistic here… it’s more likely you aren’t being productive even after being “inspired” by those motivational methods.

So it’s easy to conclude that at the very least, those approaches aren’t something you should use.

5 Unique Ways to Motivate Yourself to Take Action And Achieve Your Goals

So how to “manufacture” motivation when you need it?

Before I dive into the 5 unique ways, you may want to get this free Worksheet For Instant Motivation Boost, and get some ideas on how to build your own motivation engine first. Get your free worksheet here.

Then, if you want motivation that works immediately and lasts a long time, you need something that’s different compared to what you normally do or see.

My job is to provide you with some interesting new methods that will motivate you to change your world.

Here are five somewhat offbeat methods of motivation for you to try out. The fact that these methods stray from the pack is a good thing. It means you’ll be mixing things up for the first time. And just being “different” is already a motivational factor to begin with.

So try one out, or try them all out. Either way, you’re likely to find yourself more motivated and action-taking than ever before.

1. Add “Mystery” to Your Motivation MIX

A powerful form of motivation has to do with spontaneity and unexpectedness.

And while we can’t perfectly replicate this, we can do the next best thing.

Try writing out at least 5 different rewards you can use when you take breaks or complete tasks. A range of “reward magnitudes” is ideal, for example:

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  • Watch a Youtube video
  • Eat a piece of chocolate
  • Play a short guitar jam session
  • Watch a Netflix show
  • Walk around the block

As you can see, each reward is different:

Some are smaller and more instant gratification.

Others are bigger and more personal to you.

Now, most of the time when you take a break, you do the same old thing each time.

(Most often it’s taking a smartphone break.)

But imagine you could only pick one of these rewards each time.

And going even further – you have to choose one at random as well.

Suddenly, you don’t know what you’re going to get anymore. It could be a small reward. Or it could even be a big reward.

And that makes things interesting again.

And once things are interesting again… you are more than likely to be motivated to work just to see what random (good or amazing) reward you’ll get next.

2. Make Your Motivation “Scary”

On the other motivation spectrum, there’s the “negative” side of things.

With this approach you focus on motivating yourself to avoid something – rather than on being rewarded.

All you’ve got to do is find suitable ways to “punish” yourself for not being productive about whatever’s important to you.

Here’s a few simple examples you can draw ideas from:

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  • If you don’t get up early to exercise, your spouse gets to spray you with a water bottle till you get up
  • If you don’t go to the gym after work, you have to eat something you dislike (for me, this would be a grapefruit – too bitter!)
  • If you don’t write a page in your novel during lunch, you have to lock all the distracting apps on your phone for 24 hours

Ultimately, the punishment needs to be powerful enough to “make you feel it.” So these punishments will be unique to you.

But with a little creativity, you’re bound to find something that motivates you to take action so you avoid your punishment at all costs.

3. Use Peer Pressure

This tip works well if you have family and friends who are on board with helping you achieve your goals.

All you’ve got to do is encourage your close ones to “peer pressure” you into working on your goals whenever you’re supposed to.

So let’s say you decide to write your novel after work. Well, if the first thing you do when you get back home from work is toss your jacket on the floor, hop on the couch, and start flipping through channels… this is the time for your family to “strike.”

  • “Hey honey, wouldn’t it be amazing if you finished a page of your novel today? I know I’d be happy.”
  • “Dad, I was reading a book earlier and thought about how cool it’d be if you finished yours.”
  • “Mom, whenever I see that you’re writing a book it makes me so proud – I can’t wait till you finish it!”

And basically, they’d just go on and on till you get to writing or whatever your goal is.

The best thing about this strategy is that it’s hands-off:

Everybody else does the motivating for you. And I’ve found it tends to work no matter how much I don’t want to do anything, either.

4. Drop Your Standards Unreasonably Low

A big motivation problem is feeling your goals are too big and hairy.

If you feel overwhelmed by any task or project you have, your motivation is going to tank for sure.

So a simple way around this is to use the “10% method:”

If you ever feel the slightest resistance to a task at hand, just say you’ll only do 10% of the original task and you can stop there.

So if you plan on doing 20 pushups for exercise, only do 2.

If you plan on writing a page in your novel, just write a paragraph (or even a sentence) instead. Or if you need to clean your room, just say you’ll clean 3 items only.

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It’s a simple method, but VERY easy to implement.

And the best part is:

Once you’ve lowered your mental resistance to the task at hand (and thereby increased your motivation to do it), you are VERY likely to do more than just 10%.

And that’s because “startup momentum” can carry you further along the task.

5. Put Your Money on the Line

Nothing hurts like losing your money.

And a simple way to use this idea tying your hard-earned cash to the accomplishment of your goals.

An easy way to do this is by involving a friend or family member. Just grab one of them and say this:

“This is a $20 bill. If you see that I don’t:

  • Go to the gym after work, or:
  • Write a page in my novel, or:
  • Get up early tomorrow

…Then you can have the $20 for yourself.”

You’ll see a big smile across the face of whoever’s helping you, and wonder if they’re rooting for you to fail in the first place.

Either way, you can expect your motivation to work on your goals to skyrocket after using this tip.

The Truth Behind Motivation

Remember, motivation isn’t about feeling inspired or anything else so fluffy. The ultimate goal is creating an urge to act towards achieving your goals.

And I’m confident that if you use some of the strategies I’ve listed here, you’ll be well on your way to being more motivated, take more action, and transform your life forever.

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Last Updated on March 4, 2021

8 Things to Remember When You’re Feeling Overwhelmed

8 Things to Remember When You’re Feeling Overwhelmed

Feeling overwhelmed is a natural part of life. Everyone occasionally feels overwhelmed by expectations, responsibilities, and a lack of time. However, dwelling on feelings of overwhelm and letting them knock you off course can be detrimental to both your mental health and your productivity.

If you find yourself saying “I’m overwhelmed” or feeling stuck with more than you can handle, here are 8 things to keep in mind to help you get through it.

1. These Emotions Are Natural

In the scope of the Earth’s history, human emotions are a fairly recent development. It’s no wonder we haven’t learned to peacefully coexist with them and end up fighting them on a daily basis.

It can often feel like these feelings should be easy to overcome, but feeling overwhelmed is a natural response to having too many things going on at once. It’s your mind’s way of telling you that you need to slow down if you want to live a healthier life.

Recognizing that overwhelm is your body’s way of trying to help you through difficult times can help shift the relationship you have with this emotion. Once you recognize it for what it is and invite it in without fighting it, you can begin to work with it to improve your feelings in a healthy way.

2. It’s a Breakdown of Thoughts, Not of Life

Our minds are powerful things, and feeling overwhelmed can feel like the end of life as we know it. In the book, As a Man ThinkethJames Allen says:

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“As he thinks, so he is; as he continues to think, so he remains.”

We have the power to manage our thoughts, and as a result, manage who we are and who we will grow to be. This involves making our mental and physical health a high priority.

When you’re feeling overwhelmed, your life isn’t falling apart—your thoughts are.

Take a minute to find and clean out all your self-deprecating, negative emotions and thoughts. As you do this, you will find yourself feeling refreshed and invigorated with renewed energy to take on the world.

3. Things Can Turn Around Quickly

Maybe you’re saying “I’m feeling overwhelmed” as you face a project at work and don’t think you have the energy or time to finish it. You start letting yourself play out every negative scenario resulting from a failed project.

Sitting on the couch and dwelling on these thoughts isn’t going to make anything better. In fact, it usually makes things worse.

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Things seem to fall in place as you chip away at a project and come to realize it wasn’t as bad as you thought. Here’re some tips to get you to start taking action: Less Thinking, More Doing: Develop the Action Habit Today

4. You’ve Felt This Way Before

Think about the last time you felt overwhelmed. How did you overcome it? In the end, was it really as bad as you thought?

If you don’t learn from past experiences, you’ll find yourself suffering from the same problems over and over. Successful people are the ones who understand that every experience, good or bad, is valuable.

Go to a quiet place, and take as long as you need to remember previous times in your life you felt this way and how you overcame it.

5. Your Problems May Not Be as Bad as You Think

The best way to find out how good you actually have it is to take a break from worrying about your own life and do something kind for someone in a worse spot than you.

Volunteering at a homeless shelter or orphanage can help put your problems into perspective, and that tight deadline may not seem so overwhelming. Furthermore, acts of kindness can produce oxytocin, which can help you feel better all around[1]. This is vital when you’re feeling overwhelmed.

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6. It’s Easy to Keep Doing Nothing

Your situation changes quickly when you start doing something, but it’s always easier to continue doing nothing. The mind generally doesn’t react well to change and will do its best to help you keep doing what you’ve been doing. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, that may mean it tries to make you do nothing.

Those who overcome their struggles quickly are the ones who never give up, even when they feel that all is lost. At times, it might feel like there is nothing you can do, but that is exactly when you need to do something.

How will you ever know for sure there was nothing you could do if you didn’t try? At the very least, you will find personal confidence in knowing that you did everything you could.

Grab the Boost Your Motivation Instantly Worksheet for free now, and find out what you can do immediately to regain your lost motivation and move forward.

7. Gratitude Can Help Immensely

In a world of people obsessed with putting their best self forward, it’s easy to feel like everyone has more than you.

Get that thought out of your head, and remember what you do have. Often, the things you have right now are things you were worried about having in the past. Don’t let an insatiable desire for more blind you from seeing and appreciating everything you have right now.

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Gratitude can combat feelings of overwhelm by bringing you into the present, which will combat worries of the future. Once you’re in the now, you can focus on what you need to do to get past feeling overwhelmed and overcoming the many things coming at you at once.

If you don’t know what to do you’re overwhelmed, take some deep breaths and try to start a gratitude journal: How a Gratitude Journal and Positive Affirmations Can Change Your Life

8. People Want You to Succeed

Remember there are people in your life who want you succeed. Your life touches so many others, and there are people out there rooting for you.

These people are part of your support system, and you can turn to them each time you’re feeling overwhelmed. You can call them for a quick pep talk, invite them out for coffee if you need a break, or even ask them for help with your overwhelming list of things to do.

The Bottom Line

Feeling overwhelmed is a natural part of life that comes from trying to always take on more than we should. This feeling is difficult to avoid in today’s world, but there are things you can do to reduce those feelings once they do arise. Remember the reminders above whenever you’re not sure how to move forward, and you’ll soon find yourself on the other side.

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