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Published on January 5, 2021

How To Manifest Abundance and Wealth in Life

How To Manifest Abundance and Wealth in Life

The word “abundance” is often associated with “wealth.” In fact, the second definition of abundance in the Merriam-Webster dictionary is “affluence, wealth, a life of abundance”.

A good friend used to say he grew up with nothing, meaning he was raised in an environment where there was little money. As he got older, he amended that statement to say—he grew up with very few material things because money was so scarce, but he grew up with everything.

The dictionary also quotes the definition of abundance in this way: “a very large quantity of something.”

When you grow up with abundance, you often have large quantities of these seven qualities:

  • Smiling
  • Humor
  • Caring
  • Listening
  • Joy
  • Thankfulness
  • Kindness

These are the ways we can manifest abundance in our lives. But for your abundance to be meaningful, you must give it away.

Jenny Santi, in his book The Giving Way to Happiness: Stories and Science Behind the Life-Changing Power of Giving, explained the concept of “giving” this way:

“There is a Chinese saying that goes: if you want happiness for an hour, take a nap. If you want happiness for a day, go fishing. If you want happiness for a year, inherit a fortune. If you want happiness for a lifetime, help someone.”

Let’s examine the above seven characteristics more thoroughly.

1. Smiling

The first way to manifest abundance is through smiling. An anonymous author wrote the following in a brief article titled “SMILE”:

“A smile costs nothing but it gives much.”

If you have ever worked in a country where you do not know the language, you quickly learn how welcome a smile is. It is a universal language in itself because we can communicate our happiness by smiling at anyone we meet.

The anonymous author then wrote, “A smile brings rest to the weary, cheer to the discouraged, sunshine to the sad, and it is nature’s best antidote for trouble.” Your smile may be the best gift that someone will receive all day.

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Finally, they wrote, “A smile cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen for it is of no value until it is given away.” You are the architect of your smile, and you can give it away as often as you like. Your smile can be your calling card.

2. Humor

Humor leads to smiles and laughter. In his article, Leading with Humor, Allison Beard wrote, “Working adults are in the midst of a laughter drought.”[1]

He followed that with a very surprising statistic, “Babies laugh on the average 400 times a day; people over 35, only 15.” You can use humor and laughter to bring people closer together and dissipate pressure and stress.

In his book, Instant Replay: The Green Bay Diary of Jerry Kramer, Jerry Kramer cited an incident where his coach accomplished both bringing his team together and dissipating pressure. Vince Lombardi, a very tough and demanding coach for the Green Bay Packers, fined two of his star players for missing curfew. The atmosphere was intense because he announced the fine in front of the entire team.

Lombardi then told the two players that if they missed curfew again, he would raise the fine to an exorbitant level. After reflecting on the cost of that next fine, Lombardi told the culprits that if they could find a place to go for that high of a fine to call him and he would go with them! Lombardi never got the call.

3. Caring

Another way to manifest abundance is through caring. My son Pat was young when he used the expression, “who’s cares.” I don’t think he knew what it meant, but he tended to use it for every question.

Who does care? Well, people with abundance do care.

You may want to consider what two different men said about the idea of caring:

John Maxwell, a prolific writer on leadership, wrote, “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.”

You certainly show you care when you help others. Albert Einstein validated that when he wrote, “I can think of no other reason why we are here but to help others.”

When you care for others, you not only help them but also—as research validates St. Francis of Assisi’s belief—when you give, you also receive.

Recent research found that when you care for another, you receive or experience the following:[2]

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  • feeling good
  • feeling a sense of accomplishment
  • feeling loved and building strong relationships
  • feeling valuable and experiencing personal growth

You have a choice. You can choose to care or not care. Those who don’t care lead lonely lives whereas those who do care lead a life filled with abundance.

4. Listening

You probably have heard of the expression, “God gave us two ears and one mouth for a reason.”

Two corollaries to that adage are:

  • “Big egos have little ears.” —Reverend Robert Schuller
  • “Be a good listener. Your ears will never get you in trouble.” —Frank Tyger

Listening is a way of showing respect. When you listen intently to others, you are showing them how much you value them. Listening is also a way of sharing with others, which is also a way to manifest abundance.

Please think about the most intelligent people you know or the best leaders you have ever worked with. Now reflect on their ability to listen. It often is their greatest asset.

John Wooden, the legendary UCLA basketball coach, was blessed with each of the seven attributes in this article. He was specially blessed with abundance in the world of basketball. His UCLA teams won seven NCAA national championships in a row and ten in the last twelve years he coached. Most basketball experts believe neither record will ever be matched, let alone be eclipsed.

I sat at a dinner with him at a basketball clinic in New York. There were three of us at the table—coach Wooden, a high school coach, and me.

If you were a fly on the wall and if you thought talking was more important than listening, you would have thought that the high school coach was John Wooden and Coach Wooden was the high school coach. The high school coach did most of the talking and the coach—arguably the best team coach in the history of American sports—did most of the listening.

There are numerous classes on speaking in our colleges and universities. Why are there no classes on listening? Coach Wooden could teach them.

5. Joy

How would you define joy? It may be one of those things that are difficult to define, but you know them when you see them.

Thomas N. Hooper, in his article “The Power of Joy”, had this insight:

We cannot wait for circumstances to bring joy; we must make our own joy and let it act upon circumstances. Joy is a good influence in any situation, and there are many ways we can bring joy – with positive thoughts, pleasant words, a smile, even by using our sense of humor.”

The good news in his definition is that you can create joy. You can bring joy regardless of the circumstances.

Everyone experienced joy when they interacted with coach Jack Hermanski. His circumstances were neither good nor happy because he had Multiple Sclerosis, but he stayed active all day because he taught Special Education, serving ten different schools in his school district, and worked as a basketball coach on our university staff.

He had the ability to bring joy every day. He willed himself to bring it. When you saw him, you felt his joy.

One Friday, he met one of his students who was in a wheelchair. The boy told the coach he was glad it was Friday. Jack then asked him if he had big plans for the weekend.

The boy said, “No coach Jack. I am glad because you come here on Fridays.”

You may not be able to define joy, but you saw it when you were with coach Jack. Can you work at bringing joy? Like Jack, you will lighten the lives of those with whom you interact.

6. Thankfulness

Are you thankful for all that has been bestowed upon you? Thankfulness—or gratitude—is the most common way to manifest abundance.

Some people believe we need to say only one prayer, “thank you.” People with abundance take saying “thank you” to another level, which you may consider doing in your work.

A historian once taught that the United States was not built by famous politicians nor the wealthy of our country. He taught that the common man, the “nobodies,” built America.

The people in any business or organization who are in the trenches are often forgotten. The top executives are thanked and rewarded for their work. But the people who are making the organizations successful—the secretaries, the people on the assembly line, and the truck drivers—tend to be overlooked.

People with abundance don’t make the above mistake. They make it their priority to thank those who get little or no recognition. They thank the “nobodies.”

The players in athletics who sit on the bench are the nobodies. A team can be having a great season and as the starters are walking the campus, many people are congratulating them. As the bench players are walking the campus, many people don’t even know they are on the team.

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The former Marquette basketball coach, Al McGuire, had this insight. He never worried about the players on the bench because when they were in their forties, they were vice-presidents, presidents, and CEOs of companies. They knew how to work for a little glory. However, he did worry about the stars when they were in their forties because no one was slapping them on the back, carrying their bags, and telling them how great they are.

Do you take the time to thank the nobodies?

7. Kindness

We all cannot be rich. We all cannot be famous. We all cannot be surrounded by praise and adulation, but we all can be kind.

Kindness is defined as the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate. You can practice kindness in many ways. Here are a few:

  • When you see someone in need, you can reach out.
  • When you see someone hospitalized, you can visit.
  • When someone in your organization has success, you can send them a hand-written note.
  • When all those around you are gossiping, you can refuse to participate.

Tony Fahkry, in his article How the Power of Kindness Impacts Your Life and Others, presented some thoughtful quotes that you might want to consider:[3]

Do your little bit of good where you are. It’s those bits of good put together, that overwhelm the world. —Desmond Tutu

Kindness is a language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see. —Mark Twain

My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness. —Dalai Lama XIV

Don’t forget the acts of kindness that you have received. Instead, consider offering this gift to others.

Final Thoughts

To recap everything I wrote, just remember the 7 ways you can manifest abundance:

  • Smiling – make your smile your calling card.
  • Humor – bring people together and dissipate stress with humor.
  • Caring – people don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.
  • Listening – your ears won’t get you in trouble.
  • Joy – you know it when you see it.
  • Thankfulness – thank those who get little or no recognition.
  • Kindness – we can all be kind.

If you think some of these characteristics have merit, pick one at a time and concentrate on it for one week. Most good things in life take time, and this is not an exception. Eventually, you will be able to manifest abundance, experience fulfillment in life, and share your gifts with others.

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Reference

[1] Harvard Business Review: Leading with Humor
[2] Caregiver Stress: The Many Benefits of Caring for Others
[3] Mission.org: How The Power Of Kindness Impacts Your Life And Others

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Pat Sullivan is a speaker and the author of two books "Attitude-The Cornerstone of Leadership" and "Team-Building: From the Bench to the Boardroom"

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How to Cope with the 5 Common Stressors In Life and Feel Better

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Do you ever catch yourself thinking, “If I only had (fill in the blank), I wouldn’t have to worry anymore”? It’s hard to overcome those deeply ingrained beliefs around stressors in life.

“You can’t always control what goes on outside, but you can always control what goes on inside.” -Wayne Dyer

We all have stressors in life, things we worry about that keep us awake at night. Everyone experiences stress due to life events, but chronic stress can compromise our health. It can cause irritability, anxiety, depression, headaches, and insomnia. Stress can even weaken our immune system and make us more susceptible to illnesses.

In this article, I am going to discuss the 5 most common stressors in life[1], and give you some suggestions for dealing with them more effectively, so you can live a more peaceful and fulfilling life.

1. Workplace Stress

Workplace stress is the most common stressor in life for many people. It can come from tensions with co-workers or a boss, work overload, or simply the nature of the work, such as law enforcement. Whatever the case, there are things you can do to reduce the stress.

Here are some effective strategies.[2]

Start Your Day Off Right

Many of us are stressed out before we even arrive at work. We may have children to get ready and off to school, other responsibilities to tend to, and traffic with angry drivers to deal with.

Start your day off right by getting up early enough to take care of your responsibilities, eat properly, and cultivate a positive attitude. This reduces the likelihood of feeling all out of sorts when you arrive at work.

Know Exactly What Is Expected of You

Many of us are not entirely clear about what our boss expects from us. This usually happens in smaller companies that may not be as organized as larger companies. It’s important to know what’s expected of you, so you can avoid unnecessary tensions.

Communication is the key to avoiding this type of conflict. If you’re not sure what your boss expects of you, there is nothing wrong with asking your boss to clarify his requirements. In fact, it demonstrates that you are conscientious and sincerely interested in doing a good job, which your boss will appreciate.

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Stay Organized

A disorganized work environment creates a great deal of stress and negatively affects your mental health. You always feel rushed because you’re not sure where things are, you misjudge the time required to perform tasks, and you’re not clear on your goals and objectives.

To reduce stress, organize your work environment a little. Start by organizing your work area, so you can easily find your tools and papers.

Then, organize your time by determining how long it should take you to perform certain tasks, and try to dedicate the necessary time and avoid unnecessary distractions.

Forget multitasking, as the efficiencies of multitasking are a myth. Studies have shown that people are more productive when they focus on one task at a time.

Stay Away From Unnecessary Conflict

Much of the day-to-day conflict at work is unavoidable. Each person has his/her own responsibilities, which may conflict with those of others. However, workplace drama is unnecessary and counterproductive.

The best thing to do is to avoid this kind of conflict and stressful events and save yourself the aggravation and stress. Treat everyone with respect, avoid gossip, and avoid sensitive topics like politics and religion.

With conflicts in responsibilities, a good strategy for dealing with them is to communicate your goals and objectives when they seem to conflict with those of co-workers. Remember, you’re all on the same team trying to achieve the goals of the company.

2. Financial Stress

Finances are another of the common stressors in life. We worry about paying the rent, a mortgage, car loans, utilities, and food. We also worry about our investments, especially if we’re nearing retirement.

You may think that simply having more money will take away these worries, but that isn’t necessarily so. Even wealthy people worry about finances.

Here are some suggestions for reducing financial stress.[3]

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Live Within Your Means

One of the biggest mistakes people make is spending more money than they have. Credit card companies are quick to give you credit cards with high interest rates, so it’s easy to overextend yourself.

To avoid this mistake, keep track of your finances, and avoid the temptation to buy things you can’t afford. Set some money aside for unexpected expenses, such as car or home repairs. It’s a good idea to put money in a savings account every month, even if it’s a small amount.

Educate Yourself on Finances

For those of you who do not have a background in finance, handling money responsibly can be a challenge. Professional football players were notorious for making millions during their short careers, and then ending up broke when they could no longer play[4].

Now the NFL gives rookie players a course in financial management so that they invest their money wisely. This is a good strategy for everyone. Some important things to learn are:

  • Managing a checking a account
  • Using credit cards wisely
  • Borrowing money
  • Making large purchases (home, car)
  • Investing for retirement

Learning basic finances isn’t all that complicated. Once you have some understanding of finances, you can avoid the stress that comes from the unknown.

Ask for Help

If you feel lost or unsure about making financial decisions, it’s ok to ask someone for help. Make sure it’s someone you trust, as there are many unscrupulous people eager to take advantage of others.

I would suggest consulting a loved one or a trusted friend. Parents are a great resource, as well. Learn from their mistakes, instead of yours.

3. Health-Related Stress

For many people, health problems like illness and injury are some of the biggest stressors in life. This is more common when we get older, when our body begins to decline. When we’re young, we’re more resilient, and we can recover much more quickly from injuries and illnesses.

Experiencing an illness is frightening because, until we get it diagnosed and treated, we usually don’t know what is happening to our body, or if we will recover. However, there are things we can do to reduce the stress associated with health issues.

Live a Healthy Lifestyle

The approach I’ve taken to reduce health-related stress is to avoid poor health as much as possible. Since I was in my early 20s, I’ve tried to live a healthy lifestyle. I’ve eaten healthy foods, and in moderation. I’ve also exercised regularly and maintained an active lifestyle, so I’ve never been overweight.

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I’ve also avoided abusing my body with risky activities. For example, when I was younger I was involved in bodybuilding in order to stay in shape. I wanted to compete, but I realized that would entail taking training and supplementation to an extreme that would compromise my good health, which I wasn’t willing to do.

Know Your Risks

Many of us have certain risk factors that are unique to each of us. Some may be genetic, such as diabetes, heart disease, dementia or Alzheimer’s disease, obesity, or cancer. Whatever the case, learn your family history of health issues.

It’s important to talk to your parents. Sometimes they don’t want to talk about sensitive issues, but it’s necessary for your good health.

4. Relationship Stress

Relationships are one of the greatest stressors in life, especially for younger people. We usually aren’t explicitly taught how to have good, healthy relationships. This is something we learn through experience and a lot of heartache, which can lead to having a stressful life for a long time.

When we’re inexperienced with relationships, we usually let our emotions make our decisions for us. We get involved with people that we’re not compatible with, but who we care for deeply. If we’re not compatible, then we engage in power struggles, each person trying to exert his or her will in the relationship. This leads to a lot of stress because we feel like we lack control.

Communicate

One of the keys to less stressful relationships is communication. It’s important to be open about how we feel and what we’re looking for in the relationship. Sometimes you can work things out, and sometimes you can’t. If you can’t, then you need to move on before each of you has too much invested in the relationship, which makes it harder to end later.

Practice Maturity

Another key to less stressful relationships is maturity. It takes wisdom and mature emotions to not create unnecessary conflict and drama. These take time and experience to develop, but by being aware of how you’re acting, you can begin to learn these skills.

5. Poor Nutrition

Another stressor in life is poor nutrition. Most of us are not fully aware of how the things we consume can raise our stress level. Here are a few examples[5]:

  • Drinking Too Much Coffee: While coffee has many benefits, too much can increase stress by raising the level of cortisol, the stress hormone.
  • Eating Foods That Increase Cortisol Levels: There are other foods that raise your cortisol levels, such as refined sugars and simple carbohydrates, red meats, fried foods, and other foods high in fat.
  • Skipping Meals: In addition to providing us with the proper nutrients to maintain good health, stopping to eat gives us a break from our busy day, which allows us to relax and de-stress.
  • Not Drinking Water: Our body needs water to function properly, and stopping to take a drink gives us a short break.
  • Eating Compulsively: We sometimes eat as a reaction to stress, and we usually make poor choices of what to eat when this happens.

Educate Yourself on Basic Health and Nutrition

You can eliminate a lot of health related stress by knowing what is happening in your body. Nowadays, there is a wealth of good information on the Internet about almost every health issue you can think of.

In order to live a healthy lifestyle, you don’t have to follow such a strict diet and exercise regimen. Mainly eat foods that are healthy, in smaller meals, and more often. Also, try to stay physically active.

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Keep in mind that healthy food isn’t necessarily bland and tasteless. I eat lots of delicious foods and desserts. And by staying physically active, I eat as much as I want without gaining any weight, even as I’ve gotten older, and so can you.

Meditation

When it comes to dealing with stressors in life, mindfulness meditation is a powerful tool.

Meditation doesn’t necessarily solve your problems, but it does enable you deal with them much better. In addition, it calms your mind, which leads to calmer emotions.

Mindfulness meditation is easy to practice, and you don’t have to meditate for long periods to get the benefits. If you’re new to meditation, just sit quietly for 5-10 minutes following your breath. Do this several times a week, and you’ll notice a difference in the way you feel, and you won’t react so much to things that trigger your fears, anger, or anxiety.

Final Thoughts

Most of us long for peace and tranquility in our lives. When we’re young, we tend to think that once we get or achieve certain things, we’ll be able to relax. Those of you who are middle age or older have probably realized the fallacy of this way of thinking.

“By changing your attitude, you also change your perspective and change your life.” -Roy Bennett

We all have stressors in life, things that cause us to worry about our future. That’s natural, but it is the unpredictable nature of the stressors that make us feel insecure and not in control.

However, it’s not really those things that cause us the stress, but rather how we view them. Therefore, if you want to lower your stress level, you need to change the way you mentally process the circumstances in your life. To accomplish this, you basically need to do three things:

  1. Choose wisely the things that are truly important in your life.
  2. Arm yourself with information about your stressors, so you have more control over your future.
  3. Learn to live with the remaining uncertainty.

If you can do these three things, then you can enjoy your life to the greatest extent possible.

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Reference

[1] The American Institute of Stress: What Is Stress?
[2] Very Well Mind: 9 Simple Ways to Deal With Stress at Work
[3] American Psychological Association: Dealing with Financial Stress
[4] Forbes: NFL Players Need A Playbook When Managing Their Financial Future
[5] Exploring Your Mind: Stress and Poor Nutrition

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