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Published on January 5, 2021

How To Manifest Abundance and Wealth in Life

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How To Manifest Abundance and Wealth in Life

The word “abundance” is often associated with “wealth.” In fact, the second definition of abundance in the Merriam-Webster dictionary is “affluence, wealth, a life of abundance”.

A good friend used to say he grew up with nothing, meaning he was raised in an environment where there was little money. As he got older, he amended that statement to say—he grew up with very few material things because money was so scarce, but he grew up with everything.

The dictionary also quotes the definition of abundance in this way: “a very large quantity of something.”

When you grow up with abundance, you often have large quantities of these seven qualities:

  • Smiling
  • Humor
  • Caring
  • Listening
  • Joy
  • Thankfulness
  • Kindness

These are the ways we can manifest abundance in our lives. But for your abundance to be meaningful, you must give it away.

Jenny Santi, in his book The Giving Way to Happiness: Stories and Science Behind the Life-Changing Power of Giving, explained the concept of “giving” this way:

“There is a Chinese saying that goes: if you want happiness for an hour, take a nap. If you want happiness for a day, go fishing. If you want happiness for a year, inherit a fortune. If you want happiness for a lifetime, help someone.”

Let’s examine the above seven characteristics more thoroughly.

1. Smiling

The first way to manifest abundance is through smiling. An anonymous author wrote the following in a brief article titled “SMILE”:

“A smile costs nothing but it gives much.”

If you have ever worked in a country where you do not know the language, you quickly learn how welcome a smile is. It is a universal language in itself because we can communicate our happiness by smiling at anyone we meet.

The anonymous author then wrote, “A smile brings rest to the weary, cheer to the discouraged, sunshine to the sad, and it is nature’s best antidote for trouble.” Your smile may be the best gift that someone will receive all day.

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Finally, they wrote, “A smile cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen for it is of no value until it is given away.” You are the architect of your smile, and you can give it away as often as you like. Your smile can be your calling card.

2. Humor

Humor leads to smiles and laughter. In his article, Leading with Humor, Allison Beard wrote, “Working adults are in the midst of a laughter drought.”[1]

He followed that with a very surprising statistic, “Babies laugh on the average 400 times a day; people over 35, only 15.” You can use humor and laughter to bring people closer together and dissipate pressure and stress.

In his book, Instant Replay: The Green Bay Diary of Jerry Kramer, Jerry Kramer cited an incident where his coach accomplished both bringing his team together and dissipating pressure. Vince Lombardi, a very tough and demanding coach for the Green Bay Packers, fined two of his star players for missing curfew. The atmosphere was intense because he announced the fine in front of the entire team.

Lombardi then told the two players that if they missed curfew again, he would raise the fine to an exorbitant level. After reflecting on the cost of that next fine, Lombardi told the culprits that if they could find a place to go for that high of a fine to call him and he would go with them! Lombardi never got the call.

3. Caring

Another way to manifest abundance is through caring. My son Pat was young when he used the expression, “who’s cares.” I don’t think he knew what it meant, but he tended to use it for every question.

Who does care? Well, people with abundance do care.

You may want to consider what two different men said about the idea of caring:

John Maxwell, a prolific writer on leadership, wrote, “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.”

You certainly show you care when you help others. Albert Einstein validated that when he wrote, “I can think of no other reason why we are here but to help others.”

When you care for others, you not only help them but also—as research validates St. Francis of Assisi’s belief—when you give, you also receive.

Recent research found that when you care for another, you receive or experience the following:[2]

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  • feeling good
  • feeling a sense of accomplishment
  • feeling loved and building strong relationships
  • feeling valuable and experiencing personal growth

You have a choice. You can choose to care or not care. Those who don’t care lead lonely lives whereas those who do care lead a life filled with abundance.

4. Listening

You probably have heard of the expression, “God gave us two ears and one mouth for a reason.”

Two corollaries to that adage are:

  • “Big egos have little ears.” —Reverend Robert Schuller
  • “Be a good listener. Your ears will never get you in trouble.” —Frank Tyger

Listening is a way of showing respect. When you listen intently to others, you are showing them how much you value them. Listening is also a way of sharing with others, which is also a way to manifest abundance.

Please think about the most intelligent people you know or the best leaders you have ever worked with. Now reflect on their ability to listen. It often is their greatest asset.

John Wooden, the legendary UCLA basketball coach, was blessed with each of the seven attributes in this article. He was specially blessed with abundance in the world of basketball. His UCLA teams won seven NCAA national championships in a row and ten in the last twelve years he coached. Most basketball experts believe neither record will ever be matched, let alone be eclipsed.

I sat at a dinner with him at a basketball clinic in New York. There were three of us at the table—coach Wooden, a high school coach, and me.

If you were a fly on the wall and if you thought talking was more important than listening, you would have thought that the high school coach was John Wooden and Coach Wooden was the high school coach. The high school coach did most of the talking and the coach—arguably the best team coach in the history of American sports—did most of the listening.

There are numerous classes on speaking in our colleges and universities. Why are there no classes on listening? Coach Wooden could teach them.

5. Joy

How would you define joy? It may be one of those things that are difficult to define, but you know them when you see them.

Thomas N. Hooper, in his article “The Power of Joy”, had this insight:

We cannot wait for circumstances to bring joy; we must make our own joy and let it act upon circumstances. Joy is a good influence in any situation, and there are many ways we can bring joy – with positive thoughts, pleasant words, a smile, even by using our sense of humor.”

The good news in his definition is that you can create joy. You can bring joy regardless of the circumstances.

Everyone experienced joy when they interacted with coach Jack Hermanski. His circumstances were neither good nor happy because he had Multiple Sclerosis, but he stayed active all day because he taught Special Education, serving ten different schools in his school district, and worked as a basketball coach on our university staff.

He had the ability to bring joy every day. He willed himself to bring it. When you saw him, you felt his joy.

One Friday, he met one of his students who was in a wheelchair. The boy told the coach he was glad it was Friday. Jack then asked him if he had big plans for the weekend.

The boy said, “No coach Jack. I am glad because you come here on Fridays.”

You may not be able to define joy, but you saw it when you were with coach Jack. Can you work at bringing joy? Like Jack, you will lighten the lives of those with whom you interact.

6. Thankfulness

Are you thankful for all that has been bestowed upon you? Thankfulness—or gratitude—is the most common way to manifest abundance.

Some people believe we need to say only one prayer, “thank you.” People with abundance take saying “thank you” to another level, which you may consider doing in your work.

A historian once taught that the United States was not built by famous politicians nor the wealthy of our country. He taught that the common man, the “nobodies,” built America.

The people in any business or organization who are in the trenches are often forgotten. The top executives are thanked and rewarded for their work. But the people who are making the organizations successful—the secretaries, the people on the assembly line, and the truck drivers—tend to be overlooked.

People with abundance don’t make the above mistake. They make it their priority to thank those who get little or no recognition. They thank the “nobodies.”

The players in athletics who sit on the bench are the nobodies. A team can be having a great season and as the starters are walking the campus, many people are congratulating them. As the bench players are walking the campus, many people don’t even know they are on the team.

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The former Marquette basketball coach, Al McGuire, had this insight. He never worried about the players on the bench because when they were in their forties, they were vice-presidents, presidents, and CEOs of companies. They knew how to work for a little glory. However, he did worry about the stars when they were in their forties because no one was slapping them on the back, carrying their bags, and telling them how great they are.

Do you take the time to thank the nobodies?

7. Kindness

We all cannot be rich. We all cannot be famous. We all cannot be surrounded by praise and adulation, but we all can be kind.

Kindness is defined as the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate. You can practice kindness in many ways. Here are a few:

  • When you see someone in need, you can reach out.
  • When you see someone hospitalized, you can visit.
  • When someone in your organization has success, you can send them a hand-written note.
  • When all those around you are gossiping, you can refuse to participate.

Tony Fahkry, in his article How the Power of Kindness Impacts Your Life and Others, presented some thoughtful quotes that you might want to consider:[3]

Do your little bit of good where you are. It’s those bits of good put together, that overwhelm the world. —Desmond Tutu

Kindness is a language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see. —Mark Twain

My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness. —Dalai Lama XIV

Don’t forget the acts of kindness that you have received. Instead, consider offering this gift to others.

Final Thoughts

To recap everything I wrote, just remember the 7 ways you can manifest abundance:

  • Smiling – make your smile your calling card.
  • Humor – bring people together and dissipate stress with humor.
  • Caring – people don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.
  • Listening – your ears won’t get you in trouble.
  • Joy – you know it when you see it.
  • Thankfulness – thank those who get little or no recognition.
  • Kindness – we can all be kind.

If you think some of these characteristics have merit, pick one at a time and concentrate on it for one week. Most good things in life take time, and this is not an exception. Eventually, you will be able to manifest abundance, experience fulfillment in life, and share your gifts with others.

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Reference

[1] Harvard Business Review: Leading with Humor
[2] Caregiver Stress: The Many Benefits of Caring for Others
[3] Mission.org: How The Power Of Kindness Impacts Your Life And Others

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Why Work Life Balance Doesn’t Exist (And How to Stay Sane)

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Why Work Life Balance Doesn’t Exist (And How to Stay Sane)

If you’ve ever felt like work-life balance isn’t really possible, you may be right.

Actually, I think work-life balance doesn’t exist. Whether you’re an entrepreneur or a rising star in the corporate world, work is always going to overflow from your 9 to 5 into your personal life. And if you have ambitions of becoming successful in just about any capacity, you’re going to have to make sacrifices.

Which is why, instead of striving for the unrealistic goal of “work-life balance,” I use a combination of rituals, tools, and coping mechanisms that allows me to thrive on a day-to-day basis.

Of course, moments still arise when I may feel overloaded with work and a bit out of balance, but with these daily rituals in place, I am able to feel grounded instead of feeling like I’m losing my mind.

Here are five daily practices I use to stay focused and balanced despite a jam-packed work schedule:

1. Pause (Frequently!) to Remember That You Chose This Path

Regardless of which path you take in life, it’s important to remind yourself that you are the one who chose the path you’re on.

For example, one of the joys of being an entrepreneur is that you experience a significant amount of freedom. Unfortunately, in moments of stress, it’s easy to forget that choice goes both ways: you chose to go your own way, and you chose the obstacles that come with that journey.

Remember: tomorrow, you could choose to leave your job, shut down your company, and go move to a farm in the middle of nowhere. The choice is yours.

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Whenever I catch myself thinking, “Why am I doing this?” I simply remember, “Oh, wait. I chose this.” And if I want to, I can choose another option. But at this moment, I own it because I chose it.

That simple mental shift can help me move from feeling out of control to in control. It’s empowering.

2. Use ‘Rocks’ to Prioritize Your Tasks

Sometimes having a to-do list is more overwhelming than it is helpful.

The daily tasks of anyone in a high-stakes, high-responsibility role are never-ending. Literally. No matter how many items you check off your list, each day adds just as many new ones, and even after a full day it can often feel like you haven’t accomplished anything.

So instead, I use “rocks”—a strategy I learned from performance coach Bill Nelson.

Say you have a glass container and a variety of rocks, divided into groups of large, mid-sized, and small rocks, and then some sand. If you put the small rocks in first, you’re not going to be able to fit everything in your container. But if you put the big rocks in first, then the mid-sized, and, finally, the small, they’ll all fit. And at the end, the sand fills the extra space.

The point of this strategy is to designate a handful of your biggest priorities for the week—let’s say five tasks—as the things you absolutely have to get done that week. Write them down somewhere.

Then, even if you accomplish nothing else but those five things, you’re going to feel better, since you completed the important tasks. You’ve made progress!

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Identifying your “rocks” is a better way of tracking progress and ensuring that you focus on the most critical things. You can create rocks on a weekly or even daily basis.

Some days, when I’m feeling the most frenzied, I say to myself, “You know what? Let’s boil it down. If I accomplish nothing else today and I just do these three things, it will be a good day.”

3. The PEW12 Method

Of all the daily practices I follow, Purge Emotional Writing (PEW12), which I learned from Dr. Habib Sadeghi, is my favorite.[1]

Here’s how it works:

Pick a topic, set a timer for 12 minutes, and just write.

You may be dealing with a specific issue you need to vent about, or you may be free-writing as emotions surface. It doesn’t matter what you’re writing or what your handwriting looks like, because you’re never going to re-read it.

At the end, burn the pages.

As the paper burns, you will feel all of those emotions you’ve just poured out either being reduced or dissipating completely. Both the writing process—which is literally unloading all of your unnecessary stuff—and the burning of the pages feel incredibly cathartic.

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And you can do PEW12 as frequently or infrequently as you feel you need it—once, twice, or multiple times a day.  

The reason I find this exercise so helpful is because, sometimes, I get in my head about a difficult issue or troubling interaction with someone, even when I know there is nothing to be done about it.

But as soon as I do my PEW12, I feel a sense of relief. I have more clarity. And I stop circling and circling the issue in my head. It makes things feel resolved. Just try it.

4. Set Sacred Time (Like a 20-Minute Walk or Evening Bath)

Outside of work, you have to try to protect some time for restoration and quiet. I call this sacred time.

For example, every single night I take a bath. This is a chance to literally wash off the day and any of the energy from the people, interactions, or experiences that I don’t want to take to bed with me.

I actually remodeled a bathroom in my house solely for this purpose. The bath ritual—which includes Himalayan bath salts, essential oils, and a five-minute meditation—is the ultimate “me time” and allows me to go to bed feeling peaceful and relaxed.

And while sacred time to end the day is crucial, I like to start the day with these types of practices, too.

In the mornings, I take my dog Bernard for a walk—and I use those 20 minutes to set my intention for the day. I don’t take my phone with me. I don’t think about the endless to-do list. I just enjoy listening to the birds and breathing in the sunshine, while Bernard stops to say hi to the neighbors and their dogs.

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These might seem like ordinary daily activities, but it’s the commitment to doing them day after day that makes all the difference.

5. Forgive Yourself When You Fail to Use the Tools

Sometimes our intention to follow “daily” practices falls flat. When this happens to me, I try not to beat myself up about it. After all, these things are tools to make me feel good. If they just become another chore, what is the point?

At the end of the day, my daily practices don’t belong in my jar of rocks or on my to-do list or in my daily planner. They are there to serve me.

If, for some reason, life happens and I can’t do my practices, I won’t feel as good. It’s possible I won’t sleep as well that night, or I’ll feel a little guilty that I didn’t walk Bernard.

But that’s okay. It’s also a good practice to acknowledge my limits and let go of the need to do everything all the time.

The Bottom Line

For most people, accepting that work-life balance simply isn’t possible is the first step to feeling more grounded and in control of your life.

Don’t waste your energy trying to achieve something that doesn’t exist. Instead, focus on how you’re feeling when things are out of balance and find a way to address those feelings.

You’ll have a toolkit for feeling better when life feels crazy, and, on the off chance things feel calm and happy, your rituals will make you feel absolutely amazing!

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