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Published on November 29, 2017

Let Me Give You The Gift Of The Gab

Let Me Give You The Gift Of The Gab

Glossophobia is the fear of public speaking. Ranking number 13 amongst other popular phobias, it is more common than the fear of clowns, needles, and darkness. We might not all suffer from this phobia, but I’m sure there are times we still feel nervous and anxious when we have to face a big crowd or give a speech in front of a large audience. Yet public speaking is almost one of the most useful delivery tools in our lives.

Remember the times you had to present at school, or pitch a project in class?All these require a form of public speaking. Eventually when you move on to working life, chances are you would still have to speak in front of an audience whether it be in board meetings, office seminars or external presentations where you might need to pitch a proposal to clients. Public speaking is an important asset that we should all strive to achieve no matter how big your fears may be.

Here is a selection of 5 books that will help you through the anxiety, to excel in the public speaking arena.

TED Talks: The Official TED Guide to Public Speaking by Chris J. Anderson

    There is no denying that (almost) all TED speakers are talented public speakers, and the man behind the TED curtain, who has worked with all these inspiring TED speakers, Chris Anderson has definitely challenged the public speaking game for short talks since his takeover in the early 2000s. The book explains how powerful public speeches are achieved, and equips you to master your next great public speaking stint.

    “There is no formula; no two talks should be the same” as Chris pointed out there is no cookie cutter solution to the best short talk. The core takeaway from this book is about how public speaking is merely a channel to transfer your ideas to your audience’s minds.

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    Reading Duration: 5hrs 57mins

    Get TED Talks: The Official TED Guide to Public Speaking from Amazon at $9.24

    Slide: ology: The Art and Science of Creating Great Presentations by Nancy Duarte

      Presentation slides/visual aids are one of the few elements that require professionals to think visually and leverage hard skills. But unlike verbal skills, effective visual expression is not actively taught in schools or business training programs.

      This book is loaded with easy and practical examples of visual story development which can be used by anyone. It will not turn you into a designer overnight, but you will learn the basics of preparing visual aids for presentations. Be aware this is not a book for teaching you how to use keynote, but more of visual storytelling from a design perspective. Get hold of the book if you are someone who is constantly having to public speak, but has only one set of powerpoint templates.

      Reading Duration: 6hrs 7mins

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      Get Slide: ology: The Art and Science of Creating Great Presentations from Amazon at $27.84

      Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action by Simon Sinek

        Why is it that some people and organisations are more innovative and more profitable than others? Why do some command greater loyalty from customers?

        Speaking just seems to be more desirable than listening, so how then can we get people to listen to us? This book offers comparisons and cases to learn from, as Sinek uses the Golden Circle theory of placing WHY at the core, followed by WHAT and HOW, arguing that we’d be better off if we focus more on the WHY as the golden circle suggest, because “People don’t buy WHAT you do, but WHY you do it”.

        An important aspect of public speaking is in the persuasiveness of your speech, so if you need some tips on sharpening your sales pitch, check this read.

        If you want to be inspired in a few minutes and catch the core of the book, watch Sinek’s TED talk about Starting with WHY:

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        Reading Duration: 5hrs 17mins

        Get Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action from Amazon at $10.23

        Pitch Anything: An Innovative Method for Presenting, Persuading, and Winning the Deal by Oren Klaff

          In the book Pitch Anything, Klaff argues that creating and presenting a great pitch is merely science, and describes how the brain makes decisions and responds to pitches with the back up of neuroscience. No matter whether you agree with his science method, some of his points are definitely solid, including setting the frame, great storytelling, and how to close a pitch. Expect this book to be your out-of-the-box read for an alternative view on pitching and public speaking.

          Reading Duration: 4hrs 57mins

          Get Pitch Anything: An Innovative Method for Presenting, Persuading, and Winning the Deal from Amazon at $13.75

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          Do You Talk Funny? 7 Comedy Habits to Become a Better (and Funnier) Public Speaker by David Nihill

            Humour can be one of the hardest-to-master elements in public speaking, to speak fluently and capturing the audience’s attention is already difficult, let alone adding humour into the equation.

            In Do You Talk Funny, you can learn skills from comedians, and apply to your day-to-day speaking activities, levelling up your public speaking skills. Of course, what you say/tell is not the most important (because humans can only remember 7% of what others have said), Nihill also delivers advice on managing your crowd, time, the stage, interruptions, and the list goes on. Expect yourself to be a more effective and funny public speaker after a good read of this book!

            Reading Duration: 4hrs 17mins

            Get Do You Talk Funny? 7 Comedy Habits to Become a Better (and Funnier) Public Speaker from Amazon at $12.13

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            Have Trouble Sleeping? 7 Proven Ways to Get More Rest

            Have Trouble Sleeping? 7 Proven Ways to Get More Rest

            Laying there, you watch the alarm clock change numbers more times than you’ve changed decisions on dinner.

            You know you have to get some sleep because otherwise tomorrow is going to be a wreck. You plead with your body, begging it to enter a deep slumber for your own sanity. Of course that isn’t exactly working. But hey, you’ll try anything… you’re not above the begging.

            Going to bed feeling “wide awake” is a common issue that many people struggle with, and one that isn’t easy to solve. There are multiple factors involved in your quest to fall asleep quickly and stay in a state of rest throughout the night.

            There’s one thing we can all agree on, though – it’s an awful predicament.

            Lucky you, there are ways we can combat this feeling and get to bed feeling relatively tired before we even lie down. I’ll show you several ways you can get to bed feeling just a bit more ready to accept an awesome night’s sleep:

            1. Put the phone and laptop away at least an hour before bed

            I’ll start with the no-brainer but the one that people continually struggle with the most.

            Yes, we know we need to shed ourselves of those things called “technology”; you know, the phones, the laptops, the computers, the TVs, the tablets, the phablets (a phone the size of a tablet), and the list goes on and on and on. We’re connected to them all day, and if we had the choice, we’d be connected to them all night.

            We’re hooked; consumer electronics barely leave our fingertips, and they have the pleasure of being our eyes’ object of affection for most of the day. Sometimes, I wonder what our phones or computer would say to us if it knew how much we stare at them.

            I’m glad they don’t talk. Well, I take that back since some already do on command. I’m just glad they don’t give us their unwarranted opinions.

            The least you can do is give each other a little space when the sun goes down. A little time away from each other never hurt anybody. Not a lot of time, just a few hours.

            The easiest way is to have the charger in another room (the room that you don’t spend evenings in) and when it’s time to wind down for the evening, plug it in and walk away. And then eventually go to bed, blissfully knowing your email or social media will be just fine.

            Try the whole I’ll give you a couple hours space; it works for relationships too.

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            2. Immerse yourself in some reading before bed

            We all could use a little more reading.

            I’d wager that a lot of us at some point or another put it as a goal. Yet we fall short just about every time.

            Instead, we pick up that phone, open that laptop, or turn on that TV for a little more instant gratification. Oy, reading takes so much effort.

            Well, since you’ll be putting your phone and laptop away a little bit earlier than usual, why not fill the void with some light reading?

            Any kind of book will do, or even a magazine if so inclined. The idea is to actually read words on paper, not on an LCD or LED screen.

            Feeling a little out of your comfort zone? That’s ok, I know it may seem like a foreign activity, but you’ll find that the peacefulness and relaxing nature of reading a book can do wonders for your sleep pattern.

            Plus, your eyes will thank you.

            3. Engage in a calm or soothing habit

            Hobbies is a word that has become increasingly rare in today’s generation. I’m beginning to think people are forgetting the definition of the word.

            Put together, most of us spend well over an hour a day on social media, valuable time that could be used towards a hobby.

            No, watching movies, hanging with friends, or going to the gym doesn’t count.

            Instead, look to pick up some actual hobbies, and more specifically, soothing ones.

            What exactly does soothing mean? Generally, it’s anything that allows you to relax while doing it. That means it doesn’t cause stress and doesn’t force you to be hyper-aware or exert any kind of physical activity. Things such as knitting, painting, and reading (ring a bell?) all work well.

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            Do a little research on potential hobbies you could pick up that help you relax.

            Allowing your brain to focus on the task at hand and “disconnect” from real world problems, even temporarily, can help reset and lower your anxiety and stress, all factors that affect your sleep.

            4. Eat a healthy diet, and stay satiated at night

            Eating healthy goes beyond just feeling good, it actually helps you sleep much better too.

            There is a myth that eating before bed is a bad thing; in fact, the opposite could hold true. Eating the right foods at night can help stave off those all too familiar hunger pangs, and give your body the right fuel it needs to rebuild itself while you sleep.

            The trick, of course, is eating the right foods – anything super salty, fatty, or sugary won’t do you very much good. You’ll just end up feeling uncomfortable, which affects your ability to fall asleep.

            Instead, aim for things such as complex carbs, fruit, or non-starchy vegetables. Check out the best foods to help you sleep better.

            And most importantly, don’t go to bed hungry – listen to your body.

            Throughout the day, make sure you feed it the right things too – a bad diet is a huge step backwards in a lot of areas, including your sleep cycles. A healthy, nutritious, balanced diet ensures your body is working optimally.

            The last trick is to avoid eating right before bed; as in don’t graze your way through the fridge and then throw yourself under your covers and turn out the lights.

            Give it a little bit of time, preferably at least an hour before bed. But if you last ate six hours ago…give yourself some fuel.

            5. Pick up meditation

            Even though the most convenient (and thus easiest) time to meditate is in the morning, you’ll soon find out that this science-backed activity can benefit you more than 16 hours later as you’re trying to fall asleep.

            If you need some convincing to start, here’s what meditation can do for you health wise:

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            • Reduce stress
            • Reduce anxiety
            • Increase immune health
            • Increase focus
            • Shrinks the brain’s amygdala (the part that deals with fear and emotion)[1]

            Meditation can also offer the following overall benefits:

            • Increase self-awareness
            • Induce relaxation
            • Increase happiness
            • Increase self-acceptance

            And the list goes on and on.

            Confused where to start?

            Spend five minutes sitting still in the morning before you begin your day, and even do the same at night before bed.

            Find a meditation app that can guide you if you find yourself having trouble sitting still and relaxing. Or do a simple Google search to find hundreds of guides on different types of meditation.

            Or simply check out this guide: The 5-minute Guide to Meditation: Anywhere, Anytime

            6. Get involved in exercise

            Exercise has also proven itself extremely beneficial, and with probably thousands of studies done (don’t quote me on that but I’d argue it’s possible) that show its true benefits, you would be hard pressed to ignore it in today’s modern age.

            All in, exercise can help with the following:[2]

            • Control your weight
            • Control your hormones
            • Reduce your risk for diseases (such as heart disease) and cancers
            • Improve your mental mood
            • Strengthen your bones and muscles
            • Improve your sexual health

            Regular exercise also helps improve your sleep, by allowing you to enter a deeper sleep sooner, and for longer.[3]

            Deep sleep, known as REM, is our most restorative sleep we can achieve. The more time you spend in deep sleep, the more you can boost your immune system, improve cardiovascular health, and control stress/anxiety.

            Not to mention, physical exercise takes effort in the form of expended energy. The more energy you expend, the more tired you get eventually. By expending all this energy, you’ll feel tired sooner in the evenings, allowing you to fall asleep much faster.

            Where to start? Get moving! Join a local gym for some intro classes, do some simple bodyweight workouts at home. Again, Google is your best friend here. The options are overwhelmingly unlimited.

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            Try these 15 Tips to Restart the Exercise Habit (and How to Keep It).

            Keep this is mind: there is no one right way. Start something, and tweak at will.

            7. Keep a consistent schedule

            Consistency in your sleep patterns come as a result of keeping a regular routine.

            The easiest way to get knocked off schedule is by constantly shifting your bed time or what you do in the few hours before bed.

            By having a fairly standard routine in place, you begin to trick your brain into knowing that bed time is coming simply by initiating certain activities.

            The same phenomenon explains why trying to read in bed (if you never do) makes you fall asleep quickly. If all you ever do in bed is sleep, then your brain assumes that lying in bed means it’s time to sleep, right?

            If one day you decide to try to read in bed, you might find yourself waking up an hour later. Why is that?

            Your brain thought it was time to sleep. So it initiated its sequence to make that happen. It didn’t know what reading in bed meant, and so it did what it knows best – sleep.

            This is exactly why you should make sure to keep your bed reserved for two activities only – sleep and sex. Otherwise, you risk having your brain adapt to the idea that your bed doesn’t always mean it’s time to sleep.

            The bottom line

            If you find that your sleep schedule is inconsistent, you have trouble falling asleep and you wake up feeling about as sluggish as your hungover Sunday mornings in college, it might be time to reassess all the things you do in your waking hours.

            Putting technology away, reading, finding soothing hobbies, eating healthy, meditating, exercising and keeping a consistent schedule will all help you achieve better sleep.

            But it’s up to you to actually implement them. What will you do to wake up feeling refreshed?

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