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Will You Be Highly Successful in the Future? These 8 Signs Can Foretell the Answer

Will You Be Highly Successful in the Future? These 8 Signs Can Foretell the Answer

These solutions are about strengthening your mind and solidifying positive habits that will ensure your future success. These solutions are also about perspective. Having the proper outlook will give you the unending strength you need to achieve enormous success. The benefits of these solutions are that they show you how to succeed. These solutions will not only lead to great outcomes, but they will ensure great outcomes continue throughout life.

You have found your passion

The people who strive in life are burning up with passion. Some people know what they want out of life much sooner than others and begin actively striving from their youth. For others, their passion has to be found. Your passion is not defined by your talent. You may be exceedingly good at something that does not excite you. Simply stated, you’ll know what your passion is because you’ll be willing to do it for free.

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You don’t settle for the 9-to-5 lifestyle

Successful people not only learn to enjoy what they do, they have fun doing it. This is essential for completing work without making it feel like work. You must find the joyous fun in your work or you won’t be able to do it repeatedly for hours on end each day. Those who know how to succeed know it’s necessary to say sayonara to typical 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. hours. All extremely successful people operate within the same 24 hours that you do but they are dedicated to optimizing each waking hour. Beware of confusing fun with comfort. Comfort is the arch nemesis of success.(Inc.: Top 10 Qualities of Highly Successful People))

You can focus on what you like to do for a long time

Successful people have an unmatched focus, despite being pulled in many different directions. They accomplish this despite having many moving parts to deal with in their personal lives and in business. The key to getting so much done can be attributed to their laser-like focus. Successful people see the full picture and then narrow their focus to a singular point.

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You’d rather choose to escape your comfort zone

People who have achieved phenomenal or legendary success don’t do it to be more comfortable. They recognize comfort only to do away with it, allowing them to harness the power within feeling uncomfortable. If you’re severely uncomfortable, you’ll do anything to get yourself out of that position and people often do.

You’re never in lack of new ideas

Successful people often have great ideas do they not? Does this happen out of luck? Absolutely not. The trick is allowing your ideas to age and grow old quickly, forcing you to develop new ideas. Thinking in this way will force you to come up with new ideas on the sheer basis that you cannot continuously do what you’ve always done. Therefore, you cannot continue to think what you’ve always thought. Your current knowledge will not always be applicable. You must continue to learn, change, improve, and come up with new ideas regularly. This leads to the next point, that improvement is a life-long accomplishment.

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Self improvement is like oxygen to you

Successful people know that there is no ceiling on your advancement. Learning, growth, and improvements must be measured and incorporated into your lifestyle. Any improvements that you want to make on yourself must become permanent aspects of your lifestyle or they will not last. A prime example of this are diets that people give up on after a few weeks.

Making everyone’s life better is your mission

Successful people are highly valuable and that’s no coincidence. They go out of their way to create far more value than is expected of them in order to solve problems. Know the audience that you serve intimately and know their problems better than they do. Provide value and facilitate a way for others to do or receive what they love. Money comes to successful people as a result of the value they give.

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You never retreat from challenges

Somehow, some way, you’ll need to develop thick skin if you haven’t already. The best of the best often endure a decade or more of striving for their goals while encountering failures along the way. To transition into this type of thinking, measure your success by how many failures you experience. If you’re not facing some level of rejection or failure, you’re probably not putting forth much effort.

You may be able to see by now that your success depends on how well and how often you cultivate yourself. Know yourself well. By knowing your strengths, you can more quickly ascertain where your value lies in the eyes of others. Keep in mind that fear of failure is actually fear of success. Failure is valuable and inevitable, so fail quickly. Every moment that you’re awake is a moment you can make your life better. You’re either going forwards or backwards at all times. Stay in motion because reaching a plateau or a standstill in life is an illusion, standing still is actually going backwards. If you need motivation to become successful, get uncomfortable. Get so uncomfortable with your current level of success that you feel on fire to make immediate improvements.

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Last Updated on April 6, 2020

10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively

10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively

Most discussions on positively influencing others eventually touch on Dale Carnegie’s seminal work, How to Win Friends and Influence People. Written more than 83 years ago, the book touches on a core component of human interaction, building strong relationships. It is no wonder why.

Everything that we do hinges on our ability to connect with others and formulate deep relationships. You cannot sell a house, buy a house, advance in most careers, sell a product, pitch a story, teach a course, etc. without building healthy relationships. Managers get the best results from their teams, not through brute force, but to careful appeals to their sensibilities, occasional withdrawals from the reservoir of respect they’ve built. Using these tactics, they can influence others to excellence, to productivity, and to success.

Carnegie’s book is great. Of course, there are other resources too. Most of us have someone in our lives who positively influences us. The truth is positively influencing people is about centering the humanity of others. Chances are, you know someone who is really good at making others feel like stars. They can get you to do things that the average person cannot. Where the requests of others sound like fingernails on a chalkboard, the request from this special person sounds like music to your ears. You’re delighted to not only listen but also to oblige.

So how to influence people in a positive way? Read on for tips.

1. Be Authentic

To influence people in a positive way, be authentic. Rather than being a carbon copy of someone else’s version of authenticity, uncover what it is that makes you unique.

Discover your unique take on an issue and then live up to and honor that. Once of the reasons social media influencers are so powerful is that they have carved out a niche for themselves or taken a common issue and approached it from a novel or uncommon way. People instinctually appreciate people whose public persona matches their private values.

Contradictions bother us because we crave stability. When someone professes to be one way, but lives contrary to that profession, it signals that they are confused or untrustworthy and thereby, inauthentic. Neither of these combinations bode well for positively influencing others.

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2. Listen

Growing up, my father would tell me to listen to what others said. He told me if I listened carefully, I would know all I needed to know about a person’s character, desires and needs.

To positively influence others, you must listen to what is spoken and what is left unsaid. Therein lies the explanation for what people need in order to feel validated, supported and seen. If a person feels they are invisible, and unseen by their superiors, they are less likely to be positively influenced by that person.

Listening meets a person’s primary need of validation and acceptance.

Take a look at this guide on how to be a better listener: How to Practice Active Listening (A Step-By-Step Guide)

3. Become an Expert

Most people are predisposed to listen to, if not respect, authority. If you want to positively influence others, become an authority in the area in which you seek to lead others. Research and read everything you can about the given topic, and then look for opportunities to put your education into practice.

You can argue over opinions. You cannot argue, or it is unwise to argue, over facts and experts come with facts.

4. Lead with Story

From years of working in the public relations space, I know that personal narratives, testimonials and impact stories are incredibly powerful. But I never cease to be amazed with how effective a well-timed and told story can be.

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If you want to influence people, learn to tell stories. Your stories should be related to the issue or concept you are discussing. They should be an analogy or metaphor that explains your topic in ordinary terms and in vivid detail. To learn more about how to tell powerful stories, and the ethics of storytelling, take a look at this article: How To Tell An Interesting Story In 4 Simple Steps

5. Lead by Example

It is incredibly inspiring to watch passionate, talented people at work or play. One of the reasons a person who is not an athlete can be in awe of athletic prowess is because human nature appreciates the extraordinary. When we watch the Olympics, Olympic trials, gymnastic competitions, ice skating, and other competitive sports, we can recognize the effort of people who day in and day out give their all. C

ase in point: Simone Biles. The gymnast extraordinaire won her 6TH all-around title at the U.S. Gymnastics Championships after doing a triple double. She was the first woman to do so. Watching her gave me chills. Even non-gymnasts and non-competitive athletes can appreciate the talent required to pull off such a remarkable feat.

We celebrate remarkable accomplishments and believe that their example is proof that we too can accomplish something great, even if it isn’t qualifying for the Olympics. To influence people in a positive way, we must lead by example, lead with intention and execute with excellence.

6. Catch People Doing Good

A powerful way to influence people in a positive way is to catch people doing good. Instead of looking for problems, look for successes. Look for often overlooked, but critically important things that your peers, subordinates and managers do that make the work more effective and more enjoyable.

Once you catch people doing good, name and notice their contributions.

7. Be Effusive with Praise

It did not take me long to notice a remarkable trait of a former boss. He not only began and ended meetings with praise, but he peppered praise throughout the entire meeting. He found a way to celebrate the unique attributes and skills of his team members. He was able to quickly and accurately assess what people were doing well and then let them and their colleagues know.

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Meetings were not just an occasion to go through a “To Do” list, they were opportunities to celebrate accomplishments, no matter how small they are.

8. Be Kind Rather Than Right

I am going to level with you; this one is tough. It is easy to get caught up in a cycle of proving oneself. For people who lack confidence, or people who prioritize the opinions of others, being right is important. The validation that comes with being perceived as “right” feeds one’s ego. But in the quest to be “right,” we can hurt other people. Once we’ve hurt someone by being unkind, it is much harder to get them to listen to what we’re trying to influence them to do.

The antidote to influencing others via bullying is to prioritize kindness above rightness. You can be kind and still stand firm in your position. For instance, many people think that they need others to validate their experience. If a person does not see the situation you experienced in the way you see it, you get upset. But your experience is your experience.

If you and your friends go out to eat and you get food poisoning, you do not need your friends to agree that the food served at the restaurant was problematic for you. Your own experience of getting food poisoning is all the validation you need. Therefore, taking time to be right is essentially wasted and, if you were unkind in seeking validation for your food-poison experience, now you’ve really lost points.

9. Understand a Person’s Logical, Emotional and Cooperative Needs

The Center for Creative Leadership has argued that the best way to influence others is to appeal to their logical, emotional and cooperative needs. Their logical need is their rational and educational need. Their emotional need is the information that touches them in a deeply personal manner. The cooperative need is understanding the level of cooperation various individuals need and then appropriately offering it.

The trick with this system is to understand that different people need different things. For some people, a strong emotional appeal will outweigh logical explanations. For others, having an opportunity to collaborate will override emotional connection.

If you know your audience, you will know what they need in order to be positively influenced. If you have limited information about the people whom you are attempting to influence, you will be ineffective.

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10. Understand Your Lane

If you want to positively influence others, operate from your sphere of influence. Operate from your place of expertise. Leave everything else to others. Gone are the days when being a jack of all trades is celebrated.

Most people appreciate brands that understand their target audience and then deliver on what that audience wants. When you focus on what you are uniquely gifted and qualified to do, and then offer that gift to the people who need it, you are likely more effective. This effectiveness is attractive.

You cannot positively influence others if you are more preoccupied by what others do well versus what you do well.

Final Thoughts

Influencing people is about centering your humanity. If you want to influence others positively, focus on the way you communicate and improve the relationship with yourself first.

It’s hard to influence others if you’re still trying to figure out how to communicate with yourself.

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