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Will You Be Highly Successful in the Future? These 8 Signs Can Foretell the Answer

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Will You Be Highly Successful in the Future? These 8 Signs Can Foretell the Answer

These solutions are about strengthening your mind and solidifying positive habits that will ensure your future success. These solutions are also about perspective. Having the proper outlook will give you the unending strength you need to achieve enormous success. The benefits of these solutions are that they show you how to succeed. These solutions will not only lead to great outcomes, but they will ensure great outcomes continue throughout life.

You have found your passion

The people who strive in life are burning up with passion. Some people know what they want out of life much sooner than others and begin actively striving from their youth. For others, their passion has to be found. Your passion is not defined by your talent. You may be exceedingly good at something that does not excite you. Simply stated, you’ll know what your passion is because you’ll be willing to do it for free.

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You don’t settle for the 9-to-5 lifestyle

Successful people not only learn to enjoy what they do, they have fun doing it. This is essential for completing work without making it feel like work. You must find the joyous fun in your work or you won’t be able to do it repeatedly for hours on end each day. Those who know how to succeed know it’s necessary to say sayonara to typical 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. hours. All extremely successful people operate within the same 24 hours that you do but they are dedicated to optimizing each waking hour. Beware of confusing fun with comfort. Comfort is the arch nemesis of success.(Inc.: Top 10 Qualities of Highly Successful People))

You can focus on what you like to do for a long time

Successful people have an unmatched focus, despite being pulled in many different directions. They accomplish this despite having many moving parts to deal with in their personal lives and in business. The key to getting so much done can be attributed to their laser-like focus. Successful people see the full picture and then narrow their focus to a singular point.

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You’d rather choose to escape your comfort zone

People who have achieved phenomenal or legendary success don’t do it to be more comfortable. They recognize comfort only to do away with it, allowing them to harness the power within feeling uncomfortable. If you’re severely uncomfortable, you’ll do anything to get yourself out of that position and people often do.

You’re never in lack of new ideas

Successful people often have great ideas do they not? Does this happen out of luck? Absolutely not. The trick is allowing your ideas to age and grow old quickly, forcing you to develop new ideas. Thinking in this way will force you to come up with new ideas on the sheer basis that you cannot continuously do what you’ve always done. Therefore, you cannot continue to think what you’ve always thought. Your current knowledge will not always be applicable. You must continue to learn, change, improve, and come up with new ideas regularly. This leads to the next point, that improvement is a life-long accomplishment.

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Self improvement is like oxygen to you

Successful people know that there is no ceiling on your advancement. Learning, growth, and improvements must be measured and incorporated into your lifestyle. Any improvements that you want to make on yourself must become permanent aspects of your lifestyle or they will not last. A prime example of this are diets that people give up on after a few weeks.

Making everyone’s life better is your mission

Successful people are highly valuable and that’s no coincidence. They go out of their way to create far more value than is expected of them in order to solve problems. Know the audience that you serve intimately and know their problems better than they do. Provide value and facilitate a way for others to do or receive what they love. Money comes to successful people as a result of the value they give.

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You never retreat from challenges

Somehow, some way, you’ll need to develop thick skin if you haven’t already. The best of the best often endure a decade or more of striving for their goals while encountering failures along the way. To transition into this type of thinking, measure your success by how many failures you experience. If you’re not facing some level of rejection or failure, you’re probably not putting forth much effort.

You may be able to see by now that your success depends on how well and how often you cultivate yourself. Know yourself well. By knowing your strengths, you can more quickly ascertain where your value lies in the eyes of others. Keep in mind that fear of failure is actually fear of success. Failure is valuable and inevitable, so fail quickly. Every moment that you’re awake is a moment you can make your life better. You’re either going forwards or backwards at all times. Stay in motion because reaching a plateau or a standstill in life is an illusion, standing still is actually going backwards. If you need motivation to become successful, get uncomfortable. Get so uncomfortable with your current level of success that you feel on fire to make immediate improvements.

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Published on October 14, 2021

How to Silence the Impostor Syndrome

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How to Silence the Impostor Syndrome

Do you ever worry about being exposed as a “fraud?” You’re not alone. It’s actually quite common for people to feel like imposters. In fact, approximately 70 percent of people admit to having experienced impostor syndrome[1] at some point in their lives — a Twitter poll found that 87 percent of people have experienced this.[2] Even successful and famous people like Tom Hanks, Howard Schultz, and Natalie Portman suffer from imposter syndrome.

But, what exactly is imposter syndrome. And, more importantly, how can you silence it?

Originally coined in 1978 by psychologists Pauline Rose Clance, Ph.D., ABPP, and Suzanne Imes, Ph.D., the term “impostor syndrome” describes symptoms that include being unable to internalize accomplishments and being afraid of being exposed as a fraud.

The individual may also be plagued by chronic self-doubt and believe that they’re unqualified for success despite evidence to the contrary. Inadequacies, fears of failure, and disbelief that success is a matter of luck or timing are also common.

If you don’t address this phenomenon, feeling like an impostor can prevent you from achieving ambitious goals. Moreover, those experiencing these feelings tend to over-prepare or procrastinate — which obviously hinders productivity and reaching goals. And, as if that weren’t bad enough, imposter syndrome prevents you from pursuing new challenges and opportunities.

Do you feel like you’re suffering from impostor syndrome? If so, don’t beat yourself up. After all, there are effective ways to overcome these feelings in a healthy and proactive way.

1. Don’t Hide It.

“Firstly, acknowledge it,” advises Claudine Robson,[3] the Intentional Coach. “You give strength to imposter syndrome by letting it continue to peck away at your confidence unchecked.” It can only be banished if you acknowledge it as soon as possible and break the silence.

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“Then you need to separate your feelings from facts,” Robson adds. “One thing imposter syndrome does very effectively is to mix up your perceptions of reality.”

If you can, take a step back and look at the situation objectively. “Recognize when you should — and when you should not — feel fraudulent,” she says. Appreciate and acknowledge the task, intellect, and insight that have led to your success.

You might even be able to take action by recognizing that the reason you feel fraudulent is that you’re new to a task. “That gives you a path forward; learning is growth, don’t deny yourself that.”

2. Implement the STOP Technique

In her book Cognitive Enlightenment, Melinda Fouts, Ph.D., outlines a technique to overcome imposter syndrome using what she calls the STOP technique.

“STOP is an acronym for ‘silence the oppressive player,” Fouts explains in Forbes.[4] “You need to eradicate this tape that is playing 24/7, whether you are conscious of it or not. It plays loudest when we are tired, hungry, or feeling defeated.”

Steps to implementing the STOP technique and rewiring your brain are as follows:

To replace the tape of not good enough, you need a “launch sentence.” “I’m more than good enough” would is an example of a solid launch statement.

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Put your launch sentence in prominent locations, such as your car’s dashboard or computer. How come? The reason is that as the tape plays, you won’t be able to remember your launch statement.

Continue to say “stop” until you recall your launch sentence, says Fouts.

Put your launch sentence into your own words and pontificate.

While going about your daily tasks, like while driving or exercising, practice your launch sentence so you can recall it when you need it in the future.

“I am told this sounds simple and it does,” she adds. However, this technique is challenging when your negative tape is playing. You will not want to replace the tape every day while your brain is rewiring itself. “It is these moments you can’t give up.”

3. Distinguish Humility and Fear

When it comes to hard work and accomplishments, there’s humility, and then there’s fear. In other words, having a high level of competence can lead one to discount its value occasionally. However, as Carl Richards wrote in an article for the New York Times,[5] “After spending a lot of time fine-tuning our ability, isn’t it sort of the point for our skill to look and feel natural?”

The problem is that we feel unworthy from time to time. But, as Seth Godin explained in a blog post,[6] “When you feel unworthy, any kind response, positive feedback or reward feels like a trick, a scam, the luck of the draw.”

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Feeling worthy without feeling entitled is possible. And, finding the right balance between them is critical for overcoming impostor syndrome. “Humility and worthiness have nothing at all to do with defending our territory,” Godin continues. “We don’t have to feel like a fraud to also be gracious, open, or humble.”

4. Keep a “Brag Sheet”

When you were sending out college applications, did you build yourself a “brag sheet?” If not, here’s a clean description from Shawna Newman,[7] “A brag sheet is very similar to a student resume – it highlights your accomplishments, key experiences, leadership skills, and employment throughout your secondary education.” In short, “it’s a quick reference guide with all the details and achievements for someone trying to get to know you better.”

While it may be awkward at first, you can apply the same concept when coping with imposter syndrome. Just compose a list of your accomplishments, activities, skills. That’s it. Just remember Godin’s advice and also be humble and gracious.

As an added perk, besides being an effective way to talk myself up, I’ve also found that this has helped me stop comparing myself to others. Instead of harping about other people’s milestones, I’m honing in on what I’ve done.

5. Celebrate Wins, Period

Speaking of accomplishments, they shouldn’t be categorized as small or big. After all, you feel as if you don’t belong when you have imposter syndrome. So, the more you celebrate your wins, the more confident you’ll become.

Furthermore, accept compliments without qualifying them and practice listening to praise every day. Finally, become kinder to yourself by saying at least one kind thing to yourself daily. And, give yourself a well-deserved pat on the back.

6. Assemble a Legion of Superheroes

“You know how corporations have a board of directors to — in theory — make them stronger, maintain checks and balances, leverage resources, and help advance the organization’s vision?” asks inspirational speaker, speaking coach, and creative consultant Tania Katan.[8] “Why not assemble your own board of directors to leverage resources to help make your career stronger, keep you in check and balanced, and advance your vision?”

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“My friend Alison Wade, president of conferences, training, and consulting at Techwell, calls her personal board of directors her “front-row” — those are the people she invites to sit spitting distance from the stage, cheer her on, challenge her, and review her performance,” Katan writes.

As for Katan, she calls hers a “legion of superheroes.” The reason? “I dig the idea of joining forces to do good in the corporate galaxy.”

It’s important to have a diverse group of individuals who will defend you. Ideally, they should be varied in all dimensions, such as cultural background, way of thinking, and skills.

Katan recommends that you meet together frequently, whether if that’s once a week or every quarter. “Share your experiences, fears, creative ideas, aspirations,” she adds. “Celebrate each other’s accomplishments.” You also need to both support and challenge each other. “Discover what you are capable of doing when you combine your powers.”

7. Visualize Success

Follow the example of a professional athlete by imagining yourself crushing that presentation or project. You’ll enjoy the relief from performance-related stress. And, more importantly, it can help you avoid focusing on the worst-case scenario.

Final Words of Advice

While there’s no single formula to cure imposter syndrome, the tips listed above are a start. After all, your success depends on your ability to fight the negative effects of it. For example, feeling unworthy over time can lead to crippling anxiety and depression if left untreated.

If you’ve tried the above, then make sure that you speak to someone about what you’re experiencing, whether it’s a mentor, peer group, or licensed professional. And, above all else, there’s a place at the table for everyone — no matter what your inner voice is telling you.

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How to Silence the Impostor Syndrome was originally published on Calendar by John Rampton.

Featured photo credit: Laurenz Kleinheider via unsplash.com

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