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Why Some Leaders Are More Admirable Than Others

Why Some Leaders Are More Admirable Than Others

The term ‘leadership skill’ is not a new term for any of us. Leadership does not have a singular definition, but it is easy to identify someone who is referred to as a leader by examining how they approach life.

An individual with good leadership traits can easily influence others’ decisions. To become a successful leader, there are different types of leadership skills you need to know.

These skills are applicable to anybody, whether it is becoming the chairman of a company or becoming a father for a family. Below are different types of leadership skills.

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1. Building trust with the people around you is hard but important.

Trust building is a very important leadership skill, as this shows the leader’s competence level. Convincing someone to trust you is not an easy task, as a lot of people have different perceptions of others. For you to achieve this skill, you need to be open to people around you and always welcome their ideas. Make sure you handle situations fairly and always ask people how they feel about certain circumstances.

2. You need to know how to communicate with others.

Communication is very important in life and is among the most important traits for any leader. The way you communicate matters a lot, as you will either gain respect or damage relationships depending on the approach. As a good leader, you need to use appropriate language and tone depending on the situation. It is important to cater different communication strategies based on the audience you are communicating to.

3. A good leader cooperates with others and doesn’t bark out orders.

Cooperation is very important when it comes to coordinating individuals within groups, teams, or departments. If the leader cooperates with other team members, it will boost both collaboration and success. In addition, the work will be completed a lot more efficiently when the team members leverage each other’s skill sets.

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4. It is so crucial to know the ways of managing risks.

As a leader, you must know how to manage risks. For every project you will be doing within your team, always brainstorm potential risks and write them down so you know how to take action. Based on the trust you have within your team, always tell them to report any potential risks that may arise. It is also important to draw information from different sources so that a comprehensive solution may be reached.

5. You need to understand the issues in order to resolve them.

Upon hearing any issues, it is vital to understand the issues thoroughly and to look for ways to resolve them. To solve the issue at hand, you will need to gather ideas from other team members and identify the different perspectives. This simply means that you maintain an open mind when formulating conclusions.

6. You should focus on finding the solutions.

As a leader, you need to let your subordinates know that there is always a solution to a problem. You need to be a problem-solver and build trust between you and your team members. Make use of the information you have gathered and continue to develop solutions for potential long-term risks.

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7. Influence others with your trust and charm.

As a leader, you are the primary individual to directly influence the decision of your subordinates. Always persuade them by presenting your point of view in a democratic way. By building relationships with each individual, it is easier for them to gain your trust and makes them more comfortable with providing any input.

8. You aim to inspire people.

Good leaders inspire their subordinates. Always be ready to share your values with those around you. Let them know that you welcome new ideas. To achieve this, you need to show people that you trust them and are capable of succeeding in any given task. Always share successful stories with others, as this will empower your team members to work even harder.

9. You also need to develop people and help them grow.

As a leader, your subordinates have the expectation that you will help them grow. They will respect you when you provide them with professional growth. Always offer coaching, regardless of the skill level of the team member; but, remember to be positive and encouraging – even negative situations have a positive side.

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10. You constantly find ways to improve.

An important skill set of a leader is their ability to improve the circumstances of any given situation. First, you need to improve yourself as a leader, as well as your presentation around others. Exceed the expectations of your job by doing things beyond your job description. This will show that you are capable of improving the overall work environment. By inspiring others and remaining diligent, you are ultimately changing the lives of families, friends, and those around you.

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Last Updated on February 19, 2019

How to Break Bad Habits: I Broke 3 Bad Habits in Less Than 2 Months

How to Break Bad Habits: I Broke 3 Bad Habits in Less Than 2 Months

The cycle of bad habits is what keeps us living small and stops us from reaching our true potential. Breaking a bad habit isn’t as hard as it seems; despite being a CEO of a company and raising two children, I still managed to break 3 bad habits I had within 2 months. Yes, that’s quitting one habit in less than 21 days.

I took steps to eliminate them one at a time. Habits such as drinking Coke every day, slouching when sitting and not having a consistent exercise routine.

So how did I break these habits? I used the Control Alternate Delete Method (Ctrl Alt Del).

What is this method and why is it so effective? Read on to find out how to break bad habits with this unique method.

How to break bad habits with the Control Alternate Delete Method

    We all notice on some level what our bad habits are. A lot of the time we choose to ignore the negative ways these impact us.

    For me, I was sitting most of the day in front of my computer at work in a slouching position. I drank Coke every single day in an attempt to stay awake. I put off any kind of exercise regime because I felt that it was better to just relax and have fun after a whole day of work. As a result, I was leading a really unhealthy lifestyle suffering from weight gain and back pain.

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    I needed to make a change.

    I started to read books about building habits such as The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg, The One Thing by Gary W. Keller and Jay Papasan, and The Now Habit by Neil Fiore. After reading all these books, I’ve come up with my own method to quit bad habits — The Ctrl Alt Del Method.

    I started by focusing on just one bad habit, the first one being the sheer amount of Coke I was consuming each day.

    Every day I applied the Ctrl Alt Del Method and after two weeks, not only did I stop drinking Coke every day (I only drank one can in 2 weeks), but I started the better habit of drinking 8 glasses of water every day instead.

    After eliminating one bad habit, I moved on to the other two with this same method and a month later I was:

    • Hitting the gym twice a week.
    • Improving my sitting posture, not only at the office but also at home and everywhere else, improving my back pain.
    • Gaining core muscle which improved my back pain as well.
    • Losing fat around my waist which went from 36″ (considered obese level) to 32″ (normal level).

    If I can improve my life using this method, then so can you. Using this structure to eliminate your bad habits will increase your success and replace your bad habits with more positive ones.

    Control: Master your desire

      Identify your triggers

      Bad habits such as drinking alcohol, smoking and snacking too much trigger the release of dopamine, a feel-good chemical in the brain.[1] Although you might not like the end result, they give you a positive outcome in the moment. This is pure psychology.

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      It’s important to identify what is triggering you to continually act out your bad habit. This isn’t always an easy step because our habits have been built up over a long period of time.

      If you need help in identifying your triggers, here’s a list of common bad habits and their triggers: 13 Bad Habits You Need to Quit Right Away

      Self-reflect

      To help you work out your triggers, do a bit of self-reflection. Ask yourself questions such as:

      • What comfort are you getting from this habit?
      • Why do you need comfort?

      For example, I chose to drink coke because it tasted good and it made me feel good when I was stressed. I slouched only when I sat for too long working on my desk and started to feel tired. I skipped exercises because every day after work I felt I already did enough works and didn’t want to work out.

      If you choose to eat fast food every night, you’re probably telling yourself you’re too busy to cook. But ask yourself why? What are your priorities?

      Maybe you have a lack of self-worth that means you don’t have the self-love to want to look after your health. Perhaps it’s a sign you’re not making enough time for important routines like shopping and creating a healthy meal yourself. Maybe you’ve always had a belief that you’re a bad cook.

      Write a diary

      Write down your thoughts and feelings around this bad habit. Writing things down forces the brain to think harder.[2] This helps you to find the source to your stress or limiting negative beliefs.

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      Alternate: Find a replacement

        Find a positive alternative habit

        Once you think you’ve discovered your trigger, try to find a similar but healthy option. This is where I replaced Coke with lemon water; slouching with simply taking a walk and stretching my back every hour; and chilling at home after work with workout exercises that I actually found fun.

        You could decide to walk to the office instead of driving or getting off the bus earlier to walk. You could switch to a healthier breakfast cereal instead of grabbing a sugary snack when you head out of the door.

        By doing this, you aren’t getting rid of the act altogether like you would if you completely gave something up with nothing to fill that void. This helps your brain accept the improved habit more.

        Create a defence plan

        Everyone has moments of weakness and that want to revert back to the bad habit will rear its ugly head. This is where a plan can help counteract these moments.

        Think of things you can do when the temptations come. For example, if you want to check your phone less, ask your friend or partner to keep it for you or switch it off and read a book. If you’re a starter for an exercise routine, like me, get someone to do it with you to keep you accountable.

        Decide on something you will do once you feel triggered to go back to your old habit. Repeating these positive alternative habits consistently will help wire your brain to see them as your normal new habit over time.

        Delete: Remove temptations

          Remove stuff that reminds you of the bad habit

          Getting rid of anything that reminds you of your bad habit is essential. For example, I got rid of coke in my office and at home and replaced my usual office chair with an exercise ball. It makes it much easier to stop slipping back in a weak moment.

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          Avoid all kinds of temptations

          In the same vein, avoid places or people that you know will tempt you back into that bad habit. Don’t go to the supermarket on an empty stomach to avoid the temptation to buy trashy snacks, don’t drive past that fast food joint but find an alternative route instead, say no more often to the friend you know will get you drunk again this weekend.

          It’s all about not putting yourself in the situation where you’re in danger of relapsing.

          Conclusion

          The Control Alternate Delete Method uses the right steps you need to overcome your need to indulge in your bad habits. Working with your core psychology, emotions and feelings behind your actions is what makes this method effective and easy to apply to all bad habits you have.

          Bad habits are easy to form and making changes can seem difficult but remember that it’s all about consistency and repetition.

          Start using the Control Alternate Delete Method today and you can stop a bad habit permanently.

          What bad habit do you want to put a stop to once and for all? You must set aside time and pick one bad habit to focus on. Start using the steps to increase and maintain more positivity in your life moving forward.

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