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Signs That You’ve Met the Unicorn Girl but You Don’t Even Know It

Signs That You’ve Met the Unicorn Girl but You Don’t Even Know It

Ever heard somebody talking about the mystical unicorn girl? Ever wonder what that means? Well, a unicorn girl is that perfect someone who always seems to be just out of reach, out of your league, and unattainable. In short, she is your soulmate and you should stop at nothing to have her in your life.

Because your unicorn girl is only yours, she is unique. Her uniqueness means that her specific traits cannot be listed, she cannot be defined. Remember, a unicorn girl is no cookie-cutter replica of anyone else. Everyone has his or her own unicorn girl or boy and it can be hard to track them down.

For all you know, you’ve already met your unicorn girl. Not sure? Keep reading. We’re going to lay out some of the signs that you may have already met your special someone and you just don’t realize it yet.

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Trust us, you don’t want to go through your whole life wondering if you missed out on the opportunity to be with the perfect life partner. Can you imagine marrying the wrong person because you didn’t know how to spot your unicorn girl when she was right before your eyes? Don’t let that happen to you. Don’t let your life become full of “what could have been” doubts.

Signs You’ve Already Met the Unicorn Girl

Start thinking about some of your current relationships as you read over the signs. Anybody stick out to you?

1. The two of you can sit comfortably in silence.

You don’t feel the need to fill those awkward silences because there aren’t any. You are comfortable in each other’s company and that is all that matters.

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2. You don’t feel pressured to impress your unicorn girl.

You are who you are and that includes your weaknesses. Your unicorn girl makes you feel comfortable enough to open up and share even the truths you have always tried to hard to hide from everyone else.

3. You can laugh at each other, at your jokes, and at the silly things you do.

Your unicorn girl makes you laugh even when you’re feeling down.

4. When the two of you argue or have a difference of opinion, you can let it go.

You know which things are important and which things aren’t worth dwelling on. Maybe your unicorn girl doesn’t like it when you leave the dirty dishes on the counter, but she’d rather enjoy the evening with you than make a big deal about it.

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5. Your unicorn girl listens to you carefully.

She listens to you when you ramble on about random things, like your favorite candy. The next time you see her for movie night or a study session, she brings the candy she knows you love.

6. You smile more often because of your unicorn girl.

Having a bad day? Suddenly doesn’t seem so bad when you see her, right? When something happens to you, good or bad, she’s the first person you want to tell.

7. Your unicorn girl wants to know how you feel.

She doesn’t just ask to make small talk. Nope. She actually cares about your day, about your opinion on different topics, and about your general feelings and thoughts. And you like to tell her how you feel and, of course, you like to know about her thoughts and feelings as well.

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8. She’s met your friends and she’s nice to them.

All of them. Even the ones who interrupt every 3 words and chew with their mouth open. She tries to get to know them and she does it for you.

9. Your unicorn girl helps you be a better version of yourself.

She pushes you to the limit without trying to add stress to your day. That’s because she sees you for who you really are and knows what you’re capable of doing.

10. You think of her every waking second.

You wonder how she slept, if she’s having a good day, if she stopped for her favorite coffee in the morning, and if she’s going to text you during lunch hour. Not a moment goes by that your unicorn girl isn’t on your mind.

Any of these sound familiar? If so, you’re one of the luckiest people in the world. Don’t let that unicorn girl slip away.

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Last Updated on January 15, 2021

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

The popular idiomatic saying that “actions speak louder than words” has been around for centuries, but even to this day, most people struggle with at least one area of nonverbal communication. Consequently, many of us aspire to have more confident body language but don’t have the knowledge and tools necessary to change what are largely unconscious behaviors.

Given that others’ perceptions of our competence and confidence are predominantly influenced by what we do with our faces and bodies, it’s important to develop greater self-awareness and consciously practice better posture, stance, eye contact, facial expressions, hand movements, and other aspects of body language.

Posture

First things first: how is your posture? Let’s start with a quick self-assessment of your body.

  • Are your shoulders slumped over or rolled back in an upright posture?
  • When you stand up, do you evenly distribute your weight or lean excessively to one side?
  • Does your natural stance place your feet relatively shoulder-width apart or are your feet and legs close together in a closed-off position?
  • When you sit, does your lower back protrude out in a slumped position or maintain a straight, spine-friendly posture in your seat?

All of these are important considerations to make when evaluating and improving your posture and stance, which will lead to more confident body language over time. If you routinely struggle with maintaining good posture, consider buying a posture trainer/corrector, consulting a chiropractor or physical therapist, stretching daily, and strengthening both your core and back muscles.

Facial Expressions

Are you prone to any of the following in personal or professional settings?

  • Bruxism (tight, clenched jaw or grinding teeth)
  • Frowning and/or furrowing brows
  • Avoiding direct eye contact and/or staring at the ground

If you answered “yes” to any of these, then let’s start by examining various ways in which you can project confident body language through your facial expressions.

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1. Understand How Others Perceive Your Facial Expressions

A December 2020 study by UC Berkeley and Google researchers utilized a deep neural network to analyze facial expressions in six million YouTube clips representing people from over 140 countries. The study found that, despite socio-cultural differences, people around the world tended to use about 70% of the same facial expressions in response to different emotional stimuli and situations.[1]

The study’s researchers also published a fascinating interactive map to demonstrate how their machine learning technology assessed various facial expressions and determined subtle differences in emotional responses.

This study highlights the social importance of facial expressions because whether or not we’re consciously aware of them—by gazing into a mirror or your screen on a video conferencing platform—how we present our faces to others can have tremendous impacts on their perceptions of us, our confidence, and our emotional states. This awareness is the essential first step towards

2. Relax Your Face

New research on bruxism and facial tension found the stresses and anxieties of Covid-19 lockdowns led to considerable increases in orofacial pain, jaw-clenching, and teeth grinding, particularly among women.[2]

The National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research estimates that more than 10 million Americans alone have temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ syndrome), and facial tension can lead to other complications such as insomnia, wrinkles, dry skin, and dark, puffy bags under your eyes.[3])

To avoid these unpleasant outcomes, start practicing progressive muscle relaxation techniques and taking breaks more frequently throughout the day to moderate facial tension.[4] You should also try out some biofeedback techniques to enhance your awareness of involuntary bodily processes like facial tension and achieve more confident body language as a result.[5]

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3. Improve Your Eye Contact

Did you know there’s an entire subfield of kinesic communication research dedicated to eye movements and behaviors called oculesics?[6] It refers to various communication behaviors including direct eye contact, averting one’s gaze, pupil dilation/constriction, and even frequency of blinking. All of these qualities can shape how other people perceive you, which means that eye contact is yet another area of nonverbal body language that we should be more mindful of in social interactions.

The ideal type (direct/indirect) and duration of eye contact depends on a variety of factors, such as cultural setting, differences in power/authority/age between the parties involved, and communication context. Research has shown that differences in the effects of eye contact are particularly prominent when comparing East Asian and Western European/North American cultures.[7]

To improve your eye contact with others, strive to maintain consistent contact for at least 3 to 4 seconds at a time, consciously consider where you’re looking while listening to someone else, and practice eye contact as much as possible (as strange as this may seem in the beginning, it’s the best way to improve).

3. Smile More

There are many benefits to smiling and laughing, and when it comes to working on more confident body language, this is an area that should be fun, low-stakes, and relatively stress-free.

Smiling is associated with the “happiness chemical” dopamine and the mood-stabilizing hormone, serotonin. Many empirical studies have shown that smiling generally leads to positive outcomes for the person smiling, and further research has shown that smiling can influence listeners’ perceptions of our confidence and trustworthiness as well.

4. Hand Gestures

Similar to facial expressions and posture, what you do with your hands while speaking or listening in a conversation can significantly influence others’ perceptions of you in positive or negative ways.

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It’s undoubtedly challenging to consciously account for all of your nonverbal signals while simultaneously trying to stay engaged with the verbal part of the discussion, but putting in the effort to develop more bodily awareness now will make it much easier to unconsciously project more confident body language later on.

5. Enhance Your Handshake

In the article, “An Anthropology of the Handshake,” University of Copenhagen social anthropology professor Bjarke Oxlund assessed the future of handshaking in wake of the Covid-19 pandemic:[8]

“Handshakes not only vary in function and meaning but do so according to social context, situation and scale. . . a public discussion should ensue on the advantages and disadvantages of holding on to the tradition of shaking hands as the conventional gesture of greeting and leave-taking in a variety of circumstances.”

It’s too early to determine some of the ways in which Covid-19 has permanently changed our social norms and professional etiquette standards, but it’s reasonable to assume that handshaking may retain its importance in American society even after this pandemic. To practice more confident body language in the meantime, the video on the science of the perfect handshake below explains what you need to know.

6. Complement Your Verbals With Hand Gestures

As you know by now, confident communication involves so much more than simply smiling more or sounding like you know what you’re talking about. What you do with your hands can be particularly influential in how others perceive you, whether you’re fidgeting with an object, clenching your fists, hiding your hands in your pockets, or calmly gesturing to emphasize important points you’re discussing.

Social psychology researchers have found that “iconic gestures”—hand movements that appear to be meaningfully related to the speaker’s verbal content—can have profound impacts on listeners’ information retention. In other words, people are more likely to engage with you and remember more of what you said when you speak with complementary hand gestures instead of just your voice.[9]

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Further research on hand gestures has shown that even your choice of the left or right hand for gesturing can influence your ability to clearly convey information to listeners, which supports the notion that more confident body language is readily achievable through greater self-awareness and deliberate nonverbal actions.[10]

Final Takeaways

Developing better posture, enhancing your facial expressiveness, and practicing hand gestures can vastly improve your communication with other people. At first, it will be challenging to consciously practice nonverbal behaviors that many of us are accustomed to performing daily without thinking about them.

If you ever feel discouraged, however, remember that there’s no downside to consistently putting in just a little more time and effort to increase your bodily awareness. With the tips and strategies above, you’ll be well on your way to embracing more confident body language and amplifying others’ perceptions of you in no time.

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