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Signs That You’ve Met the Unicorn Girl but You Don’t Even Know It

Signs That You’ve Met the Unicorn Girl but You Don’t Even Know It

Ever heard somebody talking about the mystical unicorn girl? Ever wonder what that means? Well, a unicorn girl is that perfect someone who always seems to be just out of reach, out of your league, and unattainable. In short, she is your soulmate and you should stop at nothing to have her in your life.

Because your unicorn girl is only yours, she is unique. Her uniqueness means that her specific traits cannot be listed, she cannot be defined. Remember, a unicorn girl is no cookie-cutter replica of anyone else. Everyone has his or her own unicorn girl or boy and it can be hard to track them down.

For all you know, you’ve already met your unicorn girl. Not sure? Keep reading. We’re going to lay out some of the signs that you may have already met your special someone and you just don’t realize it yet.

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Trust us, you don’t want to go through your whole life wondering if you missed out on the opportunity to be with the perfect life partner. Can you imagine marrying the wrong person because you didn’t know how to spot your unicorn girl when she was right before your eyes? Don’t let that happen to you. Don’t let your life become full of “what could have been” doubts.

Signs You’ve Already Met the Unicorn Girl

Start thinking about some of your current relationships as you read over the signs. Anybody stick out to you?

1. The two of you can sit comfortably in silence.

You don’t feel the need to fill those awkward silences because there aren’t any. You are comfortable in each other’s company and that is all that matters.

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2. You don’t feel pressured to impress your unicorn girl.

You are who you are and that includes your weaknesses. Your unicorn girl makes you feel comfortable enough to open up and share even the truths you have always tried to hard to hide from everyone else.

3. You can laugh at each other, at your jokes, and at the silly things you do.

Your unicorn girl makes you laugh even when you’re feeling down.

4. When the two of you argue or have a difference of opinion, you can let it go.

You know which things are important and which things aren’t worth dwelling on. Maybe your unicorn girl doesn’t like it when you leave the dirty dishes on the counter, but she’d rather enjoy the evening with you than make a big deal about it.

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5. Your unicorn girl listens to you carefully.

She listens to you when you ramble on about random things, like your favorite candy. The next time you see her for movie night or a study session, she brings the candy she knows you love.

6. You smile more often because of your unicorn girl.

Having a bad day? Suddenly doesn’t seem so bad when you see her, right? When something happens to you, good or bad, she’s the first person you want to tell.

7. Your unicorn girl wants to know how you feel.

She doesn’t just ask to make small talk. Nope. She actually cares about your day, about your opinion on different topics, and about your general feelings and thoughts. And you like to tell her how you feel and, of course, you like to know about her thoughts and feelings as well.

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8. She’s met your friends and she’s nice to them.

All of them. Even the ones who interrupt every 3 words and chew with their mouth open. She tries to get to know them and she does it for you.

9. Your unicorn girl helps you be a better version of yourself.

She pushes you to the limit without trying to add stress to your day. That’s because she sees you for who you really are and knows what you’re capable of doing.

10. You think of her every waking second.

You wonder how she slept, if she’s having a good day, if she stopped for her favorite coffee in the morning, and if she’s going to text you during lunch hour. Not a moment goes by that your unicorn girl isn’t on your mind.

Any of these sound familiar? If so, you’re one of the luckiest people in the world. Don’t let that unicorn girl slip away.

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Last Updated on May 21, 2019

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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