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How To Be More Interesting? Talk About Your Feelings Not Facts

How To Be More Interesting? Talk About Your Feelings Not Facts

It’s your first day of work.

On your first step into the company, you were bombarded with unfamiliar faces. Your eagerness to meet new colleagues urged you to say something but you couldn’t find an interesting topic to start with.

Anxious about your words. Fear about leaving a boring impression to the others.

Palms are sweating. How not to be boring?

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Is being boring an inherent quality?

What makes a person interesting? The following qualities may come to your mind: Sense of humor, Extraordinary life experience. However, these qualities do not actually make a person interesting.

In fact, it is you that makes yourself an interesting or a boring person. None is born boring, nor is anyone more interesting than the others inherently. A seemingly boring person can become interesting if you know the tricks, being faithful to yourself and avoiding facts.

What do boring persons usually do?

One common talking style among boring persons is that they tend to be objective. They often talk about facts which the others are unable to better understand who they are through their fact-based content.

Communication is meant for boosting mutual understanding. Facts in no way can help achieve so. While finding an interesting book to read, you can choose to say, “the book is about the journey of an athlete to become a champion fighter”. You can also say, “I can relate myself a lot to the main character in the book I recently read. His perseverance motivates me a lot!”.

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How not to bore others?

Everyone has their own set of knowledge and interest. Sometimes, the others may not be interested by your topic. You can only interest the others if you can connect with them by sharing what you feel. Even if they are not amused by your topic, they can relate to your own feelings and be interested.

The most interesting person may not have the most interesting experience, instead they usually talk with rich emotions to catch the attention. Up to this point, you should have grasped the essence of how to be interesting, but how in real life can you practise to be interesting?

So now you know you need to talk more about your emotions. However, many have stuck in the process of only uttering a few words. This is a good start but it is far from enough to be interesting. Instead of using some common words for describing your feelings, say “happy”, “upset”, or “furious”, try to be more specific!

Why are you “happy”? In what way does it make you “upset”? How “furious” were you in that incident?

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Lack of self-understanding as the crux to boredom

If you struggle to do so, this means you may not understand your feelings well enough. Sometimes it is actually your lack of self understanding that makes you appear boring.

Here are a few tips which may help you learn to understand yourself better.

Keep a journal or jot down your feelings on your smartphones. Write about a major event happened that day. It can be anything that you have a strong emotion with. Talk to your inner self. Then describe clearly in words what and why you have the feeling and how the feeling is like.

For example, you can say, “Today I was scared to death because a fierce gigantic dog chased me. Dogs have always been my greatest fear in life. For one moment I thought I would die, either by the dog or by my own fear.” One important note is that: Don’t make up your emotions and be faithful to yourself. You may be frustrated at first if you couldn’t write a lot at the beginning but it is perfectly fine.

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With frequent practices, you can soon see improvements and progresses and you are now only steps away from being interesting!

Lastly, apply the skills on daily conversation and start talking more and deeper about your own feelings. Then, congratulations, you have grown into an interesting person!

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Last Updated on August 20, 2018

Quit Your Job If You Don’t Like It, No Matter What

Quit Your Job If You Don’t Like It, No Matter What

Do you know that feeling? The one where you have to wake up to go to your boring 9-5 job to work with the same boring colleagues who don’t appreciate what you do.

I do, and that’s why I’ve decided to quit my job and follow my passion. This, however, requires a solid plan and some guts.

The one who perseveres doesn’t always win. Sometimes life has more to offer when you quit your current job. Yes, I know. It’s overwhelming and scary.

People who quit are often seen as ‘losers’. They say: “You should finish what you’ve started”.

I know like no other that quitting your job can be very stressful. A dozen questions come up when you’re thinking about quitting your job, most starting with: What if?

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“What if I don’t find a job I love and regret quitting my current job?”
“What if I can’t find another job and I get in debt because I can’t pay my bills?”
“What if my family and friends judge me and disapprove of the decisions I make?”
“What if I quit my job to pursue my dream, but I fail?

After all, if you admit to the truth of your surroundings, you’re forced to acknowledge that you’ve made a wrong decision by choosing your current job. But don’t forget that quitting certain things in life can be the path to your success!

One of my favorite quotes by Henry Ford:

If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.

Everything takes energy

Everything you do in life takes energy. It takes energy to participate in your weekly activities. It takes energy to commute to work every day. It takes energy to organize your sister’s big wedding.

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Each of the responsibilities we have take a little bit of our energy. We only have a certain amount of energy a day, so we have to spend it wisely.  Same goes for our time. The only things we can’t buy in this world are time and energy. Yes, you could buy an energy drink, but will it feel the same as eight hours of sleep? Will it be as healthy?

The more stress there is in your life, the less focus you have. This will weaken your results.

Find something that is worth doing

Do you have to quit every time the going gets touch? Absolutely not! You should quit when you’ve put everything you’ve got into something, but don’t see a bright future in it.

When you do something you love and that has purpose in your life, you should push through and give everything you have.

I find star athletes very inspiring. They don’t quit till they step on that stage to receive their hard earned gold medal. From the start, they know how much work its going to take and what they have to sacrifice.

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When you do something you’re really passionate about, you’re not in a downward spiral. Before you even start you can already see the finish line. The more focus you have for something, the faster you’ll reach the finish.

It is definitely possible to spend your valuable time on something you love and earn money doing it. You just have to find out how — by doing enough research.

Other excuses I often hear are:

“But I have my wife and kids, who is going to pay the bills?”
“I don’t have time for that, I’m too busy with… stuff” (Like watching TV for 2 hours every day.)
“At least I get the same paycheck every month if I work for a boss.”
“Quitting my job is too much risk with this crisis.”

I understand those points. But if you’ve never tried it, you’ll never know how it could be. The fear of failure keeps people from stepping out of their comfort zone.

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I’ve heard many people say, “I work to let my children make their dream come true”. I think they should rephrase that sentence to: “I pursue my dreams — to inspire and show my children anything is possible.” 

Conclusion

Think carefully about what you spend your time on. Don’t waste it on things that don’t brighten your future. Instead, search for opportunities. And come up with a solid plan before you take any impulsive actions.

Only good things happen outside of your comfort zone.

Do you dare to quit your job for more success in life?

Featured photo credit: Jadon Barnes via images.unsplash.com

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