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I Played A Game About Animals And Connected Deeply With Someone In Less Than 5 Minutes

I Played A Game About Animals And Connected Deeply With Someone In Less Than 5 Minutes

I want to share a game with you.

This game will reveal something surprising. It’s something nice for ice-breaking with some newly-met friends, and a great way to reconnect with your long known friends.

To make the game work, promise me, don’t scroll to the bottom through all the text to get straight to the results. Deal?

Are you ready?

The Game

I want you to think of three animals right now. The first three animals that come to your mind, what are they?

These animals can be any kind.

Just one condition, make sure you do know about these animals in reality; and that they are not make-up things, for example, no Mickey Mouse.

They don’t have to be your favorite animals. But of course, they don’t have to be the ones you hate.

They don’t have to be pets. They can be big ones, or small ones.

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Let’s work on the first animal together.

What is it? Does it walk, fly or swim?

What is its habitat like?

How would you describe it? Clever? Reliable? Hard-working? Amiable? Courageous? Dangerous?…

Got your first one yet?

Okay, let’s get to the second animal.

So what’s it this time? Is it one of the mammals, reptiles, birds or amphibians?

Where does it live?

And the nature of it, wild or easily tamed?

How does it interact with its same species? Does it tend to live in a group or alone? …

The second one’s ready?

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Let’s get to the last animal.

I know it’s getting harder when it comes to the third one. But don’t worry, I’m still with you.  So what’s it for the last one?

Does it live under the sea, high above somewhere or on the ground?

What is it good at? Hunting? Protection? Learning? Escaping?…

What does it like doing? Relaxing? Having fun?…

If you’re still playing along with me, I think you’ve already got the three animals in your mind. And the next step will be fun.

If you haven’t got your three animals, I’ll wait a bit. Just don’t scroll to the next part yet.

Once you get to the next part, you’ll never ever be able to enjoy this game again. There’s no turning back, trust me. So, please have the three animals in your mind ready first!

I’m waiting….

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… yea still waiting….

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Ready? Good. Let’s get to the next part.

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The animals that come to your mind and the order of these animals can reveal a little about you:

  • The first animal that comes to your mind represents how you think others see you.
  • The second animal reveals how others actually see you.
  • The third animal represents the kind of person you really are.

I played the game with others and their results surprised me and themselves.

I played this game with a fellow editor and the barista of the coffee shop downstairs and these are what they told me about.

    ▲ The three animals that came to my fellow editor Emily’s mind were dolphin, seal, and pig.

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    To Emily, a dolphin is smart, playful and agile; a seal is watchful, careful, playful and likes to stay within their social groups; while a pig is cute, smart, and loves eating and sleeping. She found it especially true that she loved eating and sleeping like a pig. I also found it true that she’s a careful person who pays attention to details.

      ▲ The three animals that the barista Ryan chose were lion, tiger, and sheep.

      Ryan is the barista downstairs, we recognize each other as I always go there to buy muffins but we’d never really talked much. I just came across him during a time when he was less busy and so I played this game with him.

      To Ryan, a lion is strong and charismatic as it’s always seen as the king of forest; a tiger is brave and competitive; while a sheep is pure, gentle and loves to follow the crowd. He was really surprised about the results and he also found it unbelievable that he’s like a sheep. He didn’t believe all of these but we did have a great laugh over his choices and we shared our thoughts about how he really took the risk to be brave like a tiger to become a barista instead of following the crowd to get an office job.

      How you describe these animals is how you and others perceive you. You can probably connect these animals’ nature with your own life somehow, right?

      Remember, the Game is all about connecting with someone.

      The above things are not all correct. There’s no research or studies as evidence to prove that these animals are representing your personalities. But as I said, this is a game, a game that I’ve heard about for many years. And a game is supposed to be fun, and it’s supposed to be fun to play with others.

      As you play along though, you feel like the game really seems to be reflecting some parts of your thoughts, and some bits of who you are.

      Imagine playing this game with someone, you’ll only need a few minutes to get to know more about them. As you play this game with others, you guys get to discuss about your aspirations, interests and hobbies. It’s a great opportunity to understand a person’s character in a delightful way. You’ll probably be remembered as a witty person who can dig into some deep and meaningful topics starting with an interesting game.

      A bonus tip: this game is good for ice-breaking, but don’t forget about the basic greetings and introduction before trying this game. Just at least make sure you guys will play the game under a casual and relaxing atmosphere first.

      In case you forget about the details of this game, save this article now so you can make use of this game the next time you’re getting to know someone!

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      How to Say No When You Say Yes Too Often

      How to Say No When You Say Yes Too Often

      Do you say yes so often that you realize you aren’t really happy about this, wondering how to say no to people?

      For years, I was a serial people pleaser. Known as someone who would step up, I would gladly make time especially when it came to volunteering for certain causes. I proudly carried this role all through grade school, college, even through law school. For years, I thought saying “no” meant I would disappoint a good friend or someone I respected.

      But somewhere along the way, I noticed I wasn’t quite living my life. Instead, I seem to have created a schedule that was a strange combination of meeting the expectations of others, what I thought I should be doing, and some of what I actually wanted to do. The result? I had a packed schedule that left me overwhelmed and unfulfilled.

      It took a long while but I learned the art of saying no. Saying ‘no’ meant I no longer catered fully to everyone else’s needs and could make more room for what I really wanted to do. Instead of cramming too much in, I chose to pursue what really mattered. I started to manage my time more around my own needs and interests. When that happened, I became a lot happier. And guess what? I hardly disappointed anyone.

      The Importance of Saying No

      When you learn the art of saying ‘no,’ you begin to look at the world differently. Rather than seeing all of the things you could or should be doing (and aren’t doing), you start to look at how to say yes to what’s important.

      In other words, you aren’t just reacting to what life throws at you. You seek the opportunities that move you to where you want to be.

      Successful people aren’t afraid to say no. Oprah Winfrey considered one of the most successful women in the world confessed that it was much later in life when she learned how to say no. Even after she had become internationally famous, she felt she had to say yes to virtually everything. It was only when she realized that after years of struggling with saying no, I finally got to this question: “What do I want?”

      Being able to say no also helps you manage your time better.

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      Warren Buffett views no as essential to his success. He said,

      “The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.”

      When I made ‘no’ a part of my toolbox, I drove more of my own success focusing on fewer things and doing them well.

      How We Are Pressured to Say Yes

      It’s no wonder a lot of us find it hard to say ‘no.’

      From an early age, we are conditioned to say ‘yes.’ We said yes probably hundreds of time in order to graduate from high school and then get into college. We said yes to find work. We said yes get a promotion. We said yes to find love and then yes again to stay in a relationship. We said yes to find and keep friends.

      We say yes because it feels better to help someone. We say yes because it can seem like the right thing to do. We say yes because we think that is key to success. And we say yes because the request might come from someone who is hard to resist like the boss.

      And that’s not all. The pressure to say yes doesn’t just come from others. We put a lot of pressure on ourselves. At work, we say yes because we compare ourselves to others who seem to be doing more than we are. Outside of work, we say yes because we feel guilty we aren’t doing enough to spend time with family or friends.

      The message no matter where we turn is nearly always, “You really could be doing more.” The result? When people ask us for our time, we are heavily conditioned to say yes.

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      How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty

      Deciding to add the word ‘no’ to your toolbox is no small thing. Perhaps you already say ‘no’ but not as much as you would like. Maybe you have an instinct that if you were to learn the art of ‘no’ that you could finally create more time for things you care about. But let’s be honest, using the word ‘no’ doesn’t come easily for many people.

      The 3 Rules of Thumbs for Saying No

      1. You Need to Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

      Let’s face it. It is hard to say no. Setting boundaries around your time especially you haven’t done it much in the past will feel awkward.

      2. You Are the Air Traffic Controller of Your Time

      Remember that you are the only one who understands the demands for your time. Think about it, who else knows about all of the demands on your time? No one. Only you are at the center of all of these requests. are the only one that understands what time you really have.

      3. Saying ‘No’ Means Saying ‘Yes’ to Something That Matters

      When we decide not to do something, it means we can say yes to something else. You have a unique opportunity to decide how you spend your precious time.

      6 Ways to Start Saying No

      Incorporating that little word ‘no’ into your life can be transformational. Turning some things down will mean you can open doors to what really matters. Here are some essential tips to learn the art of no:

      1. Check in With Your Obligation Meter

      One of the biggest challenges to saying ‘no’ is a feeling of obligation. Do you feel you have a responsibility to say yes and worry that saying no reflect poorly on you?

      Ask yourself whether you truly have the duty to say yes. Check your assumptions or beliefs about whether you carry the responsibility to say yes. Turn it around and instead ask what duty you owe to yourself.

      2. Resist the Fear of Missing out (FOMO)

      Do you have a fear of missing out (FOMO)? FOMO can follow us around in so many ways. At work, we volunteer our time because we fear we won’t move ahead. In our personal lives, we agree to join the crowd because FOMO even while we ourselves aren’t enjoying the fun.

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      Check in with yourself. Are you saying yes because of FOMO or because you really want to say yes? More often than not, running after fear doesn’t make us feel better.

      3. Check Your Assumptions About What It Means to Say ‘No’

      Do you dread the reaction you will get if you say no? Often, we say ‘yes’ because we worry about how others will respond or the consequences of saying no or because of the consequences. We may be afraid to disappoint others or think we will lose respect from others. We often forget how much we are disappointing ourselves along the way.

      Keep in mind that saying ‘no’ can be exactly what is needed to send the right message that you have limited time. In the tips below, you will see how to communicate your no in a gentle and loving way. You might disappoint someone initially but drawing a boundary can bring you the freedom you need so that you can give freely of yourself when you truly want to.

      4. When the Request Comes In, Sit on It

      Sometimes, when we are in the moment, we instinctively agree. The request might make sense at first. Or we typically have said yes to this request in the past.

      Give yourself a little time to reflect on whether you really have the time, or can do the task properly. You may decide the best option is to say ‘no.’ There is no harm in giving yourself the time to decide.

      5. Communicate Your ‘No’ with Transparency and Kindness

      When you are ready to tell someone no, communicate your decision clearly. The message can be open and honest to ensure the recipient that your reasons have to do with your limited time.

      Resist the temptation not to respond or communicate all. But do not feel obligated to provide a lengthy account about why you are saying no.

      A clear communication with a short explanation is all that is needed. I have found it useful to tell people that I have many demands and need to be careful with how I allocate my time. I will sometimes say I really appreciate that they came to me and for them to check in again if the opportunity arises another time.

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      6. Consider How to Use a Modified ‘No’

      If you are under pressure to say yes but want to say no, you may want to consider downgrading a “yes” to a “yes but…” giving you an opportunity to condition your agreement to what works best for you.

      Sometimes, the condition can be to do the task but not in the time frame that was originally requested. Or perhaps you can do part of what has been asked.

      Final Thoughts

      Beginning right now, you can change how you respond to requests for your time. When the request comes in, take yourself off autopilot where you might normally say yes.

      Use the request as a fresh request to draw a healthy boundary around your time. Pay particular attention to when you place certain demands on yourself. If you are the one placing the demand on yourself, try to evaluate the demand as if it were coming from somewhere else.

      Try it now. Say no to a friend who continues to take advantage of your goodwill. Or, draw the line with a workaholic colleague and tell them you will complete the project but not by working all weekend. Or, tell someone in your family you can’t loan them money again because they never paid you back the last time. You’ll find yourself much happier.

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