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I Played A Game About Animals And Connected Deeply With Someone In Less Than 5 Minutes

I Played A Game About Animals And Connected Deeply With Someone In Less Than 5 Minutes

I want to share a game with you.

This game will reveal something surprising. It’s something nice for ice-breaking with some newly-met friends, and a great way to reconnect with your long known friends.

To make the game work, promise me, don’t scroll to the bottom through all the text to get straight to the results. Deal?

Are you ready?

The Game

I want you to think of three animals right now. The first three animals that come to your mind, what are they?

These animals can be any kind.

Just one condition, make sure you do know about these animals in reality; and that they are not make-up things, for example, no Mickey Mouse.

They don’t have to be your favorite animals. But of course, they don’t have to be the ones you hate.

They don’t have to be pets. They can be big ones, or small ones.

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Let’s work on the first animal together.

What is it? Does it walk, fly or swim?

What is its habitat like?

How would you describe it? Clever? Reliable? Hard-working? Amiable? Courageous? Dangerous?…

Got your first one yet?

Okay, let’s get to the second animal.

So what’s it this time? Is it one of the mammals, reptiles, birds or amphibians?

Where does it live?

And the nature of it, wild or easily tamed?

How does it interact with its same species? Does it tend to live in a group or alone? …

The second one’s ready?

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Let’s get to the last animal.

I know it’s getting harder when it comes to the third one. But don’t worry, I’m still with you.  So what’s it for the last one?

Does it live under the sea, high above somewhere or on the ground?

What is it good at? Hunting? Protection? Learning? Escaping?…

What does it like doing? Relaxing? Having fun?…

If you’re still playing along with me, I think you’ve already got the three animals in your mind. And the next step will be fun.

If you haven’t got your three animals, I’ll wait a bit. Just don’t scroll to the next part yet.

Once you get to the next part, you’ll never ever be able to enjoy this game again. There’s no turning back, trust me. So, please have the three animals in your mind ready first!

I’m waiting….

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… yea still waiting….

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Ready? Good. Let’s get to the next part.

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The animals that come to your mind and the order of these animals can reveal a little about you:

  • The first animal that comes to your mind represents how you think others see you.
  • The second animal reveals how others actually see you.
  • The third animal represents the kind of person you really are.

I played the game with others and their results surprised me and themselves.

I played this game with a fellow editor and the barista of the coffee shop downstairs and these are what they told me about.

    ▲ The three animals that came to my fellow editor Emily’s mind were dolphin, seal, and pig.

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    To Emily, a dolphin is smart, playful and agile; a seal is watchful, careful, playful and likes to stay within their social groups; while a pig is cute, smart, and loves eating and sleeping. She found it especially true that she loved eating and sleeping like a pig. I also found it true that she’s a careful person who pays attention to details.

      ▲ The three animals that the barista Ryan chose were lion, tiger, and sheep.

      Ryan is the barista downstairs, we recognize each other as I always go there to buy muffins but we’d never really talked much. I just came across him during a time when he was less busy and so I played this game with him.

      To Ryan, a lion is strong and charismatic as it’s always seen as the king of forest; a tiger is brave and competitive; while a sheep is pure, gentle and loves to follow the crowd. He was really surprised about the results and he also found it unbelievable that he’s like a sheep. He didn’t believe all of these but we did have a great laugh over his choices and we shared our thoughts about how he really took the risk to be brave like a tiger to become a barista instead of following the crowd to get an office job.

      How you describe these animals is how you and others perceive you. You can probably connect these animals’ nature with your own life somehow, right?

      Remember, the Game is all about connecting with someone.

      The above things are not all correct. There’s no research or studies as evidence to prove that these animals are representing your personalities. But as I said, this is a game, a game that I’ve heard about for many years. And a game is supposed to be fun, and it’s supposed to be fun to play with others.

      As you play along though, you feel like the game really seems to be reflecting some parts of your thoughts, and some bits of who you are.

      Imagine playing this game with someone, you’ll only need a few minutes to get to know more about them. As you play this game with others, you guys get to discuss about your aspirations, interests and hobbies. It’s a great opportunity to understand a person’s character in a delightful way. You’ll probably be remembered as a witty person who can dig into some deep and meaningful topics starting with an interesting game.

      A bonus tip: this game is good for ice-breaking, but don’t forget about the basic greetings and introduction before trying this game. Just at least make sure you guys will play the game under a casual and relaxing atmosphere first.

      In case you forget about the details of this game, save this article now so you can make use of this game the next time you’re getting to know someone!

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      Last Updated on October 16, 2019

      5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

      5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

      We all have relationships. We have acquaintances, relatives, colleagues, neighbors and friends. However, for a large percentage of us, many of these relationships are not fulfilling.

      They are unfulfilling because they lack real strength; and they lack real strength because they lack real depth.

      Unfortunately, in today’s society, we tend to have shallow, superficial relationships with others, and it’s extremely hard for this kind of relationships to provide anything more than faint satisfaction.

      I’d like to show you, based on my experience as a communication and confidence coach, how you can add a significant amount of depth, and thus strength, to your relationships and make your social life a whole lot more meaningful.

      Here’re 5 simple yet powerful ways for meaningful relationships building:

      1. Meet More People

      This is an apparent paradox, but the quality of the people you meet has considerably to do with the quantity of people you meet.

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      If you don’t know a lot of people and you barely meet one or two new people every season of the year, considering the variety of individuals out there, you won’t meet very often people who are a good match with you in terms of personality, interests and values.

      And since this natural match plays a huge part in building strong relationships, you’ll just as seldom have the opportunity to develop strong relationships.

      Conversely, if you go out a lot, you meet a lot of new people and you constantly expand your social circle, you’re much more likely to meet people you match up well with, and these people have a tremendous potential to become good friends, reliable partners, etc.

      This is why it’s important to meet more people.

      2. Talk about the Things That Matter To You

      A relationship becomes the strongest when two people discover they believe in the same things and have similar interests. It’s these commonalities regarding values and interests that create the strongest emotional connection.

      I’ve noticed that many people keep conversations shallow. They talk about trivial stuff such as the weather, what’s on TV, the lives of various movie stars, but they rarely talk about what really matters to them in life. This is a mistake from my perspective, because it’s the perfect method for a relationship to not develop.

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      Talk about the things that truly matter to you and give others a chance to know what you care about and what you believe in. If they believe in the same things and they care about the same things, they’ll eagerly let you know. Thus you’ll find meaningful common ground and you’ll feel more connected.

      3. Express Vulnerability

      Many people try to come off as perfect. They don’t talk about their failures, they hide their shortcomings and they never say anything that could embarrass them.

      This is all just a facade though. You may appear perfect to some, but you know you’re not perfect and they know that too. You’re only human and humans have flaws.

      However, by hiding your flaws, what you do succeed in is appearing cold and impersonal. You seem like a marble statue rather than a real person. And this makes it very hard for anyone to connect with you emotionally.

      Humans connect with other humans, not with ideals. Keep this in mind and don’t be afraid to let your vulnerability and your humanity show. This is what takes a relationship to the next level.

      Take a look at this article and find out Why Showing Vulnerability Actually Proves Your Strength.

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      4. Have Integrity

      Integrity, as I see it, is the alignment between your thoughts, your words and your actions. When you say what you think and you do what you said you’ll do, you have integrity.

      This is a crucial trait because if you have integrity, people can trust you. They can trust you to give them an honest feedback, even when it’s hard to shallow, and they can trust you to keep your promises.

      This trust is one of the central pillars of a strong relationship, both in your personal and your professional life. So, as challenging as it can be sometimes, always try to have integrity.

      Be honest with the people around you, even when this will initially hurt them. It’s more important for them to trust you than to not feel hurt. And always do what you promised. Even better, think twice before you promise anything, and only promise what you really can and you are willing to do.

      5. Be There for Others

      Another central pillar of strong relationships is support. Connections between people grow sturdy if they can rely on each other for support when it’s needed, whether that support means a few kind words or several massive actions.

      Of course, you can’t be there for everybody, all the time. Your time, energy and other resources are limited. But what you can do is identify the genuinely important people in your life and then seek to be there as much as possible, at least for them.

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      Your support will help them practically, and it will comfort them emotionally; which makes one hell of a difference in a relationship.

      The Bottom Line

      With the right mindset and the right behavior, you can strengthen a wide range of relationships in your life and advance them as far as they can be advanced.

      And with strong relationships, not only that you feel more fulfilled, but you feel more connected to the entire world. You feel that your life has real value, you have more fun and you live in the moment. An entire world of opportunities opens up in front of you.

      Then your task is to simply walk through the open doors.

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